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alanna3622

PeggyOlsonFTW said:

shortyjrose said:

This is unnecessary.

What is?

@PeggyOlsonFTW

oh, the sweet symmetry! A drive by criticism of a community request not to do drive bys!

Perhaps she was making a meta comment... that it is unnecessary to try to prevent rudeness because such attempts will just be ignored.

shortyjrose

The way you all act. It's unnecessary. This was supposed to be a place for supporting others not mean spirited comments.

PeggyOlsonFTW

shortyjrose said:

The way you all act. It's unnecessary. This was supposed to be a place for supporting others not mean spirited comments.

I'm sorry, but who are you? And where are he mean spirited comments? Much to my chagrin, I've been a member of this board since September. Everyone here is incredibly kind and supportive, even to those who don't offer their support in return.

WinchesterGirl

@shortyjrose I'm going to have to back up @PeggyOlsonFTW, here. This is meant to stop the BFP wavers and the repeat offenders who post drive-by questions that didn't fly elsewhere.

People who genuinely have a question or need support are not being run off. I'm still new here but even I can see that.

BaldwinBaby17

I'm new to the board. Were TTC. Just lost a baby at 12 weeks. Makes my fifth loss..one success. I'm stressed and nervous and its always on my mind. If we don't succeed this year we are not sure if we will stay married. Its just got so stressful and this last loss hurt so much. So I'm hoping for support and new connections. 

catiecatp

@BaldwinBaby17 - I'm so sorry for your losses and the stress it is creating on your marriage. You are certainly welcome here - and while we usually don't have solid answers (doctors seem to vary in recommendations too) we can offer an ear and emotional support. We tend to be a supportive group, I dare say even more supportive than other forums here on the Bump - and we try to be kind when the terms of agreement are violated. I think the philosophy is that the world is hard and we've been through enough. That said, from my time here (starting sometime in January) the big things are: please don't ask if you're pregnant and if you get a BFP please put it in the appropriate thread. But even then, the reprimands I've seen are softer than on other Bump boards... 

ChaoticWolf

Is there an intro thread here? I'm not quite sure where to put this because I don't want to create a new topic on just this but... I'm not even sure if I belong here.

I had an unplanned pregnancy at 18 years old and lost it at 7w3d. At the time I just lost my mind and went into a massive depression cycle, sleeping everyday after school and generally not leaving my room on the weekends at all. No one knew about me being PG at all until much later when I told my husband about it a year afterwards (at the time he was my boyfriend) and more recently my mom. That was 2011 and a full 5 years later in 2016 we've set our TTC plans in motion, though we've decided to not try this cycle for mental health reasons (DH is worried sick and quite literally freaking out about his family in Ecuador after the earthquake and not entirely okay right now).

Since I wasn't TTC and it was five years ago, should I still consider myself TTCAL when we start up again? 

mylittleversailles

@PaukMeKiande You're definitely welcome here. Losing a pregnancy, no matter how long ago, can really shape the way we feel while TTC. We don't have an intro thread, but people usually introduce themselves in one of the weekly check-in threads - they happen Mondays and Fridays. You can just jump right in. I'm sorry for your loss and sorry to hear about your DH's worries. FX everything calms down soon for you both.

yolandamunoz

Hello @PaukMeKiande welcome!
i am sorry for your loss. You are ceirtanly welcome here.

I am sorry to hear about your husband's family in Ecuador. I hope they are doing ok.

I am Peruvian and I live in Chile so I know how devastating and scary earthquakes are down here. 

See you around!
-Y

ChaoticWolf

Thank you so much @yolandamunoz and @reneeannemm for the welcome and warm thoughts. It's just such a confusing time. Luckily we were informed over the weekend that everyone is safe and together, though the family "big house" is in ruins so they're all in a shelter right now. 

mylittleversailles

@BumpTara @BumpAdmin @BumpCaitlin 

We feel this post is insensitive to those who are grieving. Is there any way you might unsticky this for us, please? Thank you.

fivetimesnoluck

It got unpinned! Thank you @BumpTara @BumpAdmin and @BumpCaitlin!

And thank you, @reneeannemm, @nmd9168 and others for recognizing this post doesn't reflect the current participants' point of view and taking action to have it unpinned.

nmd9168

Thank you all!