@tyrion_@BusinessWife I think this is a good idea / combo-approach. I know there were people on my first BMB that I didn't really get to know until waaaaayyy late because they were in a different due date week and STM vs. FTM, etc., and that was a bummer. But without all the subgroups in the beginning I'm not sure I would have been able to keep up with anyone, really.
Is anyone else feeling like the board is getting super cluttered already? May just be my OCD. Plusalso a good handful of AWs dropping in to start their own threads. We have all these one-off things and don't even have randoms for this week yet. Though, FFMC, I intentionally haven't started it because it's such a pain to post memes on TB. I love all of the people I meet on this site, but hate the UI.
Depending how how active the thread is you will have to do some scrolling to find the one you want. I’m hoping that as time passes the one off post will stop and we will find our groove. We’ve only been a group for less than a month, so I’m sure we will find our footing soon.
Married: August 2012
TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
@blackgirlmagic thanks! I’ve been looking for it and didn’t realize it was buried way down at the bottom. I feel silly now, but still annoyed at how messy the board has gotten after just a few weeks. I expect it will actually get a lot worse still before it gets better.
Should we edit the title of the “Spotting & Bleeding Support” thread to include losses found by ultrasound? I feel so bad that HappyFeet34 didn’t have a better place to post about her loss, so she had to put it in the ultrasound thread. 😭 Also, now I would feel bad posting a picture of a healthy baby in the ultrasound thread, because she is following the thread for condolences on her loss. Maybe we could just change the title to “Spotting, Bleeding, and Loss Support Thread”? Or something like that?
@tyrion_ tagging you because you started the thread, so if everyone agrees, you would be the one to edit it. 🙂
@starlight_7 I had the same sad feeling seeing her posts in the midst of the normal ultrasound scans. Left a bad taste in my mouth, so I think this is a good idea.
Just looking through some of the other bmbs and saw in May and April they made a board organization-read first sticky for new members with a bunch of info in it, including changing names for knotties, weekly/monthly boards, introducing, participation, etc. What do you girls think?
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@ziggymama06 Yesss! I’ve been intending to make one, but it’s a lot to tackle, and I just haven’t made the time to tackle it. (Took me forever just to copy their “If your name begins with Knottie” thread and edit it to include everything I thought it needed to say. 😂)
If you’d like to start one, that would be great! I think the best way to do it would be to post it here on this thread first, and let people give input of things to add/edit before you post the real thread. Maybe even put a disclaimer at the bottom once you post the real thread, like “This post may be edited as the board evolves,” so no one gets upset that if it says “Edited” later.
Can we keep the “Knottie” thread separate, since it already exists, and I don’t want to DD it? I’ve seen it be a separate thread on other boards. 🙂
I think someone mentioned this earlier, but I would love to start doing product spotlights. I've seen this on other boards and as a FTM I think it would be really helpful.
I also wonder if we started (and stickied) a "great question" thread if that might help keep the board from getting cluttered with one-off posts.
I see no reason not to reiterate the knottie issue in any stickied thread, nor to DD the one that's already been started. It had to be said! And it will most likely need to be said again... And again... 🙄
@rivercitynik Definitely! If there’s a specific product you’re looking forward to, go ahead and start that one!
The same goes for any of the regulars! But we may want to spread them out a bit! If we do them all in one day, some will probably sink to the bottom of the page and never be heard from again. 🙃
@rivercitynik@starlight_7 For product spotlights, I would highly recommend we work out a full list/schedule in google docs and do just one product spotlight post each week or so. Each post can link back to the spreadsheet, and vice versa, so it all stays accessible. Otherwise, as @starlight_7 alluded to I think many will be lost and/or not get the hoped for amount of attention and input. It also helps to order things so that early stage items like maternity clothes, pregnancy gear, etc. and then registry items are addressed ahead of things that can wait until baby is close/arrived.
I've linked the spreadsheet we used in my last BMB below, but there's no magic to it and other BMBs may have improved on the list since. Perhaps we start a thread looking for specific product/topic suggestions and then take it from there?
@emiliadkay Wow! That’s amazing! I love the idea! In order to have time for all of them before August, we need to get started soon! Is this something you’d be interested in spearheading? 🤗
I'd just say let's please try not to have more than maybe 5 stickies. A lot of people, such as myself, only use TB on mobile, and it's annoying to have to scroll past screenfuls of stickies, most of which don't ever need to be read again once you've read them once, to get to the threads you actually care about. Right now, we have four, and that is already 2/3 of a screenful on my device to scroll past every time.
Hi girls... so here it is... lmk your thoughts. I didnt change any of the weekly/monthly posts. I think we should incorporate some other non-pg related posts. We don't necessarily need every one every week IMO like MCM or WCW. Anything can be changed this is just a launching point. Maybe we also have a Great Questions thread to one-off questions, or incorporate that into Weekly Randoms/Questions? And I agree with too many stickied posts, but feel this is an important one:
Stolen from May BMB. We can always modify or update as we see fit.
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For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads: DO: -Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread -Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below if you don't see it started yet -Check to see if a thread has already been started on your topic or question so we can avoid too many threads of the same topic -Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: What to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc.) -Comment, share advice, and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well
DON'T: -Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against the Bump's Terms Of Use (TOU) -Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU (there is a thread on the open 1st tri page for this) -Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC -Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.
Here are some weekly/monthly ideas that may be good to start with. We can always add to best suit our boards needs, so please let me know if you have any other ideas!
*We can enter the product spotlight spreadsheet here*
I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion. PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Are you guys okay with eliminating MCM and WCW? I feel like those could easily fall into randoms or UOs.
One thread I really like that I don’t see on the list is the “stupid questions” thread which I have also seen called “ask a stm+”. I think it could be either weekly or monthly.
The organization here is so satisfying! I think Meal Plan Mondays would be great, and I’m also fine with getting rid of MCM and WCW. I don’t find that to be super stimulating conversation myself.
I am fine with getting rid of MCM, and WCW, but that is just a personal preference. I would like to see a couple of GTKY threads. Those are always fun!
@ziggymama06 You are truly a blessing. haha thanks for getting all of that!
Yes I completely agree with eliminating the MCM and WCW, just didnt want to delete them myself without hearing all of your feedback! I like the Questions thread too... should we keep it separate from Randoms and do it weekly or monthly? We can always amend as we go along too to incorporate additional threads and not continue certain threads if they aren't active.
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@ziggymama06 yes separate from randoms - we can try 1/month and change it to weekly later if we feel like we need it. I can start one for Jan later this week. I also want to keep up the monthly STM+ discussion thread because it's nice to have a separate place to talk about various topics related to our older kiddos.
We did the questions as ask the STM+. This way anyone could ask and the "experienced" could answer. We also did themes too. I.e. Ask me anything about Breastfeeding, L&D, lightning crotch, etc. I think we did them once a month, but I cant remember. They may been every 2 weeks or so.
@ziggymama06 I love it! and am another vote for eliminating MCM/WCW. I'd also be OK combining Wellness Wednesday and Fit Friday, unless the former is intended to be more mental well-being?
@starlight_7 Yes, I am down to organize the product spotlight spreadsheet and take requests/recos if I'm not stepping on any toes. I'll start the thread this evening!
@ziggymama06 thanks for doing that research. Since I'm on a computer, these are my thoughts: Sunday: weekly randoms, PGAL check-in, meal plan (I feel as if most people prepare for the week Sunday and not Monday), and due date by group check-in. I personally like these starting on Sunday rather than Monday. Monday: Tuesday: Plus size mom check-in Wednesday: HDBD (so looking to see the bumps! And you don't have to show your face to show off your bump). Thursday: UO Friday: FFFC, fit Friday, and product spotlight Saturday: Monthly: symptoms thread, appointment thread, FTM check-in, STM+ check-in
For the sake of having a thousand posts, could we do weekly questions as part of the weekly randoms? It can be it's own post, but I was just throwing an idea out there. After awhile I think we can un-sticky the knottie sn post. I don't think we need this up for the full nine months. These are just my thoughts
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TTC #1: July 2015
BFP 1: October 30, 2015; EDD: July 6, 2016- Team Pink
I personally like check-ins beginning on Monday because the boards seem to be quieter on the weekends. What do you girls think about timing and combining questions with randoms?
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@ziggymama06@blackgirlmagic I don’t mind either Monday or Sunday to start. Sometimes so many new boards on Monday can be overwhelming. And this past Sunday the board was fairly active.
Questions will happen on the weekly randoms, but the randoms board can be so random that I think a separate board would be a better option.
I agree with @photographerwife. I'm afraid that a question may get overlooked or not answered because the randoms thread can move fast. I think it would be better to have it separate, this way it can be easily searchable, if someone needs to reference it again, etc.
Shall we continue to keep the group check-in separate from due date by week check-in? If so, what are feelings on days for each of these? Same day, next day?
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I don't really like the due date week check-ins, but if other people do that's fine. I would like to keep a group check-in since that's more inclusive.
@ziggymama06, perhaps people will just know, but maybe clarify that posts don't have to be, "a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below." If threads have to pertain to the entire community, we won't have a c-section thread or a formula feeding thread or an unmedicated thread or any number of other threads that presumambly a lot of people will want.
Also, maybe this isn't the place for this, but I really like it when people include women like me in their language about having a baby. Most people default to talking about "a hospital tour" or "asking your doctor" or whatever. I don't have a doctor. I never saw a doctor once during my two previous pregnancies and won't during this one if I stay low risk. I also have never been to a hospital during either of my pregnancies and won't with this one, presumably. I see midwives at a freestanding/independent birth center. So while I don't call people out, I love it when I see people say, "that's a question for your doctor/midwife" or "that's a question for your provider" or "at the hospital/birth center tour" or "at the tour of your birthing facilities."
Honestly, I'm lost in the group check-in... I'm so far behind and don't think I can catch up at this point. Does anyone else feel like it's a lot to interact with so many ppl in the one thread?
@coldlife I totally agree the wording should change (I copied this from another BMB)... as long as it's a thread that will include others in our community, go for it.... this is more of a guideline to discourage one off "google" posts that are only about one person's situation.
Me: 33 DH: 36 Dating 4/2008 Married 6/2016 TTC #1 9/2019 BFP 12/13/2019! EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Re: Board Organization
Also, now I would feel bad posting a picture of a healthy baby in the ultrasound thread, because she is following the thread for condolences on her loss.
Maybe we could just change the title to “Spotting, Bleeding, and Loss Support Thread”? Or something like that?
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
If you’d like to start one, that would be great! I think the best way to do it would be to post it here on this thread first, and let people give input of things to add/edit before you post the real thread. Maybe even put a disclaimer at the bottom once you post the real thread, like “This post may be edited as the board evolves,” so no one gets upset that if it says “Edited” later.
Can we keep the “Knottie” thread separate, since it already exists, and I don’t want to DD it? I’ve seen it be a separate thread on other boards. 🙂
I think someone mentioned this earlier, but I would love to start doing product spotlights. I've seen this on other boards and as a FTM I think it would be really helpful.
I also wonder if we started (and stickied) a "great question" thread if that might help keep the board from getting cluttered with one-off posts.
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1gjNtxy2Kd2JceTYYR5wkwVcpTbU-khgazhjcZnfI1y4/edit#gid=0
Stolen from May BMB. We can always modify or update as we see fit.
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For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads:
DO:
-Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread
-Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below if you don't see it started yet
-Check to see if a thread has already been started on your topic or question so we can avoid too many threads of the same topic
-Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: What to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc.)
-Comment, share advice, and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well
DON'T:
-Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against the Bump's Terms Of Use (TOU)
-Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU (there is a thread on the open 1st tri page for this)
-Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC
-Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.
Here are some weekly/monthly ideas that may be good to start with. We can always add to best suit our boards needs, so please let me know if you have any other ideas!
- Weekly Randoms
- Meal Plan Monday
- Man Crush Monday (MCM)
- PGAL Check-In
- Due Date By Group Check-In
TUESDAY- TW Tuesday
- Plus-size Mom Check-In
- Ten Things Tuesday
WEDNESDAY- HDBD (Hump Day, Bump Day)
- WTF Wednesday
- Woman Crush Wednesday (WCW)
- Wellness Wednesday
THURSDAY- Flame Free Friday Confession (FFFC)
- Product Spotlight: __________
- Fit Friday
- Friday Funnies
SATURDAY- Weekend Randoms
SUNDAY- Weekly Questions
MONTHLY- Symptoms Thread
- Appointments Thread
- FTM Check-In
- STM+ Check-In
- AMA Check-In
OTHER THREADS- GTKY Threads
- High Risk
- Milestone Threads (specific appointments/weeks gestation, etc)
- Breastfeeding
- PGAIF (Pregnant After Infertility)
- Single Moms
- Moms of Multiples
*We can enter the product spotlight spreadsheet here*I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion. PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Are you guys okay with eliminating MCM and WCW? I feel like those could easily fall into randoms or UOs.
@ziggymama06 You are truly a blessing. haha thanks for getting all of that!
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@starlight_7 Yes, I am down to organize the product spotlight spreadsheet and take requests/recos if I'm not stepping on any toes. I'll start the thread this evening!
Sunday: weekly randoms, PGAL check-in, meal plan (I feel as if most people prepare for the week Sunday and not Monday), and due date by group check-in. I personally like these starting on Sunday rather than Monday.
Monday:
Tuesday: Plus size mom check-in
Wednesday: HDBD (so looking to see the bumps! And you don't have to show your face to show off your bump).
Thursday: UO
Friday: FFFC, fit Friday, and product spotlight
Saturday:
Monthly: symptoms thread, appointment thread, FTM check-in, STM+ check-in
For the sake of having a thousand posts, could we do weekly questions as part of the weekly randoms? It can be it's own post, but I was just throwing an idea out there.
After awhile I think we can un-sticky the knottie sn post. I don't think we need this up for the full nine months.
These are just my thoughts
I personally like check-ins beginning on Monday because the boards seem to be quieter on the weekends. What do you girls think about timing and combining questions with randoms?
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl
@ziggymama06, perhaps people will just know, but maybe clarify that posts don't have to be, "a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below." If threads have to pertain to the entire community, we won't have a c-section thread or a formula feeding thread or an unmedicated thread or any number of other threads that presumambly a lot of people will want.
Also, maybe this isn't the place for this, but I really like it when people include women like me in their language about having a baby. Most people default to talking about "a hospital tour" or "asking your doctor" or whatever. I don't have a doctor. I never saw a doctor once during my two previous pregnancies and won't during this one if I stay low risk. I also have never been to a hospital during either of my pregnancies and won't with this one, presumably. I see midwives at a freestanding/independent birth center. So while I don't call people out, I love it when I see people say, "that's a question for your doctor/midwife" or "that's a question for your provider" or "at the hospital/birth center tour" or "at the tour of your birthing facilities."
@coldlife I totally agree the wording should change (I copied this from another BMB)... as long as it's a thread that will include others in our community, go for it.... this is more of a guideline to discourage one off "google" posts that are only about one person's situation.
Dating 4/2008
Married 6/2016
TTC #1 9/2019
BFP 12/13/2019!
EDD 8/27/2020 Baby Girl