PAIF New Mommies - January 2020

PoeMasque · February 2020

Thanks ladies! DS has two dolls, but he could care less about them. Our daycare provider tried for months to get him to “help with the baby” too, but it’s just not his jam. He’s suuuper gentle when he touches baby’s face, but he seems to not realize that that the rest of Emmett exists, so he’ll softly stroke his hair while literally laying on top of his chest. He gets confused when we say gentle because he IS being gentle. I like the idea of having him help with picking out clothes and such. I tried a few times to have him “help” when I change baby’s diaper, but he loses interest pretty fast, so something quick seems like it would work better

wildrainbow · February 2020

@PoeMasque Ds1 also sang lullabies to baby. If ds2 was fussy, I would sing to him a simple song that ds1 could sing too. He really enjoyed doing that because it was a way for him to be involved with his care. If I was changing a diaper, I asked him to get me the wipes or diaper cream. Ds1 was also in charge of the pacifier for the very short time ds2 took one. He took that responsibility seriously and always made sure it was around. So maybe give him a responsibility like that?

Hopeful_mom · February 2020

I love reading how helpful these toddlers are does it just happen overnight

my DD is a handful right now and VERY rough bruises me all the time, she doesn’t realize her own strength and when having a tantrum doesn’t care. I need to find softer sneakers that’s for sure! It concerns me just the thought for number two to get through the pregnancy sveta constantly kicks my tummy during diaper changes. I will say she hugs her toys lovingly but also chuckes them across the room. I try to explain to be nice and not to hurt and give big ouchies but that hasn’t sunk in yet!

PoeMasque · February 2020

@hopefulmom how old is she? That sounds exactly like my son while I was pregnant. Diaper changes were literally a kickboxing match! He turned 2 in December. As we got closer to baby arriving he seemed to get worse, but once baby arrived all those behaviors got a lot better. I wonder if he knew things were changing or maybe we were stressed out and he was just reacting to that? It also just could be a phase that he outgrew.

Tulips29 · February 2020

@PoeMasque so glad to hear you're home and things are going well! We also got DS a doll before his sister arrived but he wasn't too interested in it. He's mostly gentle, but sometimes tries to grab her face or "lift" her to hold her and I worry too. We constantly remind him that she's little and to be gentle and compare everything to his toys. So when he's rough with his toys, we'll say that he can't be rough because then the toys will get hurt and they are little. He gets it now and will say things like "we can't throw baby sister because she's little and will get hurt." But he's still in her face all the time trying to kiss and hug her.

I meant to write an update but kept forgetting. You ladies have given me so much great advice. Things have gotten a lot better with our feedings. It's no longer painful to feed and she latches on a whole lot better. She can still be a lazy eater and some feeds are longer than others, but I stopped worrying about it too much. She's become more alert, and sometimes eats well without falling asleep on me, but other times it's a struggle to wake her up to eat. I kind of go with it now. She also stopped choking on the bottles, I guess it was an age thing. She's 2 months today and it's so surreal how quickly time is flying. So we stuck with our original bottles and she's doing well with them. As long as she's gaining weight well, I stopped worrying about the other things as much. She also started smiling now and it's the cutest thing ever. We're still dealing with tons of toddler tantrums and each day is filled with highs and lows, but we're trying our best to be calm through it all...it's so hard though! DH and I constantly talk about if we're doing things the right way and raising these kids right, so that's always on my mind these days.

*Edited for spelling errors

persnickity · February 2020

@Tulips29 glad to hear things are going so much better! You sound so much happier and relaxed in your post. As for doing the right thing, all of us parents worry the same thing. ❤️

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