@AKuzReve we told my MIL a few days ago and got a less than thrilled response as well. She has told my H repeatedly that many of his family didn't agree with us having so many kids. Honestly after this, we are pretty sure it was just her...
I really try to have this, if they don't pay the bills or provide for the kids they have zero say, outlook. But since my mom passed away when I was pregnant with my last, it hurts pretty bad.
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Yeah it’s super annoying because they see him in person 1-2 times a year (we live 6000kms away) so they have no real impact other than 2 to love. She literally said I’ll have to split my love? Like you’re not the mom you weirdo. They don’t babysit. They don’t have financial contribution. Literally no impact on them. So if we planned and are happy, then no real reason others shouldn’t be too.
Ugh I do not get people like this. I’m so sorry y’all have had such crummy responses from family ♥️ I’m fortunate my in-laws are kind, big-hearted, polite people and that my family lives far away and is generally disinterested 😆
The judgement and shade from anyone (much less family!!!) just makes zero sense to me. When people tell me they are having a kid, I’m like 👍. A cousin recently had a kid at 16 and everyone was like 👀 but I was like she is choosing to have a baby stop trying to 💩 on herand let her have some joy in the experience of motherhood lol. I am so relieved to be out of work due to COVID so that I will not have to deal with this kind of bull in the workplace. I got *so* much sh*t for having a third kid here, I felt like I had to justify my reasons for having the family I have because other people had a different idea of what my family should look like. lol -end rant-
This is kind of a segue off of @bkjade but I feel like a lot of it really comes down to people need to mind their own business about other peoples vaginas. Why don’t you have kids yet/more kids/so many kids/etc is not necessary. It’s also rude. I get huge when I’m pregnant. Not looking forward to comments such as you have to be so far along/sure it’s not twins/look ready to pop/etc. And then after the baby is born not looking forward to strangers coming up to the baby. Stay away, covid or not. If it’s not involving you or your partners reproductive activities shut. up. and mind your own business
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I also got so many comments on how huge I was last pregnancy.... stfu!!! Don't you think I KNOW HOW HUGE I AM? And YES I PROMISE THERE IS ONLY ONE BABY IN THERE!!! Omg, still so angry - like complete strangers would ask!! TBH I already am feeling huge because of the bloat... it's going to be the same journey for me I think.
@canucklehead123 yep I was so huge that xlarge and xxlarge maternity shirts struggled to cover my belly all the way. I’m super short and have a short torso so these babes grow straight out
@daisy528 yes! Sooo good. This is basically that but without the whipping bc #lazy
@AKuzReve ugh I’m so sorry to you and everyone else dealing with that negativity. I made it clear early on I wanted a big family so people wouldn’t say obnoxious things. They still will I’m sure, but why do they even care if they don’t have to pay for the kids??
it makes me so sad that so many of our moms/families have such cruddy responses to our pregnancies. I’m dreading telling both my mom and my MIL. Both thought we should have stopped at two because we had a girl and a boy. All the eyerolls.
I know we are still internet strangers for the most part, but I am so excited for each and everyone of you and I’m looking forward to continuing this journey with y’all 💜
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I really try to have this, if they don't pay the bills or provide for the kids they have zero say, outlook. But since my mom passed away when I was pregnant with my last, it hurts pretty bad.
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The judgement and shade from anyone (much less family!!!) just makes zero sense to me. When people tell me they are having a kid, I’m like 👍. A cousin recently had a kid at 16 and everyone was like 👀 but I was like she is choosing to have a baby stop trying to 💩 on her and let her have some joy in the experience of motherhood lol. I am so relieved to be out of work due to COVID so that I will not have to deal with this kind of bull in the workplace. I got *so* much sh*t for having a third kid here, I felt like I had to justify my reasons for having the family I have because other people had a different idea of what my family should look like. lol -end rant-
Edited because I tried to add a gif but apparently I’m not smart enough
I also got so many comments on how huge I was last pregnancy.... stfu!!! Don't you think I KNOW HOW HUGE I AM? And YES I PROMISE THERE IS ONLY ONE BABY IN THERE!!! Omg, still so angry - like complete strangers would ask!! TBH I already am feeling huge because of the bloat... it's going to be the same journey for me I think.
@AKuzReve ugh I’m so sorry to you and everyone else dealing with that negativity. I made it clear early on I wanted a big family so people wouldn’t say obnoxious things. They still will I’m sure, but why do they even care if they don’t have to pay for the kids??
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