My least favorite is when people ask if we were “trying for a girl” with our third since the first two are boys (and this one is too!). We are super excited for three little buddies and wouldn’t have gone for a third if we weren’t going to be super happy either way! Also, love hearing all the comments about the 2 to 3 transition being the easiest!
Re: Weird Things People Say/Do When You’re Pregnant
Other than that, I just get the same question over and over - “have you had any weird cravings?” I got asked it so many times that I made a list on my phone of what I’ve craved so far lol
Due: 6 Nov 2021
@jackie_dunny I got "was it planned?" with my first a couple times too. I don't know if it's people struggling to make conversation or if DH and I just didn't strike them as the family type of people?
Also of course the CONSTANT "How are you feeling?" that for some reason auto-replaces "How are you doing?" once you announce you're pregnant. It's been my experience that people expect you to feel lousy or have morning sickness so when I've said that "I'm feeling pretty good actually!" I've gotten some awkward responses of "Oh.." followed by silence.
ETA: When I was in my third trimester with my first, one of my in-laws did a mock pregnancy waddle over to me. I didn't even waddle when I walked.
The only thing that really annoys me is a strangers feeling okay with commenting on women’s bodies because they are pregnant. My favorite thing is to just say “nope, just fat” when I’m visibly pregnant lol
When I was quite pregnant with my first, I remember walking into the restroom at work and there was another obviously pregnant woman in there. I feel like we bonded in the way that we SAID NOTHING to each other. Like there was this mutual agreement that we'd both had enough of strangers striking up a conversation just because of the shape and size of our bodies. So refreshing.
@mayoduck ugh yes the constant “how are you feeling?” I feel like it’s lessened now that I usually have the same response. I also get “have you been feeling really sick?” a lot still and I’m like in the beginning yeah but not so much now. It’s always the people that have never been pregnant that ask that though and don’t realize it’s mainly a first tri thing. Also, the other day I was slowly going up the staircase and some woman I don’t know was coming up behind me so I said “sorry I’m pregnant and slow, just go around me” and when we reached the top, another visibly pregnant lady was about to come down and the first lady goes “OH! She’s pregnant too!” And the other lady was just like “…..oh” like, I don’t care. Do I know you?
@gingerale87 I was actually going to make that my FFFC! I appreciate the sentiment but I hate when they’re like “no you can’t bend down and lift that 5lb item!!!!” Chill, if I couldn’t handle it, I’d ask for help.
Due: 6 Nov 2021
+1 for people asking if my pregnancy was planned with Arlo. I remember thinking, "Do you know me at all?! I PLAN EVERYTHING."
People acting like I'm made of glass.... My work is not for the faint of heart so there are some limitations I have had to endure just because of the nature of some of what I do isn't safe for baby. But I am NOT MADE OF GLASS FOR THE LOVE OF PICKLES.
People always want to know about my cravings. lol Nothing else. Just that....
I’m 25 weeks now, and she starting saying it at 23 🤦♀️
This time we just say we don't care either way if asked the gender. Now the comments are mostly impressed "wow going for 4!" And I just say , thank you! We like even numbers, more the merrier, you only live once... something like that. I just take everything as southern hospitable small talk, and respond with a smile! Figure it takes no more effort to be gracious.
What the older woman said was very sad/sweet. Maybe one day I'll be like that!
When I was pregnant w my first, I had a lady at the gas station always ring me up and compliment me and make small talk about my pregnancy. I found it a tad odd but just said "yes ma'am, thank you so much" etc. One day, she asked to feel my belly...I figured...weird but whatever. She asked at least! After she did, she teared up and said "I've always wanted to be a mother, but was never able to get pregnant. You are so very blessed" 😭😭😭 from then on I would always get in her line, talk about the baby, and let her know if it was kicking to feel! Small kindness but it made her so happy
ETA- I still tear up remembering her sweet face saying that 😭💔
Me: "Oh, not until November 4."
Him: "Oh, really? You just seemed so... happy... I figured it was soon."
Ugh sir, I think the word you were looking for was HUGE. I'm HUGE.