Facebook Group

colliebabe

NandaB said:

Not that my opinion matters, since I won't be joining, but you may want to consider making a rule about no "fake" profiles. Like TLD said- thats creepy and trollish and then you have a group of people who have let you all see their real info and then a few special snowflakes who think they should be allowed in your group, but don't have to expose themselves like everyone else.

I agree with the fake profile thing as well.  If someone is using their middle name instead of their last name that's one thing, but making a totally different FB profile just to join the D14 group is creepy. It should be people's real profile.

mlee116

twolittledogs said:

And here's another thing. You now have a handful of people who say they are cool with joining a FB group, but they are going to change their name or create a fake profile. So, you aren't cool with trolls, but you're suddenly okay doing troll-like things on your own?

If I were an admin, I'd make note of the fake profile admitters.

If you're creating a fake FB profile, doesn't that completely defeat the supposed ease of using FB?

Exactly!  I'm not doing the FB thing, but I would not be ok with myself out there when other people are already admitting they are going to create a fake profile.  So I should trust them, but they don't trust me?  Also, what is the point of doing that?  If you are just going to create a fake profile in order to be anonymous, then why not just Bump?  Well, unless for some reason you can't Bump at work or on mobile or whatever.

brittandjp

NikkiMN143 said:

And here's another thing. You now have a handful of people who say they are cool with joining a FB group, but they are going to change their name or create a fake profile. So, you aren't cool with trolls, but you're suddenly okay doing troll-like things on your own?

If I were an admin, I'd make note of the fake profile admitters.

If you're creating a fake FB profile, doesn't that completely defeat the supposed ease of using FB?

My thoughts exactly.

Yes. If you are not comfortable using your personal profile, then do not join the facebook group. Fake profiles are sketchy and will not be accepted.

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norweigan

Sooooooo how do we get invited? For your consideration, I have been on this board since the beginning, haven't started any fights, post almost daily, am very clean and non-crazy. Oh, and my siggy makes people crave pizza.

Just felt the clean comment needed to be in there because that just seems like something people say when they want people to like them. 

tracey525

I'm not sure if I'd join, mostly because it is another thing to check and keep up on. I already belong to one FB group for December moms that I really like, and between that and this board, that's all I really have time for... That said, Bump Mobile sucks, so the only time I check this board is when I'm on lunch or procrastinating at work, and I often feel like I'm a beat behind on the conversations here...

norweigan

... both? Is that the right answer? I'm so nervous...

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AngelSong76

I would absolutely join a facebook group.  I love my group from my pregnancy with my son.  We have all become very good friends.  

I'm kind of an in-between poster too - not quite a regular, but some people probably recognize my name.  I don't start a lot of threads, but I participate in as many as I can.  Facebook is easier for me because I'm on it all day for work (social media manager FTW) so I've been waiting for a legit Facebook group for this group.  

brittandjp

Slaps said:

How will you know if it is a fake profile?

There are some pretty basic things one can look at (even if your profile is on lockdown) that will be a tell all sign that you just created the account.

But really, I'd *think* at least most of us that are willing to join are okay using our personal profiles. If you aren't, don't join. Simple.

And as with most things, I'm sure there will be a couple that slip through the cracks. Fortunately, as admin, we have the ability to ban those people as we see fit. I'm sure even a "regular" will come out as crazy. It always happens. Let's not forget Maxsmom...

Annya26

Super late to the party, but I would also love to join. 

My J12 group formed a facebook group which became very close, and has been an amazing source of support, and many wonderful friendships have formed as a result. 

I haven't read all of the posts, but I did see a cap mentioned, and just wanted to throw out there that with most groups I have joined it starts with a LOT of people, but the numbers dwindle pretty quickly as people lose interest, get busy, etc. So starting with a cap higher than what you want to end up with might not be a horrible idea

CandEChicago

3girlsnthepup said:

MrsBriss said:

@3girlsnthepup‌ I'm just jealous you have cold pizza!

@MrsBriss‌ don't be too jealous. It was gluten free cold pizza and even everything in my spice cabinet couldn't fix that it was the blandest one I've tried yet. I was just too lazy to make a real lunch!

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@3girlsnthepup‌ - which brand? Might need to avoid it.

CandEChicago

@3girlsnthepup‌ - I was asking about the pizza but apparently didn't read far enough down. I agree on the pasta. ..except maybe the quinoa based ones

CandEChicago

@gradschoolmom1234‌ - I think I just saw an ad on hulu plus saying that it is now available to stream.

amieeyoung

I am ok either way. Assuming you would invite me anyways since I didn't post much in the beginning.

ninee88

CandEChicago said:

@gradschoolmom1234‌ - I think I just saw an ad on hulu plus saying that it is now available to stream.

Yes, it is. I watched all seven seasons this summer...

brittandjp

Reminder, if you do want to be invited, you need to complete the form that was posted by @JunkieBrewster. The link can be found on the FACEBOOK GROUP INFO thread. We are not sending out random invites through here, but instead to those that meet the requirements that have requested to join through the doc. Thanks!

desertsun

SO GLAD some of you regs aren't joining FB and will still be here on the board.


ETA: @Birch113, I was thisclose to saying something about too many Criminal Minds episodes lately. I'm a big SVU fan too. They just added all the seasons of Criminal Minds to Netflix and I am obsessed. Just a heads up in case you're looking for something new to watch.  

bowlwoman

@shinycat DD1 LOVES your siggy pic. :O)

@norweigan DD2 loves YOUR siggy pic.

I agree on the GF pasta reverting to a precooked state. Rice will do this as well, and because a lot of GF pastas use rice flour, I'm sure that's what it's doing. All you have to do is put a bit of water in the bowl when you nuke it and it comes out nice and edible again. Or put lots of sauce and let the pasta soak up some of the water from the sauce.

We make our own GF pizza crust a lot from the Bob's Red Bill pizza crust mix. I also made a cauliflower crust a few weeks ago, and it was ok. A lot of prep, though.

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brittandjp

Everyone's experiences with facebook groups are different @danisgossipgirl.

I'm a part of several and from my experience with each of them, rules are necessary. With my last BMB, things were great for about a year with one admin and no rules. Shit hit the fan, REAL bad. Rules were needed. One admin wasn't sufficient. Ever since the group has been great. Both myself and the other admins, based on our experiences as a whole decided it was best.

Again, the group isn't for everyone. If you don't want to join, don't. If you don't like the rules, okay. Are there quite a few? Sure. But none of them are over the top and every single one is reasonable. Other than getting the group up and running, it will hardly (if ever) seem like there are admins.

Honestly, there were two intentions in forming the group. Making D14 more accessible since most people prefer FB and to form a tighter more close knit group. If this is for you, then great. Please send a request.

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JunkieBrewster

JaymeeLH said:

Group Entry Requirements

Each of the following components are required in order for a member to be added to this group:

1) Active member on TB for a minimum of 2 months

2) Recognized by at least 3/5 admins

3) Spamming posts on TB will not get you recognized

**Please note: This group will have a soft cap of 100 members or will close on November 1st, whichever comes first.

the above list is what we have agreed on as the 5 admins for requirements to be considered/added to the group. It is our agreement that if you have been a regular poster (read NOT LURKER) for the last 2+ months you will easily meet the other requirements of being recognizable, and will also not feel compelled to suddenly start posting everywhere to appear as a regular poster. It's also important to note that we are looking at each person individually to ensure that their posts have been meaningful contributions and not just "T&P's" and "congrats" 

We have agreed on a soft cap/closing date to prevent things such as "we had 500 members but were down to 200 in just 4 days!" well that's 4 days that 300 people had access to your full name or whatever it is that you have on your facebooks public setting, which I think most can agree is disconcerting. 

Hmm. I didn't begin posting here until about six weeks ago.

danisgossipgirl said:

Can we get a running list of joinees to help the fence-sitters decide? No? Ok. I've had good experiences with FB groups, don't get me wrong. I don't feel like I know the admins well enough to know if the rules and modding will be heavy handed but I guess that's a wait and see thing.

I will tell you that the majority of them are pretty regular, theres a few who don't post daily, but post enough. Most people with posts under 200-ish seemed to not be recognized by us, nor were thy really active enough - not that 200 is a hard number.

The rules are really simple, same as here. No screenshots, no personal attacks, etc.

feeshah

I'm totally just lurking this thread now (pizza sound yummy for dinner)
And maybe this was already answered but how would you define "Regluar Poster"?
Is that were 3/5 admin must recognize you or is there a requirement to have posted X amount of threads/responses?

Krisx2

My new work schedule has killed my TB life. I didn't even know we were discussing this again till just now and it's 13 pages in? Geez.

I lost my Big Fat Meanie picture...but I still know who I am. I'm a regular person, right?

brittandjp

danisgossipgirl said:

Can we get a running list of joinees to help the fence-sitters decide? No? Ok. I've had good experiences with FB groups, don't get me wrong. I don't feel like I know the admins well enough to know if the rules and modding will be heavy handed but I guess that's a wait and see thing.

I do not think this is a good idea. Exploiting those that are a part of the group and those that didn't make it due to low activity/not being known (NO personal feelings were taken into account on a single request) might be publicly hurtful for some. Plus, only wanting to join because so and so joined seems very cool girl table style. If you want to join, send a request.

We've received nearly 100 requests (and we're still sifting through more that continue to come in) and unfortunately, not all will receive an invite. Even so, after an invite is sent, that person has to accept and join the group. Therefore, the numbers of those invited and those actually in the group aren't even adding up at this point.

It's really not meant to be a stressful discussion or decision on your part. Everyone has their feelings on being a part of the group. No one is obligated to join. If you feel comfortable, great. If not, no hard feelings. Most of us still plan on continuing to visit TB.

irishtriplets

I do have to say that no inviting someone because they don't fit into these specific guidelines is a pretty douchey move.  But whatever.  What do I know.  Some people who send a request and get denied might just feel a bit like they're not welcome at the cool table.  This board is ridiculous.

JunkieBrewster

I do have to say that no inviting someone because they don't fit into these specific guidelines is a pretty douchey move.  But whatever.  What do I know.  Some people who send a request and get denied might just feel a bit like they're not welcome at the cool table.  This board is ridiculous.


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Why would we let people in who would have access to our full names of they haven't previously spent time getting to know us? Who wants to join a FB group full of people they've not spent any time getting to know?
I don't normally join groups full of strangers.
THAT would be ridiculous.
Would you really feel comfortable joining a group with a hundred other people that you don't know from this board?

Eta: there are a few people there whose opinions I have vehmently disagreed with on this board, but they put their time in getting to help us know them or getting to know us, so its not even a little about the cool kids.

brittandjp

@danisgossipgirl‌, not one part of your post sounded like you were joking, so rather than being rude, I wanted to explain our decision to not share the list. In fact, most of your posts appear that you are taking this very seriously and overanalyzing your desire to join.

To an extent, yes, we are taking this seriously because privacy IS on the line. If you knew me IRL, you'd know that I'm not a very serious person at all. But as seen here, you cannot read tones through the interwebz.

@vjordan78, we specifically made the requirements simple enough that anyone who is at least a somewhat regular poster would be invited. This is exactly why we didn't put a post count, love tits, etc. on the requirements.

All 5 of us went through every single request to see if we recognized someone. If we didn't recognize them just by name, we looked at their siggys/avatars and read through past posts trying to trigger a memory. We honestly spent a lot of time looking into invites because we wanted to give everyone a fair shot. Zero personal feelings were involved on any decision. Literally, after research if at least 3 admins recognized the person and they weren't brand new, you made it in. Our reasoning behind this was to be cautious, just as NikkiMN143 stated, and to respect the privacy of those that have joined.

JunkieBrewster

danisgossipgirl said:

@brittandjp‌ I do take my privacy seriously, but planned on joining a FB group down the road, like 3rd trimester or later. This group is kind of forcing my hand now with the limited admission and deadline. If all the people joining now are the people I think I'd want to be in a group with, instead of waiting and maybe being in a group with an unknown second cohort, I'd have to join now. I have an idea of how I'd hope to see it run and don't really know how this one will be.

no, we don't have a problem letting people in later. we just want to close it up for a while to give the new people time to start getting active, and for those of you who aren't quite ready to get ready. otherwise, we are afraid we will have a steady stream coming in nonstop. Thats all!

like other people have said, other group sometimes I end up with 500 people, and it's much easier to let in a hundred, see how it goes and remove anybody necessary, then let in more. Otherwise you have 500 new people and that could end not so well.

JunkieBrewster

I would like to add, that while there are a few rules, we have no plans on being heavy handed. none of them are unreasonable, they are all pretty much common sense, but we wanted stated so that is a problem ever did aRise, we can say "yo, not cool"
honestly, I think the only one that will ever need enforcing is did not cross posting things between here and there.

Cheekers2010

NikkiMN143 said:

danisgossipgirl said:

@brittandjp‌ I do take my privacy seriously, but planned on joining a FB group down the road, like 3rd trimester or later. This group is kind of forcing my hand now with the limited admission and deadline. If all the people joining now are the people I think I'd want to be in a group with, instead of waiting and maybe being in a group with an unknown second cohort, I'd have to join now. I have an idea of how I'd hope to see it run and don't really know how this one will be.

Believe it or not, time has flown by these last few months and some of us are in our Third Tri or about to enter. This is by no means trying to force your hand or rush to join. As said in an earlier post, the first wave of invites went out which implies there will be more as we get more ladies requesting to join. If we don't hit 100 (we haven't) then we intend to keep invites going until November 1st, which by then ALL of us will be in our 3rd trimester, and weeks away from EDD.  And I'm sure even later, if others decide they want to join, we would consider more. That said, we haven't filled up yet, and we're still hoping to see more D14 mamas join up as the next few weeks come and go.  

Also, on the first few pages of this thread, many mamas were vocal about suggestions on rules, requirements, etc.  I don't recall seeing you chime in--I do apologize if your post was missed.  If you have a suggestion on how you'd like to see this group form, you had the perfect opportunity to do so.  But it's unreasonable to get upset because it's not set up to your standards when you haven't even voiced an idea--as fantastic as we all are, we're not mind readers.  

I just have to say that I get what @danisgossipgirl is saying about waiting. I didn't join my BMB's fb group until our kids were 3! That is I'd been in contact with these women for 4 years. Yep. So, it also seems very early to me. Some of us are just more private and more cautious. It's all good, though.
eta: heinous typo

JunkieBrewster

danisgossipgirl said:

@NikkiMN143‌ I've been away on vacation so it was all set up when I got back. Junkie addressed my concerns pretty well. I know some of you lucky ones are in 3rd tri already! My first son's FB group was formed when our babies were 6-9 months and we didn't identify the group's catfish until our kids were turning 2 so this still feels really early to me. But letting regs trickle in later seems like a fair compromise so it's all good.

I think there was an initial knee-jerk reaction to a FB group, but a lot of us were comfortable with it. It's a chance to be more private, because, really, ANYONE can see this board. But, ti does come at the expense of a loss of privacy (Full name) so I do understand some people just aren't there yet. It seems that about 50 (so far, not all have accepted the email we sent) are that comfortable. But, we get it!

MegsTactical

I would join it, and still post on here too. Why not? :-)

MegsTactical

I would join a Facebook group, and continue to post on here too. Why not? :-)

JunkieBrewster

MegsTactical said:

I would join it, and still post on here too. Why not? :-)

Thats what I am doing! When I am on my laptop, I come here, where bumping mobile I read but don't respond. I HATE typing on my phone, and voice to text is awful on the bump. Joint pain in my fingers makes typing on it miserable. I prefer FB if I am mobile.

britgil89

@JaymeeLH‌ I pmed you my email address for you to send me the invite again, but never got the invite. I think maybe you didn't see my message?

JunkieBrewster

britgil89 said:

@JaymeeLH‌ I pmed you my email address for you to send me the invite again, but never got the invite. I think maybe you didn't see my message?

I'll send you a message now.

britgil89

Thanks

ardoka

Well, I don't post here very often because it honestly just doesn't occur to me. However, I was on this a ton with my first and we made a fb group that became quite close and we still chat and post a lot. I doubt my name will be recognized by the majority of the admins, but I sent the form in just incase. I know I'd be a lot more active on FB than here since I'm on there most of the time I'm online anyway.