All sounds good to me, with the criteria for a “love it” to be someone who has been participating throughout the length of our pregnancy, as opposed to anyone who has posted in the intro thread.
While I am on board with making sure we screen out the creepy fake account baby thieves, I don't want to exclude those who are just a little to shy to be posting regularly. Some moms might just feel more comfortable observing rather than posting. Not everyone is as outgoing as we are and I would hate to exclude the introverts.
@theblondebump I agree and think that’s fair. We’re a fairly small group and I think it’ll be pretty straightforward as long as like @kvh22 said, it’s not a popularity contest.
I took a peek over at a couple other BMB groups and saw that some also incorporated a “spreadsheet” thread about this far along that everyone puts their info in to kinda get an idea of how many active participants there are. It seemed to be an initial step to show interest in getting added to the private group for a lot of them and kept things organized in one place.
This all makes sense, I think. I agree with @theblondebump, although I see where you're coming from @aguamala. I think that most of us are going for a more close-knit group of active participants though, so maybe if anyone hasn't really been a contributor they could keep watching what is happening on TB rather than migrating and watching there? Just throwing that out there.
Does anyone want to volunteer to start the process?
@aguamala I'm 100% an introvert. They definitely come in all shapes and sizes but we've compared Meyers Briggs results in other BMBs and I'd say 75%+ are. That's kind of why a lot of ppl turn to TB in the first place. I think the concern is lurkers who we don't know. But if we have this transition for he private group take a week (or longer) we can give ppl a chance to post now that they know it's happening 🤷
@juliebird6 I agree with you, I'm still not comfortable posting my picture or pictures of my son on a private bump group, but understand if the group wants that prior to a FB group..
@bbrahmbhatt I’m willing to start the private group and believe I’ve figured out how if no one is opposed to me doing so? Little confusing to find but believe I’m in the right place on the computer. If someone else would rather, I can try and explain where to go or at least give the right direction. Haha.
After making it, the first step would be to make a thread everyone puts a meme or says “I’d like to join” to be voted on, right? Then from there, depending on if we want a secret group or just private, you ask to join the group (private) or I send an invite(secret) to those members who get 5 love its.
@eahayes@juliebird I have also seen groups who don’t like the idea of sharing pics in the forum and other personals even in a private group use the message option instead. It could be that once you’ve received 5 love its you send the maker of the private group the verification photo we all decide upon to their TB inbox, they verify the votes needed to the username and invite or accept them into the private group. This could be done once using the private group as well to verify migration to FB as well?
Would that maybe work for those not comfortable sharing in the threads?
@bluey101321 my last BMB only did the verification photo for FB. Basically everyone gets vetted as active to the private group and then you have to post your photo for the FB transition to an album in the FB group within x number of days. I'm open to doing it in a different order but that worked for my last group and they were pretty strict.
Agree that we don’t need a verification photo until FB. I don’t think it’s necessary here. I’m going to continue to participate in the same way as I have been though (no face in pics, no pics of kids, etc.), so hopefully that’s okay.
@kvh22 Ah okay, I getcha, yeah probably overkill and unnecessary for the photo to be done to stay here too. Lol. I think the send a message option would work for those that are against posting the pic when it is time to go to FB? I think I will start the voting thread and make the private group then since it seems the route most are okay with. With the group being private, it will be visible under the groups tab in the community threads but everyone will have to ask to join before viewing any of the content. The secret options means I’d have to send invites to each person which I worry about IT issues getting in the way. Sound like a plan?
What do you think of the message option later @juliebird6 and of course that’s okay, it’s whatever you feel comfortable with. I was just trying to find another route to where the verification is there but not out there for the world like the concern seems to be
@kvh22 yes I am on board to go to a private board and then if others want to migrate to FB later then that’s cool, too. I missed 17 posts from this afternoon so if there’s anything I need to do let me know! I would feel much more comfortable sharing there as we get closer. @bluey101321 are you setting it up? If so, thank you!
@BuckeyeNut05 Yes, I am going to start setting it up! I'll start a discussion thread for the voting that explains the process we've come up with in this thread and then post the private group name once it is done as well. After the name is posted, anyone that asks to join the group I will verify the 5 love its needed before accepting. Then we should be up and running (privately) in no time.
The Private Group Migration Request/Voting thread is up for those wanting to join! The Private Group is also up and titled April 2021 Moms. If I left anything out or anyone is confused, please let me know. A bit tricky once I got into it but I think I did it right. Lol.
The group is supposed to be visible when looking under community>groups>new groups but I was hoping someone can double check that when you click on it, it doesn’t grant access without approval? If not, I will change it to “secret” and then will have to send invites to everyone with the votes.
Are we just planning to run the private group exactly the same as we've been doing this one? I'm wondering when we should transition to only posting there instead of here and there?
@juliebird6@bbrahmbhatt Ditto! I was wondering the same and how to get it going. Lol. I think somewhere up this thread it was suggested keeping it much the same as here in regard to the threads we have going but hopefully being able to share more in the Birth Announcement thread, HDBD thread, etc. Once everyone is over there I think this forum will go pretty quiet. It was also suggested having the private group for a good week or so before migrating further to another platform once we saw who all would follow and could figure out a screening plan from there. There would still be activity in the private group for those not wanting to go to FB or whichever platform it ends up being, just not much here in this public one.
@kvh22 Thoughts? Your suggestions have been so helpful since you have more experience with BMBs and help to get a consensus with everyone😁
I would probably say we can start any of the threads we have going there - like a new Feb Appts thread but maybe not a check in thread for this week since it's already Wednesday. Then add HDBD, Symptoms (if we want that although I notice that hasn't been one we have had), etc. over there. Thoughts?
@kvh22 Sounds good to me! @juliebird6 was brave and broke the ice over there with starting the HDBD thread so that’s up. I’m heading to my 30wk appt now so will have an update after for Feb Appts if someone else doesn’t get it going before that. Probably could get the Birth Announcements thread up too, I know we have one mama looking like she will be having her baby very soon. I think we’re off to a good start
I missed this thread. So no FB? I hate the bump and was waiting to see if there would be a transition to FB where I spend most of my time. The bump constantly logs me out and the app doesn’t work well. Anyone going to Facebook? I’m still in my December 2015 FB group and have actually met some of the moms/kids IRL which was nice.
Re: Migration?
Does anyone want to volunteer to start the process?
@bluey101321 are you setting it up? If so, thank you!