Since a lot of us will be finding out the genders of our babes in the next couple weeks I figured starting a thread based on all the myths and what your gender actually ended up being would be fun. I currently have two boys 9 & 2 years old and of course am hoping for a little girl. Although, I’m in denial and just KNOW it’ll be another boy! If they say it’s a girl I probably won’t believe them until I see it at the 20 week anatomy scan. I am currently 10 weeks 3 days had the blood test done to find out the gender on Tuesday (8/27) and should know results in the next week. All the Myths say something different so I can’t go based off of any of them. 🤣 Here is a pic of my first ultrasound at 8 weeks 6 days!
I don’t really know most of the myths but I will say I was much sicker with DD so I’m guessing this is a boy! I didn’t vomit once this pregnancy, and I was doing that 1-2 times a week for weeks 6-11 with my daughter.
I do my best to stick to science, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't at least look at some of the sex-based myths. Expecting Better goes through a good amount of the myths and debunks them based on data and numbers, but, in real life they sometimes SEEM to have merit.
My first pregnancy I had minimal nausea, great skin, amazing hair that didn't shed, and minimal symptoms overall. And I had a boy.
This pregnancy I've had more nausea (nothing crazy, but more nonetheless), my skin is awful, my hair is falling out, and I'm moody as hell. We'll see in a couple weeks if I'm having a girl, or if all the symptoms mean nothing!
My nausea with DS was WAY worse than with DD. However, I've read that SCIENCE actually backs the belief that worse nausea has a SLIGHT correlation with girl pregnancies. Hilarious that the one myth that has SOME backing was the opposite for me.
I've also never really put much stock in to the old wives' tales, but DS defied like 90% of the typical "girl" symptoms - I vomited 7+ times a day, I had breakouts, HR was in the 160/170s. According to the Chinese Gender Chart he was a boy, and I will say I craved potato soup in a bread bowl from Panera anytime the thought of food didn't make me turn green lol. With this baby, I am comparably nauseated, still having breakouts, HR was 163 at 8 weeks, CGC says girl, and I can't say I'm really having consistent cravings per se, but I do eat a lot of those outshine fruit popsicles when nothing else sounds palatable.
When I was pregnant with DS, I knew deep down in my mother's intuition I was having a boy. This time, I just can't get a read on it yet, which is kind of a huge bummer for me. DH and basically everyone around us all want it to be a girl, which for some dumb reason makes me feel really defensive and want it to be a boy.
I have no idea what I am having and I don't really even know many of the myths, but I'm curious, lol.
@stassischroeder My pregnancy sounds like yours, minus the nausea. I really haven't been too sick at all, but I have had intermittent light nausea and definite food cravings/aversions throughout the entire thing so far. My skin has never been worse, my hair is also falling out (shedding like crazy, omg), and I am the moodiest creature to ever have walked the earth (so it feels). I have no idea if these point to boy or girl, but we'll see! The heart rate was 171 when I was 9w+5d, but the Doppler I use has it around 164 now. Not sure if those are considered fast or not.
Oh and my ability to smell all the things is something I'm tired of. I can't even walk through the parking garage at work without gagging. It smells like something is covered in mildew or mold and it is straight awful.
This pregnancy has been very different from my pregnancy with DS. And very similar to the one with DD. Low and behold it’s another boy! So my symptoms meant nothing this time. I am still sick though and I didn’t have that with either of them. I guess every pregnancy is different. I’m just terrified now that I’m going to have another enormous baby. (DS was 9lb2oz and DD was only 6lb6oz). Was definitely hoping for a little girl again. Lol.
Last time all the old wives tales but one said it’d be a girl and he was definitely a boy. I have basically all the same symptoms except in my dreams its a boy so I’m pretty sure it’s a girl. Last time I kept dreaming he was a girl or twins (or once that he turned out to be an alligator 🤣). I really have no clue and won’t for a while since I have to wait for the anatomy scan.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I find out November 1st what I’m having! First pregnancy for me!! I guess I’m afraid it’ll be a girl. But my gut says girl! Everyone I talk to has said I’m going to have a girl. Plus they run in my family? But my ultrasound have shown high HR last one was 170s. Feel like I’m carrying low because I pee nonstop. The Chinese predicted a girl. I’ve been incredibly nauseated! But who knows we’ll see!
So funny, my mom said with all 3 of her pregnancies (two girls and my brother) she was nauseous but puked maybe like once with each of us. I was feeling mildly nauseous until mid 8 weeks and then nausea was horrendous, I had to take a sick day today because I just couldn’t shake it last night (10w1d today). I have puked only once and dry heaved a bunch of times in the morning. I have no clue what this little one is, but I’m leaning toward it being a boy for some strange reason even though everyone around us wants us to have a girl (including us, haha). Too many family members have had boys so people are just hoping to shake things up and for some reason I see myself as a girl mom (wanting to raise some badass empowered babes!), but I know honestly don’t care as long as this lil one is healthy.
The only thing I have heard that increases probability is the gender of siblings on the male partners’ side. So for example, because DH has two older sisters, we are more likely to have a girl but boy is still a high probability.
I guess my pregnancies were opposites for old wives tales.. I wasn't as sick with DD as I was with DS. This time around I was pretty sick, sicker than I was with DS even. So.. who knows. Maybe for me, I just feel morning sickness more as I age or as I have more pregnancies? Though my mom, who had 3 girls and 1 boy, said the pregnancy with my brother was the one where she got the sickest.
I haven't had any skin/hair issues different than my norm, I do remember with my DD, I did break out more (but I was also 25 then, and much more prone to breakouts then than I am now at 38.)
With DD, I had a 'feeling' she was a girl in the 2nd tri, with DS, I had a 'feeling' he was a boy, but the 'feeling' came much later in the pregnancy (like late 3rd tri.. we were team green.) No 'feelings' yet on this one. I don't have the faintest guess!
@dunder_mifflin my nausea has been getting worse too, but mostly in the afternoons/evenings. I'm 12w tomorrow ... I'm annoyed that I'm not following the typical feeling-better-by-2nd-tri trend.
@lusineg Can you possibly spell out how these myths apply to your predictions? I know you can look the Chinese one up, but some of the others I'm not sure about. Like, "glowing"--are you glowing/not (& what does that even mean lol) and how did you come up with that prediction? Or is there a good website that lists these or something?
AFM: my nausea has been so terrible & my mom said she barely had any with my bro but a ton w/ me, so--we're hoping for and guessing it's a girl. We'll be happy w/ a healthy baby of either sex.
I also want to point out that we're talking sex not gender here, as gender is a social construction.
@stassischroeder I just want to be able to healthy food again and not just goldfish crackers and other carbs 😂 and not have the room spin like I’m sea sick. Hoping I’ll have some relief in two weeks
Coming here to update: baby #2 is also a boy!! It felt weirdly good to tell all the people who were like "oh you're so having a girl" to suck it. I feel like I cared (or thought I cared) about the sex of my baby a lot more before DS was born. Hearing a bunch of people say baby #2 was going to be a girl made me feel so defensive about my sweet firstborn baby boy, as if they were saying something was wrong with having boys (I know thats just me being sensitive). I'm honestly really excited to have another boy, and I was leaning boy before we got the results.
Literally everyone is convinced I'm having a girl. I suspect they are right, because I'm so much more miserable than with my son. I would love to have another boy though, boys are really sweet! I love having a boy and not sure what to do with a girl. 😂
@hellobabys totally with you! I have 3 beautiful baby boys, and honestly am so excited because I am pretty sure 4 is a boy (doctor and I saw great indicators but it is early) Having both genders will NOT complete my life. I could have 10 boys and they would all be perfect and individual and different, and mine. Same with women who have all girls. I love my boys and we were made for each other.
Eeek I’m so excited I talked to DH about this 3D/4D ultrasound place that does gender testing at 14 weeks+ and he agreed so we got an appointment for the 21st! I’ll be 15+6 weeks so we’ll find out a month early! It’s an hour away so we’re going to make it a fun trip and stop somewhere fun for dinner!
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@varimama yes! We are going to go to one of those elective ultrasound places to find out too since we couldn’t do the NIPT to tell us! I can’t wait to find out!!
I don’t believe the old wives tales. Almost all symptom based predictions said I was having a boy and I had a girl. I was actually accused of lying about my baby’s sex by a family friend because my skin was so good and you can’t have good skin and have a girl (the best it’s been since I was 11 in fact).
This pregnancy has been slightly different: my skin is crappy (cystic acne is great), more nauseous but way less puking, and I’m not tired enough to nap unlike when I was pregnant with my daughter. Everything else is the same pretty much.
Sorry! Here's the old wive's tales I used... Chinese Predictor: https://www.thebump.com/chinese-gender-chart Ramzi Method: https://www.thegenderexperts.com/ramzi-theory/ Mayan System: Take the age of the mother at the time of conception and the number representing the conception month. If both numbers are even, OR if both numbers are odd, the Mayans predict a baby GIRL. If one number is odd and the other number is even, they predict a baby BOY. Skin/Glowing Complexion: Breakouts/dull skin = Girl, If you're 'glowing'/clear skin = Boy Heartrate: Heartrate above 140bpm = Girl, Heartrate below 140 bpm = boy Morning Sickness: MS = Girl, None = Boy Headaches?: No headaches = Girl, Headaches = Boy Cravings: Sweet = Girl, Salty/Proteins = Boy Carrying: High = Girl, Low = Boy
I did the Sneak Peek test and it said I was having a boy, but I'm not sure I trust it. According to these:
Chinese Predictor: Boy Ramzi Method: I still don't know Mayan System: Boy Skin/Glowing Complexion: Girl Heartrate: Girl Morning Sickness: Boy Headaches?: Boy Cravings: Boy (but also partially Girl, lol) Carrying: Boy
@Malidocious well most of your predictors point to boy so maybe it was accurate!! I’m getting an elective ultrasound done in a couple weeks and I’ll prob still be skeptical too lol
Chinese Predictor: The Bump post says Boy but Chinese predictors on other sites all say Girl so not sure if Bump app is accurate Ramzi Method: no idea lol Mayan System: Boy Skin/Glowing Complexion: Girl Heartrate: Girl (but really haven’t seen many people on here have less than 140 lol) Morning Sickness: Girl but like my MS hasn’t been THAT bad so ??? Lol Headaches?: Girl Cravings: Girl, salty too tho but def no protein Carrying: Too soon to tell. I’m not even showing yet.
Chinese Predictor: girl Ramzi Method: no clue, I know they looked at placenta but I didn’t ask about side Mayan System: girl Skin/Glowing Complexion: girl (honestly I was using non pregnancy safe acne stuff before pregnancy so it could be due to stopping that) Heartrate: girl Morning Sickness: girl Headaches?: girl Cravings: Boy Carrying: Boy
looks most like a girl but these were exactly the same as my DS pregnancy. Could just be how my body handles pregnancy...
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@mrsc918 Ah, the Chinese Gender Predictors on other sites all say that I'm having a girl... so I guess the Bump app is wrong! Weird! Lol Good luck at your elective ultrasound! We are getting one of those done on the 25th and I am so excited! I'm more inclined to believe the ultrasound (I'll be almost 16 weeks then) than the Sneak Peek... but either way, I'll be happy regardless of the gender.
So the lady who talked to me about my ultrasound results for first tri screen said she was “98% certain it’s a girl.” Her reasoning: all babies have a small “protuberance” in the genital area at this stage, but girls point straight out while boys point straight up.
has anyone heard this? She seemed very confident but I’m not familiar with this.
@kailanae fascinating! I’m kind of kicking myself bc I would never try to use one of these silly theories myself, but because this professional in the hospital told me she’s 98% sure, I just took her word. The internet seems more skeptical of this theory. I don’t know what to think now.
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*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
My first pregnancy I had minimal nausea, great skin, amazing hair that didn't shed, and minimal symptoms overall. And I had a boy.
This pregnancy I've had more nausea (nothing crazy, but more nonetheless), my skin is awful, my hair is falling out, and I'm moody as hell. We'll see in a couple weeks if I'm having a girl, or if all the symptoms mean nothing!
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
Ramzi Method: Girl
Mayan System: Girl
Glowing?: Boy
Heartrate: Girl
Sickness: Girl
Headaches?: Boy
Cravings: Boy
Carrying: Boy
EDD: 3/19/20
This time HR is in the 140s and I’ve had nausea but no vomiting so that tells me boy. We shall see!
Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
With this baby, I am comparably nauseated, still having breakouts, HR was 163 at 8 weeks, CGC says girl, and I can't say I'm really having consistent cravings per se, but I do eat a lot of those outshine fruit popsicles when nothing else sounds palatable.
When I was pregnant with DS, I knew deep down in my mother's intuition I was having a boy. This time, I just can't get a read on it yet, which is kind of a huge bummer for me. DH and basically everyone around us all want it to be a girl, which for some dumb reason makes me feel really defensive and want it to be a boy.
@stassischroeder My pregnancy sounds like yours, minus the nausea. I really haven't been too sick at all, but I have had intermittent light nausea and definite food cravings/aversions throughout the entire thing so far. My skin has never been worse, my hair is also falling out (shedding like crazy, omg), and I am the moodiest creature to ever have walked the earth (so it feels). I have no idea if these point to boy or girl, but we'll see! The heart rate was 171 when I was 9w+5d, but the Doppler I use has it around 164 now. Not sure if those are considered fast or not.
Oh and my ability to smell all the things is something I'm tired of. I can't even walk through the parking garage at work without gagging. It smells like something is covered in mildew or mold and it is straight awful.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
The only thing I have heard that increases probability is the gender of siblings on the male partners’ side. So for example, because DH has two older sisters, we are more likely to have a girl but boy is still a high probability.
https://www.whattoexpect.com/wom/pregnancy/0829/a-way-to-tell-if-youre-having-a-boy-or-a-girl-you-might-not-have-considered
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
I haven't had any skin/hair issues different than my norm, I do remember with my DD, I did break out more (but I was also 25 then, and much more prone to breakouts then than I am now at 38.)
With DD, I had a 'feeling' she was a girl in the 2nd tri, with DS, I had a 'feeling' he was a boy, but the 'feeling' came much later in the pregnancy (like late 3rd tri.. we were team green.) No 'feelings' yet on this one. I don't have the faintest guess!
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
AFM: my nausea has been so terrible & my mom said she barely had any with my bro but a ton w/ me, so--we're hoping for and guessing it's a girl. We'll be happy w/ a healthy baby of either sex.
I also want to point out that we're talking sex not gender here, as gender is a social construction.
*Edit for spelling
And then some articles say no significant difference in these levels to determine sex.
Anyone know the sex of their baby and their levels?
Last pregnancy I had a boy:
HCG: 0.98 MoM (119.7 ng/ml)
PAPP-A: 1.34 MoM (1.07 mlU/ml)
AFP: 0.55 MoM (7.48 IU/ml)
This time:
HCG: 0.87 MoM (111.36 ng/ml)
PAPP-A: 0.78 MoM (0.66 mIU/ml)
AFP: 0.7 MoM (11.69 IU/ml)
edited: wrong word used
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
this time, skin isn't as bad, but not great. I'm also more nauseous. so maybe girl? the chinese gender predictor also says girl this time.
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
This pregnancy has been slightly different: my skin is crappy (cystic acne is great), more nauseous but way less puking, and I’m not tired enough to nap unlike when I was pregnant with my daughter. Everything else is the same pretty much.
Chinese Predictor: https://www.thebump.com/chinese-gender-chart
Ramzi Method: https://www.thegenderexperts.com/ramzi-theory/
Mayan System: Take the age of the mother at the time of conception and the number representing the conception month. If both numbers are even, OR if both numbers are odd, the Mayans predict a baby GIRL. If one number is odd and the other number is even, they predict a baby BOY.
Skin/Glowing Complexion: Breakouts/dull skin = Girl, If you're 'glowing'/clear skin = Boy
Heartrate: Heartrate above 140bpm = Girl, Heartrate below 140 bpm = boy
Morning Sickness: MS = Girl, None = Boy
Headaches?: No headaches = Girl, Headaches = Boy
Cravings: Sweet = Girl, Salty/Proteins = Boy
Carrying: High = Girl, Low = Boy
EDD: 3/19/20
I did the Sneak Peek test and it said I was having a boy, but I'm not sure I trust it. According to these:
Chinese Predictor: Boy
Ramzi Method: I still don't know
Mayan System: Boy
Skin/Glowing Complexion: Girl
Heartrate: Girl
Morning Sickness: Boy
Headaches?: Boy
Cravings: Boy (but also partially Girl, lol)
Carrying: Boy
Chinese Predictor: The Bump post says Boy but Chinese predictors on other sites all say Girl so not sure if Bump app is accurate
Ramzi Method: no idea lol
Mayan System: Boy
Skin/Glowing Complexion: Girl
Heartrate: Girl (but really haven’t seen many people on here have less than 140 lol)
Morning Sickness: Girl but like my MS hasn’t been THAT bad so ??? Lol
Headaches?: Girl
Cravings: Girl, salty too tho but def no protein
Carrying: Too soon to tell. I’m not even showing yet.
So yeah, jury’s out on this business lol
Ramzi Method: no clue, I know they looked at placenta but I didn’t ask about side
Mayan System: girl
Skin/Glowing Complexion: girl (honestly I was using non pregnancy safe acne stuff before pregnancy so it could be due to stopping that)
Heartrate: girl
Morning Sickness: girl
Headaches?: girl
Cravings: Boy
Carrying: Boy
looks most like a girl but these were exactly the same as my DS pregnancy. Could just be how my body handles pregnancy...
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
has anyone heard this? She seemed very confident but I’m not familiar with this.
DS2 10/2017
DS3 due 03/2020