I don't know if it's just hormones or just me being tired of being told what I want/need?
I've been kind of lashing out at my mom lately because we are actively looking for a new house. She's mentioned before that we could move in with her which for me is just a last ditch option. If we don't find a house we will just stay in our house that we rent until we find something. But she just brings it up every single time like she's just not confident we will find a house. She really wants us to move in and has the same talking points and I'm just tired of hearing it. I stopped talking about us getting a new house to stop this but she brought it up again yesterday and then asked where we were looking and she just kept giving her two cents on how we don't want to live there because of this and I just was like "Our options are limited so I'm not open to opinions". I felt bad but it's like STOPPP.
My OBs office screwed up the scheduling for my appointment. The US tech was grumpy at first bc they didnt put me on her schedule, she thought I just walked in for it. But they put me on my OBs schedule even though I wasn't seeing her!!! I got lucky and the tech had an opening so she could do the follow up. But it didnt even matter bc baby refused to cooperate. The tech did a full on truffle shuffle with my belly and baby was having none of it.
@babyroma That is so annoying. Ultra sound techs must be under a lot of pressure because they are so protective of their schedule. I was 2 minutes late for my AS and the tech made me feel like we might not have time to get all the measurements we need.
@brookert615 yikes. I definitely wouldn’t move in with her if you can help it especially because she’s already driving you nuts.
@doodleoodle Thanks. It's definitely something that is the last thing we want. I love my mom, she's definitely my best friend but just having our own space is very important lol.
@brookert615 oh man I can imagine living with mom would tough with a new baby! Don’t you just love unsolicited advice?? 🙄
Now that I’m clearly showing and not just “maybe putting on weight”, the judgment from strangers has started! I ordered a latte at the coffee shop this morning and the lady at the register looked down at my belly and then back at me and goes “regular or decaf...?” Regular, lady, and don’t judge me!
@nhh11 I had a super tense caffeine-related convo with DH this weekend. It made me mentally revisit the discussion early on of “maybe you should also limit your caffeine and workout supplement intake, in solidarity.” (That suggestion didn’t take.)
My Monday bitching is about people who don’t read an email closely, but reply. Putting you in the position of tactfully restating the same thing you already said, without coming off as a condescending asshole. If you achieve that level of tact, you just may get the response “oh, well you never said anything about XYZ...” (despite it literally being one of the two sentences in the email they replied to...). 🙄🙄🙄
@nhh11 Hahah yes, so ridiculous! And that's annoying at the coffee shop!
Which reminds me of another one! Why the heck do a lot of places not list caffeine content in drinks? Like going to the store it's like 25% of the time I can find caffeine content!
@nhh11 I recently read an article that included a story about a pregnant woman being called out by a barista for ordering a regular coffee... and the pregnant woman denied that she was pregnant and left the barista speechless. 😂
@mandk1233 that's what I told H when I left! I wasn't even the little hellion that makes moms go "someday you're gonna have a kid that acts just like you!" So I'm gonna blame him for the stubborn baby XD
@babyroma too funny. I totally was that kid and so far our baby seems to be taking after me. My husband is a bit worried and my parents think it is hilarious.
@nhh11 I feel like I've regressed to that stage. Twice in the past couple of weeks, I've told someone in the medical profession (a receptionist at my normal doctor and a dentist) that I was pregnant. Then they look me up and down and ask if I'm sure. I'm 24 weeks pregnant. At this point, I'm pretty ****ing sure.
I am SOOOO sick of people asking me if we will be or suggesting trying for a 3rd for a girl. I went to the walk-in yesterday because my cold turned into a sinus infection. Doc asked how far along I was, then what we were having. After I said this was a boy and I have a boy at home, his first response was “oh you will have to try for a 3rd to get a girl!” Come ooooooooon 🤦🏼♀️
@daffodil_shoe, pretty much every single person who has found out I'm having a second girl has said, “was your husband disappointed?” or “I bet your husband wanted a boy.” No, my husband wanted a baby.
@daffodil_shoe and @TennisLove30 my cousin just had her 4th girl. Everyone asked her if her husband was disappointed that they were Having another girl with the 2nd, 3rd and 4th. She always responds with which healthy little girl should I trade in for a boy? She also secretly hoped they were girls just to piss all those haters off! Why are people so judgemental!!
@daffodil_shoe lucky! DH refuses. I am considering getting an IUD, but whenever I see a diagram showing where it is placed it makes me feel super uneasy.
@doodleoodle I had an IUD before we got pregnant with this little one because I can't take normal birth control and hated the mini pill. It was awful when I first had it put in, but was actually quite lovely once it settled. Also helped calm my endo symptoms. I am not sure I would ever get another though, simply because I am not a fan of HBC... One of the few crunchy things I am quite pro. 😎 Luckily for me, MH also offered long ago to get snipped when we are done having kids because he hated seeing me in so much pain when I first had the Mirena placed.
ETA the Mirena is also how we finally figured out I have endo after years of figuring I just had bad periods. My cervix is high and somewhat retroverted so I couldn't check my own strings. My GP sent me for an ultrasound and low and behold there was an endometrioma.
@mandk1233 they do make the copper iud which is hormone free, but I’ve read that it has a slightly greater rate of unintended pregnancy than hormonal IUDs. I hope your husband keeps his promise! I feel like there’s really no good birth control option. I’m so over it, but DH and I have had our fair share of surprise pregnancies so I have to do something different.
@daffodil_shoe that is so rude! I've had very few people ask me if we are going to try for a girl next but nope our only other embryo is a male. Also if we do decide to have another child we are going to adopt.
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@doodleoodle Cooper IUDs are also supposed to be horrible in terms of cramping, which is really the last thing I want. My cramps are bad enough when unaided thanks. I can totally see being over "risky" birth control options when you have had surprise pregnancies.
I had the Paraguard for 2 years (copper IUD). Cramping wasn't too bad. My regular periods with no BC are medium to light flow with little to no cramping and the only thing I remember with the Paraguard was heavy periods. I had to used the Ultra Plus tampons/pads the first 2 days. I had it taken out after 2 years because it was coming out on its own. I could feel the string poking
TTC#1 10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml) 11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged 1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele 4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery 6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020 7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
Yikes, ladies! I guess I've never really heard all of the true stories about IUDs. My doctor recommended one as BC after I had my first, but I never got around to "installing it." I assumed I would get it this time since we're 2 and done, but I'm not so sure after these stories. I already have a really heavy flow and cramping and my cycle lasts the FULL 7 days. It sounds like an IUD might make things worse...
@lanie1000 Hormonal IUDs like the mirena usually lighten your period and many women actually stop having a period all together. It took a while for things to settle down for me, but once they did all I really experienced was super light spotting and maybe a bit of light cramping, but nothing like my endo periods. Honestly, I really liked my IUD once it settled in; I just wasn't a fan of the adjustment period and am not a fan of HBC generally which definitely impacts future planning. Copper IUDs can make period symptoms worse, but some people also really like them so there's that I guess. 🤷♀️
I had Mirena placed before I had kids/ was married and having it placed was AWFUL. I broke out into full body hives for 2 weeks and was basically told they were psychosomatic, although having the Mirena pulled did clear them up almost immediately. It's hard to say how much of feeling traumatized by getting an IUD was from seeing a regular OB and getting the 15 minute, stranger danger, painful procedures are no big deal, and we don't have time for long Q&As and heart-to-hearts treatment... The whole process from beginning to end is something I never hope to experience again and I found the doctor, product, and "care" all to be horrifying with none of them being in my best interest.
My partner and his ex had their 3rd child while she had an IUD (no idea if it was hormonal or not), but she had it for like 4 months or something before getting pregnant... It's not on the option list for us because of that, and I'm ok with that. I can't do HBC at all, it makes be bat sh*t crazy, so I'm pretty sure the snip will be in our future!
I loved my Mirena. The way it was explained to me it’s hormonal but the daily dose is pretty low bc it’s local. I had horrible endo pain with bad periods and went to maybe spotting for a day every other month. It was life changing when I used it. I took it out to start our family obviously. It isn’t for everyone and I think it’s really dependent on how you react to hormones to begin with.
@22ksi2 Thanks for providing an additional perspective. I never had any problems when I was on the pill when I was in my early twenties. So maybe I'll give it a try. It sounds like if I have a bad reaction I can get it removed.
I know it's not Monday anymore, but I need to vent. DH picked up a cake yesterday for a coworker's birthday today. Turns out it's for the 24 YEAR OLD SAFETY LADY on his job site. My birthday was last month and he definitely didn't get me a cake. C'mon, man...
When I pointed this out, he was full of excuses. "All the guys pitched in. They put me in charge of getting it."
Cool, but the message it sends your old, pregnant, hormonal wife is that you're willing to make the effort for a younger girl. 👎
@malloryfrommn awe man, that would have made me feel insecure too. A lot of my husband’s employees are college aged so there have been a couple things here and there that made me take pause. It’s definitely not a good feeling. Especially when pregnant. Buy yourself a cake ❤️
@malloryfrommn noooo! I would’ve been sad about that too. I told my husband if he ever has to hire a woman to work for him, she better be an old crabby grandma!
It’s a Friday not Monday b#tchfest. But we did a gender reveal with family over the weekend. I can NEVER convince my husband to take pictures with me so I convinced him to not wear a grubby t shirt and got him to wear something nice knowing there were going to be some photos. A family member got him one of those awful corny t shirts and insisted on taking pictures of us in them. I did it to humor but had him change back eventually (it took way too long and all the pictures from the reveal are in this awful inappropriate shirt). We took a few after he changed bc I wanted something more appropriate for sharing. Now I’m getting all these messages about how I won’t post or use ___’s photos. I literally start sobbing when I see them bc I hate them so much.
Re: Monday B#tchfest
I've been kind of lashing out at my mom lately because we are actively looking for a new house. She's mentioned before that we could move in with her which for me is just a last ditch option. If we don't find a house we will just stay in our house that we rent until we find something. But she just brings it up every single time like she's just not confident we will find a house. She really wants us to move in and has the same talking points and I'm just tired of hearing it. I stopped talking about us getting a new house to stop this but she brought it up again yesterday and then asked where we were looking and she just kept giving her two cents on how we don't want to live there because of this and I just was like "Our options are limited so I'm not open to opinions". I felt bad but it's like STOPPP.
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
@brookert615 yikes. I definitely wouldn’t move in with her if you can help it especially because she’s already driving you nuts.
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
Now that I’m clearly showing and not just “maybe putting on weight”, the judgment from strangers has started! I ordered a latte at the coffee shop this morning and the lady at the register looked down at my belly and then back at me and goes “regular or decaf...?” Regular, lady, and don’t judge me!
My Monday bitching is about people who don’t read an email closely, but reply. Putting you in the position of tactfully restating the same thing you already said, without coming off as a condescending asshole. If you achieve that level of tact, you just may get the response “oh, well you never said anything about XYZ...” (despite it literally being one of the two sentences in the email they replied to...). 🙄🙄🙄
Which reminds me of another one! Why the heck do a lot of places not list caffeine content in drinks? Like going to the store it's like 25% of the time I can find caffeine content!
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
ETA the Mirena is also how we finally figured out I have endo after years of figuring I just had bad periods. My cervix is high and somewhat retroverted so I couldn't check my own strings. My GP sent me for an ultrasound and low and behold there was an endometrioma.
I had it taken out after 2 years because it was coming out on its own. I could feel the string poking
10/2018: MFI (2 SA under 9 million/ml)
11/2018: HSG shows right Fallopian tube slightly damaged
1/2019: Husband diagnosed with grade 3 varicocele
4/05/2019: varicocele repair surgery
6/13/2019: BFP!!! EDD: 2/22/2020 Baby girl born 2/27/2020
7/18/2019: Total Motile Count at 3 months post surgery = 51 millions!! (number must be >20 millions to conceive naturally).
TTC #2
9/07/2021: BFP - CP: 9/10/2021
10/07/2021: BFP - CP: 10/23/2021
12/23/2021: BFP! EDD: 08/31/2022
When I pointed this out, he was full of excuses. "All the guys pitched in. They put me in charge of getting it."
Cool, but the message it sends your old, pregnant, hormonal wife is that you're willing to make the effort for a younger girl. 👎
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's
Diagnosed with PCOS & Hashimoto's