Guys I think I found a solution! It does require me to invite you all via email, which sucks in a sense, so I would need you all to message me your email address here (or an email address you want to use for the group). You do also have to create a profile on the website. The platform is called MeWe and it's seriously a cleaner FB! I created a dummy profile, and a test group. Made the group private. Tried to google both my username and the group and nothing popped up! So I *think* it could be a great option. I have not downloaded the app to see if it's buggy, so that's next step.
I’ll do whatever the group decides, but my preference would be to not create a third account somewhere else. I think our participation would go down and we’re already a small group.
With lots of people off FB or on a FB break though, I feel like options are limited. It's possible that some people are not on here because of how buggy this app is, I know I was off of it for almost a month! and I guess it would take us off TB completely. Again, I am super flexible here too!
I too am up for what the majority decides. The problem is the majority seems to be saying the same thing.
I too agree that there are major problems with The Bump. If I could I would tell them a piece of my mind I would, and it might take me awhile with all my complaints.
I’m also thinking if someone is lurking on here, today would be the most boring day to read our posts. 😂
Mmmmm I’m open to the idea to get off the Bump because it is so buggy... but I’m also with @Kurtni in that I don’t love the idea of creating an additional account on another site... but with so many people off Facebook right now, I don’t want to head over there and exclude people... sooooo... yeah...
I think we should rule Facebook out. Too many of us are against it. So I think we can narrow it down to figuring out a private group here or the mewe.com option.
I have also written The Bump to see if they can explain the steps to create a private group. We’ll see if I hear back.
Given that I'm not willing to put in the time to figure out a private group here, I'll just vote that I'm down for whatever the consensus wants to do. MeWe seems interesting - I fully support an internet business model that asks you to pay for some things with your money instead of with your personal data (but it sounds like just participating in a private group would not cost money).
As the "high risk" person here, my two cents is that I am okay with whatever. I am a total FB ho, so that works, but so does this. I'd rather not have a third platform, but I'm okay with it if that's what's wanted. I will also note, however, that for me I am perfectly with staying as things are - I don't need a private group just because I'm having difficulties.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
oh dang @amapa20 thanks for looking into that! such a bummer, the interface is awesome. I downloaded the app and it's pretty seamless.
@kboydbowman I think in general at some point I would like a private group. Seems like at the moment it is hard to find a consensus so my suggestion is to dig a bit more into TB and try a private group here first (I see others so obviously it is possible to create one). We can then evaluate from there. Thoughts?
@morethanamama of the options on the table, that would probably be my preferred option, but I'm pretty easy going so I vote for whatever makes the most people the most happy.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
I am happy to do whatever, but I think a private group here is the right decision now because people seem to be either happy to go along with whatever, or anti Facebook/new application.
After 3 days of not being able to log in I'm back! I've been reading all the discussions but wasn't able to post at all So being this the only reason I would oppose staying in TB but in a private group, it's still better than going to Facebook or moving to a third platform. My vote is for a private group right here if someone figures out how to create it.
A bit off topic, trying to log in from by computer made me realize that there's a small bio after each comment, quite helpful to keep track of who's who.
I wrote The Bump about how to make group private, and haven’t heard back. I wrote yesterday or the day before. I also searched and can’t find anything. I’ll let you guys know if they respond.
I’m fine with either. Would prefer a Facebook group at some point though. I’ve been in a May 2012 moms group since December 2011. Some of my best friends came from that group.
I think now that we're close to third trimester, we should consider moving off TB. The random rude poster (the one asking about COVID) is a primo example of why we need something that isn't quite so open to randos. I'm tired of dealing with their attitudes.
Boy that COVID thread escalated quickly. I didn’t open it until @babyodo posted here because I didn’t want to have another COVID thread highlight on my feed. I’ll admit I was intimidated when I first started posting because of the “rules” but now I love them. It makes it so much more community oriented than other boards I previously viewed.
@animalandplantrescuer The “rules” are the reason I never joined the BMB for my first baby. But I get SO TIRED of the Facebook groups I’m in that have the same question posted 20 times in a week, so I love this set-up.
Remember how TB used to have that “real answers” area where people could just post random questions and have random internet strangers answer them? I haven’t seen it since the app update that moved the Community section. I wonder if she thought that’s what this was? I too appreciate that this is a community and not just a message board.
@baseballismyfavoriteseason I used to enjoy reading the questions on the Real Answers section. I heard that it no longer exists. There were some absolutely ridiculous questions from people. I started to wonder if the people posting were actually real people with real questions or just some random kid trying to come up with the craziest questions that they could.
Honestly, since we have people who are a week away from 3rd tri, I’m wondering if we should make a poll for when to move to FB. Since it’s getting so late in the game, should we just forgo the private group on here? We’ve had a few people try to ask about making one with no response for weeks.
Me: 27 DH: 27 Married 6/15/13 BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks ~In our hearts forever~ BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
So, I'm perfectly okay with a Facebook group. It's the easiest thing for me and I do kind of hate The Bump app. But one thing we could try first... It looks like Sept 2020 just created a private group (you can see it listed in new groups so I clicked just to see, and it is private). Perhaps one of the moderators listed could tell us what to do? Which I'm happy to do if people would like.
Also this app makes me feel technologically deficient.
@profmcgonagall I’m fine with moving over at this point. I know some people aren’t ready, and I hate to lose them, but we’ve had a couple instances of randos popping up in here recently just to ask questions they should be calling their dr about. I just want to make sure we leave a way for people who are thinking “later but not yet” to join the group when they are ready.
Re: Private Group or FB
Take a look here: https://mewe.com/
Keep in mind it's the internet...nothing is truly private. I haven't dug up into their data handling or terms of service...
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@kboydbowman I think in general at some point I would like a private group. Seems like at the moment it is hard to find a consensus so my suggestion is to dig a bit more into TB and try a private group here first (I see others so obviously it is possible to create one). We can then evaluate from there. Thoughts?
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
So being this the only reason I would oppose staying in TB but in a private group, it's still better than going to Facebook or moving to a third platform. My vote is for a private group right here if someone figures out how to create it.
A bit off topic, trying to log in from by computer made me realize that there's a small bio after each comment, quite helpful to keep track of who's who.
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
Also this app makes me feel technologically deficient.