This virus is definitely starting to make me nervous but I’m also trying to remember that it’s out of my control. Just hard when you see a major college in our state shutting down and my husbands work has advised work from home as well. I’m still not understanding the toilet paper thing though and it’s so hard to find any here in town! Thankfully my MIL brought some the other day because I didn’t realize we were almost out. I think a thread would be good as well.
I think I have finally decluttered all I can for pictures tomorrow and I’m exhausted. Our offer was also accepted on the house that went for sale next to some close friends of ours. While we are super excited to be neighbors and in a great neighborhood we are not in love with the house and I’m struggling a bit with it. I think even more so because it’s hitting me that we are leaving our home of 7 years where we brought our girls home to and have so many memories 😭 We are trying to save some money though so buying something less expensive was our goal but it’s just been hard. I keep trying to remind myself that we can do more as a family now but I guess I just thought I’d still be more excited than I am.
Come to the conclusion that the main reason I'm worried about having a boy (don't get me wrong my love and excitement for this little human growing inside my has dramatically increased since my AS yesterday), is that I don't want him to be as wild and crazy as my nephew. Who doesn't like the work no, finds it okay to hit his mom (even when she was pregnant), and throws a dice at me as hard as he can as I'm holding his sleeping newborn brother, after me telling him to hand it to me gently. I know some things are just boys being boys, but this is what worries me. I don't know boys I grew up with all girls basically.
On top of the lovely COVID-19 crap, our building just had a patient be diagnosed with RSV and there is a nasty pneumonia going around. Of our 4 units, one is on lock down, and you have to wear a mask to go in the door. In the past, they have gone so far that if you have to work on that unit, you have to stay on that unit and cannot go to another unit. I have a feeling that is coming in the next week or so. For some reason, I am more scared of getting RSV than COVID-19, and bringing it home to DD. I talked with my boss today about not scheduling me with any patients on the unit with RSV, and thankfully a coworker has agreed to switch with me if a patient does end up on my schedule who I shouldn’t be seeing. Funny enough my boss is my BIL, kind of want to say oh hey dude don’t you want to keep your niece and unborn nephew safe??
Mortgage rates are at 40 year low so I looked into refinancing. Our credit union has a simple mortgage modification gor existing mortgages that is $600 instead of closing costs. No appraisal (Another place was $3600 + appraisal) and I'm sure it wouldn't appraise at what we need it to since we just bought it 10 months ago.
Plus we get money every December from them for just being members (Extraordinary Dividend). It is pretty close amount to a mortgage payment and can't beat that every year, just for having mortgage through them.
We were debating going to 15 year fixed rate of 2.75% but DH wasn't on board since our payment would increase $400 a month. We just replaced my 13 year old Jeep and he will eventually will need a new vehicle. Baby etc etc
RANT: Looking through our budget and credit card accounts and hubby is using his credit card instead of debit card for gas, groceries etc to get points 😤 And not paying it off. So needless to say we need to get that all under control and paid off.
Hope we can even get the refinance rate to be honest 🙄
@nursejenn5 I have girls and they’re not always all that well behaved either lol for the most part they are but man the drama... some days there’s so much whining I want to pull my hair out. Maybe you won’t have to deal with that 😊 I don’t blame you for being worried though because DH and I were worried about the same if this one was a boy but I do hear they’re a lot easier during the teen years plus I have some friends with pretty well behaved boys.
Side note: this baby is a night owl. Oh my she’s doing some crazy things right now and has been for the past couple hours. I really hope this isn’t an indication of our future 🙏
@hbird0723 it’s more common for babies to be more active at night!
My mom always says it’s because when we’re moving around during the day it’s kind of rocking them to sleep (and we’re busier so we notice it less) I’m not sure that’s true but it sounds like a good explanation 😂
@nursejenn5 don’t stress. This is not a boys will be boys situation (btw... totally hate that phrase... boys will be kind human beings, but I digress). My friend’s daughter is just as wild as what you’re describing. It’s a little bit nature (bc my friend does EVERYTHING she can to improve her daughter’s behavior), a little bit nurture. Additionally, I have another friend who has a DS that is the polar opposite of that. He is kind, thoughtful, and incredibly shy. He is not a rough and tumble kid. So, don’t worry just yet. You never know what your LO’s personality will look like.
@Erikahenderson1 honestly, yeah... I think it’s a really bad idea to have your 6yo in the room while you give birth. IMO, you should be looking for alternative care (using something like care.com) and asking other friends. If your BFF can be there in a couple of hours, how qualified does the person really need to be? You need to trust them, but they’re just a stopgap until your other friend can get there.
I am in Indiana but the credit union I speak of is in Illinois BUT has locations in California too(they bought them 10 yrs ago after/during recession). You can live anywhere and have mortgage anywhere. My hubby's coworker moved to Georgia and used them and lots of relocation at DHs company people use them because they are one of preferred lenders.
Funny thing is I was able to call and talk to someone quickly regarding my questions whereas the two banks in my town I've yet to hear back from 🙄 I'll PM you the name!
I personally wouldn't have my child in room but I have a friend who had her 6 year old and 18 month old in room. She also has very fast labors (gets to hospital just in time). However, I'm with @blaf322 on getting someone as "stop gap" until one of your parents gets there.
Have you considered a doula for yourself on case in goes quick and hubby cant be there? Or a sibling doula for your daughter in case that's what you decide is to have her in there. The sibling doula meets you/your family prior and helps with child during birth.
@Erikahenderson1 I'll be the odd one out and say it would probably be fine to have your 6 yo in the room with you. My daughter wanted to be there, all my kids have seen birthing videos, and the only reason I don't want them there is because I want that time alone with my husband. But if you are really concerned, could you reach out to parents of your daughter's classmates and get recommendations for babysitters? That way you could line up someone to be available/on call for that specific situation?
I posted about this in the COVID thread, but I'll say it here too.... The water in the county I work in (and DD's daycare is in) tested positive for e.coli so we're not supposed to drink it or wash our hands with it I drank about 100oz yesterday.
That said, I *think* we're probably fine. A friend of a friend works for the water company and said one faucet tested positive so they have to alert the entire county. It's likely that something just crawled up into that faucet and died and that the rest of the county's water is actually fine. Obviously, I'm not taking any chances with drinking the water... but it's nice to know I probably won't be violently ill on the plane ride home tomorrow
Oh damn @blaf322 that sucks about the water! Now I understand how important it would be to have some bottled on hand! Side note- where in Wisconsin is your conference? I wonder if I've got friends who will be there!
@modoodles it's in Eau Claire. It's suuuuper unlikely that you'll have friends there... unless they work in a sterile processing department at a hospital close by. These regional shows are pretty small (50 people max, most of the time). It's the WI IAHCSMM chapter, if anyone says they're attending educational sessions on Friday and/or Saturday
@lizzybean84 I'm so happy for you! That's a wonderful thing @Erikahenderson1 I've seen plenty of people have their kids in the room with them. I don't think it will be traumatic for her. I'm sure if you reach out to her teachers they could give some recommendations on a sitter or at least send a message out to other parents asking for recommendations. @blaf322 crazy, I live about 20 mins from Eau Claire!
@blaf322 we have friends in Eau Claire, but they don't work in your field. I actually have a daycare parent who is a nutritionist and teaching classes over the weekend in La Crosse, but she told me this morning that two other classes she had scheduled for the April are being canceled.
So totally random but I was really upfront with my patients (especially my surgical ones) about my IVF issues and what not—mostly because my schedule changed all the freaking time and I wanted to be honest about why. Like a whole memo explaining how they could contact me even if i wasn’t there (my IVF doctor was 2.5 hours away).
I did it so people would understand why I cancelled clinic or surgery or shuffled things around and gave them the opportunity to change doctors
i didn’t expect all the gifts and hugs and food and love I would get now...a year later since I’m pregnant. It is so humbling.
@Erikahenderson1 even if you’re ok with your child being there for birth, you’ll need to check the hospital policy. I know we don’t allow it where I work. Also, you have to plan for the unexpected. Say you do have an emergency c-section, that’s not only scary but you will be in the OR then recovery for 1-2 hours. What then? We keep kids at the desk sometimes when things happen too fast but you can’t count on the staff being available. Good luck finding a good back up plan.
I worked at subway through high school and my first year of college even then I never minded the smell. But I went to subway for the first time since being pregnant today (for a HUGE veggie sub 🤤) and the smell was like seriously heavenly. I probably could’ve stayed there all day 😂
If I had any germs/viruses hanging out on my skin from traveling today, I can find some comfort in the fact that it’s definitely not there anymore. Between the sandpaper towels and pressure washer shower head (that was basically like a nipple assault), I definitely lost at least a layer of skin during the shower I just took at this hotel 😂😂😂
@blaf322 I feel like hotel showers either have the weakest or the strongest water pressure. There is no in between. At least you got a nice exfoliation 😂
@blaf322 lol that sucks so bad. Such a gamble on whether the hotel shower will be relaxing or not. You probably could have used a relaxing shower and not to have your nips blown off 😂 I know exactly what you’re describing too lol
well with all this virus stuff interest rates are going crazy and now if we move we won’t really be saving much money and being that we weren’t in love with the house I was feeling super emotional and sick to my stomach about it. We were told we were in the contingency stage and could still back out so we decided to pull the plug. I feel so many emotions. Sad that it didn’t go like I was hoping and relieved but feeling bad and guilty about the time the realtor put in and bad for the people trying to sell (even tough it’s only been a day) and sad to have to tell our friends we wouldn’t be their neighbors. I feel like I just shouldn’t be allowed to make any big decisions while pregnant. I’m just too emotional apparently and now I have to unpack our stuff into our home although I’m thinking I might not since it’s been so nice and easy to clean. I guess at least our house is nice and clean and I’ve donated and thrown out lots of unwanted stuff.
Anyway, I’m ready to just go back to normal and move forward and not be consumed by it. The back and forth was the worst!
@blaf322 the water thing sucks. I hate it when that happens.
We are back from FIL funeral. I came a day sooner and had an appointment with primary care and my OB. No results yet on glucose test but it was no big deal. (I wonder if that means I'm more of a sugar fiend than I think.) I'm a wheezing, snotty mess from my allergies and asthma evidently the 2 medications I cannot take right now were doing more than I thought.
Issues with MIL and her memory are going to be a much longer haul. My Mom did come in and go to the funeral with my stepmom. That was a bonus and I got pampered for a night and a day of the experience.
@bluguitarhanna . I was mia for a few days and I missed the news about your FIL. so sorry to hear that. Also, solidarity with the allergies...mine are so bad. I need my meds!!
@bluguitarhannah FX your results look good! What flavor did you go with? I didn’t think the test was a huge deal either. But, it did make me nauseous afterwards.... I think that was just bc I basically had syrup sitting on my stomach with no other food though.
@hbird0723 I’m sorry this is all so stressful... but it sounds like you did the right thing for your family. The bad feelings about everything will fade soon and you’ll be glad for the choice you made.
@hbird0723 that sucks that you guys had to decide to pull out. This whole process is so stressful and hard to know whether you're ever making the right decision! Hang in there.
@bluguitarhannah that's nice that your mom was able to come and support through such a tough time for you and your wife. This whole "our parents are getting older" business is kind of the worst. Sending positive thoughts your way. And solidarity on the allergies front.
Watching 100 Humans on Netflix so you all don't have to (because it's not great). H and I just started watching Hunters on Amazon which is good/pretty intense.
Can't focus at work right now. Operations are sort of paused pending a memo from leadership regarding covid response, hanging at home with pup, cat, and H. I'm making insta stories about my cat being an annoying coworker who won't leave me alone lol
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 3/9/20
I know some things are just boys being boys, but this is what worries me. I don't know boys
Plus we get money every December from them for just being members (Extraordinary Dividend). It is pretty close amount to a mortgage payment and can't beat that every year, just for having mortgage through them.
We were debating going to 15 year fixed rate of 2.75% but DH wasn't on board since our payment would increase $400 a month. We just replaced my 13 year old Jeep and he will eventually will need a new vehicle. Baby etc etc
RANT: Looking through our budget and credit card accounts and hubby is using his credit card instead of debit card for gas, groceries etc to get points 😤 And not paying it off. So needless to say we need to get that all under control and paid off.
Hope we can even get the refinance rate to be honest 🙄
I’m not sure that’s true but it sounds like a good explanation 😂
I am in Indiana but the credit union I speak of is in Illinois BUT has locations in California too(they bought them 10 yrs ago after/during recession). You can live anywhere and have mortgage anywhere. My hubby's coworker moved to Georgia and used them and lots of relocation at DHs company people use them because they are one of preferred lenders.
Funny thing is I was able to call and talk to someone quickly regarding my questions whereas the two banks in my town I've yet to hear back from 🙄 I'll PM you the name!
I personally wouldn't have my child in room but I have a friend who had her 6 year old and 18 month old in room. She also has very fast labors (gets to hospital just in time). However, I'm with @blaf322 on getting someone as "stop gap" until one of your parents gets there.
Have you considered a doula for yourself on case in goes quick and hubby cant be there? Or a sibling doula for your daughter in case that's what you decide is to have her in there. The sibling doula meets you/your family prior and helps with child during birth.
That said, I *think* we're probably fine. A friend of a friend works for the water company and said one faucet tested positive so they have to alert the entire county. It's likely that something just crawled up into that faucet and died and that the rest of the county's water is actually fine. Obviously, I'm not taking any chances with drinking the water... but it's nice to know I probably won't be violently ill on the plane ride home tomorrow
@Erikahenderson1 I've seen plenty of people have their kids in the room with them. I don't think it will be traumatic for her. I'm sure if you reach out to her teachers they could give some recommendations on a sitter or at least send a message out to other parents asking for recommendations.
@blaf322 crazy, I live about 20 mins from Eau Claire!
i didn’t expect all the gifts and hugs and food and love I would get now...a year later since I’m pregnant. It is so humbling.
@blaf322 nipple assault 😂😂
well with all this virus stuff interest rates are going crazy and now if we move we won’t really be saving much money and being that we weren’t in love with the house I was feeling super emotional and sick to my stomach about it. We were told we were in the contingency stage and could still back out so we decided to pull the plug. I feel so many emotions. Sad that it didn’t go like I was hoping and relieved but feeling bad and guilty about the time the realtor put in and bad for the people trying to sell (even tough it’s only been a day) and sad to have to tell our friends we wouldn’t be their neighbors. I feel like I just shouldn’t be allowed to make any big decisions while pregnant. I’m just too emotional apparently and now I have to unpack our stuff into our home although I’m thinking I might not since it’s been so nice and easy to clean. I guess at least our house is nice and clean and I’ve donated and thrown out lots of unwanted stuff.
We are back from FIL funeral. I came a day sooner and had an appointment with primary care and my OB. No results yet on glucose test but it was no big deal. (I wonder if that means I'm more of a sugar fiend than I think.) I'm a wheezing, snotty mess from my allergies and asthma evidently the 2 medications I cannot take right now were doing more than I thought.
Issues with MIL and her memory are going to be a much longer haul. My Mom did come in and go to the funeral with my stepmom. That was a bonus and I got pampered for a night and a day of the experience.
I didn’t think the test was a huge deal either. But, it did make me nauseous afterwards.... I think that was just bc I basically had syrup sitting on my stomach with no other food though.
@hbird0723 I’m sorry this is all so stressful... but it sounds like you did the right thing for your family. The bad feelings about everything will fade soon and you’ll be glad for the choice you made.
@bluguitarhannah that's nice that your mom was able to come and support through such a tough time for you and your wife. This whole "our parents are getting older" business is kind of the worst. Sending positive thoughts your way. And solidarity on the allergies front.
@Erikahenderson1 I'm curious why you deleted several of your posts on here?
What's everyone got planned for the weekend?