@paytonpedro we pulled it off the rack and pushed it around like a shopping cart, which is how I ended up finding the cute moose outfit. Only we discovered online later that night that the Fast Action Jogger did not have good reviews, mostly dealing with the front wheel. We are back to investigating the Britax travel system (we have been all over the place with this decision). Britax sounds like it has great all terrain, rubber no-flat wheels, and comes in a 3 wheel (or tripod as my husband calls it) style.
Next question for all of you STMs (and maybe this becomes a product thread on it's own, because I'm sure it will spark conversation) - Bassinets and having baby sleep in our room. My question is less about bassinets and more around the concept of having the baby in our room vs. their room. I've seen such a variety of answers relating to this elsewhere, so I'm expecting about the same here, seems like it depends on your lifestyle, house, and how the baby sleeps. For us, we live in a small house and this is our first child. Our master bedroom is large, and we would have the space to let our baby sleep in our room, but the nursery is right next door with the changing table and glider. My question is, do we really need a bassinet for in our room or can we just start off with our baby in the crib in the nursery? If all of the things we would need in the middle of the night are in the nursery, why have the baby sleep in our room? I've seen people say they used the bassinet ranging from 1 week to 6 months, so not really sure what responses I'm expecting to get here, just looking for advice/discussion. Thanks!
@fromfurmomtobabymom8-2 I think it just depends on what works for you. Personally, I keep all my babies in a pack n play in my room for around 6-9 months. Some I’ve moved out earlier because they/I slept better being apart. My 4th baby nursed a lot during the night so he was there until around 9 months. As far as bassinet goes, I never used one. I just did the basic pack n play.
Its kind of one of those things you just have to figure out when the baby arrives. Certainly if the baby’s room is far from yours, it would be a pain to walk back and forth in those earlier weeks when they eat every hour. But if they’re right next door, not sure how much different it is than keeping them in your room.
@fromfurmomtobabymom8-2 you can definitely start baby in the nursery. I think a lot of people, myself included, start with baby in their room, or close by, because babies eat every 1-3 hours at night and it gets very exhausting walking down the hall all night. I kept a basket with diapers, wipes, and a couple onesies in my room (onesies/spare jammies because they regularly poop on themselves, or pee while you’re changing them). My babies were in my room for 2-3 months. My youngest didn’t sleep through the night until a week before his first birthday but his room was right next to mine. It was exhausting to say the least.
I was wondering the same thing about bassinets too, @fromfurmomtobabymom8-2. My apartment is relatively small, and my bedroom is right next to the nursery. Since I'm having twins, I think the extra furniture in my room would be too much to navigate. I already trip over everything anyway. I have one of those rolly cart things in my classroom that I'm bringing home for random stuff in the apartment like onesies and diapers and wipes and my breast pump that I can roll around if I need to.
@fromfurmomtobabymom8-2 we’re planning to keep our options open when it comes to sleep. We’ll have a bassinet in our room with a little stash of diapers and stuff. Then we’ll have the crib in the nursery down the hall with a daybed in there too. We have room for it, and if it works better for one of us to sleep in there with or without baby, I want to have that option. That allows us to have a second sleeping space with a door if one of us needs it (depending on how things go feeding-wise) instead of having to sleep on the couch or turning my office back into a bedroom (which we may still need to do if my MIL comes because stairs are hard for her and my office is downstairs). We’ll also have a pack n play downstairs for naps.
@fromfurmomtobabymom8-2 As you and some moms said, it's going to be what works best for you! With DD1 I was "baby goes straight into her crib! We have to establish a routine!" I ended up having an emergency c-section. I put her in her bed the first night and realized quickly that I couldn't get in and out of bed again and again to help DD, it was too painful. We moved to a pack and play in our room and then we just resorted to her mamaroo swing beside the bed so I didn't have to go very far. She loved the swing and did well sleeping in there until I recovered some. DD2 we got a halo bassinet so I could easily reach her and put less pressure on my incision. I was always a mom who was strictly against co-sleeping (because I get fussy when I'm poked and prodded in the middle of the night haha) but DD2 decided to call the shots. She slept in bed with us because she was nursed and wouldn't sleep anywhere else. My husband sleeps like I rock so I'd turn our lights on and just change DDs on the bed, he'd snooze through. All and all, keep yourself open to all options! All babies are different and will require different things! Whatever is easiest on you and gets you the most sleep is what you can go with!!
If anyone is considering a stroller system that comes with a bassinet, that can double as where your baby sleeps for the first few months. Ours slept in the stroller bassinet in our room for the first 4.5 months and then we moved her to her crib. We also had a nursery very close to our bedroom in our apartment so we didn’t even need a monitor. We liked having the option to have her in our room at first though, and we also really didn’t have much space, so the stroller bassinet was the perfect solution bc it didn’t take up much space at all.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@fromfurmomtobabymom8-2We put our babies in the crib in their own room from day 1, but there was an extra bed in there where I slept for 2-4 months.
The long version: we always had this extra bed from when DH and I moved in together, it was a guest bed, and when I was pregnant with #1 the crib still fit in the room with the bed, so we thought, "What if I sleep with the baby instead of baby sleeping with us?" It worked so well we did it again for #2 and are doing it again for the last one.
Before we ever had kids, DH and I decided unanimously that sleep was really important so we were never going to bed share, so both us and our kids would be able to get good sleep. So far, so good. Almost seven years later, we have never had a kid sleep in our bed and we've never slept in a kid's bed (though we have lain with a kid in their bed for a little bit on occasion when they were sick, but never all night). Starting baby out in the crib from day one made this easier because there was never a transition, ever. It was just their bed.
Regarding rooming in, numerous studies show that the risk of SIDS decreased by a lot when babies sleep in the same room as the parents, so I always planned to room in with baby, just not in my and husband's room. I decided to exclusively breast feed, we succeeded, and my husband had to teach a spring term ancient Greek class the week after #1 was born, so we decided pretty quickly that there was no reason we both should be zombies, so I slept in baby's room and got up for all the night feedings, which meant DH could be a person during the day, continue to work, and also let me take naps and do chores during the day. #1 was a crap sleeper (to this day he's an extreme morning person) and did not sleep longer than a 2.5 hour stretch until he was 3 months old, so some nights when I was sleep deprived DH slept in the baby room and just woke me up for the breastfeedings. Also #1 would wake up for the day at like 5:30 or 6, so I'd give him his morning boob and then go back to sleep for two more hours while DH took him downstairs.
For #2 we did the exact same thing, but luckily #2 was a much better sleeper than #1. He didn't want to start his day until 7:30, which was great for me. The well-rested DH got up at 6 with #1 while #2 and I continued to sleep in the baby room with the door closed. One week my husband had to travel for work so I got my aunt to come sleep over at our house every night just so she could get up at 6 with #1. One difference was they changed the SIDS recommendations about rooming in between #1 and #2, so whereas I began transitioning out of #1's room around 2 months and was fully out of there by 3 months, I stayed in #2's room until he was fully 4 months old and could roll over.
I don't know what kind of sleeper or breastfeeder #3 will be, but my goal is to do the same thing. It really worked well for us to have baby always in their own bed.
Basically what everyone else said with this slightly different spin. MH doesn’t want to miss middle of the night “parties”? MH has the baby on his side of the room, gets up and gets the baby, changes the diaper, passes me the baby, and when I finish nursing, I nudge him awake and he goes and puts the baby back down. He doesn’t need as much sleep as me to function and he genuinely enjoys the extra time with them since he is at work all day. We kept DS 1 in our room for 8 months. DS 2 was around 6 months before we moved him to his crib but he had a milk protein allergy we didn’t know about and we were hoping moving him to his room would help him and us sleep. It didn’t. He moved back in for a few months once we figured it out because he was up, hungry 3-4 times a night and that is what helped us all get more sleep. DS 3 moved into his own room around 8 months as well. That’s just what worked for us.
@mdfarmchick can I borrow said DH for a few months? 😂 my DH gladly helps when I ask, I just hate bothering him, so it’s not his fault lol ETA spelling error - I’ve got to proofread more often.
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Next question for all of you STMs (and maybe this becomes a product thread on it's own, because I'm sure it will spark conversation) - Bassinets and having baby sleep in our room. My question is less about bassinets and more around the concept of having the baby in our room vs. their room. I've seen such a variety of answers relating to this elsewhere, so I'm expecting about the same here, seems like it depends on your lifestyle, house, and how the baby sleeps. For us, we live in a small house and this is our first child. Our master bedroom is large, and we would have the space to let our baby sleep in our room, but the nursery is right next door with the changing table and glider. My question is, do we really need a bassinet for in our room or can we just start off with our baby in the crib in the nursery? If all of the things we would need in the middle of the night are in the nursery, why have the baby sleep in our room? I've seen people say they used the bassinet ranging from 1 week to 6 months, so not really sure what responses I'm expecting to get here, just looking for advice/discussion. Thanks!
Its kind of one of those things you just have to figure out when the baby arrives. Certainly if the baby’s room is far from yours, it would be a pain to walk back and forth in those earlier weeks when they eat every hour. But if they’re right next door, not sure how much different it is than keeping them in your room.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
DD2 we got a halo bassinet so I could easily reach her and put less pressure on my incision. I was always a mom who was strictly against co-sleeping (because I get fussy when I'm poked and prodded in the middle of the night haha) but DD2 decided to call the shots. She slept in bed with us because she was nursed and wouldn't sleep anywhere else. My husband sleeps like I rock so I'd turn our lights on and just change DDs on the bed, he'd snooze through.
All and all, keep yourself open to all options! All babies are different and will require different things! Whatever is easiest on you and gets you the most sleep is what you can go with!!
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
The long version: we always had this extra bed from when DH and I moved in together, it was a guest bed, and when I was pregnant with #1 the crib still fit in the room with the bed, so we thought, "What if I sleep with the baby instead of baby sleeping with us?" It worked so well we did it again for #2 and are doing it again for the last one.
Before we ever had kids, DH and I decided unanimously that sleep was really important so we were never going to bed share, so both us and our kids would be able to get good sleep. So far, so good. Almost seven years later, we have never had a kid sleep in our bed and we've never slept in a kid's bed (though we have lain with a kid in their bed for a little bit on occasion when they were sick, but never all night). Starting baby out in the crib from day one made this easier because there was never a transition, ever. It was just their bed.
Regarding rooming in, numerous studies show that the risk of SIDS decreased by a lot when babies sleep in the same room as the parents, so I always planned to room in with baby, just not in my and husband's room. I decided to exclusively breast feed, we succeeded, and my husband had to teach a spring term ancient Greek class the week after #1 was born, so we decided pretty quickly that there was no reason we both should be zombies, so I slept in baby's room and got up for all the night feedings, which meant DH could be a person during the day, continue to work, and also let me take naps and do chores during the day. #1 was a crap sleeper (to this day he's an extreme morning person) and did not sleep longer than a 2.5 hour stretch until he was 3 months old, so some nights when I was sleep deprived DH slept in the baby room and just woke me up for the breastfeedings. Also #1 would wake up for the day at like 5:30 or 6, so I'd give him his morning boob and then go back to sleep for two more hours while DH took him downstairs.
For #2 we did the exact same thing, but luckily #2 was a much better sleeper than #1. He didn't want to start his day until 7:30, which was great for me. The well-rested DH got up at 6 with #1 while #2 and I continued to sleep in the baby room with the door closed. One week my husband had to travel for work so I got my aunt to come sleep over at our house every night just so she could get up at 6 with #1. One difference was they changed the SIDS recommendations about rooming in between #1 and #2, so whereas I began transitioning out of #1's room around 2 months and was fully out of there by 3 months, I stayed in #2's room until he was fully 4 months old and could roll over.
I don't know what kind of sleeper or breastfeeder #3 will be, but my goal is to do the same thing. It really worked well for us to have baby always in their own bed.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
my DH gladly helps when I ask, I just hate bothering him, so it’s not his fault lol
ETA spelling error - I’ve got to proofread more often.