I saw that’s reticle this morning and I’m like there is no way I can stay in my house for 12 weeks. Having said that everything here in Nashville is closing so I may not have anywhere to go if I tried to.
@blaf322 I was with a friend from Georgia who ordered livermush at a diner we stopped at in NC. Still no idea what it is and never really want to find out lol! Definitely a southern thing.
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
+1 for not understanding the baby boomer generation not taking this seriously. Luckily my parents are - my mom is a teacher so she's off and my dad is working remotely, so they've pretty much just holed up at home and I'm glad about that. My ILs, however..... MIL gets sick SO EASILY. Literally every time she visits any grandkid she ends up seriously ill for weeks on end. She's currently doing breathing treatments, but yet... she still went to the local community pool to get her water walking in. I get that helps her back feel better, but stay TF home! She minimized it by telling MH that the kid section of the pool was closed, so it's fine. Nope. Not how this works. Stay home.
It sounds like we will be put under a shelter-in-place/lockdown either tonight or very soon. Several nearby counties have already put it into place, so I figured our county would follow suit soon.
We had decided to skip the martial arts classes, but they sent out a message this morning saying they were closing the studio for the time being.
Also, my MIL posted something this morning about getting out while she still could because she's not contagious (she doesn't know that, no one does, that's kind of the point) and she's not 65 (she's 64, and risk goes up starting at *50*). She also has significant health issues. Just.stay.home. She doesn't work, she doesn't have any other extremely important reason to leave home. What's with this attitude?
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
Kentucky has now shut down gyms, hair salons, etc. I’m honestly glad they shut down gyms because I felt like it was irresponsible for my CrossFit gym to keep running classes even though they were like “we wipe everything down before and after! Everyone is washing their hands! We wash the floors 3x/week!” Wondering what’s next. We also have the whole restaurants and bars being closed to dine-in services now. The Derby was pushed till September. Crazy times.
@b_1029 our state's YMCA's finally pulled the plug yesterday evening, but I thought it was kind of crazy that they were still open! My H has been on WFH this week and still went to the gym a couple of times (dumb, I know) and he said it was exclusively elderly people. I guess people just love their routines which is why places need to make the decision to close to protect people (like my H apparently) from themselves!
@treeofcheem ugh that is so frustrating about your MIL!
@meanjellybean MH won’t stop going to the gym (his is in Indiana, so they haven’t shut down at this point) and it’s pissing me off. Like seriously, you go to the gym maybe once a week normally, and NOW is when you’re going to be motivated to go? Ok. Agreed they just need to close, I can’t think of many places germier than a gym even if they do all clean a lot. People are just gross lol
@b_1029 I definitely don’t blame you. The gyms I always feel like is a cesspool no matter how much you clean off your own stuff. could he shower at the gym before he leaves and takes all those germs home with him 😷
As some of you know I am from Mexico, schools from pre-k to college are cancelled until April 20th, there are some confirmed cases but in my state only 1 and that town is 8 hours driving away, but also across the border there are 4 suspicious cases. We are still working but my boss told me we were more likely be here only today or maybe tomorrow since all manufacturing facilities from our customers are in shutdown at least for the rest of the month. I am pretty calm about this, but everyone is like is freaking me out telling me to be extra cautious.... I am also worried about my parents, my mom is in her mid 70's and she gets upset about stuff like this, she hasn't slept well, that is what is keeping me worried.... that and our president since he is not taking things seriously
I’ve basically been having an hour+ long breakdown about all of this and how it’s stealing my “joy” (for lack of a better word) about this pregnancy. After the long journey it took to get here, I had just started to finally allow myself to really start getting excited and feel like it has all been ripped away. I can’t find anything to be excited about really. Does anyone have any coping strategies or tips on how to still enjoy our pregnancies as much as possible even when you feel totally destroyed by the world’s events?
i know this probably comes off as dramatic and whiny and I’m sorry.
@b_1029 hugs... it doesn't come off as dramatic or whiny at all. How your feeling is absolutely valid.
I wish I had some magical answer for you but I don't... My best suggestion would be to try to do some other things that bring you joy. For example, being around friends is something I thrive on and, with everyone feeling a little stir crazy, we've been putting together virtual happy hours with friends from DD's BMB using Zoom video conferencing. I think it really brightened everyone's day. If your thing is crafting, maybe you can find something fun that's baby-related to make for your LO? I'm not saying it'll make everything all better, but getting your mind on things you like and away from boredom can't hurt.
Also, if you're feeling really overwhelmed by everything and think medication might help, talk to your OB. There are lots of safe options during pregnancy.
@b_1029 I totally get it. It feels super self centered but I can’t stop thinking how this is most likely ruining our babymoon, what if our shower is cancelled, what if this is still going on in July etc. I’ve had some really good days like yesterday and others when I really struggle. On the good days, I’ve thrown myself into baby prep- setting up the nursery, washing his newborn clothes, cleaning, etc. maybe that’ll help? I’m also thinking that now is a good time to learn to crochet and make him a blanket.
@rjk0427 that’s a good idea about crocheting! I have no idea how to do that or knit but maybe this is the time I can learn 😂 I have washed all the clothes we have but have nowhere to put them yet. I’m sure once our dresser comes in for the nursery that’ll help distract some. I’m waiting until my amazon discount kicks in to do the crib but part of me just wants to buy it now! I have all the same feelings as you RE: shower, babymoon, situation in July. We have a trip planned Memorial Day weekend for a babymoon but I highly doubt it’ll happen.
FWIW, I used this tutorial to teach myself how to crochet yeeeears ago. It'll get you started with a basic chain and single crochet (or maybe double?) But once you can do those things, making a blanket is super easy. Just get the yarn you like along with the recommended hook size and you're good to go
ETA- have a stash of these can cozys now and I'm the only one who uses them But, I've made lots of other stuff so it was worth the time spent learning. I recommend making a few of these before moving to a blanket so you can get used to how tight you want the yarn and all that stuff.... that way your lines are straight.
@b_1029 no advice really but you know I feel you on this one. I think it's completely normal and understandable to have these feelings. It's hard because there's such a focus on social media right now about focusing on gratitude/positivity and how other people have it harder. Those are both fine but that doesn't mean that you (we) can't feel pain and sadness about our situations as well. We're all affected. My boss likes to say that change is also loss, and when things change, we're allowed to mourn the things we lose (even if we're excited about the thing we're moving into, like a new job)
For me, in my worse moments I think about how you only get one first pregnancy, it's the one that gets celebrated, it's the only one you can spend time with your spouse and community around without having to care for other small children. Also I imagine as someone who struggled with IF, this is an especially special moment to celebrate. I've found myself feeling sad about emerging from this in my third tri and in a totally different physical form, and missing the chance to "use the second tri to do stuff." In my better moments I'm trying to release what I can't control and envision a different version of this pregnancy that, yes, is different, but doesn't have to be sad.
I'm so sorry this is stealing your joy @b_1029. And that isn't dramatic at all. I know that I already have 4 healthy kiddos, but this is my husband's first baby, and our rainbow. This is *supposed* to be a joyful time for us, and instead, it's all worry and uncertainty. This is just a shitty deal all the way around. I know under normal circumstances, a virtual shower would be tacky AF, but is this something you could think about? Give yourself something to look forward to? Do a live video with everyone you love and celebrate in the best way we currently can.
@Pascal86 I'm a little anxious about attending my appointments, but also don't want to miss out on them either. Next one we have is on the 30th; and then after that pretty sure I have to have my glucose testing done since I'm 23 weeks as of yesterday. I also just remembered we signed up for a birthing class through our hospital mid-April; and I'm wondering how that's going to play out. We haven't gotten any messages about rescheduling or anything like that at this point.
@shaqn0sis if you're worried about going to your visits, are you able to do tele visits for the ones without anything major going on (like an US or glucose test)?
@blaf322 I just checked out their website and it does look like they are now doing virtual visits! This upcoming one doesn't include US but I do want to hear the heartbeat though... I'm already on edge with everything going on so it might give me some relief to hear.
@shaqn0sis I get that! With folks starting to feel the babies moving moving move, hopefully our group will be able to feel more comfortable with e-visits as time goes by!
I'm due July 7th, and being in a position where I work in a care facility and have no choice to work from home (even though I work in admin and CAN work from home - they're just not allowing it) I've decided to start my mat leave April 16th. On top of that, I'm high risk for early-onset preeclampsia and have asthma, so all of that compounded, and still having to be at work every day, makes me feel like I'm losing my mind. If anyone needs an ear, I'm here. I get it. This is rough.
@mehugg I totally get how you feel. It's sad for us first-time mommies on that topic for sure, not getting to really share it with anyone right now. My shower was cancelled, and I couldn't care less about the "stuff", but having a chance to sit down with all the women in my life to talk about what to expect and all of that was so exciting, and sad that we can't now. It's definitely a time we need a lot of support, and not be able to get that now except for through phone or email is super tough. Big hugs to you love.
Ugh, I just need to vent. Feeling stressed today about the business side of things and bothered by the multiple people making bad decisions around me.
First, and most aggravating, my SIL apparently had a fever she went to her doctor for last week, was given asthma meds (so I assume she was also having trouble breathing), and was told to go to ER if the fever came back. She then today sent her son to my MIL’s house for her to watch him and her husband went to work as usual, where he works with the public - they’re potentially exposing so many people! The fever returned or never left or something so she went back to the ER. They just sent her back home and told her to rest.
My coworker also had a fever last Friday, only works part time, was planning to come into the office tomorrow. I told her to stay home (I’m technically her supervisor.)
Then, I saw 4 or 5 of the neighbor kids huddled out together playing in our common area today. I’m telling my daughter no to everything and she’s watching the other kids playing together outside.
They’ve also closed all our city parks because no one can keep their distance from anyone else. Just waiting for regional and state parks to end up closed, too.
Also, because I can’t respond with this anywhere else, but social distancing and flattening the curve aren’t necessarily going to make this go away faster. They’re intended to do the *opposite* - spread things out so it’s manageable, and hopefully it affects fewer people as well. The quickest thing would actually be to just let it tear through the entire population. I don’t want to discourage anyone from actually doing the right thing, but seeing post after post about “Please do your part so we can get this over with sooner” is making me twitchy not being able to contradict them!
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
“ The quickest thing would actually be to just let it tear through the entire population. ”
While this is technically correct, we want to flatten the curve so an estimated 10% of the population doesn’t die. Sometimes faster isn’t better...especially if we are talking about human lives. That’s 32 million Americans dead. We also are not sure yet whether people can get reinfected by this virus. This theory assumes you’re immune after being infected and surviving. If that’s not the case...things just get worse. It’s also assuming that medical personnel survive to continue treating the ill. If the hospitals are overrun, you’ll have more of the medical community die as well.
@amygray725 Oh of course. I figured people know that’s why we AREN’T doing that, and it’s the reason I wouldn’t comment on someone’s FB post about it. I WANT to flatten the curve, but it’s not the fastest way to get this over with. It’s just the least horrible way.
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
It's unfortunately kind of a no-win situation at this point. If we extend social distancing and closures, it means we'll be able to reduce the mortality rate because our system won't be overloaded, but it does affect the economy longer. If we were to stop all preventative measures and let it run loose, we'd see more deaths and potentially an even bigger collapse of the economic system. It's just trying to get through it with the least loss of lives and lowest economic impact possible, neither of which are entirely avoidable at this point anyway.
I don't mean any of that in a fear-mongering way, I just mean that it's affecting our world and people are sick, and that's unavoidable, but definitely doesn't mean the end of anything. The world has been through worse and it's bounced back! It just might take time.
We have a similar case here in PA. It’s a college student who partied out all weekend after all the St Patty parades were cancelled and people were encouraged to stay home. 🤦🏼♀️
Is anyone else spending waaayyy too much money during this whole thing? We didn’t lose income (I don’t work and hubs is an admin for phillysd -he’s a decision maker and has job security through all this). But we went a bit crazy shopping before lock down. Fire pit, seeds, new bedding. All thing we do want/need, but now I’m looking at it like “hmmm, we still need to get baby stuff”. My other shopping priorities I have saved in carts ready to go (we need new curtains as these are ripped, baby gear, a rug for the newly wood floors, a new 5pt car seat for my three year old) but I’m kinda like “Nows not a great time to spend money”
@kittenslove I keep *wanting* to spend money but telling myself it’s a bad time for most stuff. It’s therapeutic to plan and shop! But I am worried about our income depending on how long things go on. We should be able to pay the bills and stuff but the discretionary spending feels like it needs to be put on hold.
2/13 Blighted ovum, D&C -- 6/13 MC -- 8/14 DD born -- 3/17 MC -- 9/18 DD2 born Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
My husband is a pulmonary critical care physician and is covering the COVID ICU with a single mask for the entire week. He's staying at a hotel. I'm pretty calm but I can't believe this is happening.
@blaf322 I feel that about the anxiety. I'm a teacher, so spring break was pretty much extended from early March onward, but the longer this is dragged out, the more risk there is for anxiety. Keep doing what is best for you and eases your mind!! We are all SO close.
@Skk1977 Praying for you and thinking of you. Hang in there, sweet friend. Stay safe. <3v
It seems like the testing they have done postpartum on those who tested positive seems fine, but there are still serious concerns about the effects of the virus PREdelivery. I read an article recently about a woman with COVID in Louisiana who went into preterm labor (I am pretty sure it was due to the fever/stress on her body, but they didn't mention any preexisting conditions), and lost the baby. Just heartbreaking and sad. This is my first baby, so the combination of new mom jitters, COVID concerns, and being quarantined without much outside interaction has been enough to drive anyone mad. We all just have to stick together and remind ourselves that our main priority is protecting our families and our little ones on the way.
Re: COVID-19 Chatter
@bluguitarhannah girl, same.
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
We had decided to skip the martial arts classes, but they sent out a message this morning saying they were closing the studio for the time being.
Also, my MIL posted something this morning about getting out while she still could because she's not contagious (she doesn't know that, no one does, that's kind of the point) and she's not 65 (she's 64, and risk goes up starting at *50*). She also has significant health issues. Just.stay.home. She doesn't work, she doesn't have any other extremely important reason to leave home. What's with this attitude?
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
Wondering what’s next. We also have the whole restaurants and bars being closed to dine-in services now. The Derby was pushed till September. Crazy times.
@treeofcheem ugh that is so frustrating about your MIL!
We are still working but my boss told me we were more likely be here only today or maybe tomorrow since all manufacturing facilities from our customers are in shutdown at least for the rest of the month.
I am pretty calm about this, but everyone is like is freaking me out telling me to be extra cautious....
I am also worried about my parents, my mom is in her mid 70's and she gets upset about stuff like this, she hasn't slept well, that is what is keeping me worried.... that and our president since he is not taking things seriously
i know this probably comes off as dramatic and whiny and I’m sorry.
I wish I had some magical answer for you but I don't... My best suggestion would be to try to do some other things that bring you joy. For example, being around friends is something I thrive on and, with everyone feeling a little stir crazy, we've been putting together virtual happy hours with friends from DD's BMB using Zoom video conferencing. I think it really brightened everyone's day. If your thing is crafting, maybe you can find something fun that's baby-related to make for your LO? I'm not saying it'll make everything all better, but getting your mind on things you like and away from boredom can't hurt.
Also, if you're feeling really overwhelmed by everything and think medication might help, talk to your OB. There are lots of safe options during pregnancy.
ETA- have a stash of these can cozys now and I'm the only one who uses them
For me, in my worse moments I think about how you only get one first pregnancy, it's the one that gets celebrated, it's the only one you can spend time with your spouse and community around without having to care for other small children. Also I imagine as someone who struggled with IF, this is an especially special moment to celebrate. I've found myself feeling sad about emerging from this in my third tri and in a totally different physical form, and missing the chance to "use the second tri to do stuff." In my better moments I'm trying to release what I can't control and envision a different version of this pregnancy that, yes, is different, but doesn't have to be sad.
I also just remembered we signed up for a birthing class through our hospital mid-April; and I'm wondering how that's going to play out. We haven't gotten any messages about rescheduling or anything like that at this point.
I'm due July 7th, and being in a position where I work in a care facility and have no choice to work from home (even though I work in admin and CAN work from home - they're just not allowing it) I've decided to start my mat leave April 16th. On top of that, I'm high risk for early-onset preeclampsia and have asthma, so all of that compounded, and still having to be at work every day, makes me feel like I'm losing my mind. If anyone needs an ear, I'm here. I get it. This is rough.
First, and most aggravating, my SIL apparently had a fever she went to her doctor for last week, was given asthma meds (so I assume she was also having trouble breathing), and was told to go to ER if the fever came back. She then today sent her son to my MIL’s house for her to watch him and her husband went to work as usual, where he works with the public - they’re potentially exposing so many people! The fever returned or never left or something so she went back to the ER. They just sent her back home and told her to rest.
My coworker also had a fever last Friday, only works part time, was planning to come into the office tomorrow. I told her to stay home (I’m technically her supervisor.)
Then, I saw 4 or 5 of the neighbor kids huddled out together playing in our common area today. I’m telling my daughter no to everything and she’s watching the other kids playing together outside.
They’ve also closed all our city parks because no one can keep their distance from anyone else. Just waiting for regional and state parks to end up closed, too.
Also, because I can’t respond with this anywhere else, but social distancing and flattening the curve aren’t necessarily going to make this go away faster. They’re intended to do the *opposite* - spread things out so it’s manageable, and hopefully it affects fewer people as well. The quickest thing would actually be to just let it tear through the entire population. I don’t want to discourage anyone from actually doing the right thing, but seeing post after post about “Please do your part so we can get this over with sooner” is making me twitchy not being able to contradict them!
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
I don't mean any of that in a fear-mongering way, I just mean that it's affecting our world and people are sick, and that's unavoidable, but definitely doesn't mean the end of anything. The world has been through worse and it's bounced back! It just might take time.
Expecting again -- EDD 7/27/20
Natural MC 10/01/14
I feel that about the anxiety. I'm a teacher, so spring break was pretty much extended from early March onward, but the longer this is dragged out, the more risk there is for anxiety. Keep doing what is best for you and eases your mind!! We are all SO close.
@Skk1977 Praying for you and thinking of you. Hang in there, sweet friend. Stay safe.
It seems like the testing they have done postpartum on those who tested positive seems fine, but there are still serious concerns about the effects of the virus PREdelivery. I read an article recently about a woman with COVID in Louisiana who went into preterm labor (I am pretty sure it was due to the fever/stress on her body, but they didn't mention any preexisting conditions), and lost the baby. Just heartbreaking and sad. This is my first baby, so the combination of new mom jitters, COVID concerns, and being quarantined without much outside interaction has been enough to drive anyone mad. We all just have to stick together and remind ourselves that our main priority is protecting our families and our little ones on the way.