My husband and I are truly struggling on names at the moment. He comes from a strong Italian family and has a very Italian last name. However, he is also Irish as am I. My maiden name was Patrick. For that reason we made the compromise "even before having kids" that boys could have Irish first names seeing that they will always be identified at being Italian by their last names. Girls were the opposite, since they would more than likely lose their last name down the road they would have Italian first names. We decided on 2 possible girl names and said we would wait to see what she looked like to decide and actually have 5 boy names that we have both been crazy in love over. I told my husband he could make the final decision on any of the 5 names and I would not be disappointed. Then about 2-3 weeks ago he requested his cousin send him their family tree and he keeps pushing for Italian boy names... ones that I really do not like.
I know I am complaining but I feel like I am being robbed here... That my heritage doesn't matter... and that my opinion doesn't either. Where I did feel like we were in a great place for names now feels like one or the other is going to be gravely disappointed. I just feel like I have bonded with the names that we did have for months and now that is being taken from me. I hate more that I am a people pleaser and part of me is just tempted to give in, but I also know that I would be extremely disappointed if I did.
Thanks for listening/reading... can't really go to family on this one because both sides are too biased.
Re: Sorry for a name rant... but why does this have to be so difficult :,(
That is how we were originally going to decide, if blonde and a boy Finn it would be! But in that argument, what if this kid comes out dark hair/skin/full set of eyebrows... the works! I did tell my hub that I would go with Lucca if he HAD to have an Italian name, then when we have more kids in the future it is one that I could still blend with Irish names and flow fine. If we go all out Italian "Giuseppe"... there is no going back
Just feeling discouraged.
DH originally chose Gavin because it means Hawk. He wants to call the baby Hawk, but I am adamantly opposed to that. I may give in and agree to the name Gavin, but I will lose my shit if DH starts calling him Hawk.
@robsbabygirl08, @TiffanyJill, and others who are having name conflicts with your DH - I can empathize!