Hi everyone, I’m new here. I finally got my BFP on the 30/7 after trying for 10 months after a missed miscarriage last year. I am currently 4+6 weeks and besides sore-ish breasts, I have no other symptoms. I was getting cramping which have almost disappeared today. I don’t even have the urge to pee frequently today either. I was struggling to eat like I normally do too for a few days but my appetite is back today. Is it normal for symptoms to fluctuate around this time?
I am so worried and terrified that this will result in a loss again. My first scan isn’t until the 18th and the wait is torture. I read somewhere further up where someone said we have been robbed of the excitement and happiness we should be feeling right now from our previous losses and it is so true.
@thescarletmom I have a 100mg dose waiting at the pharmacy if I want to add it at any time. I’m having side effects from the progesterone though so I don’t want to up it and I have read it can cause some issues for it to be too high. It has messed up my olfactory nerve receptors and I keep having this smell that I smell all the time. It is sometimes more noticeable than others but it’s definitely related to the progesterone. It’s like a woodsy sorta smell and it increases my nausea sometimes. So if I can avoid it I don’t want to add anymore progesterone. I would probably freak out if it’s in the 20’s but be fine if it’s in the 30’s. I’m probably not going to get it tested. I’m already feeling my anxiety rise just thinking about it.
I’m excited for my US though. I want to see the baby’s HB again. I tried looking for it with my home Doppler and I thought I picked up a heart that wasn’t mine but I just heard one beat and then couldn’t zero in on it again. I was finding mine but I also didn’t find the whooshing sound of the placenta either. Which maybe that means it’s posterior and out of my reach at the moment. 🤷🏻♀️ I’m only 7 weeks but I was going off of the fact baby was measuring a week ahead and hoping I could hear it sooner. I think baby had a growth spurt right before my US and that’s why I was measuring so far ahead. I don’t think that’s uncommon for growth to kind of happen all at once and then settle for a few days. Who knows. Maybe I’m making all this up in my head. 😅
Hi everyone, I’m new here. I finally got my BFP on the 30/7 after trying for 10 months after a missed miscarriage last year. I am currently 4+6 weeks and besides sore-ish breasts, I have no other symptoms. I was getting cramping which have almost disappeared today. I don’t even have the urge to pee frequently today either. I was struggling to eat like I normally do too for a few days but my appetite is back today. Is it normal for symptoms to fluctuate around this time?
I am so worried and terrified that this will result in a loss again. My first scan isn’t until the 18th and the wait is torture. I read somewhere further up where someone said we have been robbed of the excitement and happiness we should be feeling right now from our previous losses and it is so true.
Thank you
Hi! I’m sorry you have had a miscarriage and now belong here. It’s not the best place to be but it’s nice to have support. Symptoms at 4 weeks are generally non existent. Some people experience nothing until 6 weeks. Some people have symptoms right away. Some people never get morning sickness or any other kinds of sickness. It’s also normal for them to fluctuate. I’m in a period where they have lessened and I’m sure in a day or two they will be bad again.
There is a thread that discusses how to change your username from knottienumbers. It’s hard to interact with usernames like knottienumbers because we can’t tell them apart easily and it’s hard to tag. If you have time you should try to get a new username.
Hey folks. I've been lurking on this thread but haven't posted. I had one very traumatic loss about 10 years ago (rare heterotopic pregnancy that ended with the hospital, extended complications over months, and a D&C while awake and without any anesthesia). A lot of my care was mismanaged, and I was too young and ignorant to properly advocate for myself. It's part of why my husband and I put off trying for so long - too much baby trauma on my side. For a few years I couldn't even be around pregnant people or small children without panic attacks. I'm getting so nervous as we approach the NIPT. We've seen the bean and a heartbeat, but I have so much distrust in the medical system after what happened, and I just keep assuming the worst is going to happen and the baby won't be viable.
I guess I just posted to say, I'm with you all, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with all the extra pain and trauma that can follow loss, and I hope each day and positive test and development with your little one brings some peace and healing. That's what I'm hoping for myself and all of you.
I have my ultrasound tomorrow. I’m nervous. I have been looking for the HB with my Doppler and haven’t found it. I thought I found it last night but I couldn’t zero back in on it again after initially hearing it, so I can’t say it was fast enough to actually be baby. I’m really hoping the SCH is completely healed. I have been unintentionally taking it easy and resting a lot because I literally can’t function right now. I’m so nauseated and exhausted all the time. It will go away after eating dinner and then I’ll feel good for a little while. Mid morning to late afternoon I’m constantly suffering.
I just got home from my ultrasound. I asked her to show me the HB first so I could relax. The heart was beating away at 180 bpm. Baby is measuring 4 days ahead instead of 6 days. I wonder if I’ll be closer to my dates by the time baby is 12 weeks. I’m holding firm about my dates not changing. As for the SCH, it’s still there and hasn’t changed much. She actually measured it as slightly larger due to the fact it’s wrapping around the sac. It’s not in a concerning place though so I’m not too worried. I’m not planning to get another US until the 12 week scan. My next thing will be the genetic testing and the NIPT.
I found the HB on my Doppler. I was looking too low. It was higher than I thought it would be. I’m so relieved that I can quickly check it now whenever I want since I know where to look. I just listened for a little while because that sound is so beautiful.
@robinj716 I have had the same Doppler for 12 years now and used it for all my pregnancies. I have had good luck finding it by 8 weeks. Some providers don’t actually believe me though. 🙄 I had an OB struggle to find the HB and then I pointed to the exact spot and she found it immediately.
I definitely have a posterior placenta because I felt the baby this morning. I’m amazed. I’m so excited that I have a posterior placenta since this will be for sure my last pregnancy.
@emeraldcity603 I am just about *certain* I felt the baby last week! I had posterior with my first, anterior with my second, and fundal with my third. 10 wks is definitely the earliest I've ever felt baby move but it was in the exact right spot that I know baby is right now, and I'm pretty familiar with what baby feels like vs gas or muscle twitches at this point.
@thescarletmom Most definitely, once you have felt early movement you can tell it apart from gas. I think this is the earliest I have ever felt it but baby is measuring a little ahead so I’m assuming that’s why.
@emeraldcity603 this baby is measuring 5-7 days ahead too. And I think I felt them again after posting earlier. It feels wild and like things are moving so fast to already feel movement. I'm hoping my midwife has time for me tomorrow instead of waiting until next week because I'd love some extra confirmation that baby is still in that same spot.
@thescarletmom I haven’t felt it again but I’m not really expecting to. Do you have a Doppler? You could check with the Doppler. Honestly, at this stage they aren’t roaming around the uterus. The baby stays pretty much in the same area until it gets bigger.
@emeraldcity603 I've always been so intimidated by the doppler! And feel a little silly to finally buy one for the last baby, but maybe it would help. My midwife is getting me in for an appt today because I've been really crampy so I'm excited to see where they're at!
@thescarletmom I have the same old cheap Doppler I bought years ago with my second baby. That thing still works. I was a little shocked at how high this baby is already. I got a little discouraged by not being able to find the baby. You could probably find a super cheap one second hand. I get not wanting to bother for the last baby though.
@emeraldcity603 I think I might go for it! I think my big kids would be enraptured honestly. I saw my midwife today and she has a dinky little u/s at her office, and I asked for her to check me out because of all the cramping and lo and behold it's because my uterus is contracting a bunch. She could see it on the u/s! I was worried at first but she said it's super normal once you've been pregnant multiple times.
@thescarletmom I remember with one of my pregnancies I started having Braxton hicks as soon as I hit second trimester. It was crazy. I don’t recall that in my last few pregnancies. I have had random cramping here and there too but have just ignored it because it’s not like period type cramps which I have associated with issues in early pregnancy.
We are all approaching second trimester and it’s crazy how fast it’s going! Although, I’m ready for more energy and no nausea. I want to enjoy this pregnancy though and not wish time away.
@emeraldcity603 mine definitely have a period like feel to them, so I was worried. But all is well, we got to see baby's little hand up by their face! It was comforting.
I have felt the exact same way. It feels like it's flying by, I only have two weeks left in first tri and while I'm ready for things to get easier, I'm a little in shock too. And I am someone who truly feels like pregnancy is an honor. It is a gift to be the one to carry and grow my children, and feel their first kicks and hiccups, as hard as it can be! So I'm trying not to wish it away knowing it's our last too.
I had another US today. Baby is looking great. Strong HB and looking like a real baby with long legs and arms. We even saw fingers and toes. My SCH has started healing and it was only 1 cm today. So I feel good about that. Should be gone by 16 weeks most likely.
I asked about placenta position because I haven’t felt the baby in a while which I know is normal but I was worried my placenta grew and ended up being anterior. Nope, it’s fully posterior. I think the baby has just had its back to the front of my uterus and I haven’t been able to feel movement. I’m also running around chasing kids all day and I don’t ever feel anything unless I’m still.
On another note, I have still been wavering about hospital vs birthing center. I called the hospital and asked if I could shower the entire time even after my water broke and they said I can literally do anything I want they would just note it in the chart they said I shouldn’t. So I guess I would be a “difficult patient.” Anyways, the 5 babies I have delivered at the hospital all come with 15-20 minutes of pushing. I’ll take the red tape of the hospital to limit pushing time. Might seem crazy to some people but I feel good about this decision. My last few labors haven’t been more than a few hours 3.5-4.5 and I don’t think there will be much time to deal with red tape.
@emeraldcity603 that’s great news! Also, I’m totally a supporter of “you do what you feel is best for you” and I think it’s great you feel firm in your decision about that being best for you!
I’m also not going to have my MIL in the room. I’m not sure what I was thinking. The more I thought about it the more I realized that would not be something I want. She would absolutely have her head down there too. Umm, no!
Funny you say that because my MIL this weekend asked if she could be in the delivery room because she wanted to hear the baby cry for the first time. I was like no, last thing I need is you yelling something out and I go into panic mode! She teared up a little bit, but she’ll be just fine.
@emeraldcity603 I'm so glad your SCH is healing! I know it's been a pain point of stress for you. We saw tiny fingers at our last ultrasound and wow, it never stops being miraculous you know?
Also 100% agree that it's YOUR birth and anybody else's opinion is completely irrelevant, husband included 👀 I'm glad that they told you that you can do whatever you want, even if they have to chart that they didnt recommend it. Nothing I hate more than advice being sold as the only option. So I would totally feel good about your decision, difficult patient label be damned! I'm loling about your MIL though, I am one of those women that absolutely cannot labor with an audience, it will literally stall my contractions just for my midwife to show up at my house (she spent my entire second labor in my backyard until my water broke at the very end so that it wouldn't ruin it). So the thought of my mom or MIL or one of my sisters there just makes me 🥴😂 because my mom and sister who's an L&D nurse would also be all up in my business.
@thescarletmom I don’t like an audience either. My best labor was when they left me in triage because I wanted no epidural and a lot of women were coming in who either needed c-sections or epidural. So I literally spent my entire labor in triage with my husband. We just sat there chatting inbetween contractions and every time the nurses came to check on me I was in the middle of contractions and it looked like I was sleeping. So they just went away again. Then I realized I hit transition and we called them and when they checked me I was a 7 or 8. They started rushing me to a room and my husband gloved up because he knows how to deliver babies and was worried I would deliver in the hallway with no doctor. It was the first of our babies that he delivered. I pushed twice and she was out. I also argued with the nurse about lifting my bead up higher. I remember raising my voice and telling her to either do it or get out of the way for someone else to.
Side note, after I delivered the nurse who was cleaning me up forgot I didn’t have an epidural and poured ice cold water on me. I was so upset and she didn’t know what to say to me. I asked her to leave and send someone else to care for me. 🙄
@hilaryandbaby1 I’m just not interested in my MIL getting in the way either. What if she tried to hold the baby after delivery? I would become unhinged and super angry. Plus, that’s a time for just me and my husband. It’s special and meant only for us. Grandparents got to be present for their own kids. It’s our turn and no one should be guilting us with tears.
I had my MIL in the room until it was time to push and I made her leave. She then invited lots of people to come visit me after and it was the worst time ever. Second baby was Covid and no visitors were allowed. Plus only one support person which is my spouse obviously. It was the best ever being the two of us for 3 days, except for DS1 not being allowed to come. I’m absolutely sticking to no visitors this time around with the exception of my two boys. It’s so nice to have just some peace and quiet and really enjoy just us as a family.
I got my referral and records for the OB sent over and I’m officially a patient of theirs now. I went ahead and made my first appointment and I’ll be rotating through the different doctors of the group at each visit. I may or may not get an US before my appointment. The doctor will decide if it’s needed. I did mention my SCH and my previous loss so maybe she will so I can get that checked again before the anatomy scan.
My MIL visited this past week and I didn’t get the opportunity to tell her I changed my mind about her being at the delivery. So that will be a conversation for later.
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I am so worried and terrified that this will result in a loss again. My first scan isn’t until the 18th and the wait is torture. I read somewhere further up where someone said we have been robbed of the excitement and happiness we should be feeling right now from our previous losses and it is so true.
Thank you
I guess I just posted to say, I'm with you all, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with all the extra pain and trauma that can follow loss, and I hope each day and positive test and development with your little one brings some peace and healing. That's what I'm hoping for myself and all of you.
I have felt the exact same way. It feels like it's flying by, I only have two weeks left in first tri and while I'm ready for things to get easier, I'm a little in shock too. And I am someone who truly feels like pregnancy is an honor. It is a gift to be the one to carry and grow my children, and feel their first kicks and hiccups, as hard as it can be! So I'm trying not to wish it away knowing it's our last too.
Also 100% agree that it's YOUR birth and anybody else's opinion is completely irrelevant, husband included 👀 I'm glad that they told you that you can do whatever you want, even if they have to chart that they didnt recommend it. Nothing I hate more than advice being sold as the only option. So I would totally feel good about your decision, difficult patient label be damned! I'm loling about your MIL though, I am one of those women that absolutely cannot labor with an audience, it will literally stall my contractions just for my midwife to show up at my house (she spent my entire second labor in my backyard until my water broke at the very end so that it wouldn't ruin it). So the thought of my mom or MIL or one of my sisters there just makes me 🥴😂 because my mom and sister who's an L&D nurse would also be all up in my business.