Is this super offensive??

Kendra Beam

Bookshelves said:

Kendra Beam said:

I'm going to block them as soon as I have a minute to figure it out.

FWIW, I've had you on ignore for ages (since you white-knighted a cuckoo bird), and I think I've been pretty good about not commenting on every little post you make. I deserve a medal, really. I accidentally clicked this one when I was on mobile and couldn't see the OP, and then you were just being too ridiculous not to call out.

How can you see my posts at all if you have me on ignore?

Kendra Beam

I have not put my foot in my mouth. I stand by EVERYTHING I said. The only thing I regret is sharing with you guys instead of real people who actually have to look me in the face when they give me their reply.

JordyInIndy

Kendra Beam said:

JordyInIndy said:

Kendra Beam said:

I'm going to be a full time mom as well, and I'm telling you, my baby will sleep on her back whether she likes it or not. Neither of us will sleep until she does. She will just have to learn the hard way.

Hey, good luck with that.

And I'll say it I hope your baby doesn't sleep. Ever. On its front or back.

We don't like each other either. I thought we established this...? I stay off of your posts, you stay off of mine.

Meh. I never got anything from TB telling me I couldn't post on your idiotic threads. So I'll probably continue to do so.

KTdidit

Kendra Beam said:

I'm sorry but I don't believe none of you judge or gossip about your friends. Women are catty. Every friend I have judges me behind my back and sometimes gossips. It does hurt, and I appreciate it when they're up front with me instead, but I forgive them when they're not because I know they do the same. Even the friend I'm talking about right now has recently shared things that she used to think about me that would have offended the hell out of me at the time. I'll try to teach my daughter not to be catty, but really...it's just a fact of life.

And this is why I have always had very few friends. Being catty and shitty to a "friend" is not a fact of life. It means you're a jerk and you really don't care about that person as a friend.

Kendra Beam

HashtagRainbow said:

Kendra Beam said:

Bookshelves said:

Kendra Beam said:

I'm going to block them as soon as I have a minute to figure it out.

FWIW, I've had you on ignore for ages (since you white-knighted a cuckoo bird), and I think I've been pretty good about not commenting on every little post you make. I deserve a medal, really. I accidentally clicked this one when I was on mobile and couldn't see the OP, and then you were just being too ridiculous not to call out.

How can you see my posts at all if you have me on ignore?

People quoting to reply to your nonsense that aren't on @bookshelves block list allowed her to see it. Poor thing--she does have a life and really couldn't give two craps about your asinine drama.

The fact that I actually do have a life is the reason I haven't been on here in months. The only reason I did today is because I wanted an answer. There is a fb group I could have gotten on, but I wanted to talk to people who didn't know me personally.

Kendra Beam

golfergirl08 said:

Kendra Beam said:

I have not put my foot in my mouth. I stand by EVERYTHING I said. The only thing I regret is sharing with you guys instead of real people who actually have to look me in the face when they give me their reply.

So you would seriously talk about your friend like that to real, live people? 

Yes. I seriously would. And the people in my life would have understood me a hell of a lot better than you people. I don't know what rock you crawled out from under but it's like this place is a breeding ground for idiots.

KTdidit

Kendra Beam said:

 

I have not put my foot in my mouth. I stand by EVERYTHING I said. The only thing I regret is sharing with you guys instead of real people who actually have to look me in the face when they give me their reply.

Like you look your "friend" in the face when you tell her the truth about what you think of her?

Kendra Beam

golfergirl08 said:

Kendra Beam said:

golfergirl08 said:

Kendra Beam said:

I have not put my foot in my mouth. I stand by EVERYTHING I said. The only thing I regret is sharing with you guys instead of real people who actually have to look me in the face when they give me their reply.

So you would seriously talk about your friend like that to real, live people? 

Yes. I seriously would. And the people in my life would have understood me a hell of a lot better than you people. I don't know what rock you crawled out from under but it's like this place is a breeding ground for idiots.

You are really proving you are not judgmental, congrats.

I OPENLY judge you fools. I'm sick of the BS.

JordyInIndy

It's totally clear that since basically none of us agree with you we must be the problem and not you.

We just don't know your lyfe!!!!11!1!/!

JordyInIndy

GBCB????????

Kendra Beam

JordyinIndy - I can't see you=) it's awesome

thusain7712

I completely understand why you'd want to reach out...i really do get it...HOWEVER im pretty certain my biggest pet peeve in life is non parents giving parental advice. not that you arent capable of doing your research but until you have been there and done that..its really not valid. and by you, i mean every non parent, no  you specifically. 

there are a million things you'll say "id never do that with my baby" then one day you realize youre doing just what you said you'd never do. 

when i get advice from non parents i just laugh it off...

id say just give her a few days to get the annoyance out and bring up a light convo about nothing ....im sure all is fine! 

JordyInIndy

Kendra Beam said:

JordyinIndy - I can't see you=) it's awesome

Then how do you know I'm posting?

KTdidit

JordyInIndy said:

JordyinIndy - I can't see you=) it's awesome

Then how do you know I'm posting?

I think she can see your name but not the content of your posts?

Kendra Beam

njb750 said:

If you are sick of our bs - get the f out. I'm so sick of people getting so offended on this board. You asked for opinions and you got what you asked for.

YOU get the F out. It's my board. And I will be here as long as I please and say whatever I want.

If you'll notice, I'm not the one who was originally offended.

Kendra Beam

njb750 said:

If you are sick of our bs - get the f out. I'm so sick of people getting so offended on this board. You asked for opinions and you got what you asked for.

YOU get the F out. It's my board. And I will be here as long as I please and say whatever I want.

If you'll notice, I'm not the one who was originally offended.

SuzyQq02

I'm not even sure what happened here, but by page 6, is it time to transition to gif war?

That is all!

KTdidit

@SuzyQq02 I love Jay and Silent Bob!!!

MoxyByProxy

Kendra Beam said:

If you are sick of our bs - get the f out. I'm so sick of people getting so offended on this board. You asked for opinions and you got what you asked for.

YOU get the F out. It's my board. And I will be here as long as I please and say whatever I want. If you'll notice, I'm not the one who was originally offended.

Liar

Kendra Beam said:

Oh my fucking god. 

Good to know stay at home moms don't need sleep and that it's not frustrating to have a crying baby who won't sleep when you don't need to get up for work the next day.

You have no clue what sleep deprivation is or what it can do to you.

From you.. Page 2 - Speaking of offensive, your language is extremely offensive to me, jsyk. I imagine it will do horrible things to you emotionally, but I feel my child is worth it. And now that I've seen the effects of SIDS firsthand, I'm sticking to my guns.

MoxyByProxy

i had to click the link to see it Car.. but looooooooove it

Kendra Beam

MoxyByProxy said:

Kendra Beam said:

If you are sick of our bs - get the f out. I'm so sick of people getting so offended on this board. You asked for opinions and you got what you asked for.

YOU get the F out. It's my board. And I will be here as long as I please and say whatever I want.

If you'll notice, I'm not the one who was originally offended.

Liar

Kendra Beam said:

RondackHiker said:

Oh my fucking god. 

Good to know stay at home moms don't need sleep and that it's not frustrating to have a crying baby who won't sleep when you don't need to get up for work the next day.

You have no clue what sleep deprivation is or what it can do to you.

From you.. Page 2 - Speaking of offensive, your language is extremely offensive to me, jsyk. I imagine it will do horrible things to you emotionally, but I feel my child is worth it. And now that I've seen the effects of SIDS firsthand, I'm sticking to
my guns.

Yeah this was after I had already been attacked by people who were offended by ME.
Seriously, where do you people come from??

MoxyByProxy

Most of us are from a bullshit free zone,   Judgy McJudgerson land is where I believe you reside? I can see where you'd wonder.  

RondackHiker

I'd have said the same thing to a friend who judged like you are face to face. And I have when friends have said similar about new moms.

And both the women I corrected apologized and admitted they felt like assholes for shittily judging something they didn't understand.

SuzyQq02

kaholland4 said:

@SuzyQq02 I love Jay and Silent Bob!!!

As do I. I heart Kevin Smith.

Kendra Beam

MoxyByProxy said:

Most of us are from a bullshit free zone,   Judgy McJudgerson land is where I believe you reside? I can see where you'd wonder.  

Wow that was clever. Wish I were more like you.

KatM84

How dare we not all agree with everything she says?!? Clearly, we are wrong!


................................

MoxyByProxy

Kendra Beam, aside from your spaz out here.. I really have no beef with you and tbh, i really took no issue with the text you sent. Sometimes concern can BY TEXT come across as judgy.. i've been there.. had to eat some humble pie for it. 

At least 6 pages of this post was a direct escalation of your response and then additional information that really had nothing to do with WHY you were concerned in the first place. 

You're acting like a brat and in turn, you're getting treated like one. 

Kendra Beam

golfergirl08 said:

Kendra Beam said:

golfergirl08 said:

Kendra Beam said:

golfergirl08 said:

Kendra Beam said:

I have not put my foot in my mouth. I stand by EVERYTHING I said. The only thing I regret is sharing with you guys instead of real people who actually have to look me in the face when they give me their reply.

So you would seriously talk about your friend like that to real, live people? 

Yes. I seriously would. And the people in my life would have understood me a hell of a lot better than you people. I don't know what rock you crawled out from under but it's like this place is a breeding ground for idiots.

You are really proving you are not judgmental, congrats.

I OPENLY judge you fools. I'm sick of the BS.


@KendraBeam, Philosoraptor has a question for you.

...

I'm going to give this just a minute to let the irony sink in...

Winnieella

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

MoxyByProxy

MrsJWoodJr said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

MrsJWoodJr she's more concerned at either proving her point or playing the victim to really see the hole she stepped in or why our opinions should carry just as much weight as hers.. especially since she asked.."Is this super offensive" right in the title. 

Its best to just let it be and accept the fact that some people have a very close minded view of the world and only believe their way is the ONLY way. 

Kendra Beam

MrsJWoodJr said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

I treat everyone nicely until they cross a line with me. Trust me, I have no problem accepting advice.

RondackHiker

Kendra Beam said:

MrsJWoodJr said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

I treat everyone nicely until they cross a line with me. Trust me, I have no problem accepting advice.

I don't consider judging, gossiping, and talking behind a "friend's" back treating everyone nicely.

Winnieella

Kendra Beam said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

I treat everyone nicely until they cross a line with me. Trust me, I have no problem accepting advice.

I've read this 3 times too see if a line was crossed and to be honest, I think you crossed it first. 

Kendra Beam

Avswolf said:

Kendra Beam said:

MrsJWoodJr said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

I treat everyone nicely until they cross a line with me. Trust me, I have no problem accepting advice.

But you do. You have throughout this thread. Can you see daylight down in that hole you've dug?

Advice: "yes I would have been offended by that, you should apologize."

NOT advice: "I want to slap you and you are a judgmental brat."

See the difference?

Kendra Beam

MrsJWoodJr said:

Kendra Beam said:

MrsJWoodJr said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

I treat everyone nicely until they cross a line with me. Trust me, I have no problem accepting advice.

I've read this 3 times too see if a line was crossed and to be honest, I think you crossed it first. 
Where, if you don't mind me asking?

Kendra Beam

MrsJWoodJr said:

Kendra Beam said:

MrsJWoodJr said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

I treat everyone nicely until they cross a line with me. Trust me, I have no problem accepting advice.

I've read this 3 times too see if a line was crossed and to be honest, I think you crossed it first. 
Where, if you don't mind me asking?

ocmommy2B

Kendra Beam said:

WildFlower26 said:

I realize I am late to the party, but it is worth repeating.

You asked if you were out of line. The answer is yes, you were out of line. Being a mother is unlike anything else you have ever done. You have no idea of until it happens to you.

I appreciate this input. You will note how she doesn't attack or judge. She simply answers my question. This is all I wanted when I posted this board.

allow me to recap real quick: this is actually the general response you originally got. but each time you met said response with "yeah, but she _____" or "but I would NEVER _____" and THOSE are the comments that got you the hostility you're experiencing now.

Winnieella

Kendra Beam said:

Kendra Beam said:

I'm coming back to say this. I recant what I said. How you are treating those who are parents and said what you said was a bit offensive is wrong.  You may have thought you were helping a friend, but moms tend to know more than us FTMs. Also, if they are trying to help you (by either rephrasing things, understanding a moms point of view, or just saying how things change when you become a mom) please let them help you. 

I treat everyone nicely until they cross a line with me. Trust me, I have no problem accepting advice.

I've read this 3 times too see if a line was crossed and to be honest, I think you crossed it first. 

Where, if you don't mind me asking?

@golfer already pointed it out. No one was being defensive until you began posting about being a mother. As well as posting about the entire board and who does/ doesn't like you. 

Kendra Beam

ocmommy2B said:

Kendra Beam said:

WildFlower26 said:

I realize I am late to the party, but it is worth repeating.

You asked if you were out of line. The answer is yes, you were out of line. Being a mother is unlike anything else you have ever done. You have no idea of until it happens to you.

I appreciate this input. You will note how she doesn't attack or judge. She simply answers my question. This is all I wanted when I posted this board.

allow me to recap real quick: this is actually the general response you originally got. but each time you met said response with "yeah, but she _____" or "but I would NEVER _____" and THOSE are the comments that got you the hostility you're experiencing now.

So what you're saying is I'm not allowed to share my thoughts and feelings on what I will and will NOT do with my child, correct?

And I'm definitely not allowed to share my thoughts on what anyone else is doing wrong. Regardless of whether or not she will ever see it.

Weber22

It's like an explosive diaper ! It's become a shitty situation !