@leksiL some people swear by the gelato working lol ..there have been claims of water breaking in the cafe bathroom after eating it but yes I agree! Great way to get more people in!
I thought the dates were supposed to shorten the length of labor not induce it... hmmmmm I wonder if the research and advice has changed in the last 4 years since I was pregnant with DS.
Next week I have to do my glucose test and I also have an ultrasound scheduled where they need to get certain measurements. If I do the test too close to the ultrasound I'm assuming baby may be too active to get good measurements. I was going to do the test earlier at 8:30 and the ultrasound is at noon. What do you think?
@jvk2012 baby girl was super active for my last us, the tech even commented on it! But they were still able to get enough images they needed. I guess they missed a few of the ones they were hoping for but nothing they saw otherwise raised any flags so they were comfortable with not having those.
@misstree5, at first the receptionist told me to take the drink and then have the ultrasound to save time. I appreciate that but I am being followed by MFM for specific concerns and I don’t want to have to go back for an extra ultrasound when I already go monthly. That’s why I am going to try to spread it out and hope 4ish hours is plenty.
@jvk2012 I had the same thing except my ultrasound was earlier in the day so the doctor had me wait until after my US before drinking the drink. I don't know if this has happened with other people on here, but I CRASHED after the glucose test. Took a 3 hour nap because of how much it exhausted me. Not that your tiredness would affect baby but just so you know you might be very tired during the ultrasound if you do the glucose test beforehand.
Guys! I don't know if it was here or somewhere else where we were talking about winter coats, but my coworkers just got my a winter jacket extender and it's the best thing! https://makemybellyfit.com/products/bellyfit-panel
@fallonpartyfor2 that's what I wanted to get originally but none of the extenders worked with my type of zipper.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
@fallonpartyfor2 I saw the universal extenders but they were the same price as a new jacket so I decided to buy a new jacket...which I returned lol. I am glad with the one I bought. It was more than I was willing to spend but it looks like it is a common trend with this pregnancy.
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
I've been wondering about whether to get a winter coat or make due with what I have. Baby has been keeping me very warm though so even with it being 20 degrees out today, I don't want a coat on for the short walks.
@fallonpartyfor2 I thought these were a great idea until I saw the price tags. Even the lower end versions... I was going to thrift a bigger coat because $10 still beats $58, but I think I actually have a friend who will loan me one for the year. If anyone finds a solution that's cheap or free please share!
I sucked it up and bought a maternity coat today. I think we were talking about it in the randoms. I am so physically exhausted I could not even think about going shopping otherwise great idea @craftywitch
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Does anybody still do baby books for their kiddos? I keep getting Facebook ads for them and also for digital baby book apps. I think they're neat in theory but I'm just not sure if I want to try...I feel like I'd give up partway through then feel worse about quitting than just not doing something to begin with!
@babyroma. I tried with my first lol it's filled out up to 8 months ...I might try again with the second who knows ...my husband has been writing in a journal instead of a baby book. Not every day, but when something notable happens, he is enjoying documenting it
@babyroma I’ve been keeping a weekly pregnancy book and I’ve been adding pages and tons of photos to it. I’m a crafty person and I’m overly sentimental, so it’s something I enjoy. My mom didn’t really keep one for me and it’s always kind of bummed me out, so that’s also been a big reason. When he’s born, I’m probably going to do more of a journal then a book, but we’ll see. I just want my kids to have answers about their first few years of life because all I have are the few things my mom remembers.
@taylor2020 I feel the same, I'm not sure I have a baby book for me (inwas also the second so I might have an incomplete one somewhere but i dont think I've ever seen it). I know times are different and we'll have tons of photos of baby but I'm definitely learning towards doing one after talking to a few people. I've been looking at various ones all evening! The cute ones are pricey but seem so worth it!
@babyroma - we have a baby book for DD1 and hope to do one for DD2. It has places for all of her weights, teeth coming in, etc., and I never got around to filling in every time something like that happened. But it does monthly birthdays and then after 1 yearly birthdays up to 5 years old. I haven't done anything past a year so should really fill in stuff for years 2 and 3 (eek)
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
@babyroma, we did this one for DD and play to buy it again this time around. It’s very simple so it doesn’t take long to fill out but it’s nice to look back at it.
@babyroma I never did one with DS and have zero regrets. Most people in my BMB last time ended up forgetting after like month 2 and feeling shitty about it. As an adult I never cared about having one (my mom didn’t make one for me- she thinks they are weird. I agree). We just make sure to every few months print out some of our favorite pics and put them in a photo album but I never felt the need to write down teeth or steps or anything like that. Plus it’s just more stuff to accumulate in a house that just sits there unused 99.99% of the time.
I have one for both boys but haven’t updated either since DS2 was a few months old. I have a pile of stuff with the books that need added. I plan to update before the new baby comes and get his book started.
@babyroma I have one for DS and totally filled out every page and have photos taped to every surface haha. The first thing I did when I found out I was pregnant with this one is buy the baby book- it already has a couple sappy letters and stories about how long I've wanted him and how long I've waited (spoiler: DS was thought of and conceived in a month, this baby I've wanted since DS was 9 months old and had to wait until DH was on board for 3 freakin years!)
A friend of mine did a fancy printed book for her son's first birthday though, and I kind of think it was genius. She uploaded pics, captions, and had it printed through a service. So she skipped all the taping and writing and her kid's baby book looks way nicer than mine LOL.
@babyroma I have one for DS. I wrote down things a lot when he was a baby and now that we’re busy with him being a toddler, I’ll keep a note on my phone if things he said/did with dates and I update that year on his next birthday. So I just did year 2 on his 3rd birthday and started his “Year 3” notes on my phone.
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I know it's been discussed before about who people are having in the delivery room with them and from the get go I said my mom and DH. I'm super close to my mom and with this being my first, I thought it would be best. But then she also said if we preferred, she could come up after a couple of days to give us some family bonding time before having visitors or if we wanted her here she'd have Nana's go bag packed so she can make the 6 hour drive as soon as she got word. I hadn't thought about the quiet family time until she brought it up and I'm leaning towards that, but whenever I think about it i start crying because I feel a little guilty? Why is this such a hard decision?
@babyroma I don’t have a choice because we live about 2500km from all of my family. So just my DH will be in the room with me. Even if I was around family I would still just have my DH. I am super close with my mom but still wouldn’t have her in the room. She also has said she wouldn’t want to be in there either so that made it even easier!
@babyroma I had always thought my mom or sister would be with me along with my husband, but when DH and I discussed it, he pointed out that my mom would probably be more stressful than helpful. If you think she will be supportive and help you get through labor easier, then go for it. But if you think there is a chance her being there will lessen the experience, I'd ask her to come later. For me, after a lot of thought, it will just be me and DH with my SIL as back up because she will have my back no matter what.
@babyroma I always thought it would just be me and my h in the delivery room. When my water broke with my first my mom came to the hospital to hang out with us until I kicked her out of the room. When it was go time I was feeling great from the epidural so she stayed and stood behind my h up by my head. Having her in the delivery room ended up being amazing. She took awesome pictures Right away that the nurse wouldn’t have been able to get of us with DS1 -and she stayed up by my head avoiding any croch shots. With DS2 we did the same thing.
She told my h and i to kick her out at any point either time if we decided we just wanted it to be us and I know she wouldn’t have taken it personally if we would have. I always thought she would stress me out more but she was on her best behavior lol
As for having just your family time after the baby comes that is a personal decision. Our families both live a few mins away so they were/are constantly in and out. You have to decide if she will be helpful and respectful of you and your h. Are you comfortable telling her if she starts to over step and she won’t get offended? Will she help with the house stuff/cooking or expect to just sit there and hold the baby all the time? My mom and mil are both super helpful and good about backing off if we want to be the ones doing the kid stuff.
We haven't explicitly discussed it with either family, but we are planning for it just to be hubby and I. His father family lives pretty far away and my parents...well, I think it would be more stressful to have my mom be in the room. They can come by after the baby is born.
@babyroma if she’s the one making that offer, I don’t think you need to feel guilty at all I would play it by ear and see how you feel on the day-of. We’re planning just me and hubs, with quiet time after. My parents and sister/BIL are all pretty local (within 45mins) but his family is all far away. His mom has said she’ll come up after they’re born (I don’t really want her here at all at any point and frankly neither does hubs) and hubs told her she can come in the spring when we’re more settled. But also planning NOT to host, she can get a hotel or stay with my parents.
@babyroma with my first I wanted just a few days with our new family of 3 and baby. I love my mom so much- we are so close, but I am happy with our choice to do the whole 2 day hospital stay with no visitors and just have it be the two of us. It was nice because the whole time in the hospital I was naked from the waist up for constant skin to skin and breastfeeding, and I was a bloody sore mess, so I appreciated having a bit of privacy. Plus starting the day we got home my mom and DHs family were in and out of our house so much those first 2 weeks so it was nice to have those few days to just chill and acclimate to the new normal
I enjoyed having family in and out of the house, but I refused to host them (they are from out of town so I made them get a hotel...and I wasn't cooking any meals) ...I made that clear before baby even arrived lol
Thank you all for the reassurances! I definitely feel like the pregnancy hormones have kicked in much more lately with the tears haha💗After reading all of your responses and mulling it over some more I think I'm feeling better about keeping it just DH in the room and have family time for a couple of days. I know hanging out in the hospital isnt fun for anybody and then we can have some time to adjust at home. My mom would probably be way more helpful visiting us at our apartment and help out. They'd definitely be getting a hotel, the 3 of us + cat will barely fit in our apartment in comfortable sleeping arrangements, nevermind hosting 3 extra bodies! Lol
I think my mom thinks she’s going to be in the room but I’m wanting only DH and I. DH is the only person who can actually calm me down and not stress me out. My mom on the other hand means well but she never really makes stressful situations any better lol.
Re: The Great Question Thread
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
I keep getting Facebook ads for them and also for digital baby book apps. I think they're neat in theory but I'm just not sure if I want to try...I feel like I'd give up partway through then feel worse about quitting than just not doing something to begin with!
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
A friend of mine did a fancy printed book for her son's first birthday though, and I kind of think it was genius. She uploaded pics, captions, and had it printed through a service. So she skipped all the taping and writing and her kid's baby book looks way nicer than mine LOL.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I hadn't thought about the quiet family time until she brought it up and I'm leaning towards that, but whenever I think about it i start crying because I feel a little guilty? Why is this such a hard decision?
My mom would probably be way more helpful visiting us at our apartment and help out. They'd definitely be getting a hotel, the 3 of us + cat will barely fit in our apartment in comfortable sleeping arrangements, nevermind hosting 3 extra bodies! Lol
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's