I’m kind of scared need help!

Re: I’m kind of scared need help!

• poppins123 member

  February 2021

  There are websites where you can put your due date and they then tell you the most likely dates of conception. They suggest if you're due May 1st, the most probable conception dates are August 6-10, but that it is possible intercourse anywhere between 31 July and 15 August could have lead to the pregnancy. So most likely your boyfriend, but not impossible for it to be the other person. 
  

  

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• meggyme member

  February 2021

  Ava14 said:

  Okay so last summer me and my boyfriend were having a lot of relationship problems and we broke up I met someone and I slept with him unprotected. I am now 8mths pregnant and I don’t know if he’s the dad or my boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend are back togther now and I’m so scared  because I’m not sure if it’s his baby or other guys baby. I slept with the guy on Aug.15th then again on aroun Aug 26th .... I am due May 1st I think I slept with boyfriend the beginning of august  
  or end of July I can’t remember the exact date.. I need help figuring this out it’s driving me crazy!! Please no judge mental rude comments!! 

  
  

  Stuck in the box.
  
  I don’t mean for this to be taken as a judgement, but you’re likely to take it that way. I hope that he is aware that you slept with someone else when you broke up both for his own sexual health and so he knows that there is some chance that the baby you are carrying might be someone else’s. I also hope that you have not gone the last 8 months, or whatever part of that time that you’ve been back together, letting him assume that this is his baby with no possibility that it could be someone else’s. If you have not told him that you had sex with someone else and that someone else could be the father of your child you need to make sure you have a safe place to stay (if you are living together) and tell him. It will probably suck and it may mean the end of your relationship, but it will only be worse if he ever finds out in the future after months, years, decades of assuming he is the biological father and is not.
  

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• harpseal135 member

  February 2021

  If you have not been upfront and honest with your boyfriend, then the honesty aspect if your relationship is shot.  
  
  I agree with Meggyme and what she says.  
  
  The only way to know for sure is paternity tests.  Due dates are only estimates, nit an exact science.  Some babies are born before their due dates, others on their due dates others after their due dates, do honestly, due date isn't going to be most accurate.  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  March 2021

  ...aaaand she never comes back.
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• stacemom member

  April 2021

  BusinessWife said:

  ...aaaand she never comes back.
  
  

  And what will your reaction if she ever comes back? lol

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• nicademus20 member

  December 2021

  I wanted to know how this turned out! 
  One of my male friends found out he wasn't the father of his then-girlfriend's baby and she revealed it in the delivery room. They were both 17 at the time. 
  He left, of course, but then did return to find out once the shock wore off. The hurt doesn't though, he never truly trusted another woman since. 
  He wasn't the father but did stay in her life until other circumstances ended that. 
  But it is a "expect them to be shocked/hurt, but tell them because lies are only protecting yourself and making the situation hurt more as time goes on and the lie becomes harder to rectify". 
  Another friend I had gave up her children way, way back when she chose hard drugs over raising them. The one was less than a year old so when he grew up he believed the woman that raised him was his birth mother. So when she found her children again when they were 16 and 18, there was a social worker and therapist there to say to the 16 y.o. that he'd been lied to his entire life. 
  He did see a therapist for a long while after that, and was eventually happy to have 2 mothers that did care for him. 
  I hope this OP did tell them both. Keeping up lies is exhausting too, not worth it in the long run.

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