I’m ready to quit therapy. I had an appointment scheduled today. I put it in my phone so I don’t forget and when my therapist didn’t call I called his office. The receptionist told me there was no appointment in the computer. I basically begged her to try and reach out to my dr bc I know I had one and I was looking forward to talking to him for several reasons. She was condescending and disrespectful in my opinion. I told her I have limited availability bc he won’t talk to me unless I have somebody here to watch my daughter. She didn’t care. I tried to leave a message on his vm she said he didn’t have one. I got so frustrated I started crying then got mad I started crying. So now I want to just say f*ck them! This is exactly what’s wrong with our mental health care system. I’m so discouraged and I’m just over it. At least I have all of you bc the medical professionals keep failing me when it comes to my mental health.
Omg I totally forgot to start these threads today 🙈 SO SORRY GUYS!!! ❤️
@wigglyicecream I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. It sounds extremely frustrating. I would be very annoying and keep calling. Or maybe just find someone else? I feel like healthcare in general is super frustrating, even prior to covid, but especially now. It’s hard to make appointments when you have children and there is just no understanding there. Everyone I know works and the offices are only open until 4pm. I’ve never wanted to bring my children to appts with me, but I’ve always had to. I really hope you get a chance to talk to your therapist and sort out the scheduling issue.
@paytonpedro I appreciate the support. If I wasn’t so emotional bc of pregnancy I would have probably handled it better. Just annoying that she was gaslighting me and not even considering that I might know what I’m talking about. It’s taken so long to find a therapist I actually like and trust, so I’m not interested in finding somebody new. Best part is these are telehealth visits. I don’t even have to go in office. He just won’t continue the session if my daughter interrupts me. I hate when people try to invalidate how I feel, a simple “I’m sorry “ would have went a long way.
@wigglyicecream I’m really sorry you had that experience. The worst is finding a provider you feel comfortable with and trust, and them having terrible front office staff. I hope the issue is resolved and you can get a make-up appointment really soon.
@and_peggy well I think enough of us here were hoping it would be postponed for you, and there’s power in numbers. Lol. I’m glad that worked out for you at least!
@wigglyicecream ugh, I'm so frustrated for you. I agree this an example of why our mental Healthcare system is failing. They can't even be understanding when you clearly need support. I hope you're able to find a new therapist who is more supportive.
@and_peggy yay for Hamilton being postponed. You know have me wondering if my show will also be postponed... I'm supposed to be seeing it on 2/2.
@wigglyicecream I'm so sorry. What a terribly frustrating experience. I can understand why you would feel disheartened. I hope you are able to book your next appointment soon. It sounds like you've built a good rapport with your therapist, and continuing to see them is crucial to your mental health. Until then, hang in there and know that you have the support of this little community ❤
@wigglyicecream oh I am so sorry! We love you, and are here for you!
@and_peggy I'm so thankful the performances got postponed for you!
My random today is: it was my first day back to work from Christmas break and having covid. I'm sitting in my OB's office and my appointment was for 10 minutes ago. They told me there is a "bit of a wait" because everyone needs the same room. Ok. I get it. Why did they schedule us all at the same time then?? Hopes of cancelations? I hate waiting at doctor's offices. It is infuriating. If I left a parent waiting as long as doctors make patients wait, I'd be fired. But then, I do get it because they have to spend time with the patients. But don't cram us all in. Give us the time you know you're going to need!
@bridgiebee82 thank you I do feel the love from our group. It’s nice to know my Internet strangers have my back. Also I hate the “hurry up and wait game” please come 15 mins early and wait 30 mins past your appointment time to be seen but if you’re late we can’t take you. Ughhhb
What is going on with tb? Anyone noticing that when you tag someone it returns the rest of your text to the next line? Hopefully it doesn’t do that when you tag someone mid sentence…
@wigglyicecream I’m so sorry, how incredibly frustrating. I hate when doctor’s office staff is dismissive. It feels like some offices employ the least caring people as the gatekeepers to make it as difficult as possible to reach the provider.
@wigglyicecream I am sorry you had that experience. I didn't have a great experience last time I went to see a therapist. It makes such a difference when you feel like you connect and then this happens.
@itsme215 and @coffeeshay I'm excited and overwhelmed. Twins run in both of our families, and I kind of had a feeling before work today. I'm nervous because of so many things, but more excited and I know God will take care of everything we need Him to!
@bridgiebee82 oh wow!! Congratulations!! We might have to get a separate thread going just for multiples check in here soon! Lots of mamas having twins (or more!!). That is super exciting!!
Ya’ll good news for me today! I messaged my provider in my patient portal and he acknowledged I did have an appointment, took responsibility bc it was his fault and even apologized. I feel so vindicated and validated. He’s even getting me in at 12 tomorrow which might be a little bit of a time crunch but I’m so happy bc I really want to talk to him. Thank you for all the support and kind words.
@wigglyicecream I'm so happy to hear you have a good therapist even if his office staff suck (that seems to be a pattern in a lot of health care sectors). Have a good appointment!
In my last BMB, we had at least 3 mom's with twins (I think there were more initially but only 3 joined the FB group). They had a MOM (mom of multiplies) thread which helped them keep track of each other & support each other. I think it would be wonderful to have something similar on this group.
@wigglyicecream so glad to hear how this all worked out for you!
Y’all. I’m sitting here crying watching Cricky! It’s the Irwin’s…. There’s a baby koala and I’m just dying at how ugly cute it is!! Also random scenes of them feeding the crocs… why am I crying?!? 🤣
As for a multiple thread, multiple mamas- is this something you want? I can look through old bmb’s to find a format and get it started this first time- maybe do multiples Monday? Or twins+ Tuesday? Any one of you are more than welcome to get a weekly or monthly thing going!
@paytonpedro My old BMB had a format I can pull and post here (or wherever we want)! It really depends on if the mom's with multiples want their own separate thread.
@paytonpedro My kids were watching an animal show this weekend, and they showed a mama ape picking bugs off a baby, and I seriously felt my eyes filling up. It's something about baby animals, gets my mom instincts flowing!
@wigglyicecream omg so glad your therapist called and validated you! I hate when front desk people are rude. That's so incredibly frustrating. At least your therapist sounds like a nice person!
Multiples sounds both exciting and intimidating. Will be eagerly following each of their journeys.
@paytonpedro man! You've been hit with the hormones. Always a "fun" rollercoaster.
At bedtime tonight my 3 year old (who does NOT know I’m pregnant) randomly looked at me and said “I bet you have a baby. Do you have a baby inside you?” I was speechless 😳😅
@tmartin014 before I even tested, my almost 3yr old grabbed my boobs and was squeezing them. I asked her why and she said “to get the milk out”. She also put her head on my belly and told me she “heard a baby crying in there”, I asked who and she said “my baby sister”.
BF comment in spoiler, not sure if it’s a TW for some or not so I played it safe.
FWIW i EBF her and she’s always been into my boobs. I weaned her this past September after I got my 2nd COVID shot so she could get some passive immunity from my milk.
I think a multiples thread would be really cool to have.
@tmartin014 and @wigglyicecream kids' intuition is amazing! They know so much more because I think they're so in tune with still being babies themselves. I love it!
Took my almost 3 year old back to the allergist today. He was diagnosed with a pretty severe dairy allergy at 6 months, and today he passed the test. Bring on the cheese, milk, and chocolate!
I have celiacs, so taking our house from dairy and gluten free to just gluten free is a huge win. I will also never again have to sprint to daycare after he accidentally steals some other kids food and breaks into hives (happened 3x his first year in daycare). So happy for him that he can eat all the foods just like other kids!
@maggiemadeit I'm glad your 3 year old passed the test! My husband has celiac and I have a gluten sensitivity, so I'm sure our twins are going to have some kind of sensitivity to gluten.
All 3 of my nephews have tree nut and peanut allergies. They carry around their epi-pens in little pouches everywhere. We have had a few ER scares because 2 of my nephews are so sensitive to even being in the room with peanut butter. Allergies are scary.
My random: I just discovered chronotypes (thanks, Instagram!) and took the quiz and found out I'm a Bear (could have guessed this - I have always said I'm an 11-7-er) but am now super excited about seeing how the productivity and exercise recommendations line up with my actual work schedule this semester and scheduling times for research and exercise!
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@wigglyicecream I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. It sounds extremely frustrating. I would be very annoying and keep calling. Or maybe just find someone else? I feel like healthcare in general is super frustrating, even prior to covid, but especially now. It’s hard to make appointments when you have children and there is just no understanding there. Everyone I know works and the offices are only open until 4pm. I’ve never wanted to bring my children to appts with me, but I’ve always had to. I really hope you get a chance to talk to your therapist and sort out the scheduling issue.
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@and_peggy yay for Hamilton being postponed. You know have me wondering if my show will also be postponed... I'm supposed to be seeing it on 2/2.
@and_peggy I'm so thankful the performances got postponed for you!
My random today is: it was my first day back to work from Christmas break and having covid. I'm sitting in my OB's office and my appointment was for 10 minutes ago. They told me there is a "bit of a wait" because everyone needs the same room. Ok. I get it. Why did they schedule us all at the same time then?? Hopes of cancelations? I hate waiting at doctor's offices. It is infuriating. If I left a parent waiting as long as doctors make patients wait, I'd be fired. But then, I do get it because they have to spend time with the patients. But don't cram us all in. Give us the time you know you're going to need!
yay! such wonderful news @wigglyicecream
As for a multiple thread, multiple mamas- is this something you want? I can look through old bmb’s to find a format and get it started this first time- maybe do multiples Monday? Or twins+ Tuesday? Any one of you are more than welcome to get a weekly or monthly thing going!
Multiples sounds both exciting and intimidating. Will be eagerly following each of their journeys.
@paytonpedro man! You've been hit with the hormones.
@tmartin014 and @wigglyicecream kids' intuition is amazing! They know so much more because I think they're so in tune with still being babies themselves. I love it!
All 3 of my nephews have tree nut and peanut allergies. They carry around their epi-pens in little pouches everywhere. We have had a few ER scares because 2 of my nephews are so sensitive to even being in the room with peanut butter. Allergies are scary.