FFFC 10/29

Re: FFFC 10/29

• MrsLaLaBug member

  October 2021

  Sooo… I’m still not “over the moon” happy about this pregnancy. At all. It was a surprise, totally not planned, I was even on the pill. I’m 41 and have a 9 and 7 year old and had ZERO intentions of ever starting over. The very small amount of people we have told were immediately all excited and screaming “CONGRATULATIONS!!!!” and it has kinda made me cringe. I’m sure I’ll get there eventually, but I’m not quiiiite there yet and I feel like such a guilty asshole. 

  
  

                                                                                    
  

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• fireflyz_56 member

  October 2021 edited October 2021

  @MrsLaLaBug glad I’m not the only one with a surprise! I’m 38, was also on the pill, and DH had gotten snipped 1.5 years ago but then covid happened so he never got a follow up done. Still, what are the odds it was a fail for him. DD has been asking for a long time for a sibling but we were considering ourselves as one and done. I’m not sure which star she wished on but it seems to have worked lol. And obviously this little bean really wants to be here!
  
  Anyway, I am getting excited now but I had a few very solid weeks of complete shock.

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• MrsLaLaBug member

  October 2021

  @fireflyz_56 I understand 100%!!! Looks like we both have some very determined babies on the way!! You know what’s funny, about 2 months ago, literally probably RIGHT around the time I got pregnant, I called my OB to tell him I wanted to make an appt when we all returned back home from Hurricane Ida to see if I was a candidate for an IUD!!! And now here we are…. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

                                                                                    
  

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• skc040512 member

  October 2021 edited October 2021

  @MrsLaLaBug @fireflyz_56 y’all are making me feel better. I absolutely hate pregnancy and this one was 100% unplanned. We had been talking about getting DH snipped but were going to wait until DS was 2 to be completely sure. I legit have no idea how I ended up pregnant because I know when I ovulated and there was nothing happening any time close to it thanks to me being sick for about a month 😅 I told DH that it was my fault because I kept saying it would take an act of God for me to get KU again right now and apparently God decided to laugh at me. I’m just now starting to look forward to the actual getting a baby part of pregnancy.

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• tacosandtums member

  October 2021

  Joining this party—this pregnancy was also a huge surprise for me! I have a 7 year old and almost 4 year old and we were starting to transition into “big kid” stuff. We are taking the kids on a cruise in January and I wasn’t  planning on being pregnant for that. I was also interviewing and looking for a new job—that is on hold indefinitely now because my current company has paid parental leave I can’t walk away from. Lastly, we have 2 puppies that we got this year and I’ve been so incredibly sick I haven’t been able to care for them or help my husband much with walking them and what not. I feel like I went from super mom to a lazy bum who never gets out of bed and the guilt from that is so real. HOWEVERRRRR I freaking love the newborn stage so I know as soon as pregnancy is over I will be singing a different tune. Right now it’s just so hard.

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• And846 member

  October 2021

  So mine is a little different…
  
  this pregnancy was 1000% planned and i didn’t stop to consider that it may not be as easy as the unicorn pregnancy last time.
  
  The exhaustion, the Rx support first trimester, the hormone whiplash coming off the Rx support and the anxiety it gave. Then the anxiety i felt cause i was anxious. I feel guilty complaining about feeling crappy. 

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• addsprinkles521 member

  October 2021

  @And846 me too. This pregnancy was planned (though happened sooner than I thought given how long it took to conceive dd) and is so different from the first time around. Didn’t have any issues until I was after my due date and developed pre eclampsia but with this one the nausea is crazy, have a sch and a uti, along with anxiety things just seem to be piling on. 

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• And846 member

  October 2021

  @addsprinkles521 hugs! It’s hard to feel this bad when this was a desired event. 
  

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• pajamstagrams member

  October 2021

  @MrsLaLaBug @fireflyz_56 @skc040512 @tacosandtums absolutely understand how you guys feel! DD was a surprise IUD baby and it was terrible timing since I had literally just interviewed (that day) for a job that required site travel and pregnant women generally aren't allowed to go. It took me a while to feel truly happy and excited about everything, maybe until 2nd tri, once my nausea wore off and the nerves of miscarriage died down. Of course now, I would absolutely not change a thing because she's perfect, and wouldn't have wanted her to come any later, and in the end, the timing was just fine 🥰  

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• happynapper member

  October 2021

  I’ve been trying to keep things fairly vague just because of it being a public forum. I had a lot of worries toward the end of my last bmb about rando’s being able to read all our posts (the group itself is amazing and we still talk everyday) so I’m trying hard not to give out many identifiers.. here is the condensed version. 
  We had been trying since this spring. I had decided to stop trying after my MC on 8/1 because of how things are in my marriage. I was going to restart my BC after my first period. There was only 1 time in between that I could have conceived and I didn’t think it was likely because it was a few days before I thought I would have ovulated after the MC. I took the test 4 weeks to the day after the MC because I was waiting to start back on the pill. But as you all know I’m here, so…  
  
  I’m super happy, I didn’t think I’d get to have another for a lot of reasons, and I truly couldn’t be more excited about having another girl.  But also feeling really scared and uncertain what the near future holds for me and my family.

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• bnichole404 member

  October 2021 edited October 2021

  Same here momma!  I’m 39 and a gma to a 6month old. My oldest is 21 and youngest is 8.  This will be my 5th baby also unexpected… I’m trying to get excited, im sure I will be eventually, but im just not there yet.. 

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• MrsLaLaBug member

  October 2021

  @happynapper that’s a lot to have going on condensed into a short period of time! We are here for you. 💜💜 

                                                                                    
  

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