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February 2014 Moms
Is this super offensive??
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Re: Is this super offensive??
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"I realize how it sounds,
but being a mom is her full time job. She doesn't work outside the home, in
fact she refuses to even though her family needs it financially. Also she is a
first time mom herself so it's not like she has this vast ocean of experience
that I don't have. I'm going to be a full time mom as well, and I'm telling
you, my baby will sleep on her back whether she likes it or not. Neither of us
will sleep until she does. She will just have to learn the hard way. I am
terrified of SIDS after seeing this girl go through it. But I guess everyone
has their own methods.
you proceeded to make it worse when people responded to them.
My thoughts, my feelings. I still fail to see the problem.
Damn, I'm only on page three but I just have to comment now to say that you are a shitty "friend". In addition, as others have said, YOU. DON'T. KNOW. SHIT. ABOUT. BEING. A. MOM.
You should really shut up until you get some real experience.
but being a mom is her full time job. She doesn't work outside the home, in
fact she refuses to even though her family needs it financially. Also she is a
first time mom herself so it's not like she has this vast ocean of experience
that I don't have. I'm going to be a full time mom as well, and I'm telling
you, my baby will sleep on her back whether she likes it or not. Neither of us
will sleep until she does. She will just have to learn the hard way. I am
terrified of SIDS after seeing this girl go through it. But I guess everyone
has their own methods.
@TyrannosaurusLex This had me laughing hysterically.
@Bookshelves @RondackHiker I aboslutely love your comments
=D> =D>Let's go back and see if I'm right...
ETA: Oh snap! Who would have guessed...
OP - your first post was out of line, but not horribly offensive. But you just kept going!
I have no issue being that 'just you wait and see' lady.
June/July 2011 - IVF #1 - Transfer cancelled due to OHSS
23 perfect embryos. All 23 made it to freezing!
September/October - FET #1 - October 12th - 2 Grade A embies
October 20th - BFP??! EDD - July 1, 2012
Beta #1 = 154, Beta #2 = 352 Beta #3 = 3,800
U/S #2 - November 14th = 133 bpm! U/S #3 & 4 - November 30th and December 7th = 163 bpm! U/S#5 - January 30th - TEAM PINK!!!
Baby Sweets born on her due date!
@mamajop :x right back at you love!
And apparently, I'm the only one who DID find your original text offensive. Not the way you said it but the fact that you said it at all. There are just times in life when we must all bite our tongue and parenting choices (particularly as a FTM) is typically an area where restraint is the best option. I'm not saying to stay silent when a friend is clearly neglecting or abusing their child but sleeping on their stomach? That's hardly anyone else's place to question (other than her pedi), no matter how much research you've done. Do you really think she hasn't heard that "back is best" from her pedi or parenting magazines or hell, BRU signage?! The first 3 mos is all about survival and by 6 mos, my babies were rolling all over the place. You try to do what's "right" but ultimately each situation is completely unique and what works for one will not work for another. Good luck come February. Hope you've got some good juju stored up to stop the parenting gods from throwing you a massive colic lightening bolt!
Wonder if this will make the D13 Midweek Report..
Just want to clarify something.
I DO NOT think that being a stay at home mom is easy, and I DO recognize it as a full time job. In fact, I am going to be a stay at home mom very soon.
Because it will be my full time job, I simply expect it to be at least as challenging as the job I already have. I don't want to cut any corners. That's not to say that she definitely is, just that I know her, and she does cut corners a lot in other situations.
I just can't stand the idea of my husband coming home after working all day in the hot sun and me sitting in the AC getting to spend time with my baby. I WANT it to be hard. I'd feel guilty as hell if it wasn't. That's why I have all these expectations. In my mind, the sleep deprivation is what makes the job an actual job.
These are the standards I want to hold MYSELF to.
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I've said it before and I'll say it again: it's my thread and I'll stay as long as I like.
1. When you told me to leave, that was the last thing I said, that I was going to leave.
2. I changed my mind because I do exactly what I want to do, and no B on the internet will ever tell me what to do. Try, and I will do the exact opposite on the sheer principle of the matter.
I figured! Lol I like him in the notebook but that's about it.
Make a pregnancy ticker
Nobody asked.
Aw hell. Lol
Nobody asked.
...stfu
I just have to put some of my thoughts out there:
1) Don't worry about motherhood being hard, It will be. You're worried about your baby sleeping on its back, I obsessed over mine being bf. DH found me crying hysterically in the closet one night after a bad day at work combined with the fact that I hadn't pumped enough milk for DD the next day so we had to supplement 2 ounces of formula... and she was like 7 months old. That was completely irrational, and I knew it, but I couldn't stop myself from obsessing over it and feeling like a complete failure as a mother. (Again, I know, totally irrational). My point is, you may have these ideas of how you're going to do everything, and they may or may not work out.
2) This is how what you're saying about your friend comes across. "We're really good friends, but she's super lazy and doesn't love her kid enough to make the effort to lay him on his back even though she knows that he could die." Surely, surely, that's not what you mean, but that's how the rest of the board has interpreted your posts. If that is how you feel about your friend, then I'm not sure why you would be friends with someone llike that.
3) The sleep deprivation is not what makes the actual job "a job." That's like me saying the reason why I'm a physician is because I did residency where I didn't sleep for 30 straight hours and didn't get to eat. No! That's only a tiny part of being a SAHM (which, btw, us WMs experience as well, thank you very much- my DD really doesn't care that I would like to get sleep so I can be fresh at work in the AM). I have utmost respect for SAHM & WM alike- there are challenges and rewards to each choice and a woman has to decide what is best for her family.
4)Just wanted to throw out there that I don't gossip about my friends. I honestly don't understand women who do this to one another.
EDIT: Sorry, on ipad, so tb doesn't recognize when I try to make paragraphs.
Thanks for understanding. That definitely ISN'T what I meant. But I'm going to be honest: I have never met a real, live woman who didn't talk about her friends once in awhile. Even the sweetest ones do it.
And the reason I was upset enough to even say something is that I've been obsessing over SIDS for days after hearing what happened to that girls baby. I've been crying and obsessing for days.