Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Weekly Check-In 11/29
How far along are you//EDD:
34 + 6
Size of the baby: yesterday he was 5lb 5oz at u/s.
Upcoming appointments: weekly apptointments now. Every Wednesday. GBS next week.
How are you feeling?: ready to be done but at the same time not wanting it to be over cause I generally enjoy beimg pregnant. And this is likely our last
Rants/Raves: everyone keeps telling me I need to be fixed or my husband. And yes together we will have 7 children. But its no ones business but ours. I was almost set on getting my tubes tied. Then realized I'd only be doing it to satisfy everyone else.after after a discussion with DH last night we decided against it. So likely I will.go back on the nexplanon. It worked really well for me in the past.
Questions: anyone else feeling pressured by others to make such decisions
GTKY: do you have any pets? If not, did you have pets growing up? Do you want one eventually?
We currently have 2 pits named Princess and Venom. And a puggle named Pugsley. All are about 3 years old. The puggle is the only one we have had since a puppy.
Size of the baby: Polly Pocket Adventure Playset! (80s reference sizes)
Upcoming appointments: today, 32 week
How are you feeling?: Eh, not bad. Pelvic pain has lessened a bit and monitoring my blood sugar (diet controlled GD) feels less emotional and more routine. Still haven’t figured out how to prevent hip pain while sleeping (even with pillow between legs, flipping often) and a bit overwhelmed with work.
Rants/Raves: I REALLY want cake :'( and pizza…and I’m doing well with weight gain and blood pressure B)
Questions: What things did you give your partner/SO/support person to do so your brain could relax a bit? My husband wants things to do and I’m already overwhelmed with the food and glucose monitoring, making sure I get enough water, move enough, remember to take my prenatals, etc etc… (and work FT)
GTKY: do you have any pets? If not, did you have pets growing up? Do you want one eventually? We have 2 furfamily members, one cat (just turned 9) and one dog (will be 5 on Valentine’s Day). Didn’t grow up with dogs or cats, but had a bird and fish. We are thinking a second dog next fall.
It makes me feel so much better that others have had similar experiences with their second or third pregnancies, although it isn’t pleasant whatsoever! @blackhottamales @MrsJessS @elksamm @magalina_h Thinking of you all!! Only a few more weeks…it’s gone so fast for me so I’m hopeful it will continue to go fast for all of us…especially with the holidays in full swing!
I have my 36week appointment and NST tomorrow afternoon so I'm going to ask if there's any additional precautions I should follow. My biggest fear is that baby ends up in the NICU and not being to be with her. I've got a persistent cough that's been going on about a week. I'm thinking now that I might have bronchitis.
Baby Girl Due: 1-1-22