+1 for Proboards, because it's still a forum and we can still manage it the same way as we do it here. There's no learning curve.
I also like Discord but understand that it has a learning curve and may alienate a lot of people who haven't used it before and I wouldn't want that.
From prior conversations, it seems like a move to Facebook would eliminate some of the most vibrant participators, so that doesn't seem to make much sense.
I would totally do a group chat if we went that way! I like the informality of group chats even though some find it trigger bc they feel like they miss a lot. Whatever is clever. I would say once everybody is officially in 2nd tri migrate somewhere
@paytonpedro@wigglyicecream as honorary leaders of our group, I’d follow you to the ends of the Earth. Jk, that sounds insanely creepy and stalkerish😆
But honestly, I don’t think 2 platforms is really the best option. If it came down to y’all not participating because it’s on Facebook, I’d be really sad because I’ve definitely connected with both of you. So i’m motivated to find a way a place y’all will be happy with, or convince you that fb isn’t terrible 😆
But also, it would have to be only actively participating members. I’ve been in groups that are small (30 or less) and larger ones and I much prefer a smaller setting.
@and_peggy Awhh!! ❤️ Such a compliment!! I definitely see a bunch of us as leaders but not so much myself lol. Totally just my weird anxiety though. Lol. I’ve definitely connected with you as well! I seriously love this group we have and am so glad I’m here with you all!
I also much prefer smaller groups and would want to make sure the people who migrate are ones who are actually participating.
I won’t say no to downloading something else but it’s going to be a big ehhh for me. I have too many apps as it is. 😝 I definitely prefer Facebook but I’m open to what others want. I have friends from DS1’s BMB who made their Facebook their user name from the Bump. It’s been 7 years 🤣🤣🤣 I love it.
@mdfarmchick I made a second Fb for my DD’s bmb and lasted a while. They also had people on IG which I was on at the time. Ultimately I left FB again bc it felt competitive (even though it wasn’t) and it was hard being the minority in my group. I was a single mom with a made for lifetime movie story about DD’s dad and being the only WOC (woman of color) it was hard to relate to what felt like the perfect lives of my happily married peers. I’m in a much better spot this time around so maybe FB wouldn’t feel so triggering. 🤷🏻♀️ If we ever move to something not public I’ll share the story about DD’s dad for those who are interested
@itsme215 I am also on a spinoff board of the knot/nest...
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
@wigglyicecream fwiw, and obviously I can only speak for myself, but I honestly don’t feel like the ladies care about your lifestyle. None of us are better than you because we’re “happily married”, or anyone’s race, religion, or sexual orientation. I’m certainly one of the more conservative in my groups and I know we won’t all be best friends in real life but we connected over common ground. And that’s personally all I care about. If I make deeper friendships, that’s a perk.
I never post on my personal page because I don’t care for everyone to know my life. 🤷🏻♀️
Also, we just make you a group admin and you can kick out anyone who talks trash 😆
@wigglyicecream I definitely second every single thing @and_peggy said! And I’m so glad you’re in a better place than before, you deserve nothing but happiness!
Again thank you ladies. My old group didn’t do anything to make me feel the way I did. It was just me going through the stuff I was and comparing my situation to theirs. Also it was right around the time of BLM, the protests and it the whole world was obviously very polarized. I still care about my first bmb and have made good friends with a few who I text on a semi regular basis. We have even done video chat. All that to say, I do feel connected to quite a few of you and I would like to foster those deeper longer term connections. Also I would like to see if any other form. Usually by the time private forum happens and then births we lost quite a few. Thinking of active members I would take a rough guess there’s maybe 20 of us.
Agreed @and_peggy but I can understand the feeling of being alienated because you're somehow different @wigglyicecream. I vote for you two and @paytonpedro to be group admins and I'll just do some trash talking. Lol
Thank you! @bridgiebee82 I appreciate that. I will definitely still check in if there’s a group still active on here!🥰 I’ve enjoyed your presence on the Bump!
@paytonpedro if you remember this is now the second time I’ve been assumed to be an admin. Time to step into my role. I shall lead us to an organized group with no one offs or drive byes😂
I’m on board with a private TB group. Just curious though, what is the difference between a private group and this ? Last time I was on TB was 2015 and the group moved to Facebook after a few months, I’m not familiar with a private TB group.
I am up for pretty much whatever. I am not great at learning new apps, but that being said I'm willing to try. I only have fb or tb. I like being able to see different threads. I don't know that I'd feel connected in a group chat, I just worry I couldn't keep up and I would stop interacting. I will follow the lead though.
@amberrmariee20 I think it’s just the platform itself. The bump groups aren’t as user friendly, and the notifications typically don’t work. Also, in my opinion, harder to get to know people on TB groups.
I feel like the answer seems to be do a private group once everybody is in 2nd tri then either FB or a different platform after we get to know each other better? I’ll just do a new poll that way people can vote without having to comment if they don’t want to
I'm still here and would love to be included in the private group! I think the smaller community would be perfect and just what I need right now! (Although, I'm also at the end of the month and still have 2 weeks to go to enter second tri (14 weeks right??))
I don't post much here because the app sucks tbh. I'm already in a discord and fb for reddit August due dates and much prefer both. Honestly there isn't much learning curve to discord and it's pretty easy as long as the person who sets it up know how it works. Bonus that you can still use a username rather than your personal info
I’m down for a private group. This app is hard to use and I often forget to even check it but some community would be nice. I won’t be in the 2nd trimester for a couple more weeks. Fb is fine with me and depending on what other platform is used I would consider downloading another app.
I'd like to be included for the private group if it's a by invite only thing or however it's working. We just have so many threads here with similar/cross-over topics, that it's hard to know where to post sometimes.
@ambelance I second Discord. It’s sure user friendly, and you can have different channels based on different things like ; #bumps #cravings #general questions.
I like discord and agree. It's easy to set up and I'm willing to do it if it's what we decide to do. And it works on mobile and PC, so very user friendly. And you can keep private usernames so you still maintain anonymity. There is a way to do group phone and video chats too if people are interested.
Re: Private group
I also like Discord but understand that it has a learning curve and may alienate a lot of people who haven't used it before and I wouldn't want that.
From prior conversations, it seems like a move to Facebook would eliminate some of the most vibrant participators, so that doesn't seem to make much sense.
But honestly, I don’t think 2 platforms is
really the best option. If it came down to y’all not participating because it’s on Facebook, I’d be really sad because I’ve definitely connected with both of you. So i’m motivated to find a way a place y’all will be happy with, or convince you that fb isn’t terrible 😆
But also, it would have to be only actively participating members. I’ve been in groups that are small (30 or less) and larger ones and I much prefer a smaller setting.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
So I found a meme generator. 😂
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
@mangoandguava I’m on a boat 😆😆😆 great reference
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
#bumps
#cravings
#general questions.
it’s super easy to stay organized as well !