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modoodles · January 2020

**Not guaranteed to be flame free!

modoodles · January 2020

I've put on a bra exactly once in the last month. We have supper plans with friends tonight and I'm dreading it because I don't want to wear a bra.

modoodles · January 2020

Oh! I know it is 1000% tacky, but I would not turn down a baby shower for this (5th) baby. I had a baby shower with my DD in 2005, but no other after that, thought I was done having kids in 2012. Got divorced in 2015. Remarried in 2019. He doesn't have any children of his own. I've started buying things already, like a highchair, pack & play, swing, but I definitely wouldn't turn down a shower. I actually hope a friend offers. Well, one friend already did offer, but I'm not going to bring it up to her.

footdrbritt · January 2020

@modoodles
super jealous, I would probably get in trouble/make my patients super uncomfortable, but I hate them too right now—it made me think of the below meme (which is absolutely saved in my phone)

modoodles · January 2020

@footdrbritt I've been living in leggings/sweats and big comfy hoodies! I got new bras in the spring, but first tri made me outgrow them pretty quickly. I need to pick up a couple more, but that requires leaving my house 😭

Also* that is one of my all time favorite memes, and I use the "calm your tits" phrase often! And also "hakuna your tatas!"

b_1029 · January 2020

I’ve had a headache the last 2 days and am thinking about telling my manager/coworker I’m logging off early just because I’m over it. I’ve hardly had anything to do for 2 weeks so it’s just a waste of time staring at my screen. my coworker has also been off for 2 weeks so I’m bitter...she can take over and I won’t feel bad about it at all.

meanjellybean · January 2020

@footdrbritt I've actually never seen that meme and I love it. I actually read too fast and thought it was your signature or whatever. Which I would fully support.

@b_1029 I also fully support leaving early. I've had a headache over the last week and luckily I took off from work anyway but staring at a screen def wouldn't be helping it.

@modoodles I guess my FFFC is similar to yours - I haven't put on makeup in over a week. I don't wear a lot anyway, but since we told our families around Christmas I've taken it as a free pass to fully let go while I'm off from work. And since I've also had a cold I look TERRIBLE. But I have no shame lol.

stlbuckeye132 · January 2020

@b_1029 I'm on my third day of a headache that won't go away, and similarly, I did absolutely nothing at work yesterday. I definitely think you should call it quits early. I knew going into 2nd tri that it comes with headaches, but I'm hoping it's not always this constant headache that won't go away!

b_1029 · January 2020

@stlbuckeye132 I didn’t know that but I’m weirdly excited to finally have a symptom. Trying to be productive is hard though with a headache, hopefully they don’t last all of 2nd tri or this will be a struggle 😅

and_peggy · January 2020

I’m incredibly grateful to be pregnant, have had fairly easy pregnancies and I love my babies...that said, if I’d have known how hard this pregnancy was going to be on my body, I probably wouldn’t have done it again. Or atleast considered it further.

I know it’s flame worthy🤷🏻‍♀️

blaf322 · January 2020

@modoodles I totally wouldn't judge you for having a shower. When you have that kind of a gap between kids/showers, I think it's absolutely acceptable b/c you definitely need all the stuff, just like a FTM.

@footdrbritt that meme

I'm dead

FFFC: I like reveal parties and it was one thing I was really disappointed about feeling like we couldn't have with DD (b/c of all the testing we did on the embryos, we knew the sex). I'm not talking a bring me a gift party... Just a party (we host/pay for) with friends, food and alcohol where we can all have fun/get together and DH and I get to be surprised by the sex. It's dumb and I don't care now (for DD or this baby) but it's something I really wanted the first time around.

meanjellybean · January 2020

@rachstar18 not going to get flamed by me. I've been thinking recently (pretty morbidly) that if something were to happen to this pregnancy, I probably just wouldn't do it again. Just have DD as an only child. It may be selfish, but pregnancy is not easy for everyone.

and_peggy · January 2020

@meanjellybean I hear you. This baby is wanted and loved, it’s just been much different this time around. Wasn’t expecting to have been in the hospital. I don’t love pregnancy, I think I like the actual labor/delivery more.

stlbuckeye132 · January 2020

@rachstar18 no flames from me either. I've had easy pregnancies too, thankfully, but if my first had been awful, I probably would've been one and done.

My FFFC: MH and I are going to a neighboring state for a college basketball game tomorrow as his Christmas gift. We're leaving DD with my parents since they're still here visiting, and I feel zero guilt about being away from her. We just had a solid 12 days together basically non-stop, and I'm ready for the break. Love her, but she's exhausting. We're also taking advantage of our daycare's Parents' Night Out and she's staying there tonight while my parents, husband, and I go out to a nice dinner!

blaf322 · January 2020

@stlbuckeye132 I don't think that should qualify as something that needs to be confessed lol.... I do not understand the guilt people feel for leaving their kids. Parents need to be adults, and people, and non-parents sometimes too. (non-parents meaning where parenting isn't their first/only concern at the moment... of course, if something happened or you were needed, you're still parents first).

I'm planning a girl's wine weekend with a couple of friends from DD's BMB for November 2020. So this LO will be around 4mo. I feel no guilt being away then. DH is perfectly capable and it'll only be a couple of days (prob Friday night- Sunday afternoon).

stlbuckeye132 · January 2020

@blaf322 I agree, but I know some women feel all sorts of guilt anytime they're gone. It's certainly not me, but sometimes I'm like, "should I feel a little bit bad? Because I don't." haha she's perfectly fine when we're gone, and we're all happy to see each other when we're reunited again. I think it's healthy to spend time apart.

ETA: I'm also very jealous of your girl's wine weekend! That sounds amazing.

modoodles · January 2020

@blaf322 do you plan on nursing? I KNOW I'm going to miss my girls trips next year, but with planning to BF, it sounds like a lot of work to be gone. DH is wanting to take a trip next fall too, but I don't know... I may be too lazy.

b_1029 · January 2020

@blaf322 I don’t really have any plans for vacation other than maybe a bachelorette party a couple months after baby is born and I can’t WAIT to leave DH with him/her. I already have a feeling he isn’t going to be overly helpful so I can’t wait to be like byeeeeee! And then cry all the way to the airport because I already miss the baby lol

Skk1977 · January 2020

@rachstar18 I can't believe you've had two kids since I had my daughter in 2016. I'd be pretty tired especially if it were a difficult pregnancy. I hope you feel better soon!

Skk1977 · January 2020

@modoodles my husband's family threw me a "sprinkle" with my second child. The excuse was that she was a girl and needed girly stuff. lol. I find that other people's judgments of what is "tacky" don't really matter after multiple children.

Also tacky: My mom insisted on having a Skype baby shower (for my first child) at the same time as a shower that we had here in Massachusetts and invited some aunts, cousins and my best friend in Missouri to join on a video call. Someone on my BMB back in 2013 thought that was tacky but who cares my mom and her small group had fun joining in that way.

Skk1977 · January 2020

@blaf322 have you considered still having the party but just having everyone else be surprised? We did that with my son. No gifts but we bought people food and cupcakes. It was really nice.

blaf322 · January 2020

@Skk1977 no... I didn't ever really understand the point of those because I feel like others don't really care as much as we do (with the exception of our parents), ya know? But our baby shower was a co-ed bbq with the same kind of feel (plus presents b/c, shower).... so it was okay. This time, I don't really care lol

@modoodles I am... and it's going to be a huge PITA lol. I tried to push the date back to spring, but one of the girls really wants to go in November. I'll definitely need my own room b/c I'll be up pumping in the MOTN. There's a good chance we'll hire a driver to take us around the whole day (vs using Uber) so I'll be able to pump in the car during the day.
I'm hoping to do better/have a better supply this time so *maybe* I'll have some stock built up for this baby.... but we had to supplement with formula for DD by 4mo so I fully expect to just have him drinking on formula for those days and back to whatever breast milk I can make when I get back.

ETA- you should totally go on a trip next fall! I feel like getting away once things calm down a bit is so crucial for my sanity.

kc0711 · January 2020

These trips sound absolutely amazing, but my FFFC is that I could never go on one. DD is 18 months old and I have never spent a night away from her. I think my first night away from her will be when I am in the hospital to have the next one, and I’m already sad about it.

blaf322 · January 2020

@kc0711 everyone handles those things differently. I would lose my entire mind if I were to not have time away... but that's me! No flaming coming from me on this one. You have to do what works best for you/your family

Hopefully the time away when you're having this LO and then recovering isn't as hard as you expect!

and_peggy · January 2020

@Skk1977 I’ve been pregnant for like literally 5 years straight. I never planned to have 4 kids in 4 years... and to be honest I really don’t recommend it. I love the age gaps but it does take a toll on your body. Even just being 25 with my first and almost 30 now, the difference is crazy.

modoodles · January 2020

@blaf322 we are doing a cruise with the kids in January or February 2021 (baby has to be 6 months old) so I'm really looking forward to that. The kids haven't been on a cruise yet, so I know they will love it!

modoodles · January 2020

@kc0711 my first time spending a night away from my youngest DS was when he was 18 months old and I spent 5 days on a girls trip to Vegas. That was hard. The other part of getting away with DH for a weekend is not feeling like I have anyone I would trust to keep the baby. I love my mom, but I didn't allow her to watch my kids when they were little because she is not super loving and is super short tempered, and is borderline neglectful. And my inlaws suck, so they aren't an option at all.

blaf322 · January 2020

@modoodles how are you handling sleep with the baby. I assume a PNP in your room... but will y'all just be confined to your room at 7pm (or whenever baby goes down?) I would LOVE to take a family trip like that with DD, but I'm just not sure what to do about the sleeping situation.

modoodles · January 2020

@blaf322 When I checked, it looked like we could request a travel crib for our room! I imagine once we get baby down for the night we will either stay In the room, pay my DD (she will be 15) to babysit for a few hours one evening, or ask my mom to step in for a few hours once or twice if we want to take the older kids to do something or have a date night. I imagine sleep schedule will be absolutely fuc!ed during that trip, but, I also assume it will be absolutely worth it!

modoodles · January 2020

I really want to start a baby name thread here and start discussing because I need major help finding names, but I also feel like it may be too early. So I stalk other boards' baby name threads.

stlbuckeye132 · January 2020

@modoodles please start one! I love seeing people's baby name ideas. Although I'm the asshole who won't share any names we're thinking of. I guess I'm just as bad as those people who don't tell you the sex of baby that I was just complaining about yesterday lol

blaf322 · January 2020

@modoodles I love baby name threads. They're hysterical sometimes lol

pocketrose · January 2020

FFFC - I had my first appointment with my new provider today and she's delightful but I'm a little horrified by how much weight I've gained since my appointment at 6ish weeks (am 12w5 now). It's well within the normal range (6 lbs gained and I weighed myself with shoes on and my sweatshirt and H made a big breakfast this morning) but I've never been this heavy and I didn't realize how much of a mindfuck it's going to be. Any suggestions on how to be less crazy appreciated lol.

modoodles · January 2020

@pocketrose ask them not to tell you! Seriously! One time when I was sick (and not pregnant) I went for an appointment and they wanted to get a weight and I was just not there for it. I said, "yeah we can skip that, I already feel bad enough today."

blaf322 · January 2020

@pocketrose my friend always faced the other way (so she couldn't see the number) and asked them to only talk to her about her weight if they were concerned. I'd do that.

zande2016 · January 2020

The weight discussion just reminded me of a FFFC. I go to a birth center with midwives for my prenatal care and they have you dip your own urine and weigh yourself in the bathroom, then you just tell the nurse your weight (which eliminates the possibility of asking them not to tell you). Well my first prenatal appointment this time I was horrified when I weighed myself. I was only 7 weeks but I had gained 10 pounds since I last weighed myself sometime in the fall. My husband was at the appointment with me and I didn't want him to hear my weight. So I lied....I shaved 10 pounds off my actual weight. I panicked and now I am going to be stuck with this lie every time I go. For my 2nd appointment I stayed the same weight but added 5 pounds to my first fake weight to bring it closer to the actual number. I'm an idiot.

meanjellybean · January 2020

@zande2016 I don't know if you meant that to be funny, but I couldn't help but laugh at that situation! It's like something out of a sitcom lol. Also very relatable.

blaf322 · January 2020

@zande2016

That's great lol

modoodles · January 2020

@zande2016 😂😂😂 that's great!

nursejenn5 · January 2020

@zande2016 the level of commitment is the best. But I can totally see myself doing something similar 😂

zande2016 · January 2020

@meanjellybean Oh I most definitely see the humor in it

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