@emeraldcity603 I bet that's really nerve wracking, I'd totally believe he's turned around so it's hard to feel. I've been thinking I must have an anterior placenta this time around again like with my second because I just don't really feel any movements still and that's part of the anxiety for sure. Our little babes seem to have similar personalities with this hiding business. I did order a doppler but it's taking forever to arrive 😮💨 I think I'm just going to have to throw myself into house and nesting projects this weekend with the burst of energy I have. The anxiety really only settles in when I'm laying in bed at night or sitting at work and my mind wanders.
@thescarletmom I also wonder if there is movement that I could feel if I wasn’t moving around so much. I’m constantly either focused on our homeschool stuff or moving about the house cleaning or doing other tasks so it’s possible I’m just not noticing it. Even on my trip this weekend I was paddle boarding and moving around a lot doing different things. Earlier last week I was in CO by myself and I spent a large amount of time just sleeping and laying around my hotel and I felt a ton of movement. I mean, how often am I sitting still with 6 kids running around my house all day. We homeschool so no breaks.
@emeraldcity603 totally possible. I definitely spend a good amount of the day sitting at work, so I'm not sure why I'm not feeling anything (except the obvious). My husband tried to logic me out of my anxiety by saying it's not concerning until I'm passed 20 weeks and still not feeling movement, and I was like pal.... not only does logic help almost nothing with PGAL anxiety, the latest I ever started feeling baby move consistently was 16-17 weeks with an anterior placenta. 20 weeks would be crazy for a non-FTM imo.
And on top of the anxiety, I'm reading a book series a friend (w/o children) recommended to me and I was like hey, there's no pregnancy and infant loss here right? Because I couldn't handle that rn, and she was like no nothing like that! Literally last night as I was reading trying to distract myself the main character has an extremely bloody miscarriage 😑 I try to be forgiving that things like this don't stick out as much to those who haven't been through it, but yikes.
@thescarletmom when is your Doppler coming? That is the only thing that calms my anxiety. I hated not being able to check his HB when I was away from home. It was the most anxiety inducing time of this pregnancy. I was spiraling. Also, I absolutely agree that no consistent movement until 20 weeks is wild. I think with my last anterior placenta I was around 18 weeks when it got consistent but I felt movement every few days from 16 weeks on. I would be a little upset about the book. Maybe she hadn’t read the books in awhile and she just couldn’t remember but geeze, what a mistake at a time like this. I’m sorry you read that.
Also, I have been thinking of you and I’ll be praying your US goes well tomorrow. What time is it?
@thescarletmom I don’t have any experience with this, so I’m just here to say I’m sorry you have to deal with this and I’m praying for a good news appointment tomorrow for you.
@emeraldcity603 it's at 11 CST. Last evening I had a random episode of very light spotting and spent the entire night absolutely spiraling. Other than that one bathroom trip there's been nothing else but I'm so nervous. 16w today and I just feel very numb for this last 24 hours before the ultrasound. I'm obviously hoping to see a healthy bouncing baby but I feel like I'm not *expecting* that anymore.
@thescarletmom oh gosh! No wonder you’re freaking out. I would absolutely be the same. Hopefully since the spotting was light it was just cervical irritation. I have heard of things like that happening with BM sometimes. I look for blood every time I go to the bathroom. I’m praying for you and baby! I would stay hydrated and just rest as much as possible.
@emeraldcity603 I look for blood every time I go to the bathroom too. I'm thinking/hoping it had to be some fluke. We didn't DTD yesterday, which in the past has been my spotting/bleeding trigger. But the spotting was only mixed with cervical mucus almost like a bloody show. It was weird and not like anything I've ever experienced. I spent a few hours cleaning today to clear my mind a bit, but otherwise I rested a lot and DH managed meals. I'm going to be useless tomorrow waiting for the ultrasound appt.
@thescarletmom did you get the NIPT? I feel like something would seriously have to be wrong to miscarry at this stage. Statistically, it’s a very small possibility. Although, we know some people fall within those unfortunate numbers. I have myself but I had other complications. I was just thinking if you had good NIPT results that would be another reassuring thing to help calm your anxiety.
At least the blood wasn’t a lot. That’s the silver lining. I would be way more worried if it continued and was bright red. Sounds like an irritable cervix to me. I hope you get some sleep tonight.
@emeraldcity603 we've always opted out of the genetic testing, so that's what my mind has been on. That it's Turner's syndrome or something else incompatible with life. Hopefully in two hours, I'll be able to say the baby is healthy little stinker who just likes to hide.
@emeraldcity603 had to come here immediately to tell you that baby is great 😭 she said HR was 146, I have a posterior placenta, and baby was squirming and kicking up a storm. Slightly overshadowed by my utter relief to see a heartbeat, but baby is a girl 💜
@thescarletmom Yay! I’m so happy. That’s wonderful news. What is it with these babies and their need to hide?! Were you able to see the sex? 🥰😆 did you ever get the dream you were waiting on?
@emeraldcity603 ugh, and finding out I have a posterior placenta was so funny because I just couldn't fathom why I wasn't feeling her move! She looked to be more of a wiggler than a kicker though, so maybe I'm missing her lighter movements. My last baby was a certified roller, and the stomach dropping feeling was impossible to mistake lol. But yes, we could see! I was worried for a second because it felt like the tech was looking at it for a loooong time before telling us, and I was thinking in my head, "is that not...labia? Like it must be a girl, what is a she waiting for?" 😂 and finally she was like, okay are you ready? She told us she always likes to be totally sure before opening her mouth. I did not get my damned dream, I was so annoyed lol. And my husband had multiple dreams about the baby being a boy, even though he wanted a girl lol.
@thescarletmom I kinda wish I had waited until birth to find out. I think it would have been so fun. I just struggle with not being able to prepare. I like to buy new things for the each baby. This baby will basically need a new wardrobe because he is coming in March and my last 2 boys came at the beginning of fall/winter. So that will be fun. He will also not walk around with random holes in his clothes because he has a lot of hand-me-downs.
How fun for yall to find out together at the ultrasound. I’m so glad it was a good scan and baby is healthy.
@emeraldcity603 I'm the same. In theory, being team green sounds so fun! But in reality, we like to be able to pick our names, get new clothes (our other daughter was a June baby, and with our other March baby it snowed a few days after he was born here, so it's definitely colder weather for the first few months than anything we have for a girl not to mention holes and stains lol), and it helps me bond because I feel like the pgal tendency to disconnect out of fear can be hard to shake without it. I'm glad we found out together and I'm just so glad it was good news! Any worries I had a few weeks ago that we would have been slightly disappointed if it was a boy just evaporated recently. So if the tech was wrong oh well 😂 we were told our oldest was a girl at two different scans so I'm always a little prepared for it to be wrong. We had our 2 yo with us (not that she really understands) but since the 9 and 5 yo were at school, I ordered a cake to announce to them Wednesday night!
@fifilala516 thank you!! Truly just so relieved. I feel lucky that my DH both is able to be at every appointment, and that he values being there. I can't imagine if I had had to go alone.
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And on top of the anxiety, I'm reading a book series a friend (w/o children) recommended to me and I was like hey, there's no pregnancy and infant loss here right? Because I couldn't handle that rn, and she was like no nothing like that! Literally last night as I was reading trying to distract myself the main character has an extremely bloody miscarriage 😑 I try to be forgiving that things like this don't stick out as much to those who haven't been through it, but yikes.
@fifilala516 thank you!! Truly just so relieved. I feel lucky that my DH both is able to be at every appointment, and that he values being there. I can't imagine if I had had to go alone.