July is not my favorite month. I’m not a fan of summer in general. I don’t like being hot, lol. My birthday is on Monday, though, I’m turning 30!!! I’m in my feelings about it a little bit, lol. Even though I’ve lived the life of someone in their 30s since I was 22.
House update!!! They sent a counter offer and we just accepted!!!! WOOOHOOOOO! I am so happy I could cry. We live in a TINY and CRAPPY apartment and we have been trying to buy a house for almost 2 years. I really had given up and am so grateful my husband kept trying.
Me right now:
Of course we still have the inspection and all that, but I just feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. Way more hopeful than I have been in a long time, at least in this regard.
So, I am getting a haircut today for the first time in probably 8 years. I have really long hair, like down to my butt. I NEVER let stylists touch it with scissors because I am always terrified that they will take too much off. However, with the heat and pregnancy and everything I am so ready to breathe some life back into it, lol! So excited! Currently spending my time looking at pictures of different haircuts and trying to psych myself up to get more then a "dusting" of the ends.
@bserena yayyy that is seriously awesome! Allll the good luck house vibes with the inspection! We just did that and the seller's just gave us money to fix the repairs when we wanted to, so it worked out great! Also yay for haircuts! I just got my hair done last week and felt like a new person!
@jaclyn0405 oh that is awesome!! Hopefully the inspection will go well and the sellers are open to that as well. I am happy for you guys, it is so exciting to buy a home (and stressful too)!
And yes, I am definitely needing to feel refreshed haha. My poor hair has the worst dead ends. I told my husband I was excited to get a haircut and he goes... "oh good, they will make it even".... I am like wait what?!?!?
Today is my first day back in the office in 4 months, I am soooo exhausted and literally almost lost my breath walking to the cafe. How did I work until I was 9 months with DD? Ah I was 24 and not 33:() I really don't know how I am going to make it til November, working from home for HALF of my pregnancy has really spoiled me. OH and let me add I wore a one piece jumper to work today with a button in the back, bathroom breaks have been tons of fun!
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@wychets oh no! I hope you are able to adjust and it doesn't feel so tiring soon! I know it was definitely rough when I came back to the office and I was still in first tri.
@bserena congratulations on the house!!! We just went through all that in April for our first house! So soooo exciting but also terrifying! DH now keeps an ever updating count of “how much of our house we own” 😂 also! I’m getting my haircut tomorrow! I haven’t had it cut since last June and mine is nearly down to my butt as well! I’ll likely take of 3-4 inches! I unfortunately cannot do too short since my head is so big/face is oblong 😂 What did you end up doing with yours, @bserena?
Me: 27 DH: 30 Started dating: 10/2010 ;; Married 10/2017 Started TTC: 10/2019 BFP: 12/20/19 ;; MC: 12/24/19 BFP: 3/5/20 ;; EDD: 11/11/20
@lovelee3 I'm here at the salon now, lol, sitting under the dryer. Getting some highlights! I'm not taking much off, I love my long hair and would feel weird with it short. Probably 4 inches or so and then getting some layers/face framing pieces added in! Its been so long that all of my hair is the same length and I want it to have more movement
@bserena amazing news!!! I hope the process is as smooth and painless as possible!
@wychets I feel you!! I worked up until the day before I gave birth with my daughter and I don’t remember being this tired lol. Adjusting back to working every day is rough! I hope it gets easier for you soon!!
@bserena ahhh congrats!!! That's so exciting! Home buying is so stressful. We just had the inspection on our new house yesterday and submitted our requests this evening. It's so nerve wracking waiting for an answer. We also had the appraisal on our current home yesterday and are waiting for word on that. So many moving parts! Good luck!
@wychets I wore a zip up romper to my friends rehearsal dinner a few years ago. I went into the bathroom and unzipped it so I could pee. When I went to zip it back up it got stuck and I couldnt zip it. I panicked for a good 2 minutes while fighting with it to zip up. I was so worried I was going to have to walk out in front of all these people half naked and ask for help 😆 I havent worn a one piece outfit since 😆
Just had the inspection on the house we are buying and it went great! No major issues, all systems working well, just a few minor things! Feeling super relieved and grateful.
All you ladies here, I am SO thankful for you all and how much respect everyone has for each other! So i admit, i was being snoopy. I was curious and clicked on one of the other birth month groups and there was this thread asking someone to send virtual help. So of course, natural curiosity, I open it and this mom is posting about how she just reached the 3rd trimester and is miserable! Anyways, the responses she got? WOW! NOTHING nice was said! They riped into her! Things like we're all here, stop complaining, your nothing special, etc. Apparently she hadn't been very active on the group so the other moms used the excuse that they didn't know her and that's why they didn't care about her problems. She tried to explain that she checked back to the board to see if she's find any friendly faces and the post was meant to be more of a "I get you! I feel what you feel" type of post. Like, I understand being cautious about lurkers, but if she posted, she's trying to connect and get some support. It sounded like she was done with the group when she told them they shouldnt be having babies for the risk they'd pass their rudness on to future generations...oops! Anyways, so so so thankful that November group is a safe place to connect with other moms!
@babywiik I was curious about the post you were referring to and if I found the correct one, it wasn't that she wasn't very active, she had NEVER posted before. If you look at her post history she literally has 1 reply and two topics of the same exact thing, one in Aug 2020 & one in 3rd tri. And the 3rd tri one got better responses, but that board is more open to lurkers and one-off posters. I know for a fact at least a few of the ladies that responded are long time user of TB that have gone through many years of being part of the TB community, so I can see it being off putting for someone to all of a sudden appear in 3rd trimester without so much of a "hey ladies, hope to get to know you all" and start a new post focusing on all her woes. Could their responses have been gentler? Kinder? Ehh... yeah, I suppose. But OP really sealed her fate with her reply. It was mega rude.
I always thought the best way to describe it to people is to liken it to "imagine you and a group of your girlfriends are hanging out somewhere chitchatting and then a complete stranger barges into the room, pulls up a chair without introduction and starts saying "everyone pay attention to me", she'd get some severe side-eye, right? And probably a number of "uhhh... k who are you, why do we care?" responses. A lot of the BMBs (especially later on) and specialty boards are very much a community and structured/set up in a way for newcomers to join and be readily accepted, but they need to read the room first. If she had truly been lurking the board as she claimed she'd know that sort of one-off post would not be well received.
Our board oddly enough has had very few one-offs/rando posts so far.
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I agree with @lurvleybunchococonuts I think once it gets to the 3rd Tri and one offers come in it is pretty much frowned upon. I didn't read it so I don't know how it went down. I am sure some of the responses could have been a little nicer but again like lurvleybunchococonuts said it like a complete stranger barging into the room. In my last BMB I never really cared too much about one offers until they responded rudely and dammed everyone's unborn children. A little bit of "Sorry, I didn't know how this works" goes a long way.
Our group seems to a great group and a lot more laid back than some BMBs.
@crizz13 LMAO truer words have never been spoken There's ALWAYS still time for crazies to appear.
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@crizz13 I think I mentioned this before but we had a weird catfish sorta thing in A18. A person posted under a new name saying that they were a regular poster who actually wasn't even pregnant. We never found out who it was. It was super creepy.
I never mind a little crazy though to spice things up lol
@windywoman that is suuuuper creeptastic I've heard so many horror stories like that. People are so bizarre, just... WHY? I totally agree with you that a little crazy here and there makes life interesting and keeps it from getting too boring and we're pretty boring so far here
My "drama" would be that my little brother whom I haven't spoken to since Easter (I have his # blocked and he's been deleted from my social media) just moved about 10 minutes away from where I live. I am dreading potentially running into him as I have 0 plans to reconnect with him anytime in the future.
BFP 3/21/2020! OMG We're having TWINS! 4/17/2020 -------------------------------- LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby! -------------------------------- Me: 33 | DH: 41 Married: March 2016 TTC #1/IUD out January 2017 PCOS dx January 2018 Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018 BFP 3/10/2018! -------------------------------
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@lurvleybunchococonuts I am sorry about the potential that you might have to see your brother. I am not really estranged from my brother I just don't talk to him. If we were in the same place I would be civil and talk but, I just don't seek a relationship with him. I hope that you can avoid him or at least if you do happen to see him you can escape unscathed. Hugs - Family stuff sucks!
Here is my drama- I feel like I complain/worry about Covid-19 a lot but the numbers in my county are rising everyday and make up half of the numbers for the whole state. My work doesn't seem concerned in anyway and seems to be basically ignoring it. The day our offices closed in March the county reported 16 new cases. Yesterday they reported 218! Our Governor recommends that anyone traveling to/from any of the 'hot spot" states needs to self- quarantine for 14 days. Well I just found out one of my co-workers just returned from on of them today and she is back in the office. I know for a fact that at least to of the "bosses" know she was there. Don't they have some sorta of obligation to protect the rest of us and insist she self-quarantine? She is fully capable to work from home. I am so torn what to do because I don't want to be "that person" but, I'm getting anxious about the rising numbers and apparent disregard from my company. Maybe pregnancy hormones and anxiety are making me overly paranoid.
@windywoman Ugh that is super frustrating for your company seems as though they don't care. If she's able to work from home, it makes no sense for her to be in the office potentially exposing others.
Family stuff does suck. Maybe I can pull a quickly turn around and walk the other direction if I run into him
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@lurvleybunchococonuts thanks for pointing out what you did! I didn't even think to check the history the participants of the conversation and what you said makes sense that a comment would be better received if there had been some sort of "I'm new here, I want to join" rather than just barging in.
@windywoman I’m getting more anxious about it too. Our numbers are also rising, not quite as significant as yours but I’m still concerned about it. Plus I live in an area where people are definitely not wearing masks like they should so I know it’s going to continue to spread. One of my coworkers is in FL this week and she is definitely not wearing a mask. I feel like it’s just a matter of time before my husband or I catch it!
I feel you guys on the Covid scare. I6don't go out too much, just the store and whatnot, but 2 of my daycare parents work in healthcare. If I'm going to pick it up anywhere, it will probably be from one of them.
@windywoman I use to work with a lady who said she had a daughter, we would share birth stories and talk about the hospital we delivered at and so on. Come to find out the little girl wasn't even her daughter, she just was helping the mom out while going through a hard time, which is fine but why lie??? It still creeps me out and that was about 8 years ago!
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@wychets That is so cringey. Reminds me of a neighbor I had growing up. She had no children and one day my mother saw her pushing a stroller around the block and went to chat with her. My mother (is nosey) and asked who the baby was, and the neighbor says it's her daughter. Ok. But then the neighbor launches into a long story about her labor and delivery when she was never pregnant and she knew my mother knew that. Her children are adopted, which is totally cool; but why lie about it, yo?
@wychets and @laurenmicheley that is super creepy! It makes no sense why they would lie. Especially to go as far as making up entire stories about giving birth!
My cat has been diagnosed with tooth resorption with one tooth. He's only 9 years old and otherwise healthy, but it apparently requires a bit of surgery for treatment.
@warmwinter oh no!!! I am so sorry to hear that It is never fun when our fur babies are in pain/need meds/surgery/etc. Wishing him and you a quick recovery and hopefully you can get it fixed without paying an arm and a leg!
@warmwinter aw I'm sorry you're poor kitty needs surgery! I always get so stressed when something is going on with my poor kitties because they obviously cant communicate how they are feeling.
@bserena CONGRATS on the house -- I'm sorry I'm so late!
@babywiik, @lurvleybunchococonuts, @windywoman, @crizz13 - y'all I am anxiously anticipating the crazies. It is an ANOMALY that we haven't had any yet. We had some real whack-o's in my S14 lol. Third tri is definitely their time to shine, but even after we have these kids they'll probably keep coming out of the wood works for a few months.
Sorry about your brother too Windy. I have family I actively avoid also, I moved far away with great intention of avoiding them. So if I ever run into them I will freak right tf out.
@wychets & @laurenmicheley super creepy. People are weird af. Also, hope things are well at the office Wychets.
@warmwinter so sorry about your kitten (animals are just always babies, even when a dog is 15 I'm like PUUUUPPPPY). Hopefully he has a speedy recovery!
I think my favorite S14 drama was like a month after we had our babies a rando we'd never heard from before popped in to survey the group about feeding HER ONE MONTH OLD BABY OREOS. AND THEN clutched her pearls when we were like "wtf....." so the on going joke is now we'll "oreo" someone out of something real fast.
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Me right now:
Of course we still have the inspection and all that, but I just feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. Way more hopeful than I have been in a long time, at least in this regard.
And yes, I am definitely needing to feel refreshed haha. My poor hair has the worst dead ends. I told my husband I was excited to get a haircut and he goes... "oh good, they will make it even".... I am like wait what?!?!?
also! I’m getting my haircut tomorrow! I haven’t had it cut since last June and mine is nearly down to my butt as well! I’ll likely take of 3-4 inches! I unfortunately cannot do too short since my head is so big/face is oblong 😂
What did you end up doing with yours, @bserena?
Started dating: 10/2010 ;; Married 10/2017
Started TTC: 10/2019
BFP: 12/20/19 ;; MC: 12/24/19
BFP: 3/5/20 ;; EDD: 11/11/20
@wychets I wore a zip up romper to my friends rehearsal dinner a few years ago. I went into the bathroom and unzipped it so I could pee. When I went to zip it back up it got stuck and I couldnt zip it. I panicked for a good 2 minutes while fighting with it to zip up. I was so worried I was going to have to walk out in front of all these people half naked and ask for help 😆 I havent worn a one piece outfit since 😆
am SO thankful for you all and how much respect everyone has for each other! So i admit, i was being snoopy. I was curious and clicked on one of the other birth month groups and there was this thread asking someone to send virtual help. So of course, natural curiosity, I open it and this mom is posting about how she just reached the 3rd trimester and is miserable! Anyways, the responses she got? WOW! NOTHING nice was said! They riped into her! Things like we're all here, stop complaining, your nothing special, etc. Apparently she hadn't been very active on the group so the other moms used the excuse that they didn't know her and that's why they didn't care about her problems. She tried to explain that she checked back to the board to see if she's find any friendly faces and the post was meant to be more of a "I get you! I feel what you feel" type of post. Like, I understand being cautious about lurkers, but if she posted, she's trying to connect and get some support. It sounded like she was done with the group when she told them they shouldnt be having babies for the risk they'd pass their rudness on to future generations...oops!
Anyways, so so so thankful that November group is a safe place to connect with other moms!
I always thought the best way to describe it to people is to liken it to "imagine you and a group of your girlfriends are hanging out somewhere chitchatting and then a complete stranger barges into the room, pulls up a chair without introduction and starts saying "everyone pay attention to me", she'd get some severe side-eye, right? And probably a number of "uhhh... k who are you, why do we care?" responses. A lot of the BMBs (especially later on) and specialty boards are very much a community and structured/set up in a way for newcomers to join and be readily accepted, but they need to read the room first. If she had truly been lurking the board as she claimed she'd know that sort of one-off post would not be well received.
Our board oddly enough has had very few one-offs/rando posts so far.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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Our group seems to a great group and a lot more laid back than some BMBs.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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I never mind a little crazy though to spice things up lol
I totally agree with you that a little crazy here and there makes life interesting and keeps it from getting too boring and we're pretty boring so far here
My "drama" would be that my little brother whom I haven't spoken to since Easter (I have his # blocked and he's been deleted from my social media) just moved about 10 minutes away from where I live. I am dreading potentially running into him as I have 0 plans to reconnect with him anytime in the future.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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Here is my drama-
I feel like I complain/worry about Covid-19 a lot but the numbers in my county are rising everyday and make up half of the numbers for the whole state. My work doesn't seem concerned in anyway and seems to be basically ignoring it. The day our offices closed in March the county reported 16 new cases. Yesterday they reported 218! Our Governor recommends that anyone traveling to/from any of the 'hot spot" states needs to self- quarantine for 14 days. Well I just found out one of my co-workers just returned from on of them today and she is back in the office. I know for a fact that at least to of the "bosses" know she was there. Don't they have some sorta of obligation to protect the rest of us and insist she self-quarantine? She is fully capable to work from home. I am so torn what to do because I don't want to be "that person" but, I'm getting anxious about the rising numbers and apparent disregard from my company. Maybe pregnancy hormones and anxiety are making me overly paranoid.
Family stuff does suck. Maybe I can pull a quickly turn around and walk the other direction if I run into him
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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@babywiik, @lurvleybunchococonuts, @windywoman, @crizz13 - y'all I am anxiously anticipating the crazies. It is an ANOMALY that we haven't had any yet. We had some real whack-o's in my S14 lol. Third tri is definitely their time to shine, but even after we have these kids they'll probably keep coming out of the wood works for a few months.
Sorry about your brother too Windy. I have family I actively avoid also, I moved far away with great intention of avoiding them. So if I ever run into them I will freak right tf out.
@wychets & @laurenmicheley super creepy. People are weird af. Also, hope things are well at the office Wychets.
@warmwinter so sorry about your kitten (animals are just always babies, even when a dog is 15 I'm like PUUUUPPPPY). Hopefully he has a speedy recovery!
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