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  • mokay19mokay19 member
    @rox7777 sometimes it’s just limited to a certain area, too. Like the last recall was limited to California (or something) so you can check packaging of where it came from. But Listeria is from the soil so I wouldn’t necessarily think organic has any pros/cons to avoiding it. Washing, definitely. 
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  • soprano19soprano19 member
    @bananapanda whooping cough is scary! Fingers crossed you can all steer clear!
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  • shamrocandrollshamrocandroll member
    @babyfoxden10 @rox7777 It was romaine from a certain company, I believe.  Also, organic won't make a difference when it comes to E. Coli contamination.  Organic/non-organic is generally only referring to if/how the crops get treated with pesticides.  This is happening from the soil and/or water.  Here's a good explanation as to how it happens.  

    https://www.cbc.ca/news/health/romaine-lettuce-e-coli-food-safety-1.5372926
    **TW**
    Me: 35 | H: 40
    Married Sept. 2013
    DS1: Nov 11, 2016 <3
    MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
    CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
    BFP!  8/24/19
    DS2: May 10, 2020 <3


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  • rox7777rox7777 member
    @shamrocandroll and @mokay19 I stated organic because that’s been our preference since DS1 was diagnosed. His cancer is considered “environmental” meaning pollutants in our air/food/products. So we try to use organic and natural products. BUT yes, washing. All the washing. I like to wash and then do a vinegar/water soak because it helps preserve produce. 
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  • mamaqdubumamaqdubu member
    I’ve been super MIA because we all got hit with the tummy bug in the house. Today is the first day I feel like myself!! And of course I’m spending it doing T-day prep. Thank goodness I’m not hosting. Good luck to all you mamas and mamas to be who are hosting!! 
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  • brettanomycesbrettanomyces member
    @babyfoxden10 Right now it’s just romaine, but seeing so many recalls over the past few years literally ANYTHING could be next. 




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  • soprano19soprano19 member
    Yes @shamrocandroll!
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  • rox7777rox7777 member
    @shamrocandroll This is the first pregnancy where I’m eating veggies and fruit. With my boys I was a carnivore that demanded ribs/steak/burgers 24/7. I’m happy to be packing on so much less weight this time.

    But not gonna lie. This baby gives me a major sweet tooth. DEMOLISHED a Hershey pie for my birthday this past weekend. The whole thing. 😳
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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    I’m convinced my office is haunted. Seriously I heard footsteps from upstairs all day and I was by myself. Then I heard what sounded
    like screams from the basement, I noped out real quick after that one. 
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  • bender29bender29 member
    Ugh!!! I’m stuck at a damn Goodyear tire that can’t look at my completely flat tire undriveable car until Monday!

    So now MH is driving the 25 minutes to come attempt to put the spare tire on, because apparently I missed that lesson. 
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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    @bender29 they wouldn’t fucking help you that!!! I’m sorry about you’re tire
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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    Also I am not a sex reveal party fan but ever since I told my younger brother that he’s going to be an uncle again, all he can talk about is doing one for me. It’s making him so excited I am going to let him 
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  • shamrocandrollshamrocandroll member
    @brettanomyces
     
    **TW**
    Me: 35 | H: 40
    Married Sept. 2013
    DS1: Nov 11, 2016 <3
    MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
    CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
    BFP!  8/24/19
    DS2: May 10, 2020 <3


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  • soprano19soprano19 member
    We’re planning on taking some family photos at dinner tomorrow for our Christmas cards and I’m having the hardest time deciding what to wear. This is obviously a life-altering decision.
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  • catem07catem07 member
    @mamaj1220 if my brother ever wanted to throw me a party, I too would let him 
    DD #1: April 2017
    DD #2: May 2020
    Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022

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  • ruby696ruby696 member
    Off to tell the in-laws I'm pregnant. They were less than enthusiastic the last two times, so this should be super fun. 🙄 Happy Thanksgiving!
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  • babyfoxden10babyfoxden10 member
    @ruby696 good luck with that. Babies are happy news regardless of your in-laws personal feelings or reaction. Don’t let the negativity get you down and enjoy your holiday! 
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  • drkoyyadrkoyya member
    edited November 2019
    @mamaj1220 At least he’s wants to throw one for you. When I told my mom we weren’t planning on doing a reveal party, she convinced her coworkers to throw her one. Neither my husband nor I were in attendance. I may be a FTM but this will be her 5th grandchild... 
    Me: 28  DH: 29
    FTM
    BFP 08/25/19, EDD 05/04/20
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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    Happy thanksgiving everyone, enjoy your days however you are spending them! 
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  • shamrocandrollshamrocandroll member
    @ruby696 I hope it went okay! Happy Thanksgiving, everyone! 
    **TW**
    Me: 35 | H: 40
    Married Sept. 2013
    DS1: Nov 11, 2016 <3
    MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
    CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
    BFP!  8/24/19
    DS2: May 10, 2020 <3


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  • soprano19soprano19 member
    Happy Thanksgiving!
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  • pirateduckpirateduck member
    So my husband really wanted to find out the sex before birth, and I caved.  I was team green, but it really wasn't that important to me, it's either a surprise now or a surprise later.  I don't really care what sex the baby is, at all, I just want a healthy baby more than anything.  Anyways...  so we found out we are having a girl and my husband is absolutely devastated that it is not a boy.  (this is our first).  And now I'm upset that he's upset because I found out the sex to make him happy more than anything else and now he's just angry and upset and I'm upset that he even cares this much what the sex is because I so don't care that it's hard for me wrap my head around what difference it makes if my kid has a penis or a vagina, it's my kid no matter what and I'll raise them the same and have the same expectations either way.  So now there's tension between us because I don't see what the big deal is and he's not only upset that it's not a boy but upset that I don't understand why he is upset.  Has anyone been through something similar?  Please share your experience.  I just want us both to be excited about the baby right now.  I don't need anything more to stress about right now.
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  • rox7777rox7777 member
    @pirateduck Sometimes it’s hard for people to let go of their expectations. Give him a few days to come around. A lot of men want boys first. MH was very similar with our first and luckily it worked out that it was a boy. When we found out our second was a boy he was a bit sad. I took him baby shopping a few days later and he got into picking out stuff and it really helped him “get over it” so to speak. Maybe buy him a daddy’s girl outfit or something similar. I know MH is really into the baby outfits that mention daddy on them. Makes him feel special. 😂
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  • rox7777rox7777 member
    We got the amazon registry box today.  You make a $35 purchase, they send it for free. I added my pregnancy pillow and some new bras and used that for my $35 limit. Here’s a picture of what we got. 


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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    @pirateduck with DS everyone was certain he was a girl (really they all wanted a girl) but me I was convinced he was a boy (and also I knew it would piss off DF's mom so I really wanted him to be a boy because #petty) and I will be honest, everyone else took a little bit to come around. Which I was upset at because I was like, he's a baby and healthy shouldn't that be what matters?! So I get where you are coming from, I think what helped others was that I just went about the day to day and kept referring to him and kind of ignored anything negative or the "I wish he was a girl."  I think for men sometimes especially it is hard to let go of having a boy first, you know that old he will be the protector and carry on the name thing. This go around it is kind of the opposite where I am worried I am setting myself up for disappointment, I have always had it in my head to have a boy and girl and I kind of have psyched myself out about it. Also I think knowing now might be helpful because he is working through the anger/disappointment now instead of when she's born. 
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  • pirateduckpirateduck member
    Thank you @mamaj1220 I think you are right that it is better that we know now, it gives him more time to digest this info and come around.  I guess he saw it all in his head one way and found out his dreams were not the reality.  I don’t think it’s that he doesn’t want a girl, he was just soooo sure in his imagination of fatherhood (probably for years) that he had a son that it’s a shock and he has to adjust his image
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  • bananapandabananapanda member
    @pirateduck sorry your DH is having a hard time with this.  I know with DD1 I think DH was wanting a boy, but he never acted sad when we found out she was a girl which I'm grateful for.  She's such a daddy's girl and he loves her so much that I don't think he could imagine it any other way.  We are having our second girl and he hasn't given any indication he is upset.  He obviously doesn't care that much because he says he has no interest in trying for a third he says.  For me personally with both kids I didn't care and felt there would be some pros and cons to either gender either time so while I'm happy both times I do also mourn for the son I'll never have, but I'm so excited for DD1 to have a sister and get to do all the girly things all the time (assuming DD2 loves girly things as much as DD1).


    DD and I ended up staying with just my parents yesterday instead of going to my MIL's because the health department recommended DD not be around other people until her 5 days of antibiotics are over just to be safe with the whooping cough outbreak.  There aren't any tiny babies or elderly people at MIL's thanksgiving, but still I'd hate for her to spread it to anyone if that is indeed what she has.  Since she had already been around my parents and they also got the TDAP already before she was born we were fine being around them since nobody else was at their house so it worked out ok.  It was a little boring compared to other years but also no drama and MIL sent me home tons of leftovers so it worked out well.
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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    @pirateduck I bet that is it too, sometimes when you have this sort of dream for something to find out it is not what you had in your head it is hard.

    That being said, I also understand how you are feeling too, I am team just a healthy baby. I think giving him some space to work it out is probably best but I am sorry his reaction hurt you too. Also because I am jerk and forgot, YAY FOR BABY GIRL!! 
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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    I went to put up the tree because it always makes me happy and it is broken and now I am sitting on my bed crying because all I wanted to do was put up the damn tree and I can't
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  • jhysmathjhysmath member
    @pirateduck I like being team green because I figured if MH doesn't get the boy he wants he can't be upset holding a tiny baby especially if it's healthy. When dd was born we were both convinced that she'd be a boy, when he announced her sex to me after delivery he said, you win you get your girl, but he's definitely all about his little girl.

    We're team green again, and I'm hoping for another girl just to spite MIL who said we need to have another kid because every father needs a son to "carry on the name". 
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  • shamrocandrollshamrocandroll member
    @pirateduck I jokingly told MH he should hope for a girl this time so he can be someone's favorite. DS1 is suuuuuuch a mommy's boy, no matter how hard MH tries. YH should just focus on having a healthy baby right now! Sorry you're feeling upset by this. I wish he'd kept that to himself, given all the stress you're going through already 
    **TW**
    Me: 35 | H: 40
    Married Sept. 2013
    DS1: Nov 11, 2016 <3
    MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
    CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
    BFP!  8/24/19
    DS2: May 10, 2020 <3


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  • pirateduckpirateduck member
    @shamrocandroll he didn’t seemed phased by all the other things that I’ve been stressed/upset about, so I’m wondering if this just pushed him over the edge and is a culmination of everything.
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  • sunshinesea22sunshinesea22 member

    @pirateduck So sorry your husband did not respond positively. I’m glad it’s now though, so he can work through his feelings and be excited by the time baby comes. That’s one of the reasons I decided against team green, because other moms had mentioned bonding issues when the child they imagined was not the child they ended up with and it took them time to adjust. He might be feeling angry, disappointed now, but once that little girl comes along he will be a big pile of man-mush, melting to her every whim. They don’t call them “daddy’s girls” for nothing. In the meantime, we are here for you and I’m 1000% on your side for being upset that he’s upset about the sex and not just happy your baby is healthy!!!

    @bananapanda Hope your daughter is feeling better with the antibiotics! 

    @mamaj1220 I hope you can get the tree fixed or a new tree soon.

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  • mamaj1220mamaj1220 member
    We are in the path of Winter Storm Ezekiel and people are loosing their minds like we have never had snow before. They closed most of the roads and the major highway in the area and so many people are commenting on how they wanted to go out shopping, really with the 20+ accidents already that happened stay where you are for safety so they can salt the roads
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  • pirateduckpirateduck member
    I take that back, just got a reverse 911 call saying roads are still closed and for people to stay indoors.
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