August 2022 Moms

Private group

As many of you know, the drive by posts seem to have had an uptick. I’m proposing a private group, that way everybody knows each other’s expectations and we can start to get to know each other on a deeper level. This is just to gauge interest in one. 😊

Private group 38 votes

Yes! Private group
23% 9 votes
No thanks! I like the public one
5% 2 votes
Yes, but it’s too soon.
71% 27 votes
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Re: Private group

  • Just to be clear here, private group means the creator IS the admin. TB does not moderate private groups. 
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  • And just for the record, this is not a Facebook group, this would just be a private group on TB
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  • I think the expectation would be that people would participate in both groups to make sure those with later due dates can be included. 
  • And the purpose of this poll to to gauge interest to see if there is any, and if there is when people would like to start the move. All suggestions are invited and welcome. Just putting feelers out. 
  • My past experience is this public group will go quiet, quite quickly except for new people... but if people keep it going it could work.  I haven't participated a lot yet.. still early days for me though, it sounds like this is applicable to at least a few of us.
  • My intention is to start building a more in time circle to be apart of. I don’t feel comfortable sharing much on a public forum but would like to get to know whoever is interested better. I didn’t even intro until my dating scan and I know the bump is intimidating for new moms. 
  • I’m glad that you all feel comfortable voicing how you feel. It might be my own impatience. Things were a lot less stressful and felt more like friendships once we moved to the PG on the bump in my old bmb. Guess I’m ready to get back to that, no harm in waiting a bit 
  • @itsme215 I totally get it. 

    @cas060 my last bmb did a PG on the bump
    first then did the switch the FB. 
  • @itsme215 I also have a unique name combination, I think I’m 1 of 2 (at least the last time I searched myself on fb) so I totally understand that! 
  • @itsme215 that was me with my maiden name. I was the only person in the country with that first name/last name combo. Now that honor belongs to the ladies who've married into my family. 
  • My first BMB (Nov 15) ended up moving to FB after we all gave birth and it’s still an active group of 30-40 people. It’s been cool to see everyone’s kids grow up and have somewhere to ask age specific questions. 
  • I agree with others that it is a bit early to move to a private group.  I especially want to make sure the first time moms get a chance to understand how this all works, and start to contribute.  My first group was and still is a lifeline all these years later.  It took me a while to warm up and post on my first group as a FTM since I didn’t know what I was doing (BMB-wise and mom-wise).  My first group eventually moved to a private FB group that is still going strong 3 years later ❤️ 
  • I think the biggest question here, and this may be just me- it’s probably just me, is what do we want out of this board? Do we want a traditional bump board? Organized and very supportive? Or do we want baby center wild Wild West? Unorganized, post wherever whenever, don’t say thank you to the support that was offered? If we want something in the middle ANYONE can chime in. Give us something to work with and help! Anyone can make posts! Just make them relevant to everyone! If we want shorter durations so our original threads aren’t so daunting to new members, let’s do it. But I think no matter where we end up, we need a clear vision of the group majorities desires. If you don’t speak up on something like this and then encourage against what was decided, this board will just be chaos.
  • I do like the idea of making some recurring threads like a weekly/monthly question thread or something because the huge threads can definitely be intimidating.

    And maybe as long as they're posted in the right place, not giving too much flak for posting a question that's already been asked, since it's been mentioned that it's hard to search threads on your phone.
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  • @leahrnmom I don’t think you said anything wrong and I understand how given your personality it might come off as harsh. A few others have suggested doing sub threads so they are smaller and people can engage better. I think the problem lies with once one person starts to one off post, then others do, then it becomes a big mess. I could be wrong and that’s just my perception. I don’t thrive when things feel out of order and I don’t know what to expect. I know others feel differently. Somewhere in the middle sounds like a great compromise. Also as we all know tone gets lost in text so something that might sound fine if said could in theory come off harsher in text. 
  • @wigglyicecream thank you for your response :) I do think the separate posts should start with like discussion triggers and then the op posts their opinions or questions on the triggers as part of the thread rather than part of the title. When it's all one it feels less like someone wants others to participate in the discussion and more "answer this for me".
  • @dimeadozen I respectfully disagree. I totally understand how if you jump on at night, that it could be overwhelming to go through a whole day of comments. But, I was in a Facebook group last pregnancy and it was terrible. It was only one offs and 100’s of “what gender do you think from my 12 week scan?” And “omg I’m so nauseous, what is everyone eating!?”. It was a large group with almost 10,000 ladies and no organization. There is no way you could see every post from the day, and a lot of very important ones, like losses or medical questions after anatomy scans, were totally lost. Like 50 of us actually ended up splitting off and having our own group where we could better get to know each other. I think the bump has something very special with its organization but I also recognize it might not be for everyone! 
    Also you’re totally not a drive by. Lol. You’re not making your own thread to tell us your opinion on this lol. You’re totally good!! I also hope this all didn’t come off rude at all. I absolutely value your opinion. If you have any suggestions on other topics that can break down bigger threads, please share them!! 😁
  • @and_peggy and @wigglyicecream
    Ah thank you for the clarification. 💗💗
  • @and_peggy these groups typically move to Facebook?
  • I think I'd be down with another group in the second tri. But I don't have a Facebook so I wouldn't be able to join you all there. 
  • @zzz2022 I think some ladies here have mentioned they only have a Facebook so they can participate in a group. I rarely post on my personal account but I could never delete just because I use it daily to communicate in groups. Would that be a consideration?
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  • @and_peggy, I'm really not into facebook or IG, just a personal thing. But no worries and I totally understand if the group wants to switch over. 
  • @zzz2022 and @and_peggy I don't have FB either 
  • I also don’t Facebook. I'd be sad to miss out on this group, but if it goes that way maybe non-FB folks can start a private group here? Just a thought. 
  • I would prefer a private group here to Facebook, which I only use to connect with people I know in person.
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