August Symptoms

1sttimemomma98 · August 2020

+1 to all of the lower back pain, and I’m the least furthest along out of all of you ladies so I can only imagine it’ll get worse😂

also unrelated but my cravings have been kicking my ASS lately. I was diagnosed with celiacs this past year (meaning no more gluten for the rest of my life woohoo!). usually it doesn’t bother me at all, but I swear I’ve been craving allllll the gluten this past week. I’m talking pasta, donuts, bread and butter, the works. Don’t get me wrong there are some good alternatives out there, but I’m craving the real thing!!

bserena · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 lady you are strong! Gluten free is difficult, I have tried in the past to cut out dairy and gluten because of digestive issues and it is a challenge. Especially being pregnant with cravings!!

lurvleybunchococonuts · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 bummer at the celiacs

I don't think I could survive w/ no gluten. I mean obviously if it made me sick that'd be a big deterrent, but dang... good luck!

potofgolden · August 2020

@lurvleybunchococonuts sending virtual hugs to your hidey hole. < lmao that sounds weird. Maybe try reading some uplifting material or watching a feel good movie before falling asleep to put you in a good dream mood.

@mia80 We bathed DD every few days as an infant. When she was a few months old her doctor suggested to feed, bathe, and read to baby as part of her night time routine. We tried it, but I can’t keep to routines for 💩... And I was always feeding her. I wish we had because a toddler with a routine would be fantastic!
DD is 17 mo now and we usually bathe after she eats dinner, because she demands to feed herself.

One time she ate after being in PJs and I found a chicken nuggie in her footie pjs the next morning 🤦🏼‍♀️. No wonder the dogs were being so obsessed with her! 🤣
I just noticed her sandals and feet were stinky for the first time the other day... it made me sad, the good baby smell is going away.😭

wychets · August 2020

Heartburnnnnnn, tums seems to help me. I have to take breaks in between doing things like I can brush my teeth & shower but then I need to sit down for a few mins to catch my breath. I am tired, I feel like I need a nap every 2 hours. The pressure when I walk/stand feels like he's trying to come out of me!!! I'm HOT and my family is cold, they better layer up!!! And lastly, I pee at LEAST 3-4 times a night, sometimes there's a lot, and sometimes it feels like a lot and that I can't hold i tony for it to be a few drops smh.

lurvleybunchococonuts · August 2020

@potofgolden I'm dying at your DD having a chicken nugget hidden in her footie

she was saving that for later mom! I'll def try a feel good movie before bed tonight and LMAO at the hidey hole hugs

acdc1109 · August 2020

@potofgolden It must be the age! DS2 is 22 months and I have found cheerios (among other foods) in his diaper! 😆 Also, one of my friends has the schedule of bath, story, bed for her 2 year old and I just don't know how she does it! We can barely keep the 3-4 times a week bath schedule we currently have!
I think this might have been mentioned before but anyone struggling with SPD? I've got terrible pelvic pain (mostly at night but also when I get up in the morning). I couldn't find any good resources on yoga poses or excercises for this so I was hoping someone else might?

mia80 · August 2020

@potofgolden Hahahaha I love the chicken nugget! I'm just picturing the dogs

1sttimemomma98 · August 2020

@bserena @lurvleybunchococonuts it was definitely an adjustment! I’ve had no issues since then but damn these cravings came outta nowhere 😂

babywiik · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 why did you have to mention donuts?!?! Now I want a maple bar!!!!😉 I feel you on cravings! I'm not gluten free but I'm far away from a lot of the yummy stuff I crave! My sister is quite healthy and she says that cravings get worse when our bodies need minerals/nutrients/something is missing? Which makes sense but I'd rather eat donuts and chocolate than vitamins😆 a different note, if you like to bake there are a lot if really good GF recipes out there. A lot more options in stores nowadays too. 3 of my sister's are GF so my mom has done lots of experimenting with recipes and I prefer some of her GF stuff over non-GF.

lurvleybunchococonuts · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 I know this isn't helpful, but good lord... reminds me of my mom trying out a new recipe for Thanksgiving one year (this was probably like close to 10 years ago) she decided to make GF stuffing *barf* it was the grossest thing on the planet

Granted I imagine things are a lot better now than 10 years ago, but ughhh... That memory will forever haunt me. It had this weird orange tinge to it and was a mushy texture and just *shudder*

@babywiik wait... chocolate isn't a vitamin? Well shiiiiii...

Ecat504 · August 2020

@mia80
With DD1 she got a bath every night, totally unnecessary, but it made for a smoother bed time routine for us - so we went with it.

DD2 got a bath like twice a week I guess? Maybe 3 times if she was lucky lol.

Babies don't do anything, and unless they get sweaty / gross from sleeping or being in warm clothes or blankets I don't know that they need baths super frequently (or you know like a poopsplosion or something)...

Ecat504 · August 2020

@lurvleybunchococonuts I have to disagree - there are definitely stupid questions (this was not one of them though, lol). But if you come up in here asking if it's ok to give your 2 1/2 month old Oreo's I'm definitely judging tf out of you.

1sttimemomma98 · August 2020

@bserena @lurvleybunchococonuts @babywiik it was definitely an adjustment! I’ve had no issues since then but damn these cravings came outta nowhere 😂 but yes luckily things are muuuuch better for gf options nowadays. I just made some yummy fudgy brownies last week to tide myself over

lalarose22 · August 2020

Cannot. Stop. Eating. 😳 I swear I am a bottomless pit all of a sudden!

lurvleybunchococonuts · August 2020

@ecat504 LMAO okay, I'll agree with you there! Feeding oreos to a 2.5 mo is def judgement (or at the very least questioning their sanity) worthy

That HAD to be someone trolling to ask something that bizarre

mtengl · August 2020

@lurvleybunchococonuts I haven't heard back yet, but going to call tomorrow to check. I don't know!! She literally smears it over her body and head and I am like come on kid! And then she wants me to pick her up so I get dirty. Thankfully she doesn't mind jumping into showers with me.

name1109 · August 2020

Just wanted to continue to normalize postpartum problems (depression/anxiety....whatever the tears and sorrow are called). I’m pretty excited to have found some in network family therapists. I called them all yesterday to get something started. I think a weekly session will help me. Just wanted to share in case anyone has antepartum or post difficulties. I’m 3/3 in the PPD/PPA department. So maybe this will help too.

1sttimemomma98 · August 2020

@name1109 I’m glad you found some in network options! I definitely think weekly sessions can come in handy and it would be nice to know your options ahead of time.

my current therapist is pretty sure that I’ll deal with some version of PPA/PPD given my mental health issues without pregnancy. my mom on the other hand (my main support person) has explicitly told me that “PPD isn’t real, it’s just people looking for an excuse to complain”. which is disheartening , because I know that is obviously not true. wishing she was more supportive in case I do struggle, but glad that my current therapist is on board to discuss PPA/PPD!

lurvleybunchococonuts · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 😳😩 I'm so sorry your mom is less than supportive in that way. PPD/PPA is a beast and very real. I'm glad your therapist is on board and will hopefully be keeping a cloae eye on you, but you need to have supportive people at home/nearby too

surlyjaneausten · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 that is disappointing that your mom would say that. I’m glad you already have a therapist you can talk to. My mom was very standoffish about the topic of PPA and therapy in general. Something I learned recently is that some people who are generally supportive might not be included in a support circle for certain topics. It doesn’t make them bad friends, but they may be dealing with their own shame/uncertainty/whatever it may be and can’t provide you the help you need with that area of your life. Being on the ball about PPD and PPA is such a good idea rather than suffering from it!

name1109 · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 I’m not sure how much to share. I just know that the first year of baby is generally misery for me. Or generally is. It’s a year where I feel a sense of falling, inability to get things done, a TON of tears. I love all my babies. My body goes right back to pre-pregnancy size and I LOOK normal.

I realized something was wrong when I asked a first time mom if she was okay after she’d had her baby. Her look of utter confusion tipped me off something might be wrong with me.

For me, there are mitigation factors that help me. For me, I was often alone as we’ve been far from family so support was usually online. There weren’t therapists in the area (Japan) or that I could find so I’m hoping that helps this time. But for me setting a routine was a really big deal. Like stupid big deal. My daily goals/success was showering, getting dressed, putting on make up, eating breakfast, taking daily vitamins, and getting outside. Most of our babes are winter babies so snow, ice and the flu were major concerns. However vitamin D is so key. I’m a massive extrovert and for the last three babies I’ve felt isolated which was really hard. Starting with baby 2 I just started traveling (not an option this time). Whether omega 3/fish oil capsules help or not ... they helped me.

This time I’m taking my longest maternity leave. Usually at 2 weeks I’m DYING to go back to work. I’ve found some local PPD/PPA support groups, some mommy (social distance) work out groups, and a hiking group for moms/babies.

I’m hoping to have a weekly therapy session, the monthly support group, and then weekly work out/hikes to help me normalize. For me, I’ve found the fallingness/lost sense stops when I stop breastfeeding. I BF #1 until 22 months, #2 and #3 were basically a year when I stopped. I’ve been hesitant to take Zoloft while BFing but that’s me. The bottom line is GET HELP. Also no baby died from being gently being put down in the crib while you walk away and cry for a bit. We celebrate that in our family. Take care of you so you can take care of baby girl.

Sorry for the long post but thought I’d share in case this helps someone. PPD/PPA is very much real and hard. It’s not something to be ashamed of. For me it’s like knowing I’m going to have the flu in two-three months. I’m prepping for it. If it doesn’t happen this time-awesome. Otherwise I have a plan.

babywiik · August 2020

@name1109 and other STM+ thank you for sharing your experiences! Like was sort of mentioned, not everyone is comfortable talking about mental health and not everyone is able to be a support person to those struggling. I have started a list of things to do/try that you guys have said worked for you so I can be proactive and have some tools to work with for if/when I need them. I've learned a lot from the conversations here, things I've never thought about and therefore wouldnt think to ask. Please continue to share and be open!

crizz13 · August 2020

I just wanted to chime in about PPA. I struggled with my first. A LOT....but not right away. I was actually ok(ish) in the immediate pp and it was flagged by my daughter's pediatrician at her 3 month well visit. I've learned that sleep is a huge trigger for me. Don't be afraid to reach out.

1sttimemomma98 · August 2020

@name1109 thank you so much for sharing your story. it was honestly extremely helpful for me because routines are a huge part of my regular depression treatment! so I’ll be sure to prep and keep on them during postpartum.

as all of you ladies have mentioned getting help is definitely key, and while I’m still looking for a more immediate support person, I’m really glad to have my current therapist and this group! it’s comforting knowing that it’s something other people have struggled with. and that it doesn’t last forever!

I’ll definitely look into local groups for more support as well. thank you all 💛

hedgepig · August 2020

@1sttimemomma98 I think that it's so incredible that you are already thinking about this and have it on your radar. I'm really sorry that your folks seem so unsupportive (of your emotional needs at least), but it sounds like you're doing a good job of reaching out and building your own support system. If you haven't checked it out yet (I know it's been recommended several other times on here), you might check out the Birth Hour podcast - many, many of the stories are from women who struggled with pre or post partum anxiety/depression/OCD. It might be helpful to hear them talk about how that manifested for them and how they dealt with it (and how things got better). And they often share resources too.
I had a few bad days of baby blues with DS, but luckily nothing lasting. If that feeling had lasted, you betcha I would have been seeking help because it was unlike anything I had ever experienced before. But, FWIW, like @name1109 said, routines were also really helpful for me. I had to get up, shower, get dreased, go for a walk. Think also about what self care routines are the most important for you - I know for some people the lack of sleep is really triggering for their depression, for others not eating regularly can be very problematic, etc, so if you already have a sense of what you need to prioritize you can plan ahead. And don't be afraid to accept or ask for help - I know Covid makes this harder than ever, but you gotta do what you gotta do to protect your mental health. Your baby needs you healthy, so never forget that you are a priority as well.

1sttimemomma98 · August 2020

@hedgepig thank you I’ll definitely check the podcast out!

mtengl · August 2020

I had PPA with DD. During the pregnancy I was off anxiety meds the whole time and actually doing great, which for me was odd. I have been on anxiety meds for a while and honestly been dealing with anxiety and depression since I was 12, but didn't get help until I was in my 20s. When DD was a couple week olds all my anxiety came back and PPA was pretty bad in concerns with SIDs that is where I put all my focus.... She rolled onto her side within the first two weeks and I literally held her the whole night and didn't sleep. I ended up going back onto meds shortly after that. A lot of women worry that it will affect their milk production but I didn't have that issue. I have been on the same thing since DD was a newborn. The minute you start not to feel okay, start to voice it for sure. Having a newborn is tough, you don't get much sleep, you have a new baby to worry about all the time, and you tend to neglect yourself and own needs. Like others said mental health is something we try to hide.. Hopefully we keep strong as a group after the babies because it really does help to be reassured yeah go get yourself help and take of yourself from people who are going through the same stages with a baby.

bserena · August 2020

Re: PPA and PPD. I am so glad we are discussing this openly! I suffer from both anxiety and depression (and insomnia) but came off of all meds when I found out I was pregnant. I have honestly felt pretty good considering, so I am grateful for that. I am going into this assuming that I will most likely struggle with PPA or PPD (or both) and have already talked to my OB a bit about it and have told my husband, my mom and my closest friends what to watch out for. I hope by having these discussions with everyone, that even if I don't recognize that I need help, others will. I told my husband if it seems really bad he has my permission to call my OB himself, lol! But I just wanted to cover my bases now. I can't see the future, and while it would be nice to not have to get back on everything while breastfeeding, if I need to I absolutely will.

Also, I recently found out that the hospital I will be giving birth in actually has a post-partum moms support group. Definitely worth looking into!

mtengl · August 2020

@bserena That is really great you are being proactive. Yeah I was surprised how well I did with my last pregnancy and anxiety since it is always something I have suffered from.

name1109 · August 2020

@bserena I’m right there with you. I can’t sit in the shadows and pretend they don’t exist.

bundleofjoy4iluvu · August 2020

I will be 27 weeks on Friday. Is anyone experiencing vaginal cramps? TMI I know it isn't sex related we haven't had sex this week. When I go for walks I get Braxton hicks and vaginal cramps. I don't walk miles or anything just around the the neighborhood.
My appointment is tomorrow. I'm hoping he will tell me everything is okay.

teachingbp · August 2020

@bundleofjoy4iluvu I am sure it's normal, but so smart to ask! Pregnancy does weird things.

lurvleybunchococonuts · August 2020

I think I need more sleep... or caffeine. Because my brain is broken this AM. So here is an ode to my hips and pelvis...

Achey achey pains and pops, please hold together, don't let my babies drop! Rolling over is a futile goal, watch out don't step in that hole! Waddling like an overweight duck, feels like I've been hit by a truck. Let me survive this last trimester, as I sit here and fester because this waddling duck no longer gives a waddling F***!

And funny story, my 21mo daughter was mimicking my waddle with the hands on the back yesterday afternoon

she and my SD think they are soooooo funny LMAO. Plus she knows I can't catch her easily anymore so she plays the just stay out of momma's reach game and run away giggling

babywiik · August 2020

@lurvleybunchococonuts hahahaha!!!! I love the ode to your hips and pelvis 🤣🤣🤣 and your daughters! 🤣🤣

lurvleybunchococonuts · August 2020

@babywiik they are a riot, especially together. Oh, and they get jealous of each other's toys

(there is an 8 year age difference between them). The toddler wants all of the 9yo's toys and the 9yo steals and plays with the toddler's toys *facepalm* I can just envision the absolute chaos my life will be one the twins are here. I'm gonna be doomed if all 4 girls ever gang up together

surlyjaneausten · August 2020

My feet and legs have gone from slightly swollen to full on bear paws in a few short weeks. I just ordered some shoes a full size up because trying on my normal size was just embarrassing. Also I got a pain in my wrist that radiated up my arm over several hours last night. I know carpal tunnel is normal but i was freaking myself out by googling blood clots. Anyone else feel like they read about possible symptoms on The Bump or another pregnancy site and the symptoms decide to show up the next day? 🙄

laurenmicheley · August 2020

@surlyjaneausten Ugh! Sounds awful! I ordered 3 pairs of Comrad compression socks which feel really good and are kind of cute, too - in order to combat any foot/ankle edema. I'm definitely a victim of reading a symptom and then developing it the next day. I suggest icy-hot for your arm discomfort (I get nerve pain sporadically down my arm due to a neck injury and find it to be helpful). Hope you feel better!

surlyjaneausten · August 2020

@laurenmicheley I will look into those socks and try the icy hot! Thank you!

teachingbp · August 2020

I have started having full on hot flashes. I was finishing a virtual meeting today (I was leading of course) and had to actually fan myself.

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