@itsme215 check out Lucie’s List! I heard about it in my first BMB and it honestly helped make every decision so much easier.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 8/18, 9w5d
Baby is the size of a(n): grape/cherry
Team: blue
Upcoming Appointments: 1/27 is my first appointment with my OB
How are you feeling?: I threw up for the first time this morning. Before that it was just nausea but this was my first time actually getting sick, and it was basically right at the moment I had to walk my daughter to the bus, so I had to yell “get on your jacket! Put on your shoes” at the same time basically. And then she told random moms at the bus stop I threw up right before we got there. Super cool.
Rants/Raves: tomorrow is my last progesterone shot!!! Woo hoo! My a$$ is seriously jacked up right now with bruises.
Questions: kind of nervous about having my first OB ultrasound at 11 weeks bc I want all the tests and I feel like you are supposed to get NIPT bloodwork at 9 weeks? Am I making that up? I just want to make sure I have time to get it all.
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? I basically want one decorative snow and outside of that I’m just really not into winter. I do also like fires and Christmas lights, and hot chocolate and mulled wine.
Also, I think 9 weeks is like the absolute earliest you can get NIPT but that the window goes until like 13 weeks? Someone may correct me on that but I’m not getting mine until 12 weeks.
@buffythevampireslayer NIPT can be done anytime in pregnancy after 10 weeks. Some providers let you do it at 9 but I’ve always been told 10 since if you do it too early there’s a chance they won’t be enough fetal DNA and you’ll have to do it over. There’s no cut off though, I had it done at 17 weeks in my first pregnancy. The only thing that has a cut off is the NT scan, which is the ultrasound to measure the neck fold, and it has to be done between 12 and 14 weeks.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@itsme215 +1 for Lucie's list! Such a helpful starting point and great product reviews. Also, when you go to register at buy buy baby, target, Amazon, or wherever you go, they'll likely have a "checklist" for you. It'll be pretty expansive so that's helpful but remember you may not need *everything* on it. And Lucie's list will be helpful next to their lists to help decide which of the 3794325 strollers are right for you, for example, and how to go about deciding the key features that matter to you.
Team: Finding Out. Probably? We haven’t discussed it actually
Upcoming Appointments: First Appointment is Friday
How are you feeling?: So. Very. Nauseous. And I have the worst headaches in the evenings along with my second round of morning sickness.
Rants/Raves: My kindergartener went back to school today after an unexpected long weekend—they added two extra days and called it a Covid pause. I’m with those of you who are tired of hearing about Covid. He’s such a good helper that I do kind of miss him today, but I’m also enjoying my slightly quieter house with the four and one year olds.
Questions: NA
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? Well we currently live in the desert so we don’t have “winter” like most of the country. My favorite part of winter is hot drinks like coffee and hot apple cider. And my least favorite part of winter here is probably the winds. I really like that we can drive to the snow and then drive home and not have to deal with it here.
Also hi… just figured I’d jump into the weekly and dailies after introing.
EDD / Weeks + Days: August 10 is edd. Today I am 11 weeks.
Baby is the size of a(n): fig
Team: finding out
Upcoming Appointments: Feb 4 for 12 weeks us
How are you feeling?: Emotional, just is a weird season with my H. I am more excited though. When I was AOD this week I went to the ICU and used their ultrasound machine and could see little babe moving all around and could see the heart beat. It made me more excited. I'm excited to have a little baby again.
Rants/Raves: im thinking I might need to call the Dr. I am not sure if I have a yeast infection or what. I used to get them alot when I ran and did cycling from sweating so much. It doesn't feel exactly like a yeast infection though, like internal isn't itchy just the outside. TMI. Regardless I need to call tomorrow.
Raves: I'm feeling more connected to babe which is nice but scary
Questions: nadda
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? I hate the bottom of my pants or clothes at all being wet. My favorite is the feeling of the holidays, as I associate them with winter. However if we don't have snow on Christmas I don't get the same wintery vibe so I do enjoy a pretty snowfall.
Upcoming Appointments: First OB Appointment is a week from today.
How are you feeling?: Super nauseous and puking 1-2 times per day. I'm also beginning to run out of foods that sound appetizing. I know I need to eat, but I don't want to eat anything.
Rants/Raves: I've largely been able to work from home. Today I have to go into the office. The combo of the nausea and wearing a mask is brutal, and I'm hoping I can hold it together for my meeting.
Questions: none
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? Let me preface this by saying I was born and raised in Minnesota where winter lasts from November through April. I should be used to it and have aspects I enjoy or appreciate, but I don't. I dislike it all.
@malloryfrommn If you can, get a KN95. I've had a hard time with masks and nausea as well, and the KN95s that pop out away from your mouth are much more comfortable than the cloth or surgical masks that are up against your face the whole time. I'll go back to my cloths with the filter inserts in a week or two (nausea's almost gone!) so I don't use up all my spouse's KN95s (he ordered enough for the whole school year in August like the Eagle Scout that he is), but they do really help with the nausea.
Upcoming Appointments: NIPT 1/25, 12 week OB appt 2/2
How are you feeling?: Finally getting over my morning nausea
Rants/Raves: CANNOT fall asleep at night. Magnesium gummies are on the way, hopeful that will help
Questions: None
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter?
I live in Louisiana, so my least favorite part is wondering what season it's going to be from day to day. Yesterday the high was 73, today the high is 43. My favorite part of winter is the gloomy days. I know I'm in the minority, but I love gloom and dark and rain!
@wisewitch222 thanks for the suggestion! I will definitely seek them out and give them a try! I'm also finding that chewing on some gum helps ... until the flavor wears off. Then it suddenly provokes nausea.
We are Due August 31st (and I’m measuring a couple days small.) I’m 8 weeks 1 day today and the baby is the size of a raspberry!
We are finding out the gender! My blood draw for the NIPT is February 7th! And I have my next ultrasound is the 15th, so we MIGHT even know the gender when we see the baby next!😍
I’m feeling pretty good today! Most days have been mediocre in terms of nausea after getting put on Zofran, but a HUGE improvement from not being able to keep anything down!
Rant: I probably am not the only one who feels this way or has at some point. I’ve babysat since I was 11, and since took care of a family of 5 boys and 1 girl since each were newborn, nannied multiple families, volunteered in and directed kids programs and events, had many regular clients, has always been considered a baby whisperer, and cared for kids from 3 days old to older teenager, taught kids, And spent multiple days nannying in home while parents travel. I know a lot of products that I will be getting and am excited to try, and although I know I’ll be learning a LOT because it’ll be my first baby, a lot of people think you know nothing because it’s the first baby. 🤦🏼♀️ I know how to take care of babies, and am more worried about not getting sleep than how to take care of a little one.🤣 And no two moms have the same must have baby products. Just because it’s someone’s first, doesn’t mean they don’t know what they want or like unsolicited advice anymore than a mom of 5. Every mom and baby is different. No one knows what someone else’s parenting style will be. Just a reminder to all of us that advice doesn’t necessarily feel like support even if it’s meant that way. General advice from people is one thing, but don’t try to change people’s minds. I’m happy the people and moms closest to me are supportive of my decisions and don’t try to change them, because it makes it easier to take a step back from those who aren’t that way. I don’t have any hard feelings and it’s no one person or anything like that! Just little comments from multiple places that add up, so it’s no big deal, but venting is a good way to release any negative thoughts!😅 The other thing is that my husband is really sick and got fever, chills, etc.. he’s feeling a little better today, but still wiped out. He’s working from home and waiting for test results. It wouldn’t be fun to have that on top of usually feeling bleh!🙃
Questions: None
I live in Alaska, so we do get gorgeous winters. I don’t like cold and darker days or when the snow piles up too deep but it usually gets windy and warm enough to rain or melt and blow away at certain points in the town we live, so I don’t have to worry about things taking as long to melt here. I like skiing, skating, ice fishing, etc, but in moderation. I usually don’t do stuff in the snow too often. Give me summer and 75° instead!!😍 That’s one reason I’m so excited for Hawaii! It’ll give me extra summer, especially as I’ll be very pregnant and the baby will arrive in late summer, and I’ll be out less through initial recovery.
@malloryfrommn Hey! Sorry to hear about your nausea and puking being so bad! Did you ask about a prescription? I was afraid my doctor wouldn’t give me one, but it actually was really easy to get one after I said how much I was throwing up. No matter the method, I really hope you feel better soon!❤️
@meagan822 ugh, the nausea and vomiting has been terrible. What's funny is I actually am on a prescription! (Reglan) I am seeing my OB next week so we'll talk about it.
@meagan822 I hope I’ve not said anything to make you feel like that. I don’t think anyone here thinks that just because you don’t have your own kids, that makes you clueless. I was like you, I nannied, babysat, worked with kids forever. But the reality is that it’s just different when it’s your own kid; when you cannot give them back after 6 hours, when you have to be on 24/7, it’s just a different experience. I knew how to care for infants, but I had serious postpartum depression with my first and I couldn’t function, even basic tasks. I had opinions on parenting, and baby gear, etc, but my opinions and decisions shifted when I responsible for their well-being all the time.
So take that with a grain of salt. You may be adequately prepared, know how to care for them, no doubt. But being the mom is a much different role than the nanny. It just is. I don’t feel like I’m better than you, pregnant with my 5th baby; but my reality is that I have more experience being a mom. That doesn’t mean I feel like you’re not as qualified to be a mom or know what you’re doing. I think I can learn as much from you, a first time mom, as you can from me.
And if advice bothers you, just maybe think about it as they’re speaking to themselves. Some people project their feelings onto others, and call it advice. But it’s also okay to not know it all, or change your mind when the baby comes.
@meagan822 I too hope that I haven't said anything, even well-meaning, that made you feel that way! And I'm glad you have real-life people who subscribe to the same style of momming that you want to when you have your baby. It sounds like you have really nice support there, which is awesome.
I really relate to what @and_peggy has said above, I didn't know what I didn't know until I had kids of my own, and when I give advice or provide an opinion here, I feel like I am talking to the version of myself before I had kids, if that makes sense. I will also say that I have never eaten a bigger bowl of humble pie than when I had #2. After #1, I thought I really knew about momming, but it turns out that every one of these little ones is different from each other, and what worked with #1 didn't work at all with #2. So really no advice is ever universal, because all babies and all moms are different. I think we're all just trying to share information and what we've learned along the way, and all with the best of intentions
@wigglyicecream same! My kids have been getting into talking to the baby, which is adorable, but I don't feel as attached when it's hard to tell if there's a baby in there.
@and_peggy I feel you! I hope you all feel better soon and you can get some alone time.
@anniemarie887 I don't think I've been skiing since I introduced it to DH before we had any kids but I'd love to go again. I also started when I was 3! I've been starting to wonder when to introduce it to my kids, but it would mean a long trip for my massively carsick toddler so probably not any time soon.
@betsummerswilliams amazing! I'm so glad the affirmations and the unisom are helping you! I haven't really tried pregnancy affirmations but I made a set of labor affirmations for myself that helped me a lot in labor the last two babies.
@maggiemadeit fellow New Englander, I love everything you said about winter!
@lmaplejc I'm sorry your MIL wasn't so supportive. DH just told his siblings and then his mother, since she can't/won't ever keep a secret, and her response was something like Great, I have too many grandchildren already. (I'm thinking (a) rude and (b) we are not your child who has 6 kids, this is only our 3rd, so if you have an issue with it don't blame us! Lol)
@buffythevampireslayer Oy vomiting and trying to get your kid out the door at the same time sounds awful.
EDD / Weeks + Days: Aug 15, 10w3d
Baby is the size of a(n): strawberry 🍓
Team: finding out
Upcoming Appointments: Feb 7 for NT ultrasound and 12 week visit. Has to push it off by a week because my son's developmental evaluation got pushed off because of a snow day, to exactly when my appointment was scheduled for.
How are you feeling?: Ok, I've been having terrible insomnia but also a lot of stress due to everyone being sick and home and end of semester grading and report cards... Hopefully now that all of that is getting resolved my sleep schedule will return.
Rave: We told our kids and my 4 year old is super excited. He likes to lean in closer to my belly and whisper "hi" and it's just adorable.
Rant: I've been a bit MIA the last few weeks, it's been one thing after another. I'll lose a night or two of sleep/housework/school work to finish my thesis, but I'll catch up on everything after the weekend! Nope, quarantine, there's been a case in my kid's class... And my other kid's class. Ok, get through a few days of that and they'll be able to go back to school as soon as we get their test results right, and I can relax and also get some work done during the day? But then one test was positive... And then we were sick, and still had to take care of the kids who weren't sick but were home 24/7. And meanwhile grades are due the night of my kids' last day of quarantine. So I lost a few more nights of sleep trying to get everything done. But now my thesis is (hopefully) done - pending review - my grades and report cards are in, and my kids are going back to school tomorrow. Hallelujah!!
Questions: May be TMI so I will use spoilers. Has to do with UTIs
Has anyone had issues with recurring UTIs (or a UTI that just doesn't go away)? I had it last pregnancy but never felt any symptoms, and I was on antibiotics practically the whole pregnancy. I really want to avoid doing that again but first visit and they said I have a UTI again. It's group B strep which is semi normal vaginal flora and I was positive for that last pregnancy... Could it be I'm taking the sample badly? I just really really don't want to be on antibiotics for months.
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? Native New Englander here, there are a lot of things I love about winter. I love a freshly fallen blanket of snow over everything. I love walking at night while it's snowing, everything is quiet except the crunch of snow. I love when there's a hard crust on top of the snow and when I was smaller I could walk on it without leaving footprints - my father would say I'm like an elf! (LOTR not Harry Potter or North Pole) I love playing and building in the snow - last year I made a snow bear and snow mouse for my kids I loved playing board games on winter nights in front of our fire growing up, but unfortunately can't do fires anymore as DH has asthma and I think my lungs became much more sensitive to smoke over time. I don't love when it's bitterly cold, or having to fight with my toddler to wear a coat when it's freezing but he doesn't believe it's "really winter" yet, and I don't love having to shovel snow.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 8/18 (just changed from 8/21 after the first appointment). 10 weeks!
Baby is the size of a(n): Prune! Or a tootsie roll lollipop head
Team: finding out
Upcoming Appointments: In 5 weeks (yet to be scheduled, but should be able to find gender by then 🤞🏽)
How are you feeling?: scared, nauseous, tired, I miss eating deli meat sandwiches and want to stop eating drinkable yogurt at my 3am pee break, scares some more but cautiously optimistic.
Rants/Raves: see above
Questions: none
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? Favorite part is the sweatshirts and fuzzy socks/blankets. Least is being cold (but like, San Diego, CA cold so it’s not cold at all, but I’m always cold)
@meagan822 I totally understand that. Same thing happened with me with my first, random coworkers would ask me the most invasive questions and then tell me super personal stuff (like about tearing and breast feeding nightmares). WHY do people feel the need to tell us all the things that went wrong with their pregnancy/birth/newborn stages??? AND THEN when I was pregnant with my second all the moms with multiple kids would say "you just wait, you think one was hard...." or "you think you're tired now, just wait..." I hate that. Like I didn't consciously choose to have another baby or have no clue that 2 is more complicated than 1.
@and_peggy Thank you! You haven’t offended me in any way! Like I mentioned, it was just the accumulation of certain things all at once, but I don’t even remember who made comments on the whole. You’ve come across as kind and helpful! Being a mom will be a lot different and it’ll be cool to see how. I’ve babysat 5 boys for 3-24/7 days, but having one newborn just as demanding, but in a different way will be a whole different ballgame. Another big thing to grasp with being around babies my whole life is that this one is MINE. Like you said, it’s different handing the baby back at the end of the day! Also I appreciate the humility-I know you are a wealth of knowledge as well. I’m sorry you had a rough postpartum! The physical and emotional part of having a newborn is what is hard to truly prepare for. And thank you for the reminder that some people are sharing what they wish they knew. I know there are things like heated wipes that I don’t plan on spending money on, but if the baby cries with every cold diaper change it could be worth it. Maybe it’ll hate something or love something I don’t expect! I’ll definitely be getting to know myself, my baby, and my husband all over again!😅
@maggiemadeit Thank you! You haven’t said anything that bothered me that I’m aware of either! I have appreciated your feedback and comments. The perspective of “you don’t know what you don’t know” is a good one, because none of us knew/knows everything, but we all “know” different things than one another!🤣 And then often still find out differently when the baby adds an opinion!😅 And each baby sure does seem to have differing opinions! Side note: I love the term momming!😍
@starkette Right?! I’m preparing myself to say “THATS PRIVATE” to anything I don’t want to talk about.🤣 I understand when people share something that genuinely helped them, but what are with those scare tactics? When someone hears “I’m pregnant,” the first thought shouldn’t be “omg I know someone who had 8th degree tears!”🤦🏼♀️🤣 I’m reading the book “Yes! You will be a Good Mom,” and I just read through the section where the author says sometimes you will have to not be afraid to step up and shut down horror stories. Why must people try to make the experience less fun? Their stories will probably be worse than the events! I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Another thing that is and will be frustrating is when people are like “just wait…” ..”till they’re a toddler… Teenager…” or “until you have two that are arguing!” Those are stages of having children to love! There’s no skip buttons for the bad days! But toddlers can say “I love you” and teenagers can be friends to do adventures with, and seeing your two babies hug makes you forget they were fighting! And I don’t want to wish everything away just because they say “just wait..”😅 I appreciate you chiming in!!🥰
Thanks to you all. I was unsure about venting at all and then dreading coming back to see people picking a debate or taking something wrong. But instead I feel a lot more peace and perspective. And that in one way or another we have already related to each other in some of these things.❤️
@meagan822 ugh, the nausea and vomiting has been terrible. What's funny is I actually am on a prescription! (Reglan) I am seeing my OB next week so we'll talk about it.
@malloryfrommn Oh no! Did your symptoms change at all or get worse after the prescription? I know a lot said B6 & Unisom helped, and for me it was Zofran. I didn’t notice any help with B6. I was getting to where I was throwing up that much every day. The day I started Zofran I didn’t throw up-I still felt mediocre and slightly nauseous, but nothing more than a dry heave or two. I did throw up once the next day on Zofran, but that was all. Since then I haven’t and even have had some relief of feeling nauseous. Instead of nausea semi being there all day, it’s just be a couple waves or maybe a dry heave (which sometimes reminds me it’s time for another dose.😅) Today, I was even able to skip one of my doses. I know it’s different for everyone, but throwing up and feeling sick like that is no fun and I feel for you! I hope they switch your prescription to something that works ASAP. If it feels unbearable to wait till your appointment, don’t be afraid to call sooner and tell them you need a change called in!💕 I kept reminding myself that the baby was just growing an awful lot!😅 Remember this symptom won’t last forever!
@geshem OMG what a week you had! Finishing the thesis while second quarter grades are due and everybody's in quarantine. You win! I want to give you a sticker. Also, congratulations!
@geshem Ugh, I’m sorry your MIL had that reaction to such joyful news. Her and my MIL would be great pals. Also, I’m sorry that sounds like such a draining few weeks. BTW- Your winter description is making me wish for some snow!
@meagan822 I hope that I haven’t said anything to upset you. The beauty of the BMB is that you can get new ideas and perspectives from other women at different stages in life and with different experiences, including FTMs!
@and_peggy@maggiemadeit So well said. I didn’t know what I didn’t know. I’m nervous about the transition from 1-2, and will certainly be leaning on the moms of 2+ for advice.
@starkette@meagan822 it's an interesting phenomenon. I think some of it comes from a deep desire to share their stories, good or bad, but maybe especially the bad to get... validation? sympathy? just someone to hear about this momentous, beautiful, difficult, possibly traumatic experience they had but don't generally feel they can talk about because it's a little bit taboo to bring up on general conversation? And then they feel like someone bring pregnant or just having given birth gives a license to talk about it all. But yeah, it's kind of misplaced and unkind when it's said to someone who has such an experience coming up because of the scare aspect, and also coming off like you don't really care about the momentous thing that's going to happen/happened when the other person, you're just looking for an excuse to tell your own story.
I've thought about this a fair amount partly because DH noticed it happening, that if someone was pregnant or gave birth recently a group of moms would gather around that person and they'd all start telling their birth stories (horror stories included), and he wondered why they do that.
And people saying just you wait until x hard stage, or joking/half-joking like "oh we didn't get to sleep through the night until our kids left for college" like no that's not funny and I didn't know what to expect but didn't appreciate the horror stories/exaggeration. That has always bugged me.
@wisewitch222 you're sweet! I'm just so glad everything has calmed down and I feel like I have moments to breath again. Yesterday (kids went back to school) I was all set to do a bunch of housework and lesson prep and I started feeling unwell so I just took a nap, because I could, and it was so liberating!
Re: Weekly Check-in 1/17
EDD / Weeks + Days: 8/18, 9w5d
Baby is the size of a(n): grape/cherry
Team: blue
Upcoming Appointments: 1/27 is my first appointment with my OB
How are you feeling?: I threw up for the first time this morning. Before that it was just nausea but this was my first time actually getting sick, and it was basically right at the moment I had to walk my daughter to the bus, so I had to yell “get on your jacket! Put on your shoes” at the same time basically. And then she told random moms at the bus stop I threw up right before we got there. Super cool.
Rants/Raves: tomorrow is my last progesterone shot!!! Woo hoo! My a$$ is seriously jacked up right now with bruises.
Questions: kind of nervous about having my first OB ultrasound at 11 weeks bc I want all the tests and I feel like you are supposed to get NIPT bloodwork at 9 weeks? Am I making that up? I just want to make sure I have time to get it all.
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? I basically want one decorative snow and outside of that I’m just really not into winter. I do also like fires and Christmas lights, and hot chocolate and mulled wine.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
EDD / Weeks + Days: 31 August / 8 weeks
Baby is the size of a(n): Jellybean
Team: Finding Out. Probably? We haven’t discussed it actually
Upcoming Appointments: First Appointment is Friday
How are you feeling?: So. Very. Nauseous. And I have the worst headaches in the evenings along with my second round of morning sickness.
Rants/Raves: My kindergartener went back to school today after an unexpected long weekend—they added two extra days and called it a Covid pause. I’m with those of you who are tired of hearing about Covid. He’s such a good helper that I do kind of miss him today, but I’m also enjoying my slightly quieter house with the four and one year olds.
Questions: NA
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? Well we currently live in the desert so we don’t have “winter” like most of the country. My favorite part of winter is hot drinks like coffee and hot apple cider. And my least favorite part of winter here is probably the winds. I really like that we can drive to the snow and then drive home and not have to deal with it here.
Also hi… just figured I’d jump into the weekly and dailies after introing.
EDD / Weeks + Days: August 10 is edd. Today I am 11 weeks.
Baby is the size of a(n): fig
Team: finding out
Upcoming Appointments: Feb 4 for 12 weeks us
How are you feeling?: Emotional, just is a weird season with my H. I am more excited though. When I was AOD this week I went to the ICU and used their ultrasound machine and could see little babe moving all around and could see the heart beat. It made me more excited. I'm excited to have a little baby again.
Rants/Raves: im thinking I might need to call the Dr. I am not sure if I have a yeast infection or what. I used to get them alot when I ran and did cycling from sweating so much. It doesn't feel exactly like a yeast infection though, like internal isn't itchy just the outside. TMI. Regardless I need to call tomorrow.
Raves: I'm feeling more connected to babe which is nice but scary
Questions: nadda
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? I hate the bottom of my pants or clothes at all being wet. My favorite is the feeling of the holidays, as I associate them with winter. However if we don't have snow on Christmas I don't get the same wintery vibe so I do enjoy a pretty snowfall.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 8/18, 10 weeks today
Baby is the size of a(n): guitar pick
Team: Finding out.
Upcoming Appointments: First OB Appointment is a week from today.
How are you feeling?: Super nauseous and puking 1-2 times per day. I'm also beginning to run out of foods that sound appetizing. I know I need to eat, but I don't want to eat anything.
Rants/Raves: I've largely been able to work from home. Today I have to go into the office. The combo of the nausea and wearing a mask is brutal, and I'm hoping I can hold it together for my meeting.
Questions: none
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? Let me preface this by saying I was born and raised in Minnesota where winter lasts from November through April. I should be used to it and have aspects I enjoy or appreciate, but I don't. I dislike it all.
EDD / Weeks + Days: August 13 / 10w5d
Baby is the size of a(n): Prune
Team: Finding out!
Upcoming Appointments: NIPT 1/25, 12 week OB appt 2/2
How are you feeling?: Finally getting over my morning nausea
Rants/Raves: CANNOT fall asleep at night. Magnesium gummies are on the way, hopeful that will help
Questions: None
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter?
I live in Louisiana, so my least favorite part is wondering what season it's going to be from day to day. Yesterday the high was 73, today the high is 43. My favorite part of winter is the gloomy days. I know I'm in the minority, but I love gloom and dark and rain!
We are finding out the gender! My blood draw for the NIPT is February 7th! And I have my next ultrasound is the 15th, so we MIGHT even know the gender when we see the baby next!😍
I’m feeling pretty good today! Most days have been mediocre in terms of nausea after getting put on Zofran, but a HUGE improvement from not being able to keep anything down!
Questions: None
I live in Alaska, so we do get gorgeous winters. I don’t like cold and darker days or when the snow piles up too deep but it usually gets windy and warm enough to rain or melt and blow away at certain points in the town we live, so I don’t have to worry about things taking as long to melt here. I like skiing, skating, ice fishing, etc, but in moderation. I usually don’t do stuff in the snow too often. Give me summer and 75° instead!!😍 That’s one reason I’m so excited for Hawaii! It’ll give me extra summer, especially as I’ll be very pregnant and the baby will arrive in late summer, and I’ll be out less through initial recovery.
So take that with a grain of salt. You may be adequately prepared, know how to care for them, no doubt. But being the mom is a much different role than the nanny. It just is. I don’t feel like I’m better than you, pregnant with my 5th baby; but my reality is that I have more experience being a mom. That doesn’t mean I feel like you’re not as qualified to be a mom or know what you’re doing. I think I can learn as much from you, a first time mom, as you can from me.
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19
I really relate to what @and_peggy has said above, I didn't know what I didn't know until I had kids of my own, and when I give advice or provide an opinion here, I feel like I am talking to the version of myself before I had kids, if that makes sense. I will also say that I have never eaten a bigger bowl of humble pie than when I had #2. After #1, I thought I really knew about momming, but it turns out that every one of these little ones is different from each other, and what worked with #1 didn't work at all with #2. So really no advice is ever universal, because all babies and all moms are different. I think we're all just trying to share information and what we've learned along the way, and all with the best of intentions
@and_peggy I feel you! I hope you all feel better soon and you can get some alone time.
@anniemarie887 I don't think I've been skiing since I introduced it to DH before we had any kids but I'd love to go again. I also started when I was 3! I've been starting to wonder when to introduce it to my kids, but it would mean a long trip for my massively carsick toddler so probably not any time soon.
@betsummerswilliams amazing! I'm so glad the affirmations and the unisom are helping you! I haven't really tried pregnancy affirmations but I made a set of labor affirmations for myself that helped me a lot in labor the last two babies.
@maggiemadeit fellow New Englander, I love everything you said about winter!
@lmaplejc I'm sorry your MIL wasn't so supportive. DH just told his siblings and then his mother, since she can't/won't ever keep a secret, and her response was something like Great, I have too many grandchildren already. (I'm thinking (a) rude and (b) we are not your child who has 6 kids, this is only our 3rd, so if you have an issue with it don't blame us! Lol)
@buffythevampireslayer Oy vomiting and trying to get your kid out the door at the same time sounds awful.
EDD / Weeks + Days: Aug 15, 10w3d
Rant: I've been a bit MIA the last few weeks, it's been one thing after another. I'll lose a night or two of sleep/housework/school work to finish my thesis, but I'll catch up on everything after the weekend! Nope, quarantine, there's been a case in my kid's class... And my other kid's class. Ok, get through a few days of that and they'll be able to go back to school as soon as we get their test results right, and I can relax and also get some work done during the day? But then one test was positive... And then we were sick, and still had to take care of the kids who weren't sick but were home 24/7. And meanwhile grades are due the night of my kids' last day of quarantine. So I lost a few more nights of sleep trying to get everything done. But now my thesis is (hopefully) done - pending review - my grades and report cards are in, and my kids are going back to school tomorrow. Hallelujah!!
Has anyone had issues with recurring UTIs (or a UTI that just doesn't go away)? I had it last pregnancy but never felt any symptoms, and I was on antibiotics practically the whole pregnancy. I really want to avoid doing that again but first visit and they said I have a UTI again. It's group B strep which is semi normal vaginal flora and I was positive for that last pregnancy... Could it be I'm taking the sample badly? I just really really don't want to be on antibiotics for months.
I don't love when it's bitterly cold, or having to fight with my toddler to wear a coat when it's freezing but he doesn't believe it's "really winter" yet, and I don't love having to shovel snow.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 8/18 (just changed from 8/21 after the first appointment). 10 weeks!
Baby is the size of a(n): Prune! Or a tootsie roll lollipop head
Team: finding out
Upcoming Appointments: In 5 weeks (yet to be scheduled, but should be able to find gender by then 🤞🏽)
How are you feeling?: scared, nauseous, tired, I miss eating deli meat sandwiches and want to stop eating drinkable yogurt at my 3am pee break, scares some more but cautiously optimistic.
Rants/Raves: see above
Questions: none
GTKY- What is your favorite, and least favorite, part of winter? Favorite part is the sweatshirts and fuzzy socks/blankets. Least is being cold (but like, San Diego, CA cold so it’s not cold at all, but I’m always cold)
@maggiemadeit Thank you! You haven’t said anything that bothered me that I’m aware of either!
@starkette Right?! I’m preparing myself to say “THATS PRIVATE” to anything I don’t want to talk about.🤣 I understand when people share something that genuinely helped them, but what are with those scare tactics? When someone hears “I’m pregnant,” the first thought shouldn’t be “omg I know someone who had 8th degree tears!”🤦🏼♀️🤣 I’m reading the book “Yes! You will be a Good Mom,” and I just read through the section where the author says sometimes you will have to not be afraid to step up and shut down horror stories. Why must people try to make the experience less fun? Their stories will probably be worse than the events! I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
Thanks to you all. I was unsure about venting at all and then dreading coming back to see people picking a debate or taking something wrong. But instead I feel a lot more peace and perspective. And that in one way or another we have already related to each other in some of these things.❤️
I've thought about this a fair amount partly because DH noticed it happening, that if someone was pregnant or gave birth recently a group of moms would gather around that person and they'd all start telling their birth stories (horror stories included), and he wondered why they do that.
And people saying just you wait until x hard stage, or joking/half-joking like "oh we didn't get to sleep through the night until our kids left for college" like no that's not funny and I didn't know what to expect but didn't appreciate the horror stories/exaggeration. That has always bugged me.