Facebook Group

brittandjp

Before you pop your popcorn, let me remind you that I'm not a newb. I've been on TB for a couple years now and on D14 since the beginning. I post a moderate amount, so I swear I'm not a crazy that plans on taking your baby.   I don't think it's been brought up in a while (that I've noticed and yes I did a search), so what are our thoughts on the facebook group?

I know some of you have no intentions of ever joining a group and that's A-Okay with me, no pressure. For those of you that did want to join one at some point, how are we feeling about one now? I know for me personally, it's so much easier to keep in touch through fb since I'm usually on my phone and mobile bumping sucks balls.

I'd be happy to create one if there was enough interest and y'all were okay with me taking the lead. If there is someone else that everyone is more comfortable with being admin, I'm good with that as well. There could even be a couple admins?

**If it's decided that now might be a good time, I think there should be some sort of rules established as to who should join. Thoughts?

brittandjp

I agree @NikkiMN143 on your ideas. I too think *most* of the crazies have been weeded out. Some of the things I was thinking...

- You need to have an established membership here -- how long you've been here and post frequency. We'd need to decide on the amounts for both.

- The group would definitely be private and by invitation only.

- We may want to create some sort of guidelines/group etiquette that must be followed if joining the group (we learned this the hard way on my first bmb).

JaymeeLH

We definitely would need a required post amount or something proving that whoever is requesting to join is an active non-crazy member of the board. Also, the link should not be public, there should be 3 people in charge of adding new members and any request should be agreed upon by 2/3 of those page admins. I'm working on locking down my profile even more than I had before, I'd probably be willing at this point.

Southernpeach80

I'd be up for it also and completely agree with having guidelines, etc.

brittandjp

JaymeeLH said:

We definitely would need a required post amount or something proving that whoever is requesting to join is an active non-crazy member of the board. Also, the link should not be public, there should be 3 people in charge of adding new members and any request should be agreed upon by 2/3 of those page admins. I'm working on locking down my profile even more than I had before, I'd probably be willing at this point.

3 is a good amount admin wise in the event of a disagreement by other board members. It leaves room for a tiebreaker. My profile is on lockdown as well. The link definitely would not be posted since it would be by invitation only, as in an admin would personally invite each member.

brittandjp

gradschoolmom1234 said:

I'm not sure how I feel about it. That would involve giving my real name to internet strangers... And to be honest, I just don't think I'm that trusting. I like the relative anonymity offered by this forum. I feel like I'm already fairly guarded about what I post here, once you put things in writing they can get out and hurt you later. If I were posting under my real name and face I'd need to be even more careful. I know it's not the same as posting naked pictures online or anything, but I don't ever want students I teach to hear about my uterus or cervical mucous or anything... That's just information they (and most others) don't need to have about me.

And that's totally fine @gradschoolmom1234. While I'm bummed because I wish you would join, at no point is anyone obligated. Joining the group, regardless of how private your profile is or isn't will allow people to see your real name and possibly a profile picture. You'd have to be willing to take that risk and I understand that not everyone is willing to do so.

brittandjp

Also, something to consider would be at what amount (if any?) do we cap the group at? The nice thing about a fb group is that it allows you to get closer to people on a personal level and that isn't easy with a group of 200.

nextworldwonder

I would be interested in it. I find mobile bump to be slightly annoying LOL. 3 seems like a good number for admins. Great for tiebreakers but also to assist in getting it going.

nesenotes

I'd be up for it at this point. There will still be another influx of newbs once the babies are born. The fb group I'm in now was started months after all the kids were born and everyone was bored out of their minds on Mat Leave. Love our group of women though we've all gotten pretty close!

brittandjp

nesenotes said:

I'd be up for it at this point. There will still be another influx of newbs once the babies are born. The fb group I'm in now was started months after all the kids were born and everyone was bored out of their minds on Mat Leave. Love our group of women though!

Yeah, that happened on my first bmb as well. There were several waves of new people let in, but then we eventually closed the group. I'm pretty sure there were groups created afterwards as a result, which again, is totally fine. I love my first bmb and don't what I would have done without those ladies, especially that first year. I'd like to establish another tight knit group, but that would likely be challenging if we forever let in new members.

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jennielee123

I'd be willing to join. I like the idea of setting guidelines for who can or can't join based on actual Bump participation.

JaymeeLH

MrsBriss said:

Also, something to consider would be at what amount (if any?) do we cap the group at? The nice thing about a fb group is that it allows you to get closer to people on a personal level and that isn't easy with a group of 200.

I have to say that I would feel much more comfortable on a fb group where you know people better rather than having 200 plus people who may be strange lurkers. Just seems more warm and fuzzy I guess. And since I'm rather new to fb groups, is it something where it would post on my friends feeds? I would hope that it's more private than that?

It would (I hope anyway) be a private group which means your membership and everything you post within the group is hidden from your timeline/none of your friends will see that you joined or when you post

CandEChicago

I am going to sit this round out. You ladies are great but not quite ready for making anything "facebook official"

brittandjp

MrsBriss said:

Also, something to consider would be at what amount (if any?) do we cap the group at? The nice thing about a fb group is that it allows you to get closer to people on a personal level and that isn't easy with a group of 200.

I have to say that I would feel much more comfortable on a fb group where you know people better rather than having 200 plus people who may be strange lurkers. Just seems more warm and fuzzy I guess. And since I'm rather new to fb groups, is it something where it would post on my friends feeds? I would hope that it's more private than that?

Since it's a private group, none of your friends would be able to see anything you post there. To be honest, we've talked about some seriously personal things that we would have never discussed on TB. The only people that can see it are those in the group.

ETA: Though that doesn't mean we'd necessarily talk about those things. My point was just that we talk about a wide variety of things and no one is able to see it.

nesenotes

MrsBriss said:

brittandjp said:

Also, something to consider would be at what amount (if any?) do we cap the group at? The nice thing about a fb group is that it allows you to get closer to people on a personal level and that isn't easy with a group of 200.

I have to say that I would feel much more comfortable on a fb group where you know people better rather than having 200 plus people who may be strange lurkers. Just seems more warm and fuzzy I guess.

And since I'm rather new to fb groups, is it something where it would post on my friends feeds? I would hope that it's more private than that?

Should be secret so no one will ever see what you post on the outside.

Cadg0986

I would be willing to join. I've been on this board since I got my BFP on 3/31 (or maybe I joined the next day--either way). I've posted and commented...but am almost daily on D14 to read up on what everyone is going through as well as to read other peoples posts to get my questions answered.

weezy29

I would join but probably not friend everyone.....sorry! I keep my "friends" to people I know in real life normally. Though I will say that I used Babyfit YEARS ago and still keep in touch with those ladies on FB. So far, after 9 years, no one has hunted me down or turned out to be weird, ha!!

I do like the idea of posting in a group though, just so much easier than bump mobile since this thing never refreshes.

And I guess y'all will have to let me know if I'm even invited. I reply often enough but don't start many of the threads.

JaymeeLH

Yeh I keep my actual friends list pretty locked down, so unless I got especially close to some people my full profile will remain on complete lockdown

feeshah

CandEChicago said:

I am going to sit this round out. You ladies are great but not quite ready for making anything "facebook official"

^^^Ditto.

I do appreciate the idea and I like how you approached all if us in a very NON-Creepy way. But I'm going to pass.

I like my Bump life and FB life seperate.

Shortstack06

I like being able to vent about my husband and now my job again, I prefer my family or his not read about how often we have sex or if my boss reads she is a completely uneducated idiot. Once it is on Facebook attached to your name, it can be there forever.

JaymeeLH

I'm gonna go lurk but I think it was either september or october 14 had a really tight list of regulations for admittance to their group and they had a close date for it

brittandjp

Yeah, you definitely wouldn't ever need to add anyone as a friend. Over time, you'll find that you may decide to add people that you get particularly close to. That of course wouldn't be a requirement to be in the group though.

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JaymeeLH

gradschoolmom1234 said:

So the group would not be able to stalk your fb page?

Correct

Well... It would obviously depend on your privacy settings. Anything that's public will be visible to the group.

This exactly. Whatever your public security settings are, will apply to anyone in the group who you have not added as a friend

brittandjp

Slaps said:

So the group would not be able to stalk your fb page? And pictures and such?

@Slaps, as long as you have your profile on lockdown, no one would see anything. I think on mine my profile pictures and cover photo are viewable to the public, but that's it. You can't see any other albums, posts I've made, info about me, etc. You can of course edit your privacy settings to how loose or tight as you'd like.

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JunkieBrewster

I would be in, and would help out if you need. I am not a very private person, but my fb is pretty locked down, and I know no one can see what I say in there.

JaymeeLH

I'm willing to admin, and I'm still searching out that list of requirements, but I know it included post count/love tits/general recognition by the admins

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britgil89

I would be interested, I think.

kayak11

I would be interested since I've been involved with this group from the beginning. However, I can only mobile bump and don't post a ton, so I'm not sure if anyone actually recognizes me

brittandjp

I'd be happy to work with a couple others to create the group within the next day or so, but before we'd actually invite anyone we'd need to establish the requirements to be invited. We'd decide that here.

If we can also get some ideas on rules of etiquette, if you will, here then as admins we can draft that piece before inviting anyone to the group.

cassiem51

I think I would be interested as well, now that I understand the whole "closed group thing". My page isn't public anyways.

Cadg0986

kayak11 said:

I would be interested since I've been involved with this group from the beginning. However, I can only mobile bump and don't post a ton, so I'm not sure if anyone actually recognizes me

That's the same with me! I only get to use the bump on mobile and try not to post a ton since typically my questions/concerns/thoughts are usually already posts.

JunkieBrewster

Personally, I think a simple FB group post with a poll, and "this person wants to join, anyone have an issue with it?" which would be deleted before they join, would work. Would be tedious for a bit, but after awhile would be easier.
That, or the 3 admins would be responsible for "vetting" people who want to join. That's what we do with the groups I own/admin on.

JaymeeLH

@brittandjp since it was your idea, how should we go about choosing group admins? also 3 isn't the magic number, but it definitely needs to be an odd number so that there'll be tie breakers in the event not everyone agrees on something

nopegoat

Eh. I'm in.

Cheekers2010

gradschoolmom1234 said:

I'm not sure how I feel about it. That would involve giving my real name to internet strangers... And to be honest, I just don't think I'm that trusting. I like the relative anonymity offered by this forum. I feel like I'm already fairly guarded about what I post here, once you put things in writing they can get out and hurt you later. If I were posting under my real name and face I'd need to be even more careful. I know it's not the same as posting naked pictures online or anything, but I don't ever want students I teach to hear about my uterus or cervical mucous or anything... That's just information they (and most others) don't need to have about me.

this is where I'm at as well.

brittandjp

JunkieBrewster said:

Personally, I think a simple FB group post with a poll, and "this person wants to join, anyone have an issue with it?" which would be deleted before they join, would work. Would be tedious for a bit, but after awhile would be easier. That, or the 3 admins would be responsible for "vetting" people who want to join. That's what we do with the groups I own/admin on.

In my experience, this has led to cattiness, so I don't think it's a good idea.

If we determine an entrance requirement (ex: member for at least x amount of months with x amount of posts per month), a voting process wouldn't be necessary. There could be one person that isn't a fan of bumpie that would vote against them and that doesn't really sound fair to me.

erynpdx

I'm probably about ready for that!