Also, random thought for the day... I was set on not finding out the gender of my baby, but now thst we are having twins, I'm not so sure. I feel like more planning is needed.
@bridgiebee82 You can google "chronotype quiz" and there are a bunch of them. They're mainly on sleep websites, and I didn't really need to figure out my sleep situation (I've been a steady 8 hours/night, during the actual night, kind of person since I became a grownup about 12 years ago, and before anybody asks, I exclusively breast-fed both my babies for 4-5 months but then did sleep training at 8-9 months so other than those two infant-windows I still get the solid eight hours of sleep), but I was curious about when the best times of day were to be productive (for me, that's research) and also exercise, since I've been out of an exercise routine for quite awhile. Pleasantly surprised to find that those times line up with my teaching and having kids at home schedules!
@wisewitch222 I found out that I'm a dolphin chronotype, with my most productive times between 10am-2pm. This makes so much sense. As a teacher, I find that my classes in the mid-morning are the best, most engaging. Even at home, I that's when I fully wake up. I'll be staying home next year, so I'll be working on getting a good routine in the summer so I can attempt to get the babies on one.
@bridgiebee82 Good luck! I've heard from my twin-mom friends (I randomly have three friends who are all moms of twin boys, which feels like a lot) that sleep training/scheduling routines for twins is easier. I wonder if that's because there's more incentive to do it when you have two. All the incentive I needed for my one-at-a-times is that I need my sleep.
I think knowing the chronotype is helpful for things like that. My spouse is a Lion (and my #1 son is a super lion....) and even before I knew these categories (literally today) I knew when we all naturally like to wake up and get tired and that helps so much with scheduling meals and things for our family.
@bridgiebee82 I'm a teacher too! I teach kindergarten, what about you? I'm debating on what to do next year with the maternity leave being at the beginning of the year. I'm worried about $$$ though... I've ranted before that we do not have enough employees to qualify for FMLA, which is beyond frustrating...
@leahrnmom I think most still do it. I would assume as we start approaching 12 weeks we would start unless anybody wants to start early. I know quite a few moms have felt like their bumps are forming
My random is i just left my first OB appointment, and was there 2hrs. They couldn’t find baby on the Doppler so they got an US and immediately found a squirmy baby. HR 164 What a roller coaster of emotions. Still didn’t get to hear the heart beat but seeing it again and seeing baby is making this pregnancy feel a lot more real.
The universe actually hates me. Between covid and our family vacation my daughter hasn’t been to her Montessori in three weeks. Today was supposed to be her first day back and start to transition her to the 2-3 yo room, she made it 4 hours before we got a phone call about a suspicious rash. Took her to the ped… hand, foot and mouth. FML.
@anniemarie887 oh my goodness!!! I am so sorry, it has just been one thing after another for you!! My oldest had hfmd while I was newly pregnant with ds2 and it was absolutely miserable! He has bad eczema and it targeted all of his already sensitive areas like his elbows and butt cheeks and he was soooo miserable for a solid week. We ended up treating with Benadryl and alternating Tylenol and ibuprofen because he also had a really high fever in the beginning of it. I hope she feels better soon and it’s not nearly as bad for her as it was for my guy.
Just found out about my twins. I am so utterly shocked I can hardly for coherent sentences, How did you ladies take the news? how many kids do you currently have?
@wigglyicecream I did join a FB group that a chunk of ladies started. I enjoy the conversation but I don't know them as well as I know my first bmb. I definitely wish I had participated more but it was what my mind needed at the time.
@wisewitch222 thank you!! I noticed we have an appointment the same day. We might be in the waiting room at the same time and not even know it 🤣
We had a good day. I was super intentional about my time with the kiddos. I signed up to work 11p-3a tonight because my hospital is offering an extra 60$ an hour but now that I'm laying down I'm regretting it.
@brittanynmorris I teach 7th and 8th grade. Middle school is ROUGH! I even had a kid say to another kid "I don't think she's really pregnant. She is just lying because she is gonna be fatter." Cool. Thankfully my husband has a good steady job where he makes decent money thst I could stay home forever with my babies. I may take the year off, not sure about returning. Childcare costs are astronomical, let alone with multiples. My dad lives about a mile away, but he is in his 70s and I can't ask him to babysit 2 babies while I'm at work all day. I also have a side hustle that I'm amping up so I can just do that. Maybe I'll tutor. Everything is a whirlwind!
@anniemarie887 omg I'm sooo sorry, that seems so frustrating and exhausting!! Hoping for a fast recovery.
@Katek819 I'm not having multiples but I do have two kids and adding a third. My youngest is developmentally delayed and it'll feel a little like having two babies at once. I guess I'm not as stressed as I could be because I know schedules will adjust and we'll figure it out. We had a big change when we had our micro-preemie and she spent 6 months in the nicu while we also had a 5 year old and school/work schedules, and we made it work. Everyone adjusted. We're capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for...you got this!
@anniemarie887 yeah my first is my perfect sleeper and he was having the same issues. But after it started to improve he started sleeping great again- no lasting impact thank God!!
@bridgiebee82 I couldn't imagine. We're a K-8 building, so I hear many stories. But you would be surprised on how early they start to have their "mouths" now! Ha. That's awesome to hear about your husband! We could totally do it if we wanted, but our lifestyle requires both. Obviously, it's going to be a lifestyle change no matter what! You're right, everything is a whirlwind, but it sounds like you have some exciting things coming your way!
I know this isn't the ranting forum, but more randoms - but I have a random rant. Haha. I had a student test positive on Saturday. Due to the new CDC guidance, she is allowed to return to school today. I'm just having a lot of anxiety around going from 10 days to 5 days so quickly and I'm concnered about myself getting sick. I feel like teachers are guniea pigs to see "how everything will work out". If I get sick, I have to use the days I've saved up in order to have a maternity leave. I've tried to trust the professionals during this entire time, but they're making it more and more difficult. Has this 5 day quarantine been tested before?? If not, why are schools the first ones to implement it??? Why are some businesses still working from home when we have been around germy children for almost two years?? Ugh. So many thoughts, so many questions, so much anxiety... Rant/random over.
@brittanynmorris all these changing guidelines are making my head spin, I understand your worries. It makes me absolutely rage that teachers are expected to use personal sick days for this crap, our country is going to force all our teachers out of their careers because this is just not sustainable. It’s unacceptable how we’re treating our teachers and healthcare workers right now, you guys should be getting huge raises and not penalized for things out of your control.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@coco2787 I appreciate your words of support. We have just been expected to live like normal when the rest of the world isn't. It's been the most difficult 2 years of teaching in my life. I have had a normal school year since 2018-2019... Last year we got 10 COVID days to use that was given by the state to use in case of quarantine. This year, nothing. I live in Illinois, one of the most strictest states in the nation, but we don't have anything to show for it.
And I definitely agree with your statement that the teaching shortage is going to get so so so much worse. It's already terrible. We would normally get 100+ applicants for a job, last year we got 3. I cannot imagine how healthcare workers feel...I feel like we have it "easy" compared to them.
@brittanynmorris A little bit of insight (if I may - please feel free to ignore if those were rhetorical questions and you just needed to vent). I'll put it in the spoiler because it's long and also in case people don't want to read my thoughts about covid and schools, because I know that's a touchy subject.
(1.) The CDC have been poor communicators throughout this entire
pandemic, but they are experts and their recommendations are always
based on sound science, even if they sound arbitrary. (They only sound
arbitrary because we general public don't get to see how the sausage is
made, and in this information age of social media, their communications
people kind of just didn't get that Americans need to have everything
spelled out for them before they will trust anything, and I feel really
bad that this has caused many people to lose confidence in their
science, anyway, that's a different topic.) As a vaccinated, boosted
teacher with a mask on, I would not feel nervous having that student
back in my classroom (with her mask on, too), since the science does
show that people with covid are most likely to be contagious 1-2 days
before the onset of symptoms and 2-3 days after. Day zero of that five day isolation is the first day of symptoms, so the student is actually returning to school six days after the onset of symptoms -- that still includes a 3-day cushion window after people usually stop being contagious.
(2.) I am a parent of a first
grader, spouse of a high school teacher at a school that has never gone
remote since it reopened in August 2020, and a teacher of college
freshmen who is currently dealing with the fallout of online education. I
rejoiced when I got the news mere hours after the CDC changed their
recommendation that my son's school district was adopting the new guidelines as policy. The main reason was educational, but I also welcomed
the news because I knew what the data has shown for a very long time -
that covid transmission in the school setting (i.e. kids sit at desks
and aren't all up on each other) is very low. I can't speak for every
school in every district because I'm sure there are some exceptions, but
for the most part, school is a safer place than most places. It might
even be the safest public place. I'm sure my spouse has had several
students return from isolation after 5 days these past two weeks since
winter break, but he doesn't know - they don't tell him. What he does
know, however, and I hope this will ease your mind, is that the only
teachers who are currently out due to covid/have been out were NOT
exposed to the virus at school.
My intent here is to make you feel more comfortable with the changes at your already difficult job. It's really hard balancing the risk of virus spread
against the risk of doing a serious disservice to our children and
adolescents by keeping students out of schools. At this point in the
pandemic, we have the tools to keep ourselves and each other safe -
vaccines and boosters - and the shortened isolation period was the
result of sound, scientific decision making.
My dad called me yesterday to see if I needed anything from the store- because you know, covid- and I’m like no I think we’re good, I just did some grocery shopping Saturday. A minute later into the phone call I’m like actually, how about watermelon or some kind of melon. He brought me a whole a$$ bag of goodies!!! Stuff for the kids, a honeydew for me, garlic bread, cookie dough- just like all the best stuff!!! Can you tell the man has been through pregnancy 4 times (my parents have 4 kids) or what? Lol. So now it’s breakfast time and I’m about to cut this honey dew and have some garlic bread 🤣
@wisewitch222 While most of it was rhetorical and a brain dump, I truly appreciate your response and I agree with your very articulate words! I have always followed the experts and I know they wouldn't make this decision without data to back it up. It definitely seems closer to normal, which is what we are all striving for.
@paytonpedro I’m glad to hear the sleep went back to normal. She still slept fine through roseola, rvs, croup, covid, random colds. But this HFMD is rocking her little body for some reason.
@brittanynmorris I have four really close friends who all are teachers, well one is admin now, and I totally get your anxiety. It has really felt like you guys were thrown to the wolves the last two years and I’m just here to give you a big creepy internet hug.
@anniemarie887 I could not imagine being admin right now! Their jobs are even more difficult, plus they're trying to keep their employees + community happy. I know ours gets pulled in so many different directions. I really appreciate your "big creepy internet hug". Haha! I think it's just my emotions and hormones catching up with me!
What skincare are you using? Especially if you have oily or acne prone skin.
My face was oily and acne prone before I was pregnant but now I’ve reverted to teenage puberty pizza Face. My doctor advised me not to use salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide.
Most people might get pregnancy glow but its pubescent acne for me and it ain’t cute.
@improbablyanxious I am with you on the absolutely horrible skin. My skin wasn’t great prior to pregnancy but is so much worse now. And super oily. Ugh. I don’t have any recommendations because nothing works for my skin, but if you check out the skincare aisle, there are lots of options you could choose from without those ingredients. I think St. Ives Apricot scrub makes an “unmedicated” version. I just use plain old dial antibacterial hand soap, but it doesn’t help. Nothing does. I hope you have better luck!
@improbablyanxious I'm using CeraVe foaming cleanser. Super gentle but effective for my combination-oily skin. Also a witch hazel toner after cleansing, before moisturizer. Fwiw I think skin issues in first tri in particular is super normal! Hormones are going crazy, we're eating differently, etc etc. Solidarity!
I use a brand called Arbonne that I love. (It's network marketing, not trying to sell just saying what I use). I was using the anti-aging line because I'm 39, but it's been a little too harsh on my skin lately so I switched to a calming line they have. My skin feels and looks really good. I also am not eating a lot of dairy, which I have found makes me break out.
@improbablyanxious +1 for terrible skin right now. SO DRY. And breaking out all over the place. I use Murad and wash my face with Juno Co cleanser. I love them. I think it's the only reason my skin isn't worse. I got lazy with my routine and my skin broke out like insane. Started doing my cleaner before bed and moisturizer twice a day and it's way better. I also use a facial oil you can snag off Amazon called "ancient Greek remedy" lol...it's basically lavender, argon oil, grapeseed oil, and olive oil
Just found baby on my home Doppler! Seriously the best sound in the world 💜
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@starkette that ancient Greek remedy sounds awesome. I have found in the winter especially, that my hands react very poorly to the soaps in public bathrooms. I was at a professional development all day today, and washed my hands every time of the 53,000 times I peed today. My hands are raw!
@coco2787 that's awesome!! Seriously best sound in the universe.
@bridgiebee82 I love it! Used it for a long time. You can definitely use it for hands. I like Hempz triple moisture lotion, too. I have like 4 of them spread out all over the house (upstairs bathroom, downstairs next to the couch, car, purse...) because I always need lotion after I wash my hands 50 times a day.
I refuse to engage that SS but I wanted to say here, where she won’t end up because then she would have to cultivate community and read about others and not just herself (SELFISH), that you ladies are the best and I absolutely appreciate you standing up for me! What a post to wake up to!!! Thank you @bridgiebee82@starkette@andpeggy my coconspirator @wigglyicecream@wisewitch222@anniemarie887@mama1922@maggiemadeit
Ok. Let’s be honest, I might definitely go back to it later and give her a piece of my mind….. 🙈
Re: Weekly Randoms 1/10
Do bmb still do hdbd? Wondering when that starts? I love seeing everyone's little bumps
@anniemarie887 oh my goodness!!! I am so sorry, it has just been one thing after another for you!! My oldest had hfmd while I was newly pregnant with ds2 and it was absolutely miserable! He has bad eczema and it targeted all of his already sensitive areas like his elbows and butt cheeks and he was soooo miserable for a solid week. We ended up treating with Benadryl and alternating Tylenol and ibuprofen because he also had a really high fever in the beginning of it. I hope she feels better soon and it’s not nearly as bad for her as it was for my guy.
@wisewitch222 thank you!! I noticed we have an appointment the same day. We might be in the waiting room at the same time and not even know it 🤣
@paytonpedro thank you!!
We had a good day. I was super intentional about my time with the kiddos. I signed up to work 11p-3a tonight because my hospital is offering an extra 60$ an hour but now that I'm laying down I'm regretting it.
@Katek819 I'm not having multiples but I do have two kids and adding a third. My youngest is developmentally delayed and it'll feel a little like having two babies at once. I guess I'm not as stressed as I could be because I know schedules will adjust and we'll figure it out. We had a big change when we had our micro-preemie and she spent 6 months in the nicu while we also had a 5 year old and school/work schedules, and we made it work. Everyone adjusted. We're capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for...you got this!
I know this isn't the ranting forum, but more randoms - but I have a random rant. Haha. I had a student test positive on Saturday. Due to the new CDC guidance, she is allowed to return to school today. I'm just having a lot of anxiety around going from 10 days to 5 days so quickly and I'm concnered about myself getting sick. I feel like teachers are guniea pigs to see "how everything will work out". If I get sick, I have to use the days I've saved up in order to have a maternity leave. I've tried to trust the professionals during this entire time, but they're making it more and more difficult. Has this 5 day quarantine been tested before?? If not, why are schools the first ones to implement it??? Why are some businesses still working from home when we have been around germy children for almost two years?? Ugh. So many thoughts, so many questions, so much anxiety... Rant/random over.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
And I definitely agree with your statement that the teaching shortage is going to get so so so much worse. It's already terrible. We would normally get 100+ applicants for a job, last year we got 3. I cannot imagine how healthcare workers feel...I feel like we have it "easy" compared to them.
My face was oily and acne prone before I was pregnant but now I’ve reverted to teenage puberty pizza Face. My doctor advised me not to use salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide.
Most people might get pregnancy glow but its pubescent acne for me and it ain’t cute.
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
@bridgiebee82 I love it! Used it for a long time. You can definitely use it for hands. I like Hempz triple moisture lotion, too. I have like 4 of them spread out all over the house (upstairs bathroom, downstairs next to the couch, car, purse...) because I always need lotion after I wash my hands 50 times a day.
Ok. Let’s be honest, I might definitely go back to it later and give her a piece of my mind….. 🙈
5.5.16 | 8.14.17 | 1.30.19