UO Thursday 11/7

ruby696

mamaclownface

I'll just go ahead and say it. Chocolate is overrated. Also, pies and cheesecake suck.

ruby696

Well @kylelee23, I don't think we can be friends. 😉

mamaclownface

@ruby696 I swear I have other redeeming qualities!

heyybritt

@kylelee23 I can agree with you about pies, I'm not a huge fan. But cannot get behind you on chocolate and cheesecake. Too delicious.

I don't really like Thanksgiving turkey. I always eat the ham or roast instead. Which is funny because I don't like sliced deli ham or roast beef.

shamrocandroll

Haha the dessert UOs are always so dividing.  I don't like cake at all, really.  That's been my UO before.  And cheesecake is meh.  But give me all the pie and chocolate.  

Also, I had a really good UO the other day and didn't write it down, and now I've completely lost it!

jrouge12

I'm a full dessert supporter. I like pie, cheesecake, and cake. I like food.

@heyybritt I don't like my MILs Turkey. Generally always stick to the dark meat because it has more going on. 

We're supposed to get snow tonight. I love snow. I like shoveling (I'll probably get a lot of crap from family about how I shouldn't be shoveling this winter when I'm KU). 

ruby696

Sticking to the Thanksgiving theme - I think stuffing, in the turkey, is disgusting. I'm all for it being cooked on the side. My MIL puts in the turkey and I can never eat it. It just feels like I'm eating stuffing slow cooked in salmonella. 🤢

shamrocandroll

@ruby696 If she doesn't do it right, you might be eating slow cooked salmonella.  We use Alton Brown's method for cooking stuffing in the turkey, and it works great.  I love it so much more than cooked outside the turkey.  I like it soft, not crispy.  

rox7777

Moving right along from desserts. I HATE stuffing. It’s gross and I refuse to serve it every year. 

lajoliedreamer

I’m with you on stuffing hating, @rox7777!

And I hate desserts with anything fruit-related. I’m all about cake and cookies and ice cream, but can’t stand a fruit filling or anything fruity mixed in. 

ruby696

@shamrocandroll I'll have to check out Alton's recipe. He is a genius, so if anyone can change my mind, it's him.

Another UO for me: It annoys me when people who don't bother to intro suddenly post US pictures or start a thread about an issue specific to them. It's like, "Hi, I don't know you. Why would I care?" I guess it bothers me mostly because people wouldn't act like that to strangers IRL, so don't do it here. And have some basic manners. Ugh. Rant over. 

cmhme

I would prefer thanksgiving without meat- give me all the sides!!!

I also am trying to move my family away from pumpkin pie. Its just not good. I would rather just eat the whipped topping plain.

shamrocandroll

Oh man... the stuffing hate hurts me to my very soul, hahaha.  I went to MH's Thanksgiving one year, and they didn't have bread stuffing, but instead had this horrid minced meat with potato hash-like thing that wasn't even remotely good, and they had the nerve to call it stuffing.  We were going to my family's side for dessert and I texted my brother and sister "Forget dessert... please save me some stuffing!!!"  It was terrible!  

catem07

@cmhme Pumpkin pie is the worst kind of pie. I don't see why it needs a crust. Pumpkin custard is actually better. The crust does nothing but add calories and no taste. 

chewie5990

@cmhme and @catem07 I don't even know what to say. y'all are crazy. Pumpkin Pie is the best pie!! I used to ask for pumpkin pie every year for my birthday instead of birthday cake. I agree with store bought pie crust, but good homemade pie crust is the best part of the pie! I'm not a fan of pumpkin flavor everything, but real pumpkin pie is about as good as pie gets in my book! 

catem07

@chewie5990 ooooh store bought crust is terrible. 

Anyone who is afraid of pie dough (like I used to be), make Stella Parks/Bravetart’s old fashioned pie dough on serious eats. It’s pretty foolproof. Just make sure to put a cookie sheet under your pie while baking because it does drip some butter. 

louessbee

I'm in the "no stuffing" camp. I'm also not a huge dessert fan... I like fruity desserts and some cakes, but not usually chocolate (except ice cream).

catem07

I think it’s super attention-seeking when people reshare birthday posts in their IG stories. 

Example: it’s Sara’s birthday. Jane, Anne, and Susie post “happy birthday Sara!” IG stories. Sara reshares each one to her story. 

It’s just the worst of social media—actively showing off that you have friends...

bender29

Well I’m about to show my true colors of just how picky I really am...
Stuffing is nasty
Gravy is nasty
Turkey is nasty
Chocolate is Nasty
Pumpkin pie is nasty

I pretty much starve on Thanksgiving 🤣

heyybritt

+1 for the pumpkin pie haters. never got the appeal!

m6agua

Ok it's easier to just respond and not tag everyone.

I hate all pies, give me the bars and tarts? at least I think that is what they are called
I really dislike almost all thanksgiving food. I used to HATE stuffing, until I recently had a box stuffing and liked it. Turns out I just hate my moms stuffing with apples and rice and shit.
I LOVE cheesecake
Chocolate is meh
Vanilla Cake > Chocolate cake
Chocolate ice cream > Vanilla ice cream

jrouge12

I do have a caveat for pumpkin pie: it needs to be totally covered in whipped cream. Top. Sides. All of it.

brettanomyces

Here’s a UO: I’m really not a fan of how formatted these boards are. Everything is a questionnaire! I want to interact with people who have things in common but I’m already bored of every check in being another repetitive questionnaire. And while I appreciate wanting to have things organized so there isn’t 47 ultrasound threads, it seems to extend to no spontaneous threads about anything else ever. When I was on ttgp 4-5 years ago I feel like there were always lots of interesting threads. 

bender29

@brettanomyces yes! I feel this! I stopped even going to my weekly group check in because it’s just feels like a form I’m filling out every time.

jrouge12

@bender29 @brettanomyces I don't quite agree. Some of those weeklies feel formish because a lot of people just post about themselves  and don't respond to others. Its been getting better recently. I remember more "interesting" posts on my Jan board a few years ago that just ended up in arguments.

rox7777

I’m going to agree with @jrouge12 on that one. Nov ‘15 regulars were constantly getting banned because of drive by posts that turned into huge arguments. It was chaos that led to our board dividing into 3-4 groups when we moved to FB. Our FB group only has 20 members and we only post 1-2 times a year now.

m6agua

@brettanomyces I agree with @jrouge12 while yes they are a questionnaire, the real issue is that people fill it out and then do not bother to interact with others. If you take the time to read what other people are saying and respond to them then you can get the interaction. Other than the check-in threads, there are sooooo many other threads that are there for the interaction you are talking about. This one for example, the weekly threads, the product spotlights, the GTKYs, symptoms, appointments, the list goes on and on. 

ETA, There is no rule that we cannot start other types of threads. The general idea is that it has a subject that many can discuss or talk about, versus just being a Dear Diary post.

ruby696

I think the point of the form questions is to get conversations started. If you're only posting about yourself (or not participating at all), you're not seeing the conversations that occur later on in the post from people reading each other's posts and responding - which is the point of the threads. 

Also, feel free to start threads you think apply to multiple people. Hardly anyone participates on the UO or FFFC threads, and those are the ones that usually get conversations going. They also don't involve form questions. There are lots of suggested threads in the board organization thread, and only a few of us start threads at all. 

mamaclownface

@heyybritt I'm with you. I cannot stand turkey on thanksgiving. I just go straight for the ham! Sometimes I will take one bite of turkey out of principal, but I suffer through it.

@ruby696 The thought of stuffing being cooked inside the turkey completely grosses me out too. But I agree with @shamrocandroll and am shocked at all the stuffing haters! It is my MOST favorite part of thanksgiving...along with the rolls.

@brettanomyces I see what you are saying about the format changes. I can't pinpoint exactly what has changed, but my last BMB Jan 16 seemed to have a lot more conversation and different content. 

catem07

@kylelee23 I think some of it is just that it's early yet. Right now, it's hard for me to remember anything about anyone so it's harder to engage, but I think that will change as time goes on and we "spend" more "time" together. We had some structure on my April 17 board and are now a super-tight 55 person facebook group. 

mamaclownface

@catem07 I am sure you are right, and I do find myself having a hard time keeping up most days, but I am trying. I also appreciate organization, and my past BMB sure did lack that. I am happy to be here and look forward to getting to know y'all.

bender29

I do agree that a big part of the problem is that it’s still really early. While I enjoy the organization, I just wish there was a little bit more communication and back and forth. But I think we are all just really starting to get into the groove of things. 

The one reason I struggle with the weekly group posts is that it feels like for the most part the only interactive part of them is the last question, and while I whole heartedly admit that I don’t respond to almost anyone on there, I think it’s because I feel like I’m in an online college course and responding to people just to respond. “Yes Karen, I agree, fall is a great season.”
”Sue, I like how you said you described pumpkin pie, I really got a visual”

Ok, so they aren’t that bad, and I haven’t even opened one in a few weeks, so maybe there’s more conversation to be had lately, and I need to go check them out again.

In full disclosure, I’m a nanny for 7 kids, all of whom have been home from school the last two days, and several have been sick all week, so my snark is at an all time high. I apologize 😬

soprano19

@catem07 @bender29 I’m with you guys that it’s still just really early and we’re all still testing the waters with each other. As time goes on, I’m sure everyone will be a little more active.

pirateduck

I don't know...  with the number of threads I've seen people attempt to start and the number of times I see them get almost instantly shot down as a "one off" post even though it could be a whole huge conversation, it's been a bit of a turn off.  It makes me want to participate less and I find myself looking for answers places other than The Bump.  I mean, if you don't approve of or want to participate in a particular thread, just don't participate in that thread, we don't have to be negative and shoot down the person who asked the question.  Their question is as legit as anyone elses, we all worry/wonder about different things.

I will also go on the record as saying ALL dessert is good.
Not all stuffing is good, totally depends who makes it and what they put in it.
AND I hate that being a vegetarian (that's unpopular right there) on Thanksgiving means every year people ask me BUT WHAT do you eat on Thanksgiving if you don't eat turkey?  Hello, don't you typically have a full plate of food on Thanksgiving, all kinds of stuff, it's usually known as a feast, and most of that stuff isn't turkey!

ruby696

I am all for people starting threads that apply to multiple people. There are only a handful of us starting threads at all, and frankly, our board is pretty slow because of it. With that said, I think people should put some effort into making sure their question is not already covered by another thread. I think we're up to three announcement threads at this point? That's unnecessary and does not foster conversation. I see nothing wrong with a gentle reminder that there is already a thread on topic in that case and then it would be nice if the question could be put on the existing thread and the redundant thread was allowed to move down.  Otherwise we have multiple groups having the same discussion in different locations. That's the kind of "clutter" we should want to avoid. But again, if people have topics that don't fit in existing threads, which apply to lots of people, please feel free to start a thread!!

mamaclownface

@ruby696 This is why I'm thankful this board is more organized than my past BMB. There were a ton of drive by posts, self-centered posts, and as you said- posts that don't foster conversation outside of op getting an answer to there own question. 

@pirateduck I don't see reminders on these posts as negative, just helpful. If everyone created a new post for every question they had, we would never be able to get to know each other. By pointing op in the right direction, they can learn the best place to share their question/statement to get the best response/interaction.

Austenista

I’m a southerner and so we eat dressing not stuffing. I’ve made stuffing that I thought was pretty good, but it’s not at all the same thing. I put chicken in my dressing so it’s really a complete meal on its own. So delicious. It’s the star of the show at thanksgiving. Also. I love Thanksgiving foods. Turkey and dressing with gravy, mashed potatoes, mac and cheese. Gimme all the food. 

You can keep the green bean casserole though. Absolutely not a fan of that salty mess.

lajoliedreamer

I was a vegetarian for 10 years (not anymore for various reasons) and Thanksgiving could be such a pain. The questions on what you can eat definitely, but also the random sausage/bacon/etc in side dishes. Totally unnecessary. 

I agree that it is early and that affects our conversations, but I also have felt that sometimes the responses to threads started can come across as hostile (though also want to recognize that I know it isn’t the intention). Why can’t someone start a thread about guessing gender? I’m sure there are plenty of people who want that kind of interaction, maybe they don’t have people IRL to have that with. Who says the bump always has to be about data? Though I’m personally very data-driven, some people have more of a spiritual view on things and it isn’t fair to them to tell them they aren’t allowed to be themselves here and discuss/ask what is really on their mind. It feels sometimes like it’s middle school and I have to pretend I’m someone I’m not to fit in better which is why a lot of the time I’ve not been super active.

ETA: words are hard

pirateduck

@Austenista   this thread is making me hungry, which is rare these days, and you said mac and cheese and now I think I have to make homemade mac and cheese this weekend.  Maybe I'll go get the ingredients after work today so I don't have to drive to town this weekend!

Austenista

@pirateduck OMG yes to homemade mac n cheese. That sounds so good right now. My nausea left me this week and in its place I’ve become a bottomless pit.