Somewhere in mid-May I plan to propose we look at moving to FB around the beginning of June. But we're still getting stragglers joining and I want to make sure we give people as much time as possible to "get here" before moving to a more private/exclusive platform. But I hate the Bump interface (so glitchy!) so I do think it makes more sense to move to FB at a certain point.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
Just back to the sleeping on your back discussion... So I'm a nurse and I used to work labour and delivery. We used a small wedge pillow under the hip to tilt mom slightly left or right, just so as not to be flat on the back and compress the vessels. It's more of a concern after 12 weeks and if course as baby gets bigger. You can just put a pillow under your hip to tilt you as well. Oh and if you're having trouble sleeping due to acid indigestion or stomach fullness, try lying on your left side to facilitate stomach emptying.
Somewhere in mid-May I plan to propose we look at moving to FB around the beginning of June. But we're still getting stragglers joining and I want to make sure we give people as much time as possible to "get here" before moving to a more private/exclusive platform. But I hate the Bump interface (so glitchy!) so I do think it makes more sense to move to FB at a certain point.
Whelp, I’ll be out when/if the move to Facebook happens. I like this platform because I get to it through the app and it isn’t connected to anything else I have to deal with. I hate the lack of threads and such on FB so I hope there will still be activity here. Forums win!
Even if/when a FB group is formed, the public Bump group will remain. BTW, groups on FB *also* have threads. They also have notifications!
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@pangolindrome when my last BMB moved to FB we kept the same thread structure as here so it was nicely organised. After our babes were about 6 months we moved to just a weekly check in with the occasional random post (they happen maybe once a month) & we have kept that going ever since (they’ll be 3 in June).
My October 2020 BMB on FB has multiple posts a week, organized in a thread structure similar to this (Hump Day Baby Day, Selfie Sunday, FFFC which merges funnies and confessional, Randoms, Wordles, Check-ins). There's about 25 of us at this point and it's still hundreds of comments a week - it's very active!
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
You guys have done well @kboydbowman. My first BMB was similar to the other one discussed here on the weekend & our Facebook group was made of the stragglers so there’s only about 15 of us that started in the group, and people come and go as they can now with only 5 or so of us contributing every week.
@mamamoomoo12 most likely not the same thing, but with my first I had pleurisy which is terrible normally, but the only thing they can do for it you can't take pregnant and that just makes it worse. It is an infection around the lung or something and any time I took a breath in I would have a terrible pain in my ribs birth front and back. It felt like someone was cutting me open from the inside. I thought I was dying and my baby was going to die with me. So extra annoyed when I made a Dr appointment and they said there's nothing they could do. Just ride it out.
I am 15 weeks today and I have noticed I get hungry sooner and it’s more intense as if I didn’t just eat a hour ago.
Last night, my stomach was hurting from me being hungry when I had just ate. Once I eat it goes away and I feel better. I am going to try to incorporate more whole grains and see if that helps but idk if this level of hunger is just apart of pregnancy or not.
I am usually a person that can work for hours and just be so focused that I have to think if I ate or not but I’ve been on top of eating while pregnant and it seems to still not be enough. Do babies eat this much in the womb?
Definitely more of an appetite now in 2nd Tri! Morning and lunch seem to be when I'm hungriest and then my appetite tapers off some in the evening. I've been awful about the carb intake during the week. There's a bagel/coffee shop in my building and it's just so dang convenient to grab a bagel and small coffee in the morning! On the weekends, I've been trying to start my day with a healthier option like oatmeal or yogurt/fruit. I really need to get better about meal prepping for the work week so I have better eating habits.
As we move into the movement feeling stage, any other TTM+s go through this. My second daughter would kick all night long and wake me up in utero. Especially in the 3rd trimester. My first I don't remember ever being awake at night. When my second was born, she would sleep all day long and stare at us at night, and the only way we could get any sleep was to hold her in bed while we were sleeping. My first did her 2 hour stints of sleep just fine in a bassinet next to the bed and would sleep, not keep her eyes open staring or anything. My second wouldn't fall asleep on the boob either and I would have to rock or walk her to sleep.
I'm trying to think maybe the first slept at night because I was so obsessed with feeling her during the day I would drink ice water to wake her up and make sure she was moving. With the second I was constantly chasing a 2 year old and had no time to actually think about if I was feeling movement or time to sit down drink ice water and wait for it (I drink room temp water normally). So I feel like she slept most of the day and was awake all night .
Anyone think if I decide once I feel movements to just keep waking this one up all day long might be helpful. The 2 hour stretches of sleep suck enough, I can't deal with another baby who just doesn't sleep again.
FTM here. Is there a problem sleeping on my back or on my side? Trying to keep up with all these comments and discussions, but not too sure if people are uncomfortable in those positions or if they are dangerous?
@jhysmath That's such an interesting observation! I have two "older" kiddos so don't necessarily have to chase them around like one would a toddler, but I'll be extra intrigued if this one is a good sleeper compared to my second born. We are pretty chill at home in the evenings and the boys are old enough to be independent players with friends in the neighborhood. I know we were busier in the evenings with my oldest when I was pregnant with my second because he had sports and stuff throughout the summer and fall. I just attributed second son's crappy sleep habits on him being a particular little guy (he still is!) and being a mama's boy (also hasn't changed). He was slightly colicky and would reverse cycle eat at night because he preferred me to a bottle. It was a tough first year, and I'm praying that things are different this time around.
@babez_mom Not really, but it can cause blood flow/nerve problems for you later in pregnancy from the weight of your body on some of those blood vessels and nerves. However, usually your body will get uncomfortable and move on its own. If you feel comfortable, you're likely fine.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@kboydbowman I’m in a few FB groups and none of them have thread structures like a regular forum. I only access them through the browser on my phone - does that make a difference? I like the organization with headers and topics, it’s easy to see and I don’t have to search the same way FB makes me do right now.
By then, I’ll be official on social media too, but we’re not announcing to relatives until Memorial Weekend so I can’t post diddly squat about it until then. I could probably be won over.
Yes, we make them with the main post being typically a graphic related to the theme and the text saying "HDBD 3/21" or whatever, then people respond to it, just like on here. Threads get moved higher or lower depending on when the last time someone responded to them, just like on here. But on FB you can also set notifications so you can tell when there's new stuff to respond to and so you can get sent emails when someone references you by name. I find it MUCH more friendly than the bump.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@jhysmath that's super interesting! I'm curious how this baby will be. With DD, she would definitely start kicking as soon as I laid down so sometimes I had a hard time falling asleep but once I was asleep I don't think I'd wake up from kicks. Towards the very end though, she'd wake up each time I rolled over which was like every 10 mins (or so it felt). Not looking forward to aching hips and no back or belly sleeping.
@babez_mom sleep however is most comfortable for you while you can🤪 with my DD, it was around 18weeks when I couldn't sleep on my back anymore. I'd wake up out of breath if I happened to roll over in my sleep. Unless you have some sleeping issues where you don't wake up if you stop breathing, you should be fine. Some people like to prop a pillow behind them so they can't roll over unintentionally. Just listen to your body, it'll take good care of you!
@pangolindrome we can make our Facebook group however we'd like. Lots of threads or not as many. In my Nov20 group we had daily randoms for a year before switching to fri/weekend, mon/tue, and wed/Thurs randoms. We also have HDBD, mommy&me Monday and a threads to post child check-up stats. Sometimes someone creates a new thread if a bigger topic comes up. The group is definitely still active but not as it was when we all had newborns. Most stuff now falls under the randoms thread and it seems to work really well.
Absolutely true, knottie. That's part of why I'm saying my fetal occupant will come equipped with a penis. May or may not be a boy.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
Yeah...my pedantic self keeps cringing at the use of the word "gender" where "sex" would be more accurate. And "NIPT" where "NIPS" is more correct. And...okay, fine, I admit it, I'm a language nerd.
First time mom-to-be, due 9/25/22
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
@wiseh well I'm doing a good job tonight pissing off the fetal occupant. Searched for a bit with the doppler and freaked when I couldn't find it. Then found out and it kept kicking the doppler and swimming away. I might have chased it for a bit for some extra relief. It didn't seem pleased.
@jhysmath love that you adopted my "fetal occupant" language!
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
Yeah...my pedantic self keeps cringing at the use of the word "gender" where "sex" would be more accurate. And "NIPT" where "NIPS" is more correct. And...okay, fine, I admit it, I'm a language nerd.
@mnmomma84 I’m actually the opposite and eat pretty well during the week because I pack my lunch and snacks for work. But on the weekends I’m a monster and eat way more and not as healthy.
@wiseh the cell free fetal DNA testing (NIPS) is a screening procedure, not a diagnostic procedure, so calling it a test is misleading. Calling it "99.9% accurate" is also misleading...to the point that I can't find any good research on the situation I am currently in because of the number of mothers who choose to terminate their pregnancy after getting concerning NIPS results. I'm adamantly pro-choice, but given what I now know about the false positive rate on those screenings, I find myself feeling sad for parents who have gotten bad advice and given up without real answers.
First time mom-to-be, due 9/25/22
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
Yeah I meant your explanation before about how it's a screening not a test made sense @lilienne. That's not something I'd considered either about the NIPT. In Australia I think it's different that you have multiple genetic counselling sessions & further testing before you're able to come to a decision either way as it is only a screen. My GP was explaining this to me yesterday when he gave us our results.
Anyone else get irrationally irritated over dumb stuff? I’m like so mad bc My toddler refuses to sleep and I just want to eat a bowl of ice cream with hot fudge. I know it’s silly but I feel intense anger about this. Not at my child but the situation!!!
Even though I have been surprisingly calm this pregnancy I have noticed small rage whilst at my parents. Like, yesterday I wanted to go to bed but I also wanted to watch the last 30 mins of a movie with my mum, so I asked her to get it all set up while I finished my last 5 mins of work and she's like "yep, that's fine" but then continued to clean the kitchen?? So that meant when I finished work that there would have been another 5 or so mins for her to finish cleaning the kitchen & setting the TV up so I just went to bed instead 😅 I think it's because my husband & I just work so well together we are almost telepathic so we don't have to ask the other to do stuff, it just happens (for the most part anyway).
@chelsraec not so much now but definitely at the very beginning of pregnancy. The smallest annoyance or inconvenience would send me over the edge. There were quite a few times we were invited to my inlaws and I sent MH and DD and stayed home. I knew I'd be annoyed at something my in laws said or did and I didn't feel like having to apologize later if I exploded on them.
lol. I'm taking effectively 2 cups a day. A cup in the morning and then a pill (caffeine + L-theanine and Leucine) in the afternoon. Asked my PCP and Obgyn, they both didn't see any problem with it.
@chelsraec the bedtime struggle always causes rage here. Last year we had to tell daycare they needed to wake up our older kid by a certain time, because they'd let her sleep until whenever so she'd take a 3 hour nap and wouldn't go to sleep until 10 at night when we prefer a 7 pm bedtime. Daycare would say, but she's so grumpy when she gets woken up I think she really needs the sleep.... Yeah because she's up until 10 because of you. We ended up telling not to allow her to nap. I think we're going to be running into the same thing with the younger one soon. I know it's a help for her for them all to nap for a long time because she's the only person, but the rage I get at bedtime is not good. I look forward to weekends when they either nap on a better schedule or no nap at all, and they go to bed early.
Has anyone been having trouble with their eyes? I usually wear contacts, but since the end of January I have only been able to wear my glasses. I wear daily contacts so they’re constantly being changed out so moisture has never been an issue. My eyes have been extremely dry and burn a lot of the time. Just curious if anyone has experienced this during pregnancy?
@sarah_k_0610 with my last pregnancy, my eyes felt a lot more sensitive to the light and it constantly felt like they were blurry. It continued on for a few months after I gave birth too but then reverted back to normal after. It was super strange! I haven’t experienced it yet with this one but I’m sure there’s still time for hormones to do some weird stuff with my eyes lol.
Re: The Great Big Queston Thread!
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Oh and if you're having trouble sleeping due to acid indigestion or stomach fullness, try lying on your left side to facilitate stomach emptying.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Last night, my stomach was hurting from me being hungry when I had just ate. Once I eat it goes away and I feel better. I am going to try to incorporate more whole grains and see if that helps but idk if this level of hunger is just apart of pregnancy or not.
I'm trying to think maybe the first slept at night because I was so obsessed with feeling her during the day I would drink ice water to wake her up and make sure she was moving. With the second I was constantly chasing a 2 year old and had no time to actually think about if I was feeling movement or time to sit down drink ice water and wait for it (I drink room temp water normally). So I feel like she slept most of the day and was awake all night .
Anyone think if I decide once I feel movements to just keep waking this one up all day long might be helpful. The 2 hour stretches of sleep suck enough, I can't deal with another baby who just doesn't sleep again.
Oh no! I don't think that's it for me. It actually feels way better today. I am chalking it up to sleeping wrong and over thinking it
That's such an interesting observation! I have two "older" kiddos so don't necessarily have to chase them around like one would a toddler, but I'll be extra intrigued if this one is a good sleeper compared to my second born. We are pretty chill at home in the evenings and the boys are old enough to be independent players with friends in the neighborhood. I know we were busier in the evenings with my oldest when I was pregnant with my second because he had sports and stuff throughout the summer and fall. I just attributed second son's crappy sleep habits on him being a particular little guy (he still is!) and being a mama's boy (also hasn't changed). He was slightly colicky and would reverse cycle eat at night because he preferred me to a bottle. It was a tough first year, and I'm praying that things are different this time around.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
By then, I’ll be official on social media too, but we’re not announcing to relatives until Memorial Weekend so I can’t post diddly squat about it until then. I could probably be won over.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@babez_mom sleep however is most comfortable for you while you can🤪 with my DD, it was around 18weeks when I couldn't sleep on my back anymore. I'd wake up out of breath if I happened to roll over in my sleep. Unless you have some sleeping issues where you don't wake up if you stop breathing, you should be fine. Some people like to prop a pillow behind them so they can't roll over unintentionally. Just listen to your body, it'll take good care of you!
@pangolindrome we can make our Facebook group however we'd like. Lots of threads or not as many. In my Nov20 group we had daily randoms for a year before switching to fri/weekend, mon/tue, and wed/Thurs randoms. We also have HDBD, mommy&me Monday and a threads to post child check-up stats. Sometimes someone creates a new thread if a bigger topic comes up. The group is definitely still active but not as it was when we all had newborns. Most stuff now falls under the randoms thread and it seems to work really well.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
love that you adopted my "fetal occupant" language!
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@wiseh the cell free fetal DNA testing (NIPS) is a screening procedure, not a diagnostic procedure, so calling it a test is misleading. Calling it "99.9% accurate" is also misleading...to the point that I can't find any good research on the situation I am currently in because of the number of mothers who choose to terminate their pregnancy after getting concerning NIPS results. I'm adamantly pro-choice, but given what I now know about the false positive rate on those screenings, I find myself feeling sad for parents who have gotten bad advice and given up without real answers.
Some complicated chromosomal stuff going on - our fingers are crossed, but this may not go according to plan!
-june