@potofgolden this has been me for weeks, I hate it! But I actually had a dentist office cleaning last week and while it was more uncomfortable than normal, my gums haven't bled at all since!
I want to rave about my office/coworkers real quick... One of my female coworkers just came up to my desk and told me that they want to throw me and MH an office baby shower and to pick a Friday that MH can make it in to our office for a couple of hours. I am so touched and grateful! I never thought or expected anything like this so it really made me happy.
@windywoman Well darn it I'm sure I'll still think of farts whenever I see your SN regardless
BFP 3/21/2020! OMG We're having TWINS! 4/17/2020 -------------------------------- LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby! -------------------------------- Me: 33 | DH: 41 Married: March 2016 TTC #1/IUD out January 2017 PCOS dx January 2018 Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018 BFP 3/10/2018! -------------------------------
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@Ecat504 I totally understand where you are coming from on the breastfeeding. I struggled with my first and had bleeding nipples, it just hurt so bad. The lactation nurse at the breastfeeding support group I went to wasn't helpful, just told me the latch looked good. My midwife sent me to see another lactation nurse and she saved my nipples! With my second it was super easy and I don't remember any pain. I feel hesitant to try nursing again because it's twins. I think I'm going to try nursing but going to try to do it the way a twin mom in my daughter's BMB said she did it. She nursed one while giving the other a bottle then switched the next feeding. It seems less overwhelming that way and will be less expensive than formula for two. But honestly if I have a lot of trouble nursing this time around I'm going to formula, with two older kids I can't put in the effort I did with my oldest to make it work (8 weeks of nursing for 30 mins then give baby a bottle to supplement then pump and repeat at every feeding! It was crazy).
@Ecat504 dont struggle with BFing here. I just hate doing it. I swear pictures and people talk about this magical bonding time. I just find it so annoying and frustrating. I swear it makes my hormones nutty too. I’m not looking forward to BFing or being woken up ALL NIGHT LONG. I suuuuper wanted baby 4. But the reality of all the little things is starting to set in. 😳
@name1109 oh my gosh you are my person! I super wanted baby #4 also, I was so ready. But definitely the little things are starting to set in and I'm like "ugh BFing with 3 other kids who are going to need me" and the thought of SO being in charge of 3 kids school and after school routines (I mean, no doubt he can do it, but he totally doesn't realize what he's in for).... and my youngest is 4, so I pretty much *just* got to the point where I can *sometimes, usually* take a shower (or a poop) in peace, and I'm just tossing that all away again lol. And also, the dr sent over our *estimated* bill for the delivery and HOLY! But little baby snuggles and happiness
@name1109@Ecat504 I feel this way too and it's only baby #3 for me! I keep thinking that 4 would be nice, but I just don't want to go through pregnancy and childbirth again (I'm also not a huge fan of the newborn phase). So we'll probably be done with 3 unless we get a surprise!
@acdc1109 I loooooove newborn stage, I had too many friends have babies at the end of last year and I was like “ok I need this again” 😂 but i loaaaathe like HATTTE 1.5 to like 3 lol, around 4 they’re good again and then 5-9 I’m good and SD is getting to an age where I’m over it again. So it comes in waves is what I’m learning. Honestly the births of DD1 and DD2 seem so distant. I know with DD2 it was horrible and really traumatic but I think that was a hospital / the dr thing and not a me thing.
@Ecat504 1.5 to 3, haha DS2 (19 months) is there right now and sometimes DH and I will look at each other and say "why are we doing this again?!?". We are super excited for another baby but knowing how difficult some stages can be we're just anticipating the worst some days! 😆😆
If anything, after having 2 kids from birth and one from ages 5-9 I've learned for sure that every kid is different and likability comes in waves.
I don't know how my SD was as a NB but from like 5-7 she was an absolute angel. Great kid. Around 8 she started getting the attitude and sassy "older sister" vibe with my younger 2 and at 9 we're in full blown pre-teen entering puberty hell and I'm OVER it.
DD1 was the absolute PERFECT baby, she tricked me into doing it a second time lol. She started picking up the sas from SD when she was around 3.5 but and now at 5 she drives me nuts because she acts just like the 9YO.
DD2 was an awful baby (not to her fault). She just had all kinds of problems, and everything about her pregnancy and birth was awful so we just had a rocky start. But she's been my little best friend since she could walk and talk. And ever since she got out the NB stage we haven't had any big issues. She got really whiney for about a year around 3 but she grew out of it pretty quickly thankfully.
SO and I really balance out the firm, strict, compassionate, and nurturing aspects of parenting so I think they're all pretty well balanced. I love watching their personalities grow though, we love guessing what kind of people they'll be and jobs they'll pursue when they're adults lol.
I was supposed to have my AS US on July 2nd. I called today to check if they are allowing SO to come to the appointments now. And YES, they are at my doctors office in Texas. DH can’t take off that day, so I’m trying to reschedule for the 1st. I’m really hoping he can make this one. I’m just afraid they are going to go back on allowing SO come because of the uptick in Corona cases. I didn’t personally know anyone that had it in the first quarantine round, but this past week I know someone that has died from it and three others that have it.
@Ecat504 DS is around 16 months and has noticeably become more of a little monster. At the stage where when we tell him no or try to redirect him from the thing he wants, it's full-on sit on the ground and scream. I think we've been pretty good so far about not starting bad habits about screaming, and it's just what this stage is regardless of what you do. But if you have any tips, I'm all ears! Definitely not looking forward to the new baby time being encroached upon by the angry toddler stage DS is at. I also don't like breastfeeding and am going to try to feel much less guilty about it this time around if,after 6 months, it gets to be too hard. Trying to not go crazy between two things I dislike will be quite the challenge!
@potofgolden I'm so jealous that your husband gets to come! I hope it stays the same until then!
@auburnvelvet86 You might think I'm crazy but I love love love!!!! ages 1.5 -3! I haven't experienced being a mother yet but I worked in a toddler classroom and spent a lot of hours with those kids as well as my 35 nieces and nephews. They are learning so much everyday and sometimes their brains and bodies don't keep up with each other so it's super frustrating for them! They want to do things themselves but they physically/mentally aren't capable yet. As im sure you know, it doesn't help to try reasoning with them. In fact, it just sends them into a bigger fit most of the time! One thing ive found to help tantrums is to acknowledge what they are feeling. Like really get into it, showing/telling them that you understand (even if you dont) and not to take it personally. The kid who asks for their sandwich cut and then cries when you cut their sandwich...like???? Pry they just need a hug and some words like "first you wanted the sandwich cut and then you changed your mind and didn't want it cut and I didn't do it like you wanted it done" also, as I'm sure you mom's with kids know, kids can't function or reason when they're tired or hungry.
It'll be interesting to have my own kid and see how it goes. I also want to acknowledge that as a teacher I went home every day and rested up for work the next day which is so much easier than being a mom 24/7. So, I'm sending all you mom's kudos for hardest/most rewarding (hopefully) job you do!
ughhh My 9yo SDs side of her room is driving me INSANE. I'm restraining myself from throwing everything away. Her lack of caring for her belongings is so frustrating. Her grandmother gave her an American Girl doll and tons of clothes for it and she has trashed the majority of it and destroyed multiple items for it by just not caring/putting them away. Multiple new articles of clothing that she wore once and then lost by shoving under her bed and now are too small 🤦🏻 ughhhh I'm soooo frustrated.
BFP 3/21/2020! OMG We're having TWINS! 4/17/2020 -------------------------------- LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby! -------------------------------- Me: 33 | DH: 41 Married: March 2016 TTC #1/IUD out January 2017 PCOS dx January 2018 Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018 BFP 3/10/2018! -------------------------------
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@babywiik Thank you for the more positive take on the age! Right now, he's still too young to even really communicate well, (we've taught him some sign language but he mostly uses it when we say words he recognizes rather than communicating on his own). So on one hand, you don't know why they're being unreasonable and having a tantrum, but they still are, of course. I'm sure for some it is a more fun age, so maybe you'll find you enjoy it more even as a mother. For me, I think Covid has really made it hit home as its been 24/7 me and DS time for about 4 months and that's just too much. Just constant destruction. Every good thing seems to be taken away, be it the coffee he's spilling repeatedly to the point where it's not worth buying, to the computer he's banging on to the point that it's not worth trying to do anything on it. But I'll try and keep in mind some of the positives you were pointing out!
@Ecat504 Got to be honest, this advice resonated for me a bit more! Again, Covid has been really messing with this strategy which we've used in the past, but I'm quickly verging on an "f* it!" attitude and will probably try and start that up again soon. But I appreciate the sentiment!!
Yea that toddler stage gets rough for a little while. My DS was fairly easy-going, he is really easy to discipline/correct and not very stubborn at all, and he’s a pretty great kid although he never. Stops. Talking. Ever. My DD was rough. We didn’t think we wanted another child after her because she was so rough lol. She’s had an attitude since birth and she is very difficult to discipline, she doesn’t care. She’s so smart and has a huge magnetic personality, we are always being told how cute she is and strangers are always so enamored and she has everyone wrapped around her little finger but my goodness...she will argue with you until the cows come home. I keep telling myself she’s going to make a great lawyer one day, lol. She’s finally getting a little bit easier now at 5 but we definitely had a lot of rough patches getting to this point, lol. I wouldn’t change her at all though, she’s going to grow up and be such a strong person. She knows who she is and doesn’t compromise and I’m definitely proud of how we’ve molded her so far because it was 5 times harder to drive any lesson into her than it was with my son, lol. She’s also one of the funniest people I’ve ever met. But with all that said I am hoping and praying that this little girl will be a little more laid-back, lol.
@Ecat504 Thank you for the love. It’s been a kind of sh*t week (14 yr old dog tore her ACL and now may also have cancer).
@acdc1109 and @Ecat504 We are so done at #4. Like both he and I will both be fixed. So yeah. Baby was and is super wanted but holy h*ll pregnancy is not my jam. Nor are baby babies (usually because of PPD or PPA). I’m hoping to enjoy this little lady’s maternity leave. If not I’m going to explore this place we call home now.
We have super independent little ladies. So sometimes that’s a challenge. We try for moderation (and moderation in moderation). We tend to set boundaries and as long as you’re within those boundaries...we’re good. So far it seems to work?
For me 0-2 is a ton of PPD/PPA usually based off of breastfeeding I think. 2-4 yrs old is usually independence, attitude, boundary testing. 4-7 seems like ok we get it now and generally pleasant. So right now we have two “big kids” who are legit fun and a two year old...well let’s just say she painted her entire room with desitin during her “nap” yesterday. (Still trying time figure out how to get it off the rocking chair cushions). So lots of patience and redirection for that one. ...so why not have a fourth! 🥰. I mainly don’t want a middle child and dont want to wait too much later.
@name1109 🤣 i shouldn’t laugh, I’m sure karma is coming my way... but I can just imagine her painting the room with the desitin while she supposedly asleep!
My almost 16 month old gets excited when she is doing stuff she is not supposed to. Her face will light up when she sees the remote, a cup with no lid, phone within her reach and runs to grab it. I smacked her little hand when she was messing with the outlets and she just laughs and thinks it’s a game. She has figured out how to take the child proof caps off and put them in her mouth, which is more scary than the electricity. She also likes to go into the bathroom and turn the water on and tries to get in( can’t yet) which scares the hell out of me. It’s a garden tub and the knobs are on the side. I’ve got to figure out how to child proof it. Any ideas on the tub and discipline?
@name1109 so sorry to hear about your pup We had to put ours down last just over a year ago because his cancer got too bad. We tried our best but it seemed like every 6 months he had another surgery. It feels like family! And I also hear you on the PPA/PPD, it's a b$#@%. We're both getting fixed after this one too. And I also absolutely dreaded having a middle child. I relate so much to you!
I need some positive vibes from everyone we might have gotten approved and found a home after being told no a million and one times. We are going to look at the home tomorrow and fingers crossed!
@bserena Buying a home is so stressful, and it sounds like they’ve made it extra challenging for you. Best of luck to you tomorrow, I hope this one works out smoothly!
@name1109 and @Ecat504 I never even thought of the middle child thing! Even more ammunition in my argument with DH about stopping at two!
@bserena Best of luck with the house pursuit! It can be such a stressful process, so I hope things go smoothly for you! Also, have forgotten to mention it before now, but I like your name! I'm a Serena, too!
I haven't been around for a few weeks because we decided what better time to move then during a global pandemic while I'm pregnant 😆. So I spent about 2-3 weeks getting our house ready to throw up on the market. It went up last Friday and by Sunday we had 2 offers. So our house is now sold and we have to be out of here by the end of August. With currently no where to go 😬. We put an offer on a house last weekend and got into a crazy bidding war but didn't get it which was incredibly disappointing. Now we are just waiting for more houses to hit the market. To say my anxiety is through the roof would be an understatement.
I plan on trying to BF this baby but like many of you I really struggled with it the first time. I tried everything to get my supply up but it was just never where it needed to be. I think it was a combination of a traumatic birth plus the fact that DS was a ridiculously sleepy baby. We could barely keep him awake those first few weeks to feed. He started STTN at 7 weeks old. Which was AMAZING but I think since he was such a great sleeper it really affected feedings. He was BF up until 3 months when I went back to work and then was mostly BF but supplemented with formula until 6 months. At 6 months I switched to formula because my supply was pretty much gone. I never responded well to my pump. Since I'm a SAHM this time maybe it will be easier.
I'm terrified for baby #2 because DS was the easiest newborn ever and he's been an incredibly easy toddler. I cant get this lucky twice 😬 theres no way 🙃
I’m super disappointed with how my job is handling the corona ordeal. We got an email on Friday that one of my coworkers has corona. After some investigating it’s the guy whose office is right next to mine. I thought he had been gone on vacation. He was out sick Monday- Friday... so they have known he had or at least potentially had it since Monday and they waited to tell us Friday. They don’t seem a bit concerned about it because They say he contracted it over the weekend... wtf I’ve heard it could be a 14 day incubation period and it could be spread when no symptoms are being shown. How can they be sure that he got it over the weekend. I feel like my throat is a little sore and it has me freaking out. It’s probably just in my head or some Saharan Dust that’s supposedly blowing through. They also had someone from the office take him his laptop so he can work while he’s sick.
I feel like the corona has definitely ramped up down in South Texas.
@potofgolden same here in south Louisiana. No one is taking it seriously and it's very frustrating. Our hospital restrictions for births right now are crazy to me, and my OB said expect them to be even stricter come the fall.
Right now, we can have 1 support person with us. But they are not free to come / go. Once they leave the maternity ward (post COVID test) they're not allowed back. So like SO can't come and go to take care of our other three kids while also being there for me and NB in the hospital. We're really starting to stress about this because neither of us have family near by to help. My mom said she would come up the day of and the following day but I know I'll be there at least 3 days (C Section). And with DD2 I was there for 6 days. So my mind is spiraling and I need people to stop spreading their germs so we can have a normal c section......
@potofgolden I feel like they really needed to take some steps to ensure you all are safe. What about the person who delivered the laptop? I would think from a legal standpoint they would want to cover their butts.
No one seems to be taking it seriously here anymore either. Our county reported no new cases last Thursday. Today they are reporting 45! That is just today. Since Thursday 107 new cases. People are just doing what they did before like it's not still a thing.
I’m starting to get really stressed about COVID. We went from having like 100 cases/day to 1000 in like maybe 2 weeks?? And NOBODY wears masks out in public. The factory my DH works at has been getting a ton of cases lately too, and it seems like it is creeping in closer and closer to him and the people he works with. I feel like it’s just a matter of time before he either catches it or is quarantined. I know that people have to catch this virus in order to get herd immunity but it seems like our hospitals are going to end up overwhelmed if people don’t start taking this more seriously. You can’t make these rednecks wear masks though.
@windywoman yeh I would think they would want to cover their butts, but they aren’t and it’s a national firm. As for the girl that dropped off the laptop, I’m not sure how it was delivered. I would hope she dropped it off at the door. I know he lives in an apt and we have highly confidential client information on our laptops, so it was risky either way. And poor guy has to work when feeling like 💩.
@Ecat504 I’m definitely starting to freak out about who the heck is going to watch our crew during delivery etc. I was banking on this time to make local friends. I really want my DH there for the birth. Any family has to do a 14 day quarantine before they can do anything outside of their hotel room. Plus my folks are 70/80. So....pay a doula to watch my kids for 24-48 hours at $20/hr????? 😱😭🤬😡
Re: June Randoms
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
I don't know how my SD was as a NB but from like 5-7 she was an absolute angel. Great kid. Around 8 she started getting the attitude and sassy "older sister" vibe with my younger 2 and at 9 we're in full blown pre-teen entering puberty hell and I'm OVER it.
DD1 was the absolute PERFECT baby, she tricked me into doing it a second time lol. She started picking up the sas from SD when she was around 3.5 but and now at 5 she drives me nuts because she acts just like the 9YO.
DD2 was an awful baby (not to her fault). She just had all kinds of problems, and everything about her pregnancy and birth was awful so we just had a rocky start. But she's been my little best friend since she could walk and talk. And ever since she got out the NB stage we haven't had any big issues. She got really whiney for about a year around 3 but she grew out of it pretty quickly thankfully.
SO and I really balance out the firm, strict, compassionate, and nurturing aspects of parenting so I think they're all pretty well balanced. I love watching their personalities grow though, we love guessing what kind of people they'll be and jobs they'll pursue when they're adults lol.
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
@potofgolden I'm so jealous that your husband gets to come! I hope it stays the same until then!
You might think I'm crazy but I love love love!!!! ages 1.5 -3! I haven't experienced being a mother yet but I worked in a toddler classroom and spent a lot of hours with those kids as well as my 35 nieces and nephews. They are learning so much everyday and sometimes their brains and bodies don't keep up with each other so it's super frustrating for them! They want to do things themselves but they physically/mentally aren't capable yet. As im sure you know, it doesn't help to try reasoning with them. In fact, it just sends them into a bigger fit most of the time! One thing ive found to help tantrums is to acknowledge what they are feeling. Like really get into it, showing/telling them that you understand (even if you dont) and not to take it personally. The kid who asks for their sandwich cut and then cries when you cut their sandwich...like???? Pry they just need a hug and some words like "first you wanted the sandwich cut and then you changed your mind and didn't want it cut and I didn't do it like you wanted it done" also, as I'm sure you mom's with kids know, kids can't function or reason when they're tired or hungry.
It'll be interesting to have my own kid and see how it goes. I also want to acknowledge that as a teacher I went home every day and rested up for work the next day which is so much easier than being a mom 24/7. So, I'm sending all you mom's kudos for hardest/most rewarding (hopefully) job you do!
kidding, mostly. It’s unavoidable I think. It’s just a phase every kid goes through and he’ll grow out of it.
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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@Ecat504 Got to be honest, this advice resonated for me a bit more!
@acdc1109 and @Ecat504 We are so done at #4. Like both he and I will both be fixed. So yeah. Baby was and is super wanted but holy h*ll pregnancy is not my jam. Nor are baby babies (usually because of PPD or PPA). I’m hoping to enjoy this little lady’s maternity leave. If not I’m going to explore this place we call home now.
For me 0-2 is a ton of PPD/PPA usually based off of breastfeeding I think. 2-4 yrs old is usually independence, attitude, boundary testing. 4-7 seems like ok we get it now and generally pleasant. So right now we have two “big kids” who are legit fun and a two year old...well let’s just say she painted her entire room with desitin during her “nap” yesterday. (Still trying time figure out how to get it off the rocking chair cushions). So lots of patience and redirection for that one. ...so why not have a fourth! 🥰. I mainly don’t want a middle child and dont want to wait too much later.
And I also hear you on the PPA/PPD, it's a b$#@%. We're both getting fixed after this one too. And I also absolutely dreaded having a middle child. I relate so much to you!
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
@bserena Best of luck with the house pursuit! It can be such a stressful process, so I hope things go smoothly for you! Also, have forgotten to mention it before now, but I like your name! I'm a Serena, too!
@auburnvelvet86 It is a great name
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
I plan on trying to BF this baby but like many of you I really struggled with it the first time. I tried everything to get my supply up but it was just never where it needed to be. I think it was a combination of a traumatic birth plus the fact that DS was a ridiculously sleepy baby. We could barely keep him awake those first few weeks to feed. He started STTN at 7 weeks old. Which was AMAZING but I think since he was such a great sleeper it really affected feedings. He was BF up until 3 months when I went back to work and then was mostly BF but supplemented with formula until 6 months. At 6 months I switched to formula because my supply was pretty much gone. I never responded well to my pump. Since I'm a SAHM this time maybe it will be easier.
I'm terrified for baby #2 because DS was the easiest newborn ever and he's been an incredibly easy toddler. I cant get this lucky twice 😬 theres no way 🙃
Right now, we can have 1 support person with us. But they are not free to come / go. Once they leave the maternity ward (post COVID test) they're not allowed back. So like SO can't come and go to take care of our other three kids while also being there for me and NB in the hospital. We're really starting to stress about this because neither of us have family near by to help. My mom said she would come up the day of and the following day but I know I'll be there at least 3 days (C Section). And with DD2 I was there for 6 days. So my mind is spiraling and I need people to stop spreading their germs so we can have a normal c section......
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
No one seems to be taking it seriously here anymore either. Our county reported no new cases last Thursday. Today they are reporting 45! That is just today. Since Thursday 107 new cases. People are just doing what they did before like it's not still a thing.