Hello! I’m 36 (will be 37 in January) and this will be my second child. DD just turned 4 and we’re super excited. When I had DD at 32, I thought I’d be having another within 2-3 years alas life got in the way and I finally feel ready again and so grateful that this is happening. I wonder how the pregnancy and recovery will be different if at all? I’m definitely getting the NIPT test at 9 weeks (we did maternit21 with my first). I don’t feel soo old but did sign up to a maternal fetal OB (ie high risk) just in case.
Anyway, please introduce yourselves!! Let’s discuss all things AMA.
Re: AMA Mamas Over Here!
Honestly, side from hearing about how old I was at each checkup being AMA was no big deal for me last time. I had gestational diabetes which way overshadowed any AMA stuff. I'm not looking forward to having GD again, but we know what to expect this time.
Ask me anything! I'll try to remember. Baby brain fog is real.
I've found a lot of peace of mind in being an older FTM. I definitely feel more able to separate fact from opinion than my 20-something self was, and I'm less worried about conforming to others' expectations about parenting. While there are downsides to AMA, there's also some hidden benefits. ❤️
also here in nyc, I still feel like a spring chicken! So many 40+ having their first kids and everyone seems to do just fine!
They want me to get progesterone shots again to help prevent a preterm birth, as my first arrived unexpectedly at 34 weeks. It's annoying, but my second made it almost to his due date and if that in any way helped, I'm down.
Edit: Hm, my 1st OB appt will be at 11 weeks - does the NIPT have to come at 9 weeks? Maybe I need to do a little reading...
@diagonalley My first was 35 weeker, second was 38+6, no progesterone shots. Preemies are so hard! I totally get doing shots!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
My preemie spent 12 days in the NICU and came home on a monitor that was attached to him for the next 3 months. It was isolating and I felt like I couldn't really go anywhere with him. I was devastated with the fact that he came early and my body failed him, yet people just kept congratulating me and that pissed me off. He slept like crap and ended up being a cosleeper for 8 months because that was the only way I could get sleep. MOTN feedings took at minimum an hour start to finish and because he was a preemie, I felt like I HAD to feed him every 3 hours.
My second was soooo different. I could nurse him in 10 minutes or less, swaddle him back up, and walk away. He put himself to sleep. He was super chill and not at all demanding. Maybe some of it is personality, but most of it has to do with gestation IMO.
Also, I can't even imagine having a baby in the NICU and kids at home. I left the NICU to sleep and that's it.
Basically, shoot me up with all the progesterone 😂
My second was...easier. She did always like to take her afternoon nap long and by herself. She played independently much earlier. And let me put her down at 5 months old. Her personality is actually LESS easy going about things, but she was still easier.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
I don't even have my OB intake appointment until the 26th, so maybe all my anxiety is focused on a happy, healthy first scan with a heartbeat. FX for all good news for you, and a happy and healthy pregnancy.
be getting the NIPT test done. Not sure when yet but as soon as I can. I need to talk to my doctor and set that up. I hope in December. I’m nervous about it but trying to stay positive that I will get good results. 🤞