Agree @mariabele I had one at 8 and 20. I had an additional one at 32 with DS due to a heart issue they found on the anatomy scan. They wanted to make sure it didn’t get worse (it didn’t and he’s fine) but otherwise I would have only had 2. My OB office now has handheld ultrasounds that they use around that 32 week mark to make sure baby is head down.
@mariabele yay for June 11 babies. And yes I’m with you, I am scared to eat because I literally feel like death with the heartburn. My OB said Prevacid or Omeprazole are ok to take but I’ve been too nervous to try. I’m beginning to consider trying at this point though because I know it’s going to keep getting worse as I get bigger and it’s already borderline intolerable
@sheshe3386 omeprazole I'm pretty sure is made by angels in heaven and sent down on little pillows of happiness carried by unicorns flying on rainbows!!! So basically it was my savior with my last pregnancy when I was breathing fire.
@runwmusic My due date is still June 1st, but they said I'm probably closer to May 28th, but since it wasnt much of a difference, they didnt change my date. According to when I'm guessing I ovulated (based on basal temp) I'm sticking to June first, and thus am here....
@bbluemoo luckily no one has tried to touch my belly yet, but I have thought a great deal about what I would say if people do. As much as I hate being violated, they are probably the same people who will want to hug and kiss my kid without his permission. I would want to set those boundaries early so that my kid knows that no one is allowed to touch him without his permission. How did you handle the situation?
@rabbitmama09 Similar situation here. My doctor is saying my due date is May 31, based on LMP. Since I temped, my date is June 1 or 2. I joined June based on what I would go by.
Baby is the size of a(n): Fruit thing... the app says plum. I cannot be the only one confused by their relative fruit-sizing (or maybe it's that I live in CA and the produce here tends toward the enormous.)
Upcoming appointments: I had my diabetes management kick off meeting yesterday, I have a follow up 26 Dec, and then my next OB appointment 30 Dec, and our AS will be 30 Jan. This calendar is filling up fast!
How are you feeling? Frustrated with my insurance but overall coming out of the sadness around my early diagnosis.
Raves/Rants: My dietician at intake was actually really impressed with the work I've done already this year, and some of the guidelines have relaxed since my first pregnancy so I may be able to have more normal disease-management/life balance this time around. That was a huge relief. Finding out the baby's sex and that our NIPS was completely normal was a huge upswing for both me and DH mentally. It's dumb, but knowing this tiny bit about the tiny human we're growing helps me envision our family life after GD and gives me a lot of hope.
Rant -- OMFG my step mom has already made my GD diagnosis all about her. She's trying to insert herself into my management program, and tell me how she understands what I'm going through because of her entirely voluntary diet (which she was "cheating" on literally as she spoke, and she had also just told us they had ice cream at home because I don't serve dessert anymore). Right after I explained that everything I eat has to be measured and counted and logged and carefully balanced, she put a bunch of strawberries on my plate and smothered them in whipped cream I can't eat. Then went on for about 20 min about how I have to come to a Chinese new year dumpling making party for my SIL this spring. (Nevermind that Chinese culture is a new thing for her, but has been part of my life since Jr. High -- and that I can't eat dumplings, and that being around food I love that I can't eat while everyone else enjoys it was literally my strongest anxiety and depression trigger last time around.) SO THAT IS FUN.
Rave -- I think we have a potential name that both DH and I love. More on this later, if we like it for more than a week.
Questions: None! But I want to give a shout out to all you VBAC and VBAC-aspiring moms. For personal and medical reasons, I plan to repeat-C but I wish you all the best outcomes and hope that you have amazing support from your care teams.
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? All the German sweets: Marzipan, Lebkuchen with Nougat (nutella), Zimtsterne (tiny almond cinnamon star-shaped cookies with a crisp meringue icing), Satsumas or other small citrus, and dark chocolate with hazelnut -- all of these are off the table for me this year.
@hayhay2501 I wish there were decent birth centers near me too. There's only one in my state, and it's over an hour drive, in a not-nice neighborhood, and they're super limited in who they can accept. I'm disqualified as I've had a surgical delivery. Most of the doctors around me mostly practice "once a cesarean, always a cesarean." It's great that home birth is understood as a valid option there, instead of something only crazy skeptics do, lol.
I will never understand the mesh undies. Seams right up the middle. Scratchy material, and for me they didn't have enough support to even hold a huge pad still, so I had that dreaded gap between body and pad, which let me feel the bleeding too much, and if I tried to walk, awkward chafing from too much pad movement. No thanks.
Glad they help others though! I did one or two days of depends, and then switched to my massive cloth pads or even cloth diapers tucked in, for the next 5-7 days. Then it was normal size pads.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Pink! This one will be DD #2.
Baby is the size of a(n): lime?
Upcoming appointments: Next one isn't until mid January at 16 wks
How are you feeling? Ready for first tri to be over already. I've got all the usual symptoms, though headaches are a new one. Bloating, nausea, and insomnia are the worst. The news that we're having a second girl is still sinking in. I'm starting to think of names and have some anxiety about daycare wait lists.
Raves/Rants: DH has been awesome lately.
Questions: I don't have a lot of parent friends IRL, at least who live nearby, and I'm one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I'm so frustrated with simple scheduling differences with friends who don't have kids. Happy hours and last minute parties that start late are not my jam anymore, but I don't get a whole lot of takers on activities that include DD and start at toddler nap/bedtime-friendly hours. Can anyone suggest activities that are good for kids and child-less adults to do together?
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? Cookies. Chocolate chip and walnut snowballs are my favorite.
@chaos-and-coffee that’s exactly what my tummy is now. Just a bit bloated mostly. I told both my grandma and my uncle that there is more poop than baby in there right now, so go away. And then I rubbed my grandma’s stomach the next time she did it 😂
@cclaineDC Not a ton of luck figuring out how to best hang with childless friends. When it's warm-local hikes, set up a few outdoor games-bags, bocce ball, badminton all up and try to get kids to play with one. Only works if friends can be non-competitive. Mini golf.
For crappy weather it's harder. Sometimes parking toddler with a coloring book and Netflix and a snack helps. We've tried km do some board game "nights" but during day, but that still means one adult-usually a parent-is stuck doing a toddler friendly game with kid separate from rest of adults, and switch out.
Sometimes we'll have people come to our house for an early (regular time for us!) dinner, and have them stay after for games and drinks and talking, once kids are down. That's easy for us because our kids are down by 7/7:30, and it's a one person job, and we have our living room on a separate level from kids, so hanging out at late here is cool.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@cclaineDC We regularly host a game night with our non-parenting friends as a continuation of a pre-baby tradition. It's low key, pot luck style, with other adults with career/life commitments to juggle. They usually show up as DS is eating dinner and he gives everyone a round of high fives and blows kisses on his way to bed. We eat, play some games or just hang out, figure out when our next date will be, and everyone goes home. It's always been at our house because we have a huge dining room table (great for games) and were originally centric to everyone's commutes. Now we've got the kiddo bedtime to wrangle, so it's super convenient to keep it at our place. We had game night up until the week before DS was born last time, and then took about a six month break to handle new parenthood and the no-sleep stage. They see our messy house, toddler tantrums, and sometimes get rare smooshy kisses from DS -- and they still love us somehow.
We also have a lot of success with throwing out things like "I'm going to the farmer's market at X time, and have to head home at Y time for naps. Anyone want to come with?" Admittedly not all of our friends made the pre-kid to post-kid transition with us, but most of our close circle has made it work. And a surprising amount of our non-parent friends are down for seasonal stuff like the pumpkin patch, or holiday lights, or even an early NYE (and then they go onto their no-kid parties from there).
@cclaineDC we have a similar situation. It’s gotten a bit better since having DD but most of my friends do not have kids. This may raise a few eyebrows but we do a lot of brewery daytime meet ups with friends. They’re usually very accommodating to kids and quiet during the afternoon and our friends are happy to go there! We’ve also started doing something called “brunch club” where every other month we meet for brunch and I leave DD with DH. It’s a nice way to connect and wwho doesn’t love brunch?!
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: finding out Jan 30
Baby is the size of a(n): Jalapeno
Upcoming appointments: Friday
How are you feeling? Okay, I guess the norm
Raves/Rants: this freaking weight! I feel like I cant control it and it's super frustrating. I'm eating 1500-1800 calories a day with exercise and just keep gaining. Crossing my fingers when they weigh me Friday I will have plateaued but I feel like that's doubtful given that I definitely feel like there is belly now.
Questions: Lots of questions for my doctor Friday but not much for here.
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? Dont know that I really have a favorite although I do love all the mint flavors this time of year.
Me 29 DH 33 Married 10/2016 TTC since 04/2019 BFP 10/12/2019, estimated 6 weeks EDD 06/07/2020
@horsesmeetbaby the scale is your enemy right now. YOUR WEIGHT WILL fluctuate. Are you drinking enough water? that can also cause weight gain, water weight.
@horsesmeetbaby Are you weighing yourself every day? It might be better for your peace of mind to check in weekly instead. Like @lizanet mentioned, a lot of things affect day to day weight fluctuations right now. There's also a lot going on in your body that bumps up the scale but isn't poor nutrition or negative for your health. You're bulking your blood supply, for instance, and that adds some weight. The placenta and growing volume of amniotic fluid add weight. If you're exercising you may be adding some muscle (adds weight). The boob growth definitely adds weight.
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: We found out through a blood test. It's a boy
Baby is the size of a(n): avocado? Orange?
Upcoming appointments: Had one today. Just got blood work and listened to the heart beeps on a doppler. Next one is the 20 week anatomy scan
How are you feeling? I feel pretty good. My back just hurts all the time.
Raves/Rants: I kinda nervous that I will never see a doctor until I'm giving birth. At the OBGYN office I am going to you see an NP at all your appointments. When you go into labor you get whatever doctor is on call. I just wanna know whose hands me and my baby are in. I'm considering switching to another practice but I'm not sure.
Questions: How do you feel about having other people besides your husband in the room while you are giving birth? I originally wanted it to just be me and my husband because I'm just a private person and I wanted our first moment with our baby to just be us. I was thinking and I might want my mom there for comfort. But I feel like if I have my mom there then I have to let my MIL come in too. I have quite a while to think about it, I think it will just be a last minute decision based on how I feel then.
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? Hmmm, pecan pie 😊
Thanks for the support @lizanet and @kyrwyn! I'm only weighing myself once every couple weeks to try and not become too obsessive. I am drinking way more water (like probably tripple) so that may be part of it. I'm probably being critical of myself but I also dont want my doctor to think I'm not paying attention to it and I know the more I gain, the harder it will be to get off.
Me 29 DH 33 Married 10/2016 TTC since 04/2019 BFP 10/12/2019, estimated 6 weeks EDD 06/07/2020
@sram331 I couldn't handle a practice like that. I am OK with delivering with a midwife rather than an OB, but not OK with having some rando doc meet me in labor. That happened to me with my first, and that ended terribly.
As far as other people in labor, that's for sure personal. I had my husband, my doula, and my mom present part of the time. No way would I have had my MIL present. Not only does she not need to see me THAT intimately, but she never really labored and thinks of birth only from a surgical perspective. She is wonderful, but definitely doesn't know how to support me at my most vulnerable. No one else can give you the right answers, but being in a supportive environment where you feel able to be vulnerable and powerful safely is the most important part.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@sram331 You definitely do not owe anyone (beyond maybe your partner) the privilege of being in the room when your child is born, regardless of their relationship to you or your family! Labor is an intense and vulnerable time and you shouldn't have to cater to anyone else's ego.
@sram331 - I only wanted my husband in the room. But if you want your mom there for comfort, there is no need to feel obligated to have MIL too. You can also have people in there while you labor and kick them out for the pushing.
I am an incredibly private person, but when it came down to it, I didn't even notice who was in there when I was pushing and even gave permission to let medical students observe because, in the moment, IDGAF! lol
After my post-lunch walk around the block I feel like maybe I should clarify the intensity in my reply. I come from an emotionally manipulative/abusive family and DH and I have a firm policy of active consent which includes emotional relationships. E.g. If you cannot say a full and resounding "Eff yes" to the idea of them being in the room, the answer is no. It really helps clarify and navigate our complicated feelings about emotional entitlement and knock down the "shoulds." E.g. Will I leave my kid(s) alone with my in-laws? Eff yes. With my own parents? ... ehhh.. so that answer is no.
@sram331 when it comes down to it you can have whoever you want there. You don't owe your mil anything. You have all your privates out and about! Talk to your husband about it and I bet he supports what you want to do.
I cannot believe you don't see a doctor at all! My practice they have you rotate to see each doctor at least once. You don't know who will be on call when you go into labor but at least you've met them all. Once your at the hospital you spend all the time laboring with nurses and by the time the Dr is there I promise you won't care which one it is. If you're uncomfortable, try a different practice. Do you have any friends you can ask for recommendations? Or see who is in your insurance plan and look up reviews online.
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Team Blue! His name is Sloane Michael
Baby is the size of a(n): Orange
Upcoming appointments: My 16 week appointment is Friday and my anatomy scan is January 16th.
How are you feeling? Tired. Pregnant with a toddler is no joke. And I have awful heartburn. So so awful. I'm going to ask my midwife about it Friday. I had it last time too but it's so frustrating and I feel like I can eat very little in terms of "real" food. I'm subsisting on carbs right now. And forcing down protein shakes.
Raves/Rants: I'm so grateful for my chiropractor. I've been seeing her weekly and it has helped so much.
Questions: None
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? My family's jello pretzel salad. So good!
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@sram331 to echo what others have said, who is in the room with you is completely your decision. I’m a private person and my mom and MiL didn’t even consider asking to be in the room. Medical students and residents didn’t bother me. My parents waited in the waiting room and were able to see DS shortly after he was born. Worked for everyone.
@thinkpositive2017 it is seriously the best thing ever. I dont make it at home because DH thinks its gross. But I might have to make some when we get back from our trip.
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Re: All June Due Date Check In Thread- Week of December 15
@bbluemoo luckily no one has tried to touch my belly yet, but I have thought a great deal about what I would say if people do. As much as I hate being violated, they are probably the same people who will want to hug and kiss my kid without his permission. I would want to set those boundaries early so that my kid knows that no one is allowed to touch him without his permission.
How did you handle the situation?
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Blue!
Baby is the size of a(n): Fruit thing... the app says plum. I cannot be the only one confused by their relative fruit-sizing (or maybe it's that I live in CA and the produce here tends toward the enormous.)
Upcoming appointments: I had my diabetes management kick off meeting yesterday, I have a follow up 26 Dec, and then my next OB appointment 30 Dec, and our AS will be 30 Jan. This calendar is filling up fast!
How are you feeling? Frustrated with my insurance but overall coming out of the sadness around my early diagnosis.
Raves/Rants: My dietician at intake was actually really impressed with the work I've done already this year, and some of the guidelines have relaxed since my first pregnancy so I may be able to have more normal disease-management/life balance this time around. That was a huge relief. Finding out the baby's sex and that our NIPS was completely normal was a huge upswing for both me and DH mentally. It's dumb, but knowing this tiny bit about the tiny human we're growing helps me envision our family life after GD and gives me a lot of hope.
Rant -- OMFG my step mom has already made my GD diagnosis all about her. She's trying to insert herself into my management program, and tell me how she understands what I'm going through because of her entirely voluntary diet (which she was "cheating" on literally as she spoke, and she had also just told us they had ice cream at home because I don't serve dessert anymore). Right after I explained that everything I eat has to be measured and counted and logged and carefully balanced, she put a bunch of strawberries on my plate and smothered them in whipped cream I can't eat. Then went on for about 20 min about how I have to come to a Chinese new year dumpling making party for my SIL this spring. (Nevermind that Chinese culture is a new thing for her, but has been part of my life since Jr. High -- and that I can't eat dumplings, and that being around food I love that I can't eat while everyone else enjoys it was literally my strongest anxiety and depression trigger last time around.) SO THAT IS FUN.
Rave -- I think we have a potential name that both DH and I love.
Questions: None! But I want to give a shout out to all you VBAC and VBAC-aspiring moms. For personal and medical reasons, I plan to repeat-C but I wish you all the best outcomes and hope that you have amazing support from your care teams.
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? All the German sweets: Marzipan, Lebkuchen with Nougat (nutella), Zimtsterne (tiny almond cinnamon star-shaped cookies with a crisp meringue icing), Satsumas or other small citrus, and dark chocolate with hazelnut -- all of these are off the table for me this year.
I will never understand the mesh undies. Seams right up the middle. Scratchy material, and for me they didn't have enough support to even hold a huge pad still, so I had that dreaded gap between body and pad, which let me feel the bleeding too much, and if I tried to walk, awkward chafing from too much pad movement. No thanks.
Glad they help others though! I did one or two days of depends, and then switched to my massive cloth pads or even cloth diapers tucked in, for the next 5-7 days. Then it was normal size pads.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Pink! This one will be DD #2.
Baby is the size of a(n): lime?
Upcoming appointments: Next one isn't until mid January at 16 wks
How are you feeling? Ready for first tri to be over already. I've got all the usual symptoms, though headaches are a new one. Bloating, nausea, and insomnia are the worst. The news that we're having a second girl is still sinking in. I'm starting to think of names and have some anxiety about daycare wait lists.
Raves/Rants: DH has been awesome lately.
Questions: I don't have a lot of parent friends IRL, at least who live nearby, and I'm one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I'm so frustrated with simple scheduling differences with friends who don't have kids. Happy hours and last minute parties that start late are not my jam anymore, but I don't get a whole lot of takers on activities that include DD and start at toddler nap/bedtime-friendly hours. Can anyone suggest activities that are good for kids and child-less adults to do together?
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? Cookies. Chocolate chip and walnut snowballs are my favorite.
For crappy weather it's harder. Sometimes parking toddler with a coloring book and Netflix and a snack helps. We've tried km do some board game "nights" but during day, but that still means one adult-usually a parent-is stuck doing a toddler friendly game with kid separate from rest of adults, and switch out.
Sometimes we'll have people come to our house for an early (regular time for us!) dinner, and have them stay after for games and drinks and talking, once kids are down. That's easy for us because our kids are down by 7/7:30, and it's a one person job, and we have our living room on a separate level from kids, so hanging out at late here is cool.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
We also have a lot of success with throwing out things like "I'm going to the farmer's market at X time, and have to head home at Y time for naps. Anyone want to come with?" Admittedly not all of our friends made the pre-kid to post-kid transition with us, but most of our close circle has made it work. And a surprising amount of our non-parent friends are down for seasonal stuff like the pumpkin patch, or holiday lights, or even an early NYE (and then they go onto their no-kid parties from there).
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: finding out Jan 30
Baby is the size of a(n): Jalapeno
Upcoming appointments: Friday
How are you feeling? Okay, I guess the norm
Raves/Rants: this freaking weight! I feel like I cant control it and it's super frustrating. I'm eating 1500-1800 calories a day with exercise and just keep gaining. Crossing my fingers when they weigh me Friday I will have plateaued but I feel like that's doubtful given that I definitely feel like there is belly now.
Questions: Lots of questions for my doctor Friday but not much for here.
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? Dont know that I really have a favorite although I do love all the mint flavors this time of year.
Married 10/2016
TTC since 04/2019
BFP 10/12/2019, estimated 6 weeks
EDD 06/07/2020
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: We found out through a blood test. It's a boy
Baby is the size of a(n): avocado? Orange?
Upcoming appointments: Had one today. Just got blood work and listened to the heart beeps on a doppler. Next one is the 20 week anatomy scan
How are you feeling? I feel pretty good. My back just hurts all the time.
Raves/Rants: I kinda nervous that I will never see a doctor until I'm giving birth. At the OBGYN office I am going to you see an NP at all your appointments. When you go into labor you get whatever doctor is on call. I just wanna know whose hands me and my baby are in. I'm considering switching to another practice but I'm not sure.
Questions: How do you feel about having other people besides your husband in the room while you are giving birth? I originally wanted it to just be me and my husband because I'm just a private person and I wanted our first moment with our baby to just be us. I was thinking and I might want my mom there for comfort. But I feel like if I have my mom there then I have to let my MIL come in too. I have quite a while to think about it, I think it will just be a last minute decision based on how I feel then.
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays? Hmmm, pecan pie 😊
Married 10/2016
TTC since 04/2019
BFP 10/12/2019, estimated 6 weeks
EDD 06/07/2020
As far as other people in labor, that's for sure personal. I had my husband, my doula, and my mom present part of the time. No way would I have had my MIL present. Not only does she not need to see me THAT intimately, but she never really labored and thinks of birth only from a surgical perspective. She is wonderful, but definitely doesn't know how to support me at my most vulnerable. No one else can give you the right answers, but being in a supportive environment where you feel able to be vulnerable and powerful safely is the most important part.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I cannot believe you don't see a doctor at all! My practice they have you rotate to see each doctor at least once. You don't know who will be on call when you go into labor but at least you've met them all. Once your at the hospital you spend all the time laboring with nurses and by the time the Dr is there I promise you won't care which one it is. If you're uncomfortable, try a different practice. Do you have any friends you can ask for recommendations? Or see who is in your insurance plan and look up reviews online.
Team Finding Out/Pink/Blue/Green: Team Blue! His name is Sloane Michael
Baby is the size of a(n): Orange
Upcoming appointments: My 16 week appointment is Friday and my anatomy scan is January 16th.
How are you feeling? Tired. Pregnant with a toddler is no joke. And I have awful heartburn. So so awful. I'm going to ask my midwife about it Friday. I had it last time too but it's so frustrating and I feel like I can eat very little in terms of "real" food. I'm subsisting on carbs right now. And forcing down protein shakes.
Raves/Rants: I'm so grateful for my chiropractor. I've been seeing her weekly and it has helped so much.
Questions: None
GTKY: What's your favorite food to eat during the holidays?
My family's jello pretzel salad. So good!
Googling jello pretzel salad now...
sounds yummy!