@agea Yeah, they send you a kit, you do a finger prick, send it back, get the results emailed to you within the week! My OB said she's had tons of patients do it and it's always been accurate. As long as you follow the directions and don't contaminate the sample you should be good!
We found out yesterday we are having our third boy. I cried first because I was relieved about the healthy NIPT results and then cried because it also means I’ll never have a daughter. ive had a feeling for a while now that I’m destined for all boys but I was still holding out hope that a girl might be in the cards someday. I got over it pretty quick but having a cry helped. I’d really like to let it go entirely at this point but I think that little spot of sensitivity will always be there, especially every time someone tells me “awww, but now you need a GIRL!” (also I know it doesn’t really matter but it’s still there)
@agea as a mom of 2 boys knowing this will be our last baby I'm still not sure how I'm going to feel when we find out the sex. Absolutely no judgement in mourning the fact that you won't ever have a girl - it definitely does not mean you love your boys any less! Part of me really wants this next one to be a girl...but the lazy part of me just wants another boy because I already have all the boys stuff and know what to expect with boys. My husband really really wants a girl though, so I think there will be some disappointment at first if we are having another boy.
Oh also I know it’s a flame worthy offense but the nub theory was 💯 right in my case. I got the nuchal pics right before I found out the NIPT. It seemed so obvious after reviewing a few google images and turns out it was spot on.
DH is totally against finding out the sex of the babies which I agreed to wait, but part of me is worried he will have some disappointment if we have 2 girls. I know part of him really wants a son. I know he will be happy with whatever we are blessed with, but I would rather him deal with any feeling he may have before they are born.
@agea Just wanted to say you're not alone. I have two boys and this will be our last child. Ive been trying to drown this voice out, but subconsciously I've been telling myself this is our girl, even though I know I'm jinxing myself. There are so many voices in the peanut gallery now, telling me "it's definitely a girl" "you need a girl to balance out all those boys!" etc. I'm working hard to guard my expectations and be happy with either outcome. At least if it's a boy, I know the drill by now, though I've sold/gotten rid of all my baby boy stuff. (I thought I was done having babies and entering pre-menopause when I found out I was pregnant...my boys are older 9 &14)
@Centralmnmom this was part of the reason I wanted to find this time, to deal with gender disappointment in advance and manage expectations. However I would bet that on D Day, you’ll be over the moon with whoever arrives! I know I would be.
@kissyfir1586 honestly I wish people would just STFU. All that messaging is damaging. I’m so happy with my boys and feel like I wouldn’t have any gender disappointment if it wasn’t so culturally ingrained. We have always either been team green or kept the sex a secret. This time I’m considering telling people upfront so I don’t have to listen to them projecting their desires onto my family. It’s toxic and hurtful.
As if your family is incomplete without children of both sexes.
@agea I feel this too. My MIL was disappointed when our second was a boy. She definitely treats the granddaughter different than my two boys, like she’ll buy her extra clothes and stuff and tell me “boys clothes aren’t as fun”. I don’t care about the presents I just wish she wouldn’t do that stuff in front of my boys. If this is another boy I MIGHT be tempted to try for number four but we’ll see.
@agea I agree with you, statements like that can be so inappropriate, even if the person saying it means well. I feel like it's implying a family isn't complete if they don't have children of both sexes. My MIL would LOVE a granddaughter (SIL has a 2 year old son), but I don't think she'll be disappointed. So many of DH's cousins have little girls, it's not like there's nobody to buy dresses and other frilly things for.
@agea oh I know when it comes down to it we will both be happy with whatever we are blessed with. It's just when we first talked about having kids he wanted me to make a deal that if we had 3 of either gender that we would try a 4th time for one more chance. Well that's not happening we will not be having 4 kids so this is my last pregnancy. That's why I worry that part of him will be disappointed. I know in the moment we will both happy after this 4 year long journey. Who knows. I maybe over thinking this, but I just worry.
@agea just know that your feelings are 100% valid. Im in the same boat with 2 boys. I wanted to keep it a surprise like mother 2 but DH wants to find out. I just kinda thought if its a 3rd boy on D day I'm sure I won't care with all those newborn snuggles. But maybe you're right, this way there is time to deal with amy disappointment ahead of time and start getting excited. I also thinks its so damaging to have society constantly telling us the perfect family has 1 of each. Something that helps me is thinking of all the families with 3 boys that seem so happy like Hemsworth brother or Jonas brothers lol. Give yourself time to grieve and you will be so in love when you see his precious little face
our sneak peek came back as BOY (boy #3!) I am a little hesitant since with a sneak peek if it's girl the results are 99% accurate, but if the results are boy then it's much more possible that male DNA go into the sample making the results inaccurate. I was super careful, bleached everything, and followed all the directions..but still I live with 3 males so male DNA is bound to be everywhere... I probably won't go out and buy anything until we get confirmation at the scan..but for now we will go with boy #3!
@agea I feel you and I understand 💯. I’m awaiting my results and I have 2 boys. I want a healthy baby but I know how badly I’d love a daughter too. This is the last baby for us too.
from friends that have experienced they say the hole is still there, it’s just different and of course the love for the boys is still there.
I should get the results from my NIPT test this week. Super nervous about the results, since I’m 38, but trying to stay positive. As far as the sex of the baby- I have a 5 year old boy and a 2 year old girl... so a girl would be easier since I have all the stuff and they could share a room. But... part of me wants a boy so that DD can be the center of attention still (she’s a Daddy’s Girl and it’s so sweet). I’m wondering if there would be competition with another girl?
@chewie5990 do you have to wait till your 20w scan for confirmation? Is contamination likely?
@arrowmama I hate the idea that you can have 3 perfectly healthy babes and still feel a void over the sex. It seems so ridiculous and makes me mad that that we think/feel that way. are you waiting on NIPT?
@chewie5990 My sneak peek results were right with a boy. I also have a ton of male DNA all over my house. I honestly don’t think I have heard of a false result from them.
My MIL was telling me that my SIL is just going for a blood draw at a local place that runs a test for gender. It isn’t sneak peek. I’m wondering if lots of places offer that kind of testing now.
@emeraldcity1214 I was super careful, so we are going to go with it! My friend had a false result with a boy last year with the sneak peek, so I guess that's why I feel a little hesitant. We might do a boutique u/s around 15 weeks so DS1 can come and see the baby, so we will confirm then! But we are talking about boy names now...DS1 and DH both want one name and I want another one...and I might have bought the 3 boys Christmas outfits on clearance last night...
@emeraldcity1214@chewie5990 I actually did have a false Sneak Peek result with my first. Despite thorough disinfection, I received a boy result...but found out we were having a daughter at the anatomy scan.
I had really, really wanted a girl, but the false Sneak Peek result allowed me some space to mourn that idea and get excited about a boy. I think it would’ve been harder finding out at the anatomy scan, especially in front of other people, if the result had been right. Instead, by that point, I’d adjusted and was excited either way. It was a strange blessing to get the false result.
It’s wise not to put 100% faith in the home test, specifically! Girl results are definitely more reliable than boy.
@arrowmama - I think it depends on which company your OB uses. I gave my blood at the office on 2/19 and received an email from the lab they received it on 2/26. Apparently it takes 7-10 days to process so I’m looking at earliest, this Friday and latest, next week? I’m using Myriad.
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@arrowmama depends on how long it takes to receive it at the lab. I got mine back in 13 days but had more in depth testing than standard and mine had to be sent across the country. It’s possible to get it in a week though. I spent some time researching while I was waiting. What brand and when did they draw it?
Question about the NIPT test and being team green. Is there anything that you sign or a box you check that says you don't want to have the sex reported to you? We really don't want to know the sex ahead of time and I'm afraid it will just be there on the report and we'll find out by mistake.
@emeraldduchess I spoke to my OB yesterday because we want the gender to go to a friend so she can organize a gender reveal for us... the doctor said what usually happens is that the nurse will call you to tell you your results are back, whether or not they are normal, and ask if you want to know the gender.
Thanks, @emeraldcity1214 and @runningonindie! I just had my intake appointment today and they wrote all over my chart that we want to keep the sex a surprise.
Well, I was too impatient and did the sneak peek test.com and I just got the results. Looks like I’m having my 3rd boy. Definitely feeling all the emotions.
it’s the 7th boy in a row for the family, last baby and my niece was pretty broken hearted being left as the only girl. And my boys really really wanted a sister sooo it’s definitely a hard night. Obviously I’m happy it’s a baby and is healthy but it’s just hard at the moment. 😭😭😭
@arrowmama having a big cry helped me immensely. I then spent a couple days processing and reading forums on gender disappointment to help me validate and move past it. I will say I feel a lot better after a little time and have committed myself to feeling more positively about it.
The next generation may need strong girls but it also needs good men and I intend to raise them. all the hugs, your feelings are so valid.
@arrowmamafor what it’s worth...MH is the youngest of 3 boys. As adults, the brothers are still closer than almost any siblings I know. I LOVE hearing stories about their childhood because they have so many ridiculous ones.
@arrowmama I don't want to give you false hope..but I also got boy for my sneak peek results, but I'm not really putting my full trust in it. It's very easy to get a false boy result (especially if since you - like me - also live with 3 boys already and I'm sure their DNA is all over the place). I was super careful and followed all the directions but I'm not telling anyone it's a boy until it's confirmed by u/s.
Re: The Sex Thread
ive had a feeling for a while now that I’m destined for all boys but I was still holding out hope that a girl might be in the cards someday. I got over it pretty quick but having a cry helped. I’d really like to let it go entirely at this point but I think that little spot of sensitivity will always be there, especially every time someone tells me “awww, but now you need a GIRL!”
(also I know it doesn’t really matter but it’s still there)
I hope it works out whatever’s best for your family! I try to think that is the case for us.
@kissyfir1586 honestly I wish people would just STFU. All that messaging is damaging. I’m so happy with my boys and feel like I wouldn’t have any gender disappointment if it wasn’t so culturally ingrained. We have always either been team green or kept the sex a secret. This time I’m considering telling people upfront so I don’t have to listen to them projecting their desires onto my family. It’s toxic and hurtful.
from friends that have experienced they say the hole is still there, it’s just different and of course the love for the boys is still there.
@arrowmama I hate the idea that you can have 3 perfectly healthy babes and still feel a void over the sex. It seems so ridiculous and makes me mad that that we think/feel that way.
are you waiting on NIPT?
I had really, really wanted a girl, but the false Sneak Peek result allowed me some space to mourn that idea and get excited about a boy. I think it would’ve been harder finding out at the anatomy scan, especially in front of other people, if the result had been right. Instead, by that point, I’d adjusted and was excited either way. It was a strange blessing to get the false result.
anyone know how long NIPT results take to get 🤪
(You ok?)
it’s the 7th boy in a row for the family, last baby and my niece was pretty broken hearted being left as the only girl. And my boys really really wanted a sister sooo it’s definitely a hard night. Obviously I’m happy it’s a baby and is healthy but it’s just hard at the moment. 😭😭😭
I will say I feel a lot better after a little time and have committed myself to feeling more positively about it.
all the hugs, your feelings are so valid.
Just FYI though I know quite a few women who got incorrect boy results on sneekpeak...it is easy to contaminate especially with a house full of boys.