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2nd Trimester
Rudest or most bizarre advice you've received
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Re: Rudest or most bizarre advice you've received
REALLY!? Since when the f@ck is it ok to comment on someone's weight, let alone their ass- nevermind whether someone's pg or not! I am in disbelief that a professional I work with told me my ass is fat today. Sorry- I really had to vent...
I've had strangers ask "how far along are you?" I answer, "14 weeks" and they say "Oh, that's nothing!" ...What does that even mean???
I also had a lady at work say, "Well, you don't look as pregnant as you did yesterday" I'm sorry, would you like me to measure my bump for you?
People are stupid...
My mom told me not to have the baby before Christmas because then I wouldn't have time to take down the Christmas decorations before the kid's birthday party. (I'm due Jan 4). Ok mom, since I have total control over when I go into labor, I'll change my plans from being weeks early to waiting till my due date.
Miscarriage 3/15 at 10 weeks
BFP 7/23/15 EDD 4/3/16
A lady at BRU saw me texting (she was about 1,000 years old), she asked if I was worried about the radiation from my cell phone mutating my baby.
No, but a little X-man sounds kind of awesome. Thanks for asking.
My husband's cousin got all butthurt after she was incredibly rude to both my husband and me about how inferior our baby product choices are. I tried to be nice about it at first by saying things like "Thanks, I'll keep that in mind" or "Thanks for the advice, but because of X that won't work for us." She started getting incredibly rude and pushy. I told her to back the fuck off, pretty much, so she brought my MIL into it who basically told her the same thing that I did.
I've heard of rubbing whiskey on gums while teething several times. I probably wouldn't do it, either (I'd probably just go buy some oragel if if got really bad), but it's supposed to have a numbing effect on LOs gums. I don't think a drop rubbed on their gums would hurt, but eh.
People have lots to say. And you will get even more after baby is here. I guess you just have to be like a duck and let it roll off your back. My office put together an "Advice book" - this huge book of advice from everyone in my office on parenting, baby etc. I guess I had clueless FTM stamped on my forehead. The best one said - Smile when someone gives you well meaning advice and then just do it your own way!
Me: "Um...well...I see my doctor tomorrow."
Her: "You're not seeing a midwife? Why not? They're much better than doctors. I guess you're not using a birthing center either?"
Me: "No. I'm using a doctor because the nearest birthing center is two hours away - in a different state - and midwives are illegal in this state."
Her: "You're going to have a horrible experience in the hospital. You can't do anything that you want to do."
Me: "Didn't you have three unmedicated vaginal water births in a hospital with an OB? Yeah. Patronize my decisions when you're being less of a hypocrite."
Then when taking a poll on what we are having, my bfs sister said "I think its a girl. And if it is, I will hate you for it. Instead you can just give her to me." All bc she has a son and wants a daughter but the risk of Downs is almost 100% if they have another.
Been told I look like im having twins by multiple people and "you are soo much bigger now than when you went into labor with Emmalee!"
Ugh
Otherwise one supposed friend told me I was trying to "out do her" because I'm having twins. I didn't realize people get jealous about having twins. I used to pity women in my situation. I was shocked by her comment. Haven't really spoken to her since. It's best to avoid toxic people.
Honestly, you were pretty rude, too. You asked for advice and answers. That's what you got. You didn't like/agree with most of it. In fact, you flagged someone for using a word that you didn't like which is an abuse of the abuse flag. Please consider reading the abuse flag guidelines.
You ended up answering your own question and generally seemed to know more about the situation than you initially stated. The advice given to call your doctor and ask was valid, which is what you should have done in the first place.
If you're going to complain about people being "mean" to you, make sure that you at least represent the situation as it happened instead of trying to make yourself out to be the victim.
Also I know lots of people who did the whiskey on the gums, none of them turned out badly. I think you made do with what you had back when our grandparents were raising kids and I'm assuming before orajel existed.
I'm just trying to make sense of things :-)
My own sister had planned parenthood send me abortion pamphlets when I told her. All be cause she didn't think that I'm ready for my little one, despite my husband and I trying to get pregnant for 2yrs.
I had HG during my first pregnancy and basically suffered through 7 1/2 months of horrible morning sickness. I couldn't hold anything down if I didn't pop Zofran several times a day. It was awful.
Needless to say, I'm thin and it took me a long time to gain weight and I looked like sh*t the entire pregnancy. My skin looked awful and dehydrated.
I had lots of mean comments about how I clearly wasn't taking care of myself, was exaggerating my morning sickness, and the worst was by my male boss who said it wasn't the same as being "actually sick" when I had to call in a few times. Oh, and I worked until I went into labor, so I think I was a huge trooper. Grrrrrrr!!!!
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