I have a few friends who are constantly posting on facebook about how they have "no time" for themselves and can't even get a shower/shave, let alone put on real clothes or cook a full meal. They always say its because their baby won't let them put it down for the 10 minutes they need to shower or to eat a hot meal. Most of them only have one child, usually under 5 and they're almost always stay at home moms. I've started referring to it as "mommy martyr syndrome" and I really don't think its real. DS is almost 11 months old and I can count on one hand the number of days I couldn't take a shower, put on real clothes, a little makeup and leave the house not looking like I just rolled out of bed if I wanted to.. Yeah, some days I chose not to or I was sick, but its never been because my son 'wouldn't let me'. Same thing with eating. When he was a newborn, I definitely ate lunch at weird times (mid afternoon naptime breakfast anyone?), but I never forced myself to eat a cold meal. Does anyone else feel like letting your baby control your life from birth is a bad idea? Unless you are a single mom I can almost guarantee there is some time of day when there is another adult in the house, so you should be able to bathe, and it doesn't take that long at all to put on something other than your pajamas- most babies will play for a minute or two alone.