Insomnia once again has reared its ugly face and with that comes anxiety about how the holidays will go.
These upcoming holidays will be the first since losing Fenix.
I know I'm not alone in this.
So how do you plan to cope during the holidays. If you're traveling to visit family, what do you plan to do when you need some alone time? Or when you've had it up to your eyeballs and you're about to tell someone to shove their Thankfullness up their ass because we lost our babies?
As for here, I'm having the most anxiety about traveling to my dad's for Christmas. He's in this holy roller kick and I'm not sure how to tell him to shove his religious platitudes because they don't help. The way I imagine it, even saying so in a respectful way means a reaction of even more religiousity of "Let God take your burden and bitterness." Maybe I'm just imagining things worse, but I feel like I've got to prepare myself for the worst.
Sorry, going off in tangents. But anyway. How do you cope with the first holiday season after loss?
BFP #1 12/19/13 We lost our Fenix 7/31/14 at 36 weeks due to torn umbilical cord
~*ALL AL WELCOME*~
Re: Holiday Coping Mechanisms
The day the Bump died - Jasper is wise
Christmas will be another story.
****LC's mentioned****
@forevermyfenix sorry that do not have any words of wisdom but wanted to come in here to see if I can take some of the other ladies ideas.
*hugs* to everyone.
W born September 2020
#3 due November 2022
Otherwise it would be vodka.
((HUGS)) I hope it is not as stressful as everyone is fearing, sometimes your family can surprise you and act like decent people... sometimes.
ETA: words are hard sometimes
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
Animals Interacting with Snow
I'd just like to throw out there that not going to see family at all is a fine plan, too. If you genuinely don't want to or can't handle being around family, you should have the right to stay home and not feel bad about it. I got tired of arguing with DH's family over where Thanksgiving was going to be, who was bringing what, and dealing with all the hurt feelings those conversations always result in. So we stayed home one year and had our own Thanksgiving. And you know what? It. was. awesome. No rushing around, no sharing all that yummy food, just awesome.
Or just drink all the alcohol.
((((Hugs))) for everyone that will face difficult people or difficult conversations this week.
Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
Good for you spending the time with just and and YH. And Higgins will make it a Christmas you will never forget!
I totally expect to see an AW thread from you regarding Higgins when he gets home.
DX: Adenomyosis, Compounded MTHFR, PAI-1 4G variant
DH: 34
MFI due to Testicular Cancer
Married March 2012
IVF w/ICSI #1
10 little polar bears
FET #1 with 2 polar bears ~Nov 6, 2013 BFN
FET # 2 with 2 more polar bears ~March 19, 2014 BFP!!!
Beta 1= 276
Beta 2= 662
4/19/14 ~ baby A became an angel
5/02/14 ~ baby B became an angel
5/3/14 ~ D&C
FET #3 with 1 male polar bear ~October 3, 2014
October 13, 2014 ~ BFN
Fur Children: Memphis 3y, Dutch 3y, Marcel 2y, Meadow 1y
January 2015 Siggy Challenge TTCAL
Animals Interacting with Snow
Like others have said, skipping out for you is ok.
I hope the day isn't as bad as worst case.
PgAL welcome
Married 6/11/2011
Me & Hubby: 34
TTC journey started 12/2012
BFP #1 6/5/2013, MC confirmed 6/26/2013 @ 7 wks
BFP#2 8/25/2013 MC confirmed 10/16/2013 @ 12 wks (D&C 10/18)
Diagnosis: unexplained RPL, unexplained IF.
Also have hypothyroidism
Started TTC again 12/2013
IUI#1:Clomid CD 3-7, Trigger'ed CD 12. IUI CD 14. BFN
IUI #2:Letrozole CD 3 - 7, Follistim CD 9, Trigger CD 10, IUI CD12. BFN
Current plan: IVF with PGD. Antagonist - Vivelle Protocal. Stim start 12/1. ER 12/14.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/502498