@lajoliedreamer this is the nicest BMB I’ve ever been a part of on this platform. In the past driveby posts would get you run out of town on an established board. Everyone here’s been really nice to these drivebys and things have stayed relativity drama free so far which is super cool. I enjoy not fighting. That said, we do gotta pull for some board structure and organisation otherwise things can get a mess.
I think for the rest of it, as we become more established the conversations will get easier as we get to know each other better. Not everyone comes back to answer everyone else’s posts and that’s not wrong either. It can be hard to do so on the phone, for example. BUT as we get increasingly comfortable with each other I think we will find the conversation flows more organically.
I just looked up my recipe @Austenista to see what I already have and what I need to buy, I think I only need to buy the mac and the cheese, but have enough of everything else on hand.
I prefer the organization though I do feel the weekly check-ins are very redundant, we are all due the same week so we all are the same fruit, we all are about the same weeks and days do we need to repeat that every week? That stuff was interesting when the weekly check ins were by the day of the week of your ticker changes because you could see where you might be or remember where you were.
As for people needing to ask questions, don't we have a questions thread? Ask questions there if you need to, you don't need your own personal thread for that.
Most desserts are yummy, cake from a bakery or homemade is good, grocery store cake and frosting is just gross (MH only likes that sheet cake). Apple, pumpkin, chocolate, ice cream pie is good. Berry and Meat pies are not. Thanksgiving foods are amazing but mainly because we only have them a few times a year if we had it every week we'd probably get sick of all of it.
I'm with who ever liked winter, but I hate winter once April is done. I'm also not looking forward to walking home in the snow storm we have going on right now because I'm an idiot and haven't busted out my winter coat yet.
Oh, and someone mentioned shoveling snow pregnant, I have definitely shoveled lots of snow already, though the one storm I was getting too hot and felt like I was gonna pass out and started calling for my husband to shovel the last bit.
@lajoliedreamer I get what you are saying. As for people asking us to guess gender/sex, I would be fine with a thread like that in our group for anyone who wants to join in. My problem is when it is a person who has never come to our community, never interacted and just wants us to guess and then they never come back. Which I think has been the all of the cases thus far.
In general, we are just now starting to become more of a community and getting to know each other more. If we want to change the way anything is organized or done on this board we can. We don't have to follow templates that other BMB's have set up. I would just suggest we have a discussion and maybe a poll to try and go with what the majority wants. For example, I've been thinking about just having 1 weekly check-in thread for everyone, instead of separating it out by due date in the 4 groups. Mainly because overall I think we seem to have a fairly small group here and I don't really see us getting a ton more at this point, sure we will get some new people, but I doubt it would be a lot. At some point I was going to pose the question and possibly start a thread to discuss it if it seemed to be something people wanted, so I guess now feels like a good time.
I guess my issue with the "guess the sex of my baby" posts is I don't see them as fun for anyone other the OP because the people usually posting are complete strangers who have never introduced themselves or given support. It's fun to guess the sex of my "friend's" babies. It is not fun to guess the sex of a stranger's baby. I just don't care if they're having a boy or girl, plus, I'm team science. I do agree that it's easy to ignore the post, which is what I personally do. And I have no objection to a specific thread if that's what people want to do because at least that way, we don't have a bunch of one-off posts and those who aren't interested can just skip the thread.
Eta: but that goes back to one-off posters not bothering to see that there is an appropriate thread, so the cycle continues. 🤷♀️
@m6agua My only issue with one check in thread is the number of tags. I hate when I'm late to a thread and there are 30-something posts I feel like I need to acknowledge. This group doesn't seem to love-tit each other's posts much (which IMO, adds to the feeling that participation is lacking). If we go to one check-in, I think we need to be okay with not responding to every single person's posts if there are too many.
I agree with @ruby696 on this. I sometimes cannot get into The Bump until later in the day and if I already see a lot of responses it can be overwhelming to reply to everyone. I cannot imagine if we just had one check in thread. For me personally, I would probably end up skipping it entirely. I also like the idea of having smaller sub groups within the large community. It makes it easier to get to know people.
a GTKY other that UOs and FFFCs because honestly my UO is I don't typically like or participate in either of those threads and would love to see something different than those same threads week after week I ended up here today because there wasn't anything else new and exciting that drew me in... I feel like there's lots of talk on Mondays and then things tend to die off on The Bump.
@pirateduck I have to admit, and no offense to the board, but we have the lamest UO and FFFC I have ever seen on a BMB (and I've been on six). They can be so fun when people participate with more than "I ate a sandwich and didn't heat up the lunchmeat." We need to step up our game on those. Plus, I like them, so I post them. Someone else can post what threads they like. 🙂
To speak to participation I’m eternally frustrated with trying to use the bump app; I don’t remember it being this hard last time. Or maybe I’m just getting old lol.
Hahaha... no wonder... I never even heard of UO and FFFC before coming here and totally had to look up what they stood for and what it all means! It's totally people like me that make it lame. maybe I'm just too old!
On my DS’s BMB (‘13) there weren’t very many “rules” and people posted threads all the time. Most of the time it worked out great, but there were ones that ended in drama and fights. But, FFFC, they were super entertaining and the board was never boring!
@peachnectarine I wish we could still get away with saying the things people used to be able to say. That would provide so much entertainment. Now the threads just get shut down. I'd be much more welcoming of one-off's if we could make pre-2016 comments!
My next UO is I think I deserved to get way more love-tits for starting conversation that lots of people here have an opinion about. There were some good points and suggestions made and I’m excited that lots of us are wanting to make this board more fun!
If you guys want more fun threads, then go make more fun threads! Honestly, for a while, it was only me and a couple others who started threads, and just doing the basic ones alone was a lot to keep up with. I have no problem with people starting a new thread if it's not something we already have a thread for and it's not just about the poster. Oh, and don't just come here and not introduce yourself and then start making one off posts that mostly only apply to you. It turns into a hot mess and then we'll never get to know each other.
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
Not checking the bump for 24 hrs and I miss everything!
1. As a fellow southerner we also make dressing not stuffing. My family is from New Orleans and we make oyster dressing every year - which I completely understand sounds gross to people who are not from New Orleans. But it’s honestly delicious. However, now that we live in Colorado and can’t buy fresh oysters we don’t make it anymore...
2. I find interacting on the bump so difficult - I hate that you can just respond to people and the response be under the original post. It makes it so hard when you are late to a thread. I was on the D15 bump and it was definitely less structured, but I can see pros and cons to both ways. I feel like the first trimester is so slow because not much is really happening. I look forward to getting to know more people though as we go through the next several months together!
@brettanomyces Oh pre-2016. Love tits were the ultimate popularity contest. An easy way to know if your board actually liked you. I have quite the collection from my Nov 15 baby. I definitely seem to be collecting less this go but I’ve noticed it doesn’t seem as popular these days. But the app is even worse these days so that might factor in it too.
Looks like we got a perfect example for our discussion.
Some knottie, whose never posted before and we don’t know, asking a question about baby proofing (Specific to her), when there is literally a thread on that discussion on the first page!
If all of us started posting our own baby proofing questions in our own threads instead of one thread, it really wouldn’t foster community and discussion.
On my previous BMB (D13) we also did what we called "Hot Seat" where someone new every week would volunteer to answer questions about whatever we came up with, it was a fun way to get to know each other. We also had some good UO and FFFC and continue that in our Facebook group to this day which is fun. I do think it is pretty early on still and I think it takes time to get comfortable with a new group.
@brettanomyces Oh pre-2016. Love tits were the ultimate popularity contest. An easy way to know if your board actually liked you. I have quite the collection from my Nov 15 baby. I definitely seem to be collecting less this go but I’ve noticed it doesn’t seem as popular these days. But the app is even worse these days so that might factor in it too.
In the app I have a really hard time telling if my love-tit "took", so to speak. It doesn't change the number or show my picture immediately, so I'm sure fairly often I love-tit and then immediately un-love-tit by accident. Dumb.
Re: UO Thursday 11/7
As for people needing to ask questions, don't we have a questions thread? Ask questions there if you need to, you don't need your own personal thread for that.
Most desserts are yummy, cake from a bakery or homemade is good, grocery store cake and frosting is just gross (MH only likes that sheet cake). Apple, pumpkin, chocolate, ice cream pie is good. Berry and Meat pies are not. Thanksgiving foods are amazing but mainly because we only have them a few times a year if we had it every week we'd probably get sick of all of it.
I'm with who ever liked winter, but I hate winter once April is done. I'm also not looking forward to walking home in the snow storm we have going on right now because I'm an idiot and haven't busted out my winter coat yet.
In general, we are just now starting to become more of a community and getting to know each other more. If we want to change the way anything is organized or done on this board we can. We don't have to follow templates that other BMB's have set up. I would just suggest we have a discussion and maybe a poll to try and go with what the majority wants. For example, I've been thinking about just having 1 weekly check-in thread for everyone, instead of separating it out by due date in the 4 groups. Mainly because overall I think we seem to have a fairly small group here and I don't really see us getting a ton more at this point, sure we will get some new people, but I doubt it would be a lot. At some point I was going to pose the question and possibly start a thread to discuss it if it seemed to be something people wanted, so I guess now feels like a good time.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019FTM
BFP: 9/5/19 ~ EDD 5/15/20
Eta: but that goes back to one-off posters not bothering to see that there is an appropriate thread, so the cycle continues. 🤷♀️
Agree that one check in thread would have way to many tags. Maybe start a few more GTKY posts to foster the random fun.
Also, I’m glad we still call them love-tits
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
If all of us started posting our own baby proofing questions in our own threads instead of one thread, it really wouldn’t foster community and discussion.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019I am surprised that the app hasn’t been upgraded since the last time I was on a BMB (2016). Really annoying...
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016