November 2020 Moms

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  • @windywoman don't doubt yourself, report your co-worker! There's even an Ask a Manager today with a similar question (#2 at the link). With COVID, a lot of times I feel like I am in your boat of 'maybe I'm overthinking it' but then I look at the graphs for the US and think about how many people who have died and... that puts it back in perspective.
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  • Anyone have any thoughts regarding starting a high risk/MFM group check-in or just general post?  I know @mama-buckets commented regarding high risk specialist and I have my first appt with MFM the 21st for Baby B's cord/checking her measurements.  Off the top of my head I don't know who else is currently seeing MFM or is labelled as "high risk".

    @Ecat504 LMFAO how dare you judge her for feeding her baby oreos ;):D her baby, her choice *eyeroll eyeroll eyeroll*

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  • @lurvleybunchococonuts I have marginal cord insertion but am not seeing an MFM as of yet, but I do think a dedicated check-in for MFM/"high-risk" thread would be helpful!
  • @Ecat504 Thank you! Things are much better, although I am back home all week next week lol. I think my body just needed to adjust to getting up and staying up, at home I just had my laptop in the bed with me.
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  • Random Question - we got invited to DH's cousin's wedding in mid-October. The wedding is about a 2.5 hour drive from home, but it is a day wedding so wouldn't *necessarily* require us to spend the night anywhere...especially because I obviously won't be drinking. 

    Our girls are not invited, but my parents would probably be fine watching them.

    I don't think I'd be too pregnant to go, but I'm wondering about the COVID factor. We have to RSVP by August 10 and I just feel like that is coming up quickly. I don't know how big of a wedding it is, how much will be outside/inside, etc. If we do go, I wouldn't want to be paranoid or worried the whole time. 

    Thoughts? 



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  • @crizz13 I’d wonder if it’s an outdoor wedding and if masks are expected. I would think lots of people wouldn’t wear masks to a wedding. Personally it would be a no for me. That’s a lot of driving while pretty pregnant. 
  • Oh boy I’m hoping we don’t get anything too crazy! I’m a FTM so I have 0 experience with crazies on BMBs. My drama this week though was my unstable aunt making fun my autistic godson for being nonverbal (my other aunt’s 5 yr old son). So needless to say the whole family is taking a break from her 🙄 I am sorry but there are some things you can’t take back once they’re said!!
  • @1sttimemomma98 that is TERRIBLE.



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  • @crizz13 I think our travel will be limited if not, non-existent starting 01 October.  If the same protocols are in place at my hospital as they are now, finding them out while I was in L&D last week was enough to scare the living crap out of me, so I will be taking all precautions to lock it down.  I do agree with @hedgepig that maybe a simple reach out to them to determine what steps they are planning on taking during the ceremony/reception would be a great idea to gauge your comfort level!
  • My coworker and I are going to be going out on maternity leave within about 2 weeks of each other (she's due at the end of October and I'm having baby on 11/10). My boss has made ZERO preparations for this despite her and I both trying to help him prepare several times. (We have to train whoever comes in).

    Last year my coworker had a baby and they put off hiring anyone, and it all but forced her to come back to work 3 weeks postpartum, and I hate to be the bearer of bad news but I don't like this place that much.... I will be enjoying my 6-8 weeks with baby girl.
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  • @ecat504 ugh, my work hasn't even begun discussing how long they will give me/what the plan will be. I am super worried about how it is all going to work out. I hope your boss comes around soon so you guys can get a plan into place!!
  • Wedding is October 10, due November 23 so it's not crazy close. I'm such a planner I'm trying to figure out all these fall things for us, and it's driving me absolutely crazy that there are so many unknowns. 



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  • So even with the amount of working out I am trying to do, this hot and disgusting weather has my thighs touching and making me SO uncomfortable.  My friend bought these and tried them out last week and said they stayed up all day and are literally the best thing she has ever purchased.  My pair is arriving tomorrow, but I wanted to post in case anyone is in the same boat with me in dresses and the summertime heat lol.

    https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08429ZKTS/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1
  • @hedgepig and @dumbledoredies - MH and I have also discussed locking down our family starting in October as well. Primarily because I am terrified he will get sick, with anything, not just covid, and that any little symptom will be enough for the hospital not to allow him in during birth. So help me god if I can’t have my husband there for the birth of our child!!!! I already had to be put to sleep for my DD’s birth and hubby wasn’t at the hospital at the time of her birth either so if this one goes sideways I will be really upset.
     This topic did, however, also get me thinking about how Halloween is going to work. In general, I would be curious to see if society as a whole will change how kids trick or treat.... and then I’m also not sure what kinds of precautions our family will take to limit our exposure but still allow DD to enjoy halloween.
  • @crizz13 I love the idea of getting the doctors’ opinions too. Definitely going to do that. Both my SILs and several other relatives live in a different state and work and have varying levels of socialization. I definitely don’t want to expose our family to those germs, especially having been around no one but our parents these last several months. I think it’s a topic I’ll have to approach with my husband and the extended family as it gets closer. 
  • @crizz13 that's a really tough decision to make. I wish I had advice but I really have no idea what I would doif I was invited to a wedding right now!

    @surlyjaneausten I already mentioned to my mom that it's highly unlikely we will be at Thanksgiving this year. Even if covid wasn't an issue I dont think having a baby and going to a gathering a week-ish later is doable. I remember how much of a mess I was for 2 weeks after giving birth to DS, lol.  I have no idea what to do about Christmas though 😫 I'm trying not to worry about it right now since it's still so far away.

    @krystrist2014 I forgot about Halloween!!! I'm going to be so bummed if we cant go trick or treating and pass out candy. Booooooo go away virus!
  • @babywiik omg I love that idea! what a memorable way to celebrate, and still get all the goodies!!
  • @babywiik lmao! That’s hilarious and creative! 
  • @crizz13 we have family getting married October 3rd. If it wasn't local, I wouldn't be going. I'm still planning on being a wallflower and maintaining distance.

    @surlyjaneausten @dumbledoredies I got out of the hospital ON Thanksgiving in '16 and we went straight to in inlaws for lunch. LOL 
    We went to local family get togethers for Christmas. My mom drove down for a couple days, but that was the extent of it. I'm betting this year we will see my parents, DH immediate family, and that's it.

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  • crizz13crizz13 member
    edited July 2020
    @warmwinter I would definitely try to establish boundaries for your own little family around holidays (and everything really) as soon as you can because it will make everything so much easier. DD1 was 6 weeks old come Christmas time and we travelled to DH's family. It was big, overwhelming, loud, and I was miserable both mentally and physically exhausted. 

    @laurenmicheley In regards to school aged children, I will be asking our pediatrician and relying heavily on his advice. A lot will depend on what school looks like. My oldest will be in kindergarten this fall, number 2 will be in daycare full time, and I teach fifth grade. If I need to pull her out of school during my maternity leave, I will, but I will wait to see what the COVID numbers are like as it gets closer. Our plan is to give the same information to everyone regards our wishes about self quarantining before being around the baby. They can take it or leave it. To be honest, I don't think being held by other people the first few months will really impact a baby developmentally - they're really just trying to adapt to be outside of the womb. :-) 

    ETA - I am NOT a germaphob in general and didn't put any restrictions on people with my babies prior to the pandemic. 



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  • @warmwinter I'm actually planning to use baby as a reason to establish new traditions. Both sets of grandparents are local so we usually end up going at least 2 places every holiday. Christmas is especially busy because the 23rd is DH's birthday so in-laws that day, then Christmas eve is my extended family plus church and then Christmas day is our house, then in-laws, then my parents. Not sure how were going to do it, but at least one Christmas will be changed to the next day (I'd actually prefer to go nowhere on Christmas but it's not my hill to die on so I'm willing to compromise). We will be staying home for Thanksgiving but I think that's only going to be for this year because I'm due 11/23 which is 3 days before Thanksgiving. If I still happen to be pregnant then we'll probably go to my in-laws. 
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    @warmwinter
    I totally get holidays and the pressures of them. My family doesn't make a big deal about them but from year one it has always been a fight with my in laws. So my rule with my DD was I wouldn't travel out of state because it would require a plane ride, until she had her 1year vaccine for measles. She turned one in January so that exempted us from holidays last year. I don't know if you have to drive or fly but you can always say you are worried about traveling this year because the baby is so young (which is legitimate especially right now with COVID and before then holiday time is usually flu season and your baby will be to young for a flu shot).

    I feel like if I have a medical reason it is less of a fight, even though I still get guilted but it is your choice since it is your baby. Plus baby will still be sooo young that you all will still be adjusting and getting into routines. I have no intentions of traveling this year and it will be up to them if they want to visit or not.
  • @crizz13 my mom always did that when we were growing up, Christmas Eve we would all open a present which was a new set of PJ's, lol and then read The Night Before Christmas. It is one of my favorite memories and traditions and I hope to start that back up with baby <3:)
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