do you visit your child at daycare midday?

CHI-06 · January 2009

I could 2 days a week but don't know if I should...I have been told that this could be hard on her by coming and then leaving her again. But I sooooo want to go see her. Just wondering if anyone does and how it goes?

2bearichards · January 2009

No I do not. He has a hard enough time when I leave in the morning, I think if he saw me in the afternoon, he would freak out.

mrshutch · January 2009

I never did, even when DD was an infant. I had to pop in once or twice when I'd forgotten something and it made it worse (that's when she was about 6/7 months). Now, it would be a total disaster. I tried for Halloween and vowed I wouldn't go to another class party until DD is like 4. I know it's tempting- maybe just try it once if you can't resist. I just worry that kids then expect it all the time, but that's just me.

CHI-06 · January 2009

yeah that is why I haven't done it... but she is only 6 months old and doesn't seem to care when I leave her there in the morning. She does get excited to see me when I pick her up though.

ali-1411 · January 2009

No. I always worked too far away for it even to be an option. And if I did he would think its time to go home.

mrsnewlywed2005 · January 2009

as an infant, yes. she didn't know the difference and i have very fond memories of feeding her and putting her to sleep during my lunch hours. as a toddler, no. she thought i was picking her up and it broke my heart. i would recommend trying it (bc yes, the bonding time was THAT special), but if she doesn't respond well, then you've got your answer.

AlisaS · January 2009

I think it can be potentially disruptive to the structure of daycare - especially for toddlers. One parent visiting during lunchtime, means one kid is pulled away from their lunch time and all the other kids see one parent and then look around for their parent, etc................

momofolivia · January 2009

no i only did it once or twice. it wasn't very productive (i tried to nurse) so I didn't do it more than that.

skittles_123 · January 2009

I go to bf my dd twice a day, no problem. It has become routine for her. However, not my ds, he is 2 1/2, and would have too much trouble adjusting to me leaving for a second time. It is so tempting, since he is right here at my work preschool, but it would break my heart to put him through seeing me leave a second time in one day.

JLSBWG · January 2009

I work too far away, but wouldn't do it anyway because I wouldn't want him to freak out when I left him again. I don't think it would help him at all. He didn't have any problems with me leaving him at daycare when he was 6 months old, but now he has stranger anxiety.

kgb1411 · January 2009

our daycare asked us not to come during the day because the other babies think it's time to go and start looking around for their parents.

Temp174496125006552 · January 2009

He's cared for in our home and I live 5 minutes from my office, so yes, I do run home at lunch a couple times a week.

trigirl30 · January 2009

Yes, I stop by a few times/week. DC is at my work, so it's very convenient. It's so nice to see his smiling face when I'm feeling stressed or having a bad day. Right now, he seems to welcome my visits and doesn't seem to mind when I leave. Now, if he starts to have separation issues, I will stop.

azuremama · January 2009

I go by every day to play for a half hour or so. I used to nurse, but he stopped wanting to nurse at daycare because he'd rather look around and play instead. At our daycare, a lot of the moms come by (two of us definitely come every day and a few others come at least occasionally). It's not really a problem.

Sometimes DS gets upset when I leave, but it's only for a few minutes. If he was having meltdowns, I'd rethink. He's almost the opposite, however--sometimes he'll be having a rough day and if I go visit, he does better the rest of the day. His daycare provider calls it his mommy fix. My problem now is that I feel obligated to go over there, so I feel bad when I have something else to do during lunch! I'm not sure if I'll keep going when he gets to the toddler room.

Angela814 · January 2009

I nursed DD on my lunch hour from when she started at 3 months up to about 17 months. The reason I stopped was that my lunch didn't line up well with her schedule. She had lunch at 11:30, and naptime started around noon. Sometimes I was able to nurse her to sleep before I left, but if I wasn't, it was a nightmare. Now that she's older there's no way I could. She'd want to come home with me the second she saw me.

tiff16 · January 2009

Yes, but I work there. It took a few times for her to understand it but now it's fine most days. I do my best to go at the same time everyday. Try it for a couple weeks and ask dcp what they think about it. If her teachers thought it wasn't working I wouldn't go anymore.

roseroseroseroserose · January 2009

I go everyday and have since 8 mos when we switched DCP. I LOVE it. We've had 3 weeks off and now DD cries when I leave. So I may just have to stop. We'll see.

It may be hard that you will only go a few days a week.

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