I'm 22 years old and I'd like to know how many women that are around my age that are thinking about having a baby. (I'm not saying if you're 26 you're old, It's just that I can relate more to the age between 18& 25.) No disrespect intended!
How old was/is your partner, and is he just as eager as you? And if you are married at that time, how long were you married before rhinking about having kids?
I know that age doesn't matter because everyone is different, I'm just curious to see how many that are thinking about having kids at a young age.
Thanks!
Re: "Young" future moms,(18-25) how old were you when started planning to get pregnant?
ETA: we were together for 6 years and lived together 3 years before getting married.
Thanks for the comments!
I am just lurking but I got pregnant with my first at 23 and he was born just after my 24th birthday. I got pregnant with my second at 25 and he will be born just after my 26 th birthday God willing.
My first was a honeymoon baby, we had been married 6 weeks when we found out we were expecting. We didn't plan it but we use natural family planning for religious reasons so we were prepared for the possibility. My husband was 26 when our first was born. We were planning on starting to try about 6 months after our wedding.
I will say it has been difficult finding other moms my age that can relate. All of the moms in our play groups are in their 30's so its a little harder to connect because our life experiences are so different. But I love being a younger mom and I wouldn't trade any part of my life for anything! Good luck!
If we are lucky enough to get pregnant within 2 years, I'd still be the youngest mom I know. I would find it hard as well to find someone to relate. I hope you find such a person.
I'm happy to see your husband was quite young too. Most of my husbands male colleagues were 30 when they had their first child. That just seems old to me.
My DH and I started TTC when we were both 22. We got married when we were 19/20, so we'd been married a little over 2 years before we started, and we'd been together for about 8 years total. We are now 26/27 and still childless, but we are now in the process of adopting. Looking back, we were definitely not well-prepared to have a child at the time that we started TTC, even though we felt ready - it would not have been great timing and our lives would probably be a lot different now if we had been successful in conceiving in those first two years or so of trying.
DH was not quite as eager as I was to start TTC, but he was excited about the idea of becoming a parent. Now he is totally ready (obviously, 4+ years of waiting/maturing will do that to a person) and just as excited about becoming a parent as I am.
30 is not old.
I can image you're excited That's must be a really fun countdown for you two! Getting married and starting a family! Good luck
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I definitely feel like the odd one out here. I receive a lot of judgement over DH and I's relationship; not from my family but from outsiders who just don't get it. Been married 6 months, together 3 years before we started TTC, which was 1 month before marriage. We went of BC early to get it out of my system. I'm 22 and DH is 36. Wow right? He has two children from previous, DD is 9 and DS is 13... So I get a -lot- of judgement over "forcing him" into more children at "his age." Which hurts, but whatevs.
We've been TTC for 7 months now, nothing yet. I'd be okay with waiting but he doesn't want to be 40 and having a newborn. Understandable! And don't let anyone make you feel bad for wanting a baby at your age, we're all different and don't deserve harsh judgement.
Thank you for sharing all your stories. They helped a lot.
Thanks for the advice! I know what you mean. My dad is 67 and my mother 45. 22 years apart so you're age difference isn't too much compared to that. My mother had her first child at 21 and she heard it all.
They are the best couple I know so I'm on your side! (Btw who doesn't like an older guy! i know I do)
I'm 21 and DH is 33, a bit of an age gap, I know, but we are more stable, and happier than most of our friends. Most of them being in their late 30's. Its hard to find ladies my age, that are in the same place in their life.
Truth!
I was 26 when DS was born. We had been married 2 years and together for 5.
Dh and I had been together for almost 5 years and married a little over one when we started trying (I was 26 he was 28).
I got pregnant the first time just before turNing 27, second time just after turning 27. I'm still 27, and will turn 28 just before this baby is born (due date is 2 weeks after my birthday). Dh will be 29.
I would have started ttc right after getting married, but dh wasn't ready.
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I don't fit your age bracket (I'm ancient) however I began planning for my family when I was young. It's just that part of that plan was to wait until I finished with college and had longevity in a job.
I guess it would depend on what kind of plan people had. Like you mentioned everyone is different...and life has a way of putting a wrench in even the best plans.
We got pregnant with our "oops" baby when I was 22 and she was born two days before I turned 23.
Started TTC last January. I was 26 he was 28.
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I just turned 25 a week ago and DH is 23 (he turns 24 in April). I know, we're odd cuz I'm older than him. We will probably start TTC in about a year, though just last week I had a preg scare that ended up being nothing (I think). We are just in an awkward stage of our lives right now where a baby would uproot everything we just established. So as much as I have BOTB, it doesn't make sense for us to TTC right now. We have too many loose ends.
ETA: DH and I have been together for 7.5 years, lived together for 3 years, and married for 9 months.
Hey there! I used to think my friends who got KU (on purpose) at 20-22 were CRAZY! Turns out I was just insensitive. I'm 25 and definitely have baby fever now. I'm excited to start trying while all my girlfriends have either young children, infants or are pregnant themselves. I'll have more of a support system that way! A few older gals I know who are in their 40's and have young children have a completely different support system because all the women they know have grown children and can't relate to them anymore.
My hubby, 28, is supportive and kind of 'goes with the flow'. I love him for that. We've been together for 8 years and I can definitely say that I'm glad we waited until we were a bit older to start trying!
GL to you
I had my first shortly after my 28th birthday, so I'm not in the category you speak of. I do remember at 22 thinking that 30 was old and not understanding why people waited that long.
We got married when I was 25. Once we got married I felt like we needed to get on it and start a family because that's what comes next. I'm glad we waited a little while though. We waited till DH was finished with school and had a job with benefits so I could be a SAHM. (Even the best laid plans go awry though, we moved to another state midway through the pregnancy and ended up renting there till October of this year because we renovated a house, blah blah blah)
I know you're not really looking for advice, just other peoples experiences, but having a house and having it furnished, and done and having the money to do that before you have a baby in the picture is hugely beneficial!
I was married at 26. Had ds at 32. Will prob be 35 or 36 when 2 comes along. I don't feel old at all. Hell I will probably try to squeeze in one more.
I think being able to run after kids is a fitness thing, not an age thing. I'm fit and active and have no problems chasing after my very active 2 y/o.
My hubby and I were both 22 when we got married. We both wanted to try for a baby right away, we would have tried before we were even married if he had it his way! About 3 months into our wedded bliss I was expecting He comes from a good size family and I have a sister who has a soccer team so were both looking very forward to starting our family.
I started trying at 23...and am now 27 with no pregnancies.
We ended up becoming parents via adoption this past December.
How old is your H? Just curious, you don't see too many people get together at 12 and marry!