I want to keep my LO with me in the room, and not be sent to the nursery. I haven't talked to my MW or checked the hospital policies. Does anyone else want to do this? 2nd timers who did this - did you have any issues with them not letting you? I don't know why anyone would have a problem with it, but like a lot of other rules they don't always make sense.
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Re: Not sending LO to nursery after birth?
We did this mostly last time. It's pretty normal and some hospitals don't even have well-baby nurseries anymore.
However, as I had a horrendous time with bfing with DS, he ended up being pretty dehydrated and the nurse gently persuaded me to let her take him to the nursery, feed him and give me a break and a chance to rest. I'm forever grateful to her because it made a huge difference and it was OK to let someone else take over for a while.
You just have to be clear with the staff that you want the baby with you. They did take my DS to the nursery to do the regular tests with the doctor, but DH watched through the window. The nurse bathed DS in my room.
The nurses did often suggest that I send DS to the nursery so I could get some rest, especially throughout the night. I took them up on it the first night b/c I was so tired but they brought him back to me every 1.5-2 hours to nurse.
You just have to tell your nurse that is what you want.
Mine INSISTED the 2nd night she take DD for a few hours so I could get some sleep! I wasn't happy about it but in the end she was right.
I called them as soon as I woke up and asked them to bring her back. I wanted to exclusively BF and made sure they knew that and to bring her back if she cried before I woke!
Just be clear with them! I totally understand!
My experience was similar to pp's with the exception of the day he was born...
we had a psycho recovery nurse on her first day at the hospital. She took the baby to the nursery for his bath and never brought him back. DH went to get him and had to insist he come back to the room with us. (She said he needed to stay there to be observed. Her previous job had been in a NICU.) I loved my husband a notch more that day.
You want your baby in the nursery just say so, you want to keep him in your room, that's fine too.
If your hospital "won't let you" have baby room in, choose a different hospital, 'cause that'd be some crap. Just saying.
The hospital where I'll be delivering even asks if we want the baby to be taken to the nursery for a bath. If we opt out of that, they'll show us how to give her a bath ourselves in the sink in the room. When DD was born they pretty much assumed I wanted her with me the whole time and were very good about asking what my preferences were. Have you taken a tour of the maternity ward where you're thinking of delivering? If not, I recommend doing so - they'll be able to answer all of your questions there.
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I would be really mad if my DH weren't allowed to stay. He's the father for goodness sake, not some third cousin you can kick out after visiting hours. I'm definitely going to have to check on that.
Thanks for all the info! I didn't realize they take the baby to give a bath and do tests, so I'm definitely going to request that all of that can be done in the room. I just don't want him to be taken away!
Also, i know this is a crazy woman paranoid question, but do they put an ID bracelet on immediately after birth? I have this fear that they're going to play baby roulette and I'm going to get the wrong baby back. I know, flame away at my insanity.
This is very true. While I think rooming-in is great, I think it's also important for the new mom to get some sleep and recover. Don't be afraid or feel like a bad Mom if you let your babe stay in the nursery. One piece of advice I always give to my friends is to let the baby go to the nursery at night, so you can sleep. You will have several nights to tend to your baby and will be able to do it better if you've have some time to rest after labor.
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This makes me so thankful for my hospital, I am delivering in my small town that has suprizingly state of the art facilities and no matter what I will have a private room. I dont know how you did it with 8 other ladies there!
I think you are worrying too much about this. Yes, it is good to be cautious and never let your guard down and, yes, there have been incidents with babies being switched, but that all is so very, very rare. Security is one of their top concerns. ID bracelets are issued immed after birth and only given to Mom, Dad and Baby. You will be told how to ID the nurses. Babies must always be in their little beds unless in the room with their Mom. They will give you a whole lecture on it.
Also, when it comes to your H being in the room after you have your LO, you may change your mind when you get there. My H had slept in a very uncomfy bed for a few nights before DS was born. It was best for him to go home, get a good night sleep, hang with the dogs and pick up some things I wanted from home. It really wasn't necessary for him to spend the night with me. He def. won't be able to this time since we already have a little guy.
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At my hospital you are pretty much never separated from your baby. Even if you have a c/s dad and baby go with you to recovery, then to your post partum room with you when you leave recovery. They did put in a small well baby nursery, but the L&D nurses said it's empty most of the time because no one uses it as they encourage rooming in. They said it's used more for storage than babies these days.
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This.