I can relate to the "are you excited?" Question. We've actually only told five of my friends and don't plan on telling anyone or making any sort of announcement. I can't deal with that honestly. I didn't with my son either. I hid my huge pregnant belly like a sitcom and then I said something a few days after he was born. Since it's our fourth baby we've already been asked my neighbors/strangers "was it planned?" And I can't deal with that shit from our families who have asked us if every baby was planned or if we were surprised. I absolutely have no qualms about making them feel bad by saying "no I actually had monthly miscarriages for the four months prior to this but thanks for being an insensitive AH." If we run into someone there is obviously no hiding it but I'm holding this one close. I should include that none of my friends were dumb enough to ask me that question because I gave them the backstory and they understood where I was coming from.
I’m having a hard time mentally this week. With my first pregnancy 6 years ago, I went to my 20 week appointment, no heartbeat. Went for US and was told baby was gone. When I delivered him they said he measured around 17 weeks. So now, I do have a daughter born last year. I was the same, a nervous wreck up until that 20 week mark. I’m 15 weeks tomorrow and have a doc appointment today. I’m so so nervous. I’m excited and terrified. It’s tough because my symptoms are mostly gone (which is nice & normal for second tri) and I haven’t felt any movement which again is normal at this stage. It’s just a tough stage because there’s not much re-assurance. I’m just praying I hear the heartbeat today.
Re: Pregnant After Loss (PGAL) Check-In April
I'm totally fine with making people feel awkward...lol
I should include that none of my friends were dumb enough to ask me that question because I gave them the backstory and they understood where I was coming from.