August 2021 Moms
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PGAL April Check-in
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This is a check in for those of us who are experiencing pregnancy after a loss (miscarriage, chemical pregnancy, stillbirth, child loss, to name a few).
Just a reminder: there is a general loss trigger warning (TW) on this entire thread.
How far along are you? Any milestones?
How are you feeling (physically)?
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)?
Any appointment updates?
Rants/Raves?
Feel free to answer any of the prompts or simply reach out at any point in the month when you are in need of support.
Re: PGAL April Check-in
@Kenneylynn3 I hope your AS goes well and comes around quickly! I know the anxiety of waiting is so hard to deal with. Your friends reaction seems really weird. We will all raise our kids differently, if they were all raised the same we would be straight out of some weird culty book.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 22+5 milestone reached
How are you feeling (physically)? Good!
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? Pretty good. I've felt babe a ton, but every morning and from time to time if I haven't felt it for a while I give my belly some pokes and shakes to wake it up. Is that weird? I've definitely had some moments where I don't feel anything for a while and start to mildly panic.
Any appointment updates? I'm going to try and have the balls to ask for an ultrasound after 28 weeks to see if the brain cyst went away. I doubt I will actually follow through, and will just sit with my anxiety until babe is here.
Rants/Raves? None in the present moment.
@doodlemom131 I would just request one. My insurance only covers a certain amount each pregnancy, so you may have to pay out of pocket but I don't see why they would deny you something like that. Do you have a patient portal? If you're anxious about asking in person, you can email your doctor as well. May be easier to explain yourself when you have time to write it out.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 22+2 - All milestones for me were reached in the first trimester
How are you feeling (physically)? I get nauseous from time to time still. The heartburn is ramping up, and my hips/groin area are sore especially after going for a walk.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? I feel good. This baby is a mover and a shaker. I started to feel him/her around 14 weeks once in a while. At about 19/20 weeks I could feel them all the time. Now it's just all day long. Probably why it's so skinny. Spends its whole day swimming around.
Any appointment updates? I have an appointment on Thursday. Just a four week check in. Probably get the paperwork for my gestational diabetes test. Dun dun dun.... I had it with my first two so I'm anticipating I'll have it again. Which honestly, I'm fine with I guess.
Rants/Raves? No rants, but I was excited the hospital lifted their visitor ban and my husband could come to an ultrasound with me. I think it made him feel more connected to the pregnancy and the baby. He hasn't seemed as connected and I think it's because he hasn't been a part of any ultrasounds and we don't know what we're having. He can't feel the baby yet either, so I think that helped him feel more connected.
@Kenneylynn3 rude. Everyone does what they think is best.
@doodlemom131 definitely ask! I see no reason they'd say no, especially being in Canada.
My doctor sent me for a 12 week scan just to ease my mind after a MMC and I'm sure I'll get another one around 32 weeks when I ask.
@ladyk127 that's so nice that your husband could come. MH can't come to anything, and I've noticed he's way more disconnected this time around. He doesn't even want to hear baby on the doppler at home. It's weird.
@ladyk127 I'm glad YH was able to go to the ultrasound, it makes a huge difference.
I'm like 50/50 on if they'll do another scan. The last doc said we didn't need anymore ultrasounds "unless medically indicated" but I have a new OB now so will see what she says. Just got off mat leave so hopefully she's more understanding. But I know I probably won't end up asking, doctors scare me.
Plus I got my harmony results and everything is low risk! I will be talking to the clinic manager because they've had the results for over a week!
So glad the scan went well @grogu! Fingers crossed that placenta scooches out of the way.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 19W, everything passed except for 23 week PTL/ abruption.
How are you feeling (physically)? ok. tired and it just seems like i'll never have energy again. back pain is getting annoying but chiro is helping, i think.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? anxious for AS next week. sad that we're seeing much more covid in the hospital again, makes me nervous constantly. really trying to pick my mood up.
Any appointment updates? AS next week.
Rants/Raves? we've had a few nice days this past week!! i was working for all of them, but it was still nice when i got off at 4 (and i'm off today and its 70!). im so jealous of people in other climates!!
@Kenneylynn3 lol at "research shows." unless you're driving with a 1 year old in the front seat or letting a baby drink ETOH, its such BS for people to judge. i've felt judgement so bad with my kids because they were colicky, we must be doing XYZ wrong...
@doodlemom131I agree, sending a quick message saying its really causing you to stress a lot would be an easy way to go!
@grogu congrats on the good news!! thats such a relief. but holding those type of results for a whole week? thats not ok.
@BourbonBiscuits so the "research shows" that by putting kids in time-out you are severing the bond with your child. My son is 2 and is going through a hitting phase when he gets frustrated and we stop him and tell him we don't got people because it hurts and of he hits he needs to go to his bed. He only goes in there if he hits again and we get him out when he calms down so we can talk again about how we don't hit and why.
Thank you ladies, I didn't take what she said seriously. I just didn't feel like it was her place to judge and I didn't think I would get judgement from her. Her apology went something like, "I'm sorry. It might have come across as judging, but..."
@ladyk127 hope your ultrasound goes well l today!
@ladyk127 +1 for sore groin/hips! Maybe it's also a little bit because my body is not used to walking 10,000+ steps a day anymore.
@litzi-2 I hope you enjoyed your day off with the nice weather!
@doodlemom131 I would definitely ask the new OB for an ultrasound. I feel like making sure a cyst has resolved would be medically indicated?!
How far along are you? 20 weeks today.
How are you feeling (physically)? Much more human. I am attempting to wean off Diclectin. We shall see how that goes.
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? I am both excited and nervous for the AS on Monday. We got the maternal serum test back and it was negative (low risk), but I am still anxious to see baby and all their organs. I find that I am drinking a lot of orange juice to get baby to move if it's been a bit since I've noticed anything.
Any appointment updates? Just the AS on Monday and then follow-up with my doctor on Friday. She will then put in the referral to my OB (same OB I had for my first two). I also finally have my first therapy appointment next week. I hope I like the person, because finding someone/getting an appointment was kind of a process.
Rants/Raves?
After our loss in October, I bought a hand block printed heart print from one of my favourite printmakers. As like a keepsake? Reminder? Not really sure exactly. Anyway, I've rearranged our room a bit and have finally put the frame on display.
How far along are you? Any milestones? 21+4 - all milestones passed
How are you feeling (physically)? Enormous. I never really lost the early weight from my last loss, so I've just kept getting larger and larger. Nobody's concerned about my weight, I just feel like a whale already
How are you feeling (mentally/emotionally)? Feeling movement is helping a lot. I still don't think I'll relax until baby is out, but I'm feeling much better after the anatomy scan.
Any appointment updates? I realized a few days ago that this is my very first uncomplicated pregnancy ever. I've always had some kind of issue to watch out for or be nervous about, but this time everything is textbook perfect. Which is pretty amazing - I'm not sure how I would feel if I had a complication on top of the stress of being PGAL.
Rants/Raves? my skin is starting to clear up! I thought this baby was a girl the whole time because my skin was such a wreck, but I'm finally getting that pregnancy glow I remember from when i was pregnant with DS. So that's pretty awesome.