Safe to join yet?

mrscrcalli

I wouldn't want your feelings hurt if you had to hear about some real life shit in here.
I hope you don't have to go through that but IF you do.. Your ass better not post a damn thing, just disappear into the night like a ghost.

Nijay714

@knsatx OMG I did not know. And I was wondering about you the other day. My heart broke reading your post, I'm so sorry about your loss, thinking of you and sending a heartfelt prayer.

Serenla

One more for the lolz,

Mamamonzo

You can't catch a miscarriage. We are all here supporting each other. And guess what.. For those of us who thought we were having a miscarriage and were told to wait a few days guess who was here for us... These "crazy April moms". If I didn't have these ladies in the week I was on bed rest I don't know what I would have done. Most of our family didn't know I was even pregnant yet so I talked to these girls. If you can't handle all the love and support that is shelled out daily on this board then leave.

cstory316

Notice...no more responses from her

deidremaria

https://www.reactiongifs.com/gallery/no/
First attempt at a gif... Fail

maelic

It has to be MUD, it would be hard to be this much of an asshole. 

/faith in humanity crumbling

tiffy81

I know I'm going to get crap for this but I don't think there's anything wrong with someone having the opinion to keep their loss private. If I were to miscarry I would not have the emotional energy either to post it online. That wouldn't be something that I would do. I would seek comfort in my family and friends. I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping things private. And at the same time many women on this board are very comfortable posting about all aspects of their lives and there's nothing wrong with that. Whether this is MUD or that one lady that everyone seems to hate, the point is it's ok to have an opinion about being private about certain things on this site. I personally joined this site just for simple chit chat and symptom sharing. I realize that a lot of people have been on this site for years and formed friendships therefore would want to reach out to people on here to let them know what's going on but not everyone would do that and I think that should be fine too.

Sheybre

Sigh #-o

nikki912

tiffy81 said:

I know I'm going to get crap for this but I don't think there's anything wrong with someone having the opinion to keep their loss private. If I were to miscarry I would not have the emotional energy either to post it online. That wouldn't be something that I would do. I would seek comfort in my family and friends. I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping things private. And at the same time many women on this board are very comfortable posting about all aspects of their lives and there's nothing wrong with that. Whether this is MUD or that one lady that everyone seems to hate, the point is it's ok to have an opinion about being private about certain things on this site. I personally joined this site just for simple chit chat and symptom sharing. I realize that a lot of people have been on this site for years and formed friendships therefore would want to reach out to people on here to let them know what's going on but not everyone would do that and I think that should be fine too.

No one was telling her she was wrong for wanting to keep it private. Everyone is pissed because she is trying to dictate how others should seek support. Which is insensitive. Besides Im pretty sure this is a troll or a long lost friend come back to fuck with us all.

mrscrcalli

:-?

MamaFantastic

misha darling, i think you might need this....





and some snacks...

Serenla

tiffy81 said:

I know I'm going to get crap for this but I don't think there's anything wrong with someone having the opinion to keep their loss private. If I were to miscarry I would not have the emotional energy either to post it online. That wouldn't be something that I would do. I would seek comfort in my family and friends. I don't think there's anything wrong with keeping things private. And at the same time many women on this board are very comfortable posting about all aspects of their lives and there's nothing wrong with that. Whether this is MUD or that one lady that everyone seems to hate, the point is it's ok to have an opinion about being private about certain things on this site. I personally joined this site just for simple chit chat and symptom sharing. I realize that a lot of people have been on this site for years and formed friendships therefore would want to reach out to people on here to let them know what's going on but not everyone would do that and I think that should be fine too.

Read her post again.

Mandyw75

There is no way this is a real person. I can't imagine anyone I have ever met actually saying or thinking those things. Even before my mc I knew they happened and never wanted to close my ears to it. It's a part of life.

I guess someone is sitting at their computer chuckling to themselves tonight.

katieharpiceland

LOL. Seriously, where do these freaks come from? Why do they stalk baby boards? This one can spell, so it can't be wysbaby. Unless her English degree finally infiltrated the rock that is her brain.

Serenla

eme520 said:

The worst part of these AEs is how they bring out the disgusting people who are supporting them. @tiffy81 is there anyone less sensitive than you?

@eme520 she has a terrible track record, remember when she liked this gem?

To any loss moms this might be a trigger

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12042809/is-this-site-all-about-your-cries/p1

Edit added warning

Kristy774

kbuckleyharp said:

LOL. Seriously, where do these freaks come from? Why do they stalk baby boards? This one can spell, so it can't be wysbaby. Unless her English degree finally infiltrated the rock that is her brain. </blockquote

It blows my mind that people stalk baby boards and when I 1st joined I didn't believe it, but after the past few weeks I'm now a firm believer that some people have no lives.

Serenla

eme520 said:

eme520 said:

The worst part of these AEs is how they bring out the disgusting people who are supporting them. @tiffy81 is there anyone less sensitive than you?

@eme520 she has a terrible track record, remember when she liked this gem?

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12042809/is-this-site-all-about-your-cries/p1

Oh I absolutely know, I can think of several instances.

Oh yeah and when she liked the other post where OP was upset by all of the MC and ER posts.

deidremaria

katieharpiceland

@Kristy744 Oddly, I have no life at the moment either. LOL. The weather sucks and I'm off work for two weeks (Beethoven weeks, a harpists best friend!). Its good entertainment. I think (knock on wood) ms is letting up so I could do some stuff around the house...hmmmm.

KacieO

Yikes! Way to jump right in and say something insensitive and careless!

deidremaria

Serenla

Oh yeah and when she liked the other post where OP was upset by all of the MC and ER posts.

I thought she was the OP for that one.

Kristy774

@kcbuckleyharp well, at least your not stalking message boards, could you imagine? Lol I couldn't, I can barely keep up with people on here, your name always sticks out because I remember that you live in Iceland and have a job where your building sticks out over the ocean, I think I'm right anyway, I have a hard time keeping up with people here, I couldn't tell you who liked what post or didn't like it, I prob hit "love" on people's posts all the time who can't stand me lol and I have no idea. I'm trying to get better about it, I think part of the problem is I only bump on my phone (because I'm too lazy to pull out the laptop) and I don't see tickers or anything really except a tiny picture.

deidremaria

Serenla

deidremaria said:

Serenla

Oh yeah and when she liked the other post where OP was upset by all of the MC and ER posts.

I thought she was the OP for that one.

mmm I do not think so, I remember that OPs avatar being generic bump.

katieharpiceland

@Kristy744 close :-) I'm a harpist in Iceland and the concert hall sticks out over the ocean. But, I have to say your memory is a million times better than mine!

rtv3

If this is not MUD...

Manda+panda

Why is it that every other week there is this kind of idiotic insensitive post? Good Lord.

PaddysGirl8

Oh dear ... Are we going through this again??? An OP you might as well turn around, this post is NOT a good way to "join".

PaddysGirl8

Mishababe said:

I just think its personal. Why do they need the attention from strangers? If I miscarried I wouldn't even be able to get the emotional courage to come on here afterward and alert everyone.Plus it makes the rest of us uncomfortable wondering of we will loose ours or not

1 do not speak for the rest of us! 2 why are you on this board? Support? Knowledge? 3 how come only those ladies with healthy pregnancies be supported?

tiffy81

So it's wrong to agree with someone who would like to keep things private or on the appropriate board?
When I first joined I posted something about blending families and someone pointed me in the direction of the blended family board. And guess what?? I didn't get my panties in a bunch about being told my post would be more appropriate on another board. I just went to to the other board. This site is just that, a site, not a place where people should take themselves so seriously that get upset and stay up all hours of the night gif'ing people that at the end of the day don't really matter or seeing who can come up with best come back.

Teresa1896

You must be a pretty sick, sad person to get your rocks off by insulting loss moms on the Internet.

But on the offchance that this isnt MUD....Having a miscarriage isn't something to be ashamed of. It's not a fart, for gods sake. It's the passing of your baby. And if you want people to keep their grief and broken hearts to themselves because it scares you, you need to grow the eff up. Have fun living in your bubble.

Kristy774

@tiffy81 Loss is apart of the board, if you were expecting a baby and then joined the board here you are, a member of the board. So let me ask you this, if my baby has issues, for instance my last child had calcium deposits on his heart, and I find out at 20 weeks, I'm going to post it on here and talk to the ladies I've become friends with, I'm not posting it to freak anyone out about their own baby, just like someone posting about a miscarriage isn't about anyone else, its about the connections we make with one another and feeling bad and supporting each other in the journey of pregnancy where ever it takes us.

Serenla

Kristy774 said:

@tiffy81 Loss is apart of the board, if you were expecting a baby and then joined the board here you are, a member of the board. So let me ask you this, if my baby has issues, for instance my last child had calcium deposits on his heart, and I find out at 20 weeks, I'm going to post it on here and talk to the ladies I've become friends with, I'm not posting it to freak anyone out about their own baby, just like someone posting about a miscarriage isn't about anyone else, its about the connections we make with one another and feeling bad and supporting each other in the journey of pregnancy where ever it takes us.

News flash tiffy, loss happens. It is a part of pregnancy, sticking your head in the sand isn't going to make it better. 

I want any woman who suffers a loss to post on their BMB, it was because of my loss post on my first BMB  that I received advice from a wonderful woman pointing me to the loss community here andI found the support to get me through that pain. I want to support women who are in the ER scared out of their minds of bleeding their child out of them or the women who have to decide if a D&C is right for them because they will be awake through the whole thing.  I want to give them the same support that I received in the hopes that I might give them a minuscule amount of comfort. 

I believe you said you joined for chit chat right? Here you are;  https://forums.thebump.com/categories/chit-chat

mrscrcalli

Tiffy was the one that stuck up for the last "PGAL bash" thread a month ago right?? :-?

Serenla

Thanks @crashintome1 it looks to me like it was a post and run.

Winnieella

Op Yuck

tiffy81

I never said that no one should ever talk about loss but I don't think it should be interjected in a thread where a newly pregnant woman is adjusting to her body changing and asking questions about symptoms and gets freaked out because people are answering her with miscarriage stories. That's what I think is wrong. And yes I'm the minority that thinks its wrong and I should feel terrible about myself. But the reality of it is that bad things happen all the time and the point is to get through it and move on and help others when they need help not scare them into thinking they are going to experience a loss because so many others have. So go ahead and flag ladies. And keep my name going since so many of you live and breathe drama on the bump.

It's still so dang surprising to me that so many of you get so upset over a site you have no control over and people you will probably never meet. And on that note, I have a real life to get back to.

Mishababe

am i supposed to stick around and get attacked?

 

im leaving i work graveyard at a hospital i dont have time for this, a girl here is on the bump so i thought i wouold check it out but i guess im not welcome to share my thoughts and fears. im sorry i offended.

snmetz7

Serenla said:

Wait a min, wsybaby is that you?!?!?!

this is exactly what i was wondering....

OP no its not safe. you should leave now before we show our real crazy