@jaclyn0405 we've been approved yes so that is awesome but the house we wanted got snatched up the day we went to look at it, so we are a bit disappointed about that. Oh well though, something better will come along! (I hope, haha). Thank you for asking
@bserena aww yay for being approved and boo for it moving quickly! We are about to list ours on July 6th and I hope that we have really good luck. It is all such a stressful process, especially while pregnant!
@jaclyn0405 it definitely is! I know the houses in my city are being sold so quickly, it is crazy. Hopefully you guys have the same experience selling yours
1. Try to sleep on my left 2. Get restless 3. Shift to my right. Soooo happy. Juuuuust about to fall asleep. 4. Baby girl kicks like crazy til I go back to my left.
@dumbledoredies I feel the same way about worries about this next baby! DS hasn't necessarily been a super easy toddler, but he also hasn't been super hard. And he was a great sleeper! He, too, was pretty much sleeping through the night by 8 weeks. Some of it I think came down to our strict Babywise approach, but a good chunk had to do with the fact that he just loved to sleep. He'll still sleep in fairly late in the morning now, which I think is pretty unheard of in 1.5 year olds. He just took a 3 hour nap today! So, yeah, I'm with you on concerns that it's too much to hope for to get lucky twice!
@Ecat504@name1109@kitkatz1990 I'm with you all on the increasing concerns over Covid. The numbers seem to be going down some here in MN, but no one is really wearing masks and I have a hard time thinking it will last. Definitely not into the fall when it will really matter. My hospital has the same policy about one support person who can't leave during the entire process. I'm not sure what we'll do with DS. He'll probably be able to stay with my husband's parents, but his mom in particular hasn't been very good about social distancing or wearing masks. So I'm having a hard time knowing how concerned I should get over having DS stay there for a few days potentially, and then come home to a newborn after maybe being exposed. And my mother in the law is of the sort who is falling into some conspiracy traps, so I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be receptive to trying to quarantine in advance to make sure DS doesn't bring anything home with him. Ugh. It's all a bunch of unknowns and stressors on top of a situation already full of unknowns and stressors!
I’m with you guys on the Covid fears. My due date with my miscarriage was July and I thought one of the silver linings would be that I wouldn’t have to give birth in the middle of the pandemic. But who knows what November will look like. I’m so sad at the thought that I’ll have to be away from my son for three days or so and he won’t get to come to visit his new brother. Of course things can change but I’m not that optimistic.
In other news my son just told me “ your tummy is not big,” and followed it up with “yes it is.” 😂 🙄
@surlyjaneausten Yes, to the sadness about DS not getting to come to visit. But I'm also not super upset by the fact that it means my in-laws ALSO won't be able to come! BTW, I love your profile pic. Definitely one of Jane Austen's more underrated books and movies!! I'm currently doing a re-read of all of Jane Austen's books and many of the movie adaptations on my blog and it's been a great excuse to re-read comfort books during a stressful time like this!
@auburnvelvet86 I love it too! That’s so cool, I’d love to check out your blog one day! I feel the same, currently reading Harry Potter before bed. I’m not super sad about my in laws not coming either. We had to send my husband’s aunt away last time because she showed up right as I was trying to walk again post c section 🙄.
@acdc1109 oh it’s so good. And I’m a big fan of the Gwyneth Paltrow version and the miniseries with Romola Garai. The new one tops them IMO. visually stunning and Anya Taylor Joy is perfect.
@surlyjaneausten ugh I hadn’t even thought about the possibility of me and DH not being able to see DD for around 3 days after the birth of the newbie. I don’t like that at all. I know my MNL can keep her; but it really sucks that she won’t be able to come for a visit if corona doesn’t cool it’s shit.
I never pop in to this thread, but hi! No randoms for today, but I'm going to try to read through this all and want to get to know everyone better beyond my week 4 friends. :-)
My anatomy scan is today at 10:50 and I am so excited My husband is finally able to come too so I am so looking forward to it. But also nervous/anxious. Hoping everything goes well!
Y'all I can't believe so many of us are and are almost 1/2 through this pregnancy! I don't remember when we did it in my other BMB but is there a plan to have "labor buddies" or something?
Ugh, I feel so much for all of you with COVID numbers going up. I can't remember where I posted this, but here in MA we were the top three states for cases/deaths for months and months and the anxiety seeing the numbers keep increasing was insane. To the point I had to stop watching the news/obsessively googling. Now our numbers are steadily decreasing and our governor is super strict about reopening and I hardly see anyone without masks on.
In terms of delivery in November, our plan right now is that my parents will watch our two girls while I am at the hospital. I will labor at home for as long as possible. Policy right now is that DH and I will be screened at COVID tested upon arrival. I will not be allowed any visitors and DH will not be able to leave and then reenter. Depending on the numbers in the fall, we will potentially ask my parents to self-isolate for 2 weeks and our household will do the same. This would require us to pull our girls from school/daycare for a couple of weeks and me to stop working. That way I will feel safe with my parents watching the girls and will also have my mom as an option to be my support person if for some reason, DH can't be there due to the virus. We're also planning on staying at the hospital for as little time as possible post birth.
So, just got back from my anatomy scan! Baby boy looked great and is measuring right on track they did find, however, that I have marginal cord insertion. My OB told me not to worry/google it (haha, funny), and said the main worry is that baby could be small compared to what he should be but he is measuring perfectly now so they will just do another scan at 28 weeks to check up on him. Of course I am worrying but trying to focus on all of the good news I got! I will post pics in the u/s thread.
@bserena Glad it went well and Baby is looking great! I know it's hard not to worry, but also if the doctor says not to - then at least you have that peace of mind!
@bserena We did labor buddies in my N14 group, but I don't think my J18. Basically people who wanted to pair up would exchange information (cell number, fb messenger, or something) and fill their buddy in on how labor/birth was going. The labor buddy would update the board so the woman in labor didn't feel like she had to post anything.
Full disclosure, I didn't have one, I just posted when I was ready.
Has any thought been given to migrating over to FB? My N14 fb group was created 6 months prior to babies being born and my J18 group was about 3 months prior, so we're right in the middle. :-)
We paired up typically people in weeks 1 & 3 were buddies and 2 & 4 so hopefully no one's labors / deliveries over lapped. You'd basically send as much or as little details to your LB as you'd want and they'd update the group so it was 30 less people you had to update and then follow up / answer. In our group our LB posted an initial: "ECAT HAD HER BABY!!!" post with details and any updates for the first few days until you get around to coming back to TB.
I'd be weary of joining FB just yet. I think there's still way too much time for the crazies. We migrated to FB about a month or two post babies. We had enough time to weed out most of the weirdo-s on TB and didn't have too much drama or anything because we all knew each other pretty well by that point. (just my opinion).
ETA - I think we were around 6 or 7 months when we assigned labor buddies (I'd be happy to take on that task if you guys want to do this)!
@crizz13@ecat504 Okay, labor buddies sounds cool to me! I am definitely open to that.
As far as moving to FB, would you guys be interested in doing a private group on TB first? I feel like that is a good way to weed out the crazies and get a bit more comfortable before moving to FB. Ideally, I would rather be sharing my birth stuff once we are in a private group of some sort, but I am open to what everyone else wants to do.
I agree with @bserena - I'd much rather share my personal labor and birth info once getting to know everybody a bit better, in a more personal environment. I'd be down for a private group here before migrating to FB.
Hi ladies, this is my first time popping by on this thread! I’m totally down for the idea of labor buddies and the fb group! I’d definitely like to get to know everyone a little better, I’m 21 and have no “mom friends” so I’ve been leaning on this group a lot for support 😌
@crizz13 the idea is that only those we add into the group can see our posts so there aren't random people creeping lol! It would allow us to be a bit more open/feel a bit more comfortable before moving to FB and sharing our identities and all of that! Usually, from what I have seen (correct me if I am wrong, please!) but there is a vetting process where we each would prove that we are indeed pregnant women (lol!) and so it just creates a safe space but still here on TB instead of FB.
But again, totally open to what the majority want! Just an idea
@bserena yes I’m with you on it. I’m not prepared for the lurkers to be all up in my RL on FB yet. I’m down with starting the vetting process for TB group.
@1sttimemomma98 I may have totally missed it (or just forgotten because pregnancy brain is a real thing), but did you do an intro on the intro thread?
I’d suggest participating and getting to know everyone a bit. Not trying to exclude you by any means! I was 20 when I joined my first BMB and the ladies there are some of my best friends today and greatly molded me into the woman and mom I am. I hope you hang around and participate because I promise you’ll learn so much and have such a wonderful community to lean on when you need us for all of the things in life! My S14 board and I have been through gosh, just about every single thing life can throw at you!!
But ultimately FB is our very real lives with very real and personal details about ourselves and our families / friends. Not knowing you *at all* I’d be very uncomfortable inviting you onto FB with me (I hate hashing this out like this via forum because i promise I’m not trying to come across bitchy or rude! And this totally doesn’t just go for you).
@acdc1109 For a contrary opinion, I didn't love the new "Emma" as much. I definitely get why some people like it, but for me it leaned too heavily into the comedy at the expense of the romance. Plus, I have soft spot for the Romola Garai version which would make it hard to beat! But I think I need to re-watch it soon and see if a second viewing will change my mind!
I am down for the private TB group first if that is the consensus! I did like the migration to FB with my J18 group prior to birth however, just because it was honestly easier. Sometime TB is a hassle and I forget to check it because I live on FB lol. We did nominate admins and had pretty strict rules for admission, some girls even being rejected because they weren't around long enough. I forgot the whole process, but I can ask the admins what we did if we want to use the criteria for the private TB group first?
@auburnvelvet86 I will check it out! I want to get my librarian endorsement on my teaching license at some point. It sounds like a fun job. @1sttimemomma98 participated in our week 4 check in! I’m with you on not being ready for a Facebook group just yet but I look forward to that some day. I think a private bump group sounds fine. I actually didn’t even know that was a thing.
@jaclyn0405 That was my thought too. I'm so bad at remembering people based on the little thumbnail photo here and the screen names...and this freaking app is so hard to navigate.
@Ecat504 I get it, and I agree with personal information that is out there on FB. I will say that I have my profile on pretty strict lockdown, so all that you could really see from me even as a member of a group is my real name and my profile photo. I only accept/accepted friendships with women that I trust and feel like I know well enough. So I don't necessarily agree that it would be a problem over on FB in a private group. So we can agree to disagree. I am 100% with you though about the friendships formed and would not get through motherhood without the ladies in my N14 and J18 groups.
On another note, I know @1sttimemomma98 intro'd a while back and has been pretty active on the week 4+ check in. I vouch for her!
Now that I'm thinking more about it, I'd honestly rather not move to a separate TB group and THEN to a fb group...seems like a lot of migrating and such. Maybe the example above is a good reason to all just stay here for a while and when we DO move to another forum make sure we have admins (not me, I'm totally not interested in that, haha) who frequent different parts of the board... but I'll do whatever people feel comfortable with.
Re: June Randoms
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
2. Get restless
3. Shift to my right. Soooo happy. Juuuuust about to fall asleep.
4. Baby girl kicks like crazy til I go back to my left.
I was trying to post the next product spotlight and realized the "New Discussion" button is missing, at least for me. Weird.
@Ecat504 @name1109 @kitkatz1990 I'm with you all on the increasing concerns over Covid. The numbers seem to be going down some here in MN, but no one is really wearing masks and I have a hard time thinking it will last. Definitely not into the fall when it will really matter. My hospital has the same policy about one support person who can't leave during the entire process. I'm not sure what we'll do with DS. He'll probably be able to stay with my husband's parents, but his mom in particular hasn't been very good about social distancing or wearing masks. So I'm having a hard time knowing how concerned I should get over having DS stay there for a few days potentially, and then come home to a newborn after maybe being exposed. And my mother in the law is of the sort who is falling into some conspiracy traps, so I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be receptive to trying to quarantine in advance to make sure DS doesn't bring anything home with him. Ugh. It's all a bunch of unknowns and stressors on top of a situation already full of unknowns and stressors!
My anatomy scan is today at 10:50 and I am so excited
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
In terms of delivery in November, our plan right now is that my parents will watch our two girls while I am at the hospital. I will labor at home for as long as possible. Policy right now is that DH and I will be screened at COVID tested upon arrival. I will not be allowed any visitors and DH will not be able to leave and then reenter. Depending on the numbers in the fall, we will potentially ask my parents to self-isolate for 2 weeks and our household will do the same. This would require us to pull our girls from school/daycare for a couple of weeks and me to stop working. That way I will feel safe with my parents watching the girls and will also have my mom as an option to be my support person if for some reason, DH can't be there due to the virus. We're also planning on staying at the hospital for as little time as possible post birth.
So many unknowns makes me so anxious.
Full disclosure, I didn't have one, I just posted when I was ready.
@Ecat504 is that what you were thinking?
Has any thought been given to migrating over to FB? My N14 fb group was created 6 months prior to babies being born and my J18 group was about 3 months prior, so we're right in the middle. :-)
We paired up typically people in weeks 1 & 3 were buddies and 2 & 4 so hopefully no one's labors / deliveries over lapped. You'd basically send as much or as little details to your LB as you'd want and they'd update the group so it was 30 less people you had to update and then follow up / answer. In our group our LB posted an initial: "ECAT HAD HER BABY!!!" post with details and any updates for the first few days until you get around to coming back to TB.
I'd be weary of joining FB just yet. I think there's still way too much time for the crazies. We migrated to FB about a month or two post babies. We had enough time to weed out most of the weirdo-s on TB and didn't have too much drama or anything because we all knew each other pretty well by that point. (just my opinion).
ETA - I think we were around 6 or 7 months when we assigned labor buddies (I'd be happy to take on that task if you guys want to do this)!
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
As far as moving to FB, would you guys be interested in doing a private group on TB first? I feel like that is a good way to weed out the crazies and get a bit more comfortable before moving to FB. Ideally, I would rather be sharing my birth stuff once we are in a private group of some sort, but I am open to what everyone else wants to do.
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
But again, totally open to what the majority want! Just an idea
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
SO
SD (11/2010)
DD1 (09/2014)
DD2 (10/2015)
Baby Girl #4 (11/2020)
@surlyjaneausten I co-run the blog with a library friend of mine (we're both librarians by training but SAHMs for now). It's called "The Library Ladies" and my Jane Austen review series is called "My Year with Jane Austen."
@1sttimemomma98 participated in our week 4 check in!
I’m with you on not being ready for a Facebook group just yet but I look forward to that some day. I think a private bump group sounds fine. I actually didn’t even know that was a thing.
@Ecat504 I get it, and I agree with personal information that is out there on FB. I will say that I have my profile on pretty strict lockdown, so all that you could really see from me even as a member of a group is my real name and my profile photo. I only accept/accepted friendships with women that I trust and feel like I know well enough. So I don't necessarily agree that it would be a problem over on FB in a private group. So we can agree to disagree. I am 100% with you though about the friendships formed and would not get through motherhood without the ladies in my N14 and J18 groups.
On another note, I know @1sttimemomma98 intro'd a while back and has been pretty active on the week 4+ check in. I vouch for her!
Now that I'm thinking more about it, I'd honestly rather not move to a separate TB group and THEN to a fb group...seems like a lot of migrating and such. Maybe the example above is a good reason to all just stay here for a while and when we DO move to another forum make sure we have admins (not me, I'm totally not interested in that, haha) who frequent different parts of the board... but I'll do whatever people feel comfortable with.